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^ hahaha ok. case closed. let's not deviate from the topic, like u say.

chlowi: Seems your fingers are so fast at lashes out stupid statements , I bet if u shud see my pictures ul swallow back ur word (ugly) and besides why does my opinion offend you? Its my opinion taake it or leave and u sound like a lady who wd marry for better days only , ur type dnt go far and end up single for d rest of ur miserable life. As ur sorry gold digging ass ends up a old retired LovePeddler ...let me repeat my point... So far I love that man and he loves me bak and he is got potentials ill stand by him ....now shut d Bleep up and digest wht I wrote earlier bfor telling your mum she is ugly

the guy spoke the truth. no need to be defensive.
if you are having suitors left and right. and have a choice between a financially stable good man or a broke good man. all women in their right senses will choose the good stable guy. this is not rocket science. just common sense.
i'm sure men also will not think twice to choose between a good beautiful girl and a good ugly girl.

I think what's going on on this thread is just u guys ignorance of what the word "feminism" means.
seems like ur just accusing black women of being black women period.

if u men decide to b irresponsible of course there is no other option except for women to save the day and take charge of the home. if you call this feminism, then u are in for a rude awakening because feminism involves way MORE than that. If black women decide to become feminists tomorrow, then u guys are screwed.
black females are not even feminists yet u are whining. they are just doing things to sustain themselves and family. just being women and taking on responsibilities in the absence of men.
what if they now decide to be feminists? all hell will break loose. I can't wait to see that.

Read this article entitled: "The Origin of Black Female-Headed Families"
http://www.irp.wisc.edu/publications/focus/pdfs/foc121e.pdf

the last paragraph is a nice, short summary. in case u don't want to read the whole thing.


yea, it has NOTHING to do with feminist movement. lol. blacks were not even a part of it!
it has ALL to do with poverty and urbanization (blacks moving to the cities and not creating communities quickly enough to replicate the social checks that existed in the smaller towns).

Black Kenichi: Damn straight!
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u sound very ignorant. rate of single mother hood among black has been high way before feminism. in fact, it got higher as more blacks (esp men) migrated to cities for better "opportunities." black women have been in charge of d home for centuries. they've been breadwinners for a long time. nothing new in it. so no need to blame feminism for that.

cities tend to make people anonymous so men were likely to be less restrained by social responsibilities they had in the small towns of the south where neighbors can put u in check and gossip about drunk men,cheaters and irresponsible people. in cities, men are able to leave their families (no conscience) or sleep around without any social checks. they become "free" and they loved being "free" even jazz musicians and artists showed this changing way of life in their art. as more blacks left the south for "better opportunities" in northern cities.
even recently when d movie red tails came out about black male soldiers, I watched the actors in an interview and the comments were just so stupid. they were talking about black men gaining freedom with interracial relationship. the whole interview was just comical in d sense that black males want glamor and power but don't want any of the hard work and responsibilities that goes into achieving that power.

case in point: the AIDS epidemic in Africa was propelled my migrant male workers leaving the family home in d smaller towns for large cities months on end.

stop glamorizing black families. esp when u know most black men are not responsible enough to keep those families. it's a lot of hard work and responsibility that those glamorized pics can't show u.
black men prefer easy, "free" life. and family definitely doesn't provide that so called "freedom". esp the "head of household" actually mean MORE responsibility. u need to be able to handle it.
even MLK was known to have a fetish for prostitutes and organized drunken orgies. and he is supposed to be one of the more moral black men. so how wuold u think the average black man lived!!! think about it.

^ stop spamming the thread. why r u reposting the pics esp in large size.

Mr knowitall.:
Even if i was the brokest Nigerian Negro in the world...I would still get married...Chalay..you dont have to be financially stable to get married....unless you have a gold digging-asss fiance then im sorry for you....as for kids....I can understand why it would make sense to be stable before having them.....

no need to be so disrespectful about women.
all u need to say is to advice men not to marry above their means. imagine a poor broke guy chasing after a miss world or a woman not in his league. of course he will be TOO poor for her.
then no need to be bitter or calling a woman gold digging azzz just because she's just not ur type. move on and marry a more homely or modest looking woman who can complement you. ie marry a makoko slum looking woman if ur finances resemble a makoko slum man LOL
we all know most men want a hot, beautiful, high maintenance woman to show off to their friends but plz be reasonable.. be honest first to yourself and also to others.

cut your coat according to your cloth and u will have no problems.

pleep: Stop spamming articles and right your own stuff.

learn to spell right!!
u seem to have a problem with the truth. at least I posted sensible articles rather than stupid spamming GIFs like you and your ilk have been doing. so maybe you need to listen to your own advice
go and sign up to join the men's right movement (that is if you haven't already). You are the perfect epitome for the group.

More Cuckoo Men' Rights Activists :
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The men’s movement also includes mail-order-bride shoppers, unregenerate batterers, and wannabe pickup artists who are eager to learn the secrets of “game”—the psychological tricks that supposedly make it easy to seduce women. George Sodini, who confided his seething rage at women to his blog before shooting 12 women, three of them fatally, was one of the latter. Before his 2009 murder spree at a Pittsburgh-area gym, he was a student — though clearly not a very apt one — of R. Don Steele, the author of How to Date Young Women: For Men Over 35. “I dress good, am clean-shaven, bathe, touch of cologne — yet 30 million women rejected me over an 18 or 25-year period,” Sodini wrote with the kind of pathos presumably typical of Steele’s readers.


George Sodini
Other movement adherents have forsworn sex altogether, or at least romantic relationships and marriage; the acronym they use for themselves is MGTOW, for “Men Going Their Own Way.” “If you are willing to marry a woman — any woman — in the West then you must also be willing to become the next murder-suicide story when she threatens to file for divorce, steal your kids out of your life and extort you for every current and future dollar you will ever earn,” wrote one commenter at The Spearhead. “If a man kidnapped your children, stole your home, your wallet and your bank account, you’d be more than willing to kill him in self defense. Why is it any different when ex-wives do it with the full force of the law behind them?”

Some take an inordinate interest in extremely young women, or fetishize what they see as the ultra-feminine (read: docile) characteristics of South American and Asian women. Others, who have internalized Christian “headship” doctrine, are desperately seeking the “submissive” women such doctrine celebrates. Still others are simply sexually awkward, and nonplussed and befuddled by society’s changing mores. The common denominator is their resentment of feminism and of females in general.

“It’s ironic,” the feminist writer Amanda Marcotte observes. “These [misogynist Web] sites owe their existence to feminism’s successes. At some point in the last couple of years, the zeitgeist hit a tipping point where female power — Hillary Clinton’s, Rachel Maddow’s, even Sarah Palin’s — stopped being questioned. Being sexist has become less acceptable than it used to be. This makes some men particularly anxious.” At the same time, of course, domestic violence and sex crimes are much more likely to be prosecuted than they were even a decade ago. Shelters, social services and legal aid are more available to most battered women than in the past.[/size]

Men's Rights Activists

Because MRAs can't even get on the same page on what exactly a "feminist" is... Essentially, if you're a woman, you're a feminist. If you work, your job was "handed" to you thanks to Affirmative Action and/or lowered standards. If you don't work, you're a gold digger living off a man...that gets to "pick and choose" your lifestyle.

They use degrading tactics which merely comes across as whining, angry, bitter and resentful, rather than making a legitimate argument for changes in circumcision, custody, and real issues men may have.

Most importantly, they're only online. I've never, ever come across an MRA [or feminist, for that matter] in real life. They stay behind the anonymity of "user IDs" and behind a computer, rather than take any legitimate action.

They complain about custody laws, yet most of them have never taken care of a child. Most women do both, they take care of the children, work jobs that are "child friendly", take jobs with less pay, benefits, etc...in order to be able to take the time needed to take care of the children.

Most women acknowledge these facts, and therefore, because of the fact that women do this, most of us acknowledge that the only reason there is a wage gap, is because women do take those kinds of jobs, because children can't take care of themselves, and it's usually the woman/mother that chooses these jobs for that reason.

If MRAs want to change "custodial laws", they need to be active participants in taking care of their children's needs. It isn't some magical formula you can "lobby" for, or campaign for... A lot of men that are active participants in taking care of the children, usually get joint legal and physical custody.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20130329173708AABaqVK

pleep: All those black women are feminists... there is hardly a black woman who isnt feminist.

*dead*
well, u just have a problem with women period. ur a misogynist.
hatred is usually borne out of fear. so what do u find so threatening about womanhood? heh

there are white male antifeminists also known as MRA (mens rights activists) maybe u need to apply to become a card carrying member. most of theese white males hate white women as well. ur just a black version. i'm sure they will welcome u into their rank of crazy cuckoos.

I really would like to know who is organizing this pageant and how it is organized.
this list does NOT represent beauty in Nigeria AT ALL
first, all the girls are from one region/SS&E (how does that represent all parts of Nigeria?) second, majority of them look ugly
I really would like to know how d girls are picked.

wow. that cake should be put in a glass case and stored in a museum.
too precious to be eaten

Acidosis: Trust me most will pick harvard monkey..

grab his cash


& then hook a sugar boy..

she's getting old sha
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she looks ordinary. like ur average woman on the street. definitely NOT beautiful in this pic. esp for a pic that has been retouched (look at it well and u will see).
But I like that she is being real. She shld start her own reality tv. LOL
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pleep: LOL... thats the standard of black women huh, be greatfull your mother didn't murder you?

what a fail.. what you ladies need to realize is no man sees his mother when he sees a random hoe on the street, that comeback is meaningless.

well, people need to be respectful towards their mothers. they do a thankless job so the least u want to do is disrespect them.
love how it is taken for granted what women do. why shouldn't children be grateful?
mother's day is around the corner.btw

pleep: 70% children born are from single mothers = sexual freedom to feminists. Why dont yall stop being so selfish and think about the kids for once.

They deserve a father

well, if those black women were feminists, they would have aborted those kids long ago or at least prevented the pregnancies. that's why black america needs feminists. the men are mostly irresponsible.
clearly those are men who impregnate women and scramp after they've done the deed.
even worse are the so called "heads of households" in africa spending their money on alcohol and prostitutes rather than being there for their children. so is there a point to having a man in the home if he is useless?

Moonshine or the Kids?
By NICHOLAS D. KRISTOF

MONT-BELO, Congo Republic

There’s an ugly secret of global poverty, one rarely acknowledged by aid groups or U.N. reports. It’s a blunt truth that is politically incorrect, heartbreaking, frustrating and ubiquitous:

It’s that if the poorest families spent as much money educating their children as they do on wine, cigarettes and prostitutes, their children’s prospects would be transformed. Much suffering is caused not only by low incomes, but also by shortsighted private spending decisions by heads of households.

That probably sounds sanctimonious, haughty and callous, but it’s been on my mind while traveling through central Africa with a college student on my annual win-a-trip journey. Here in this Congolese village of Mont-Belo, we met a bright fourth grader, Jovali Obamza, who is about to be expelled from school because his family is three months behind in paying fees. (In theory, public school is free in the Congo Republic. In fact, every single school we visited charges fees.)

We asked to see Jovali’s parents. The dad, Georges Obamza, who weaves straw stools that he sells for $1 each, is unmistakably very poor. He said that the family is eight months behind on its $6-a-month rent and is in danger of being evicted, with nowhere to go.

The Obamzas have no mosquito net, even though they have already lost two of their eight children to malaria. They say they just can’t afford the $6 cost of a net. Nor can they afford the $2.50-a-month tuition for each of their three school-age kids.

“It’s hard to get the money to send the kids to school,” Mr. Obamza explained, a bit embarrassed.

But Mr. Obamza and his wife, Valerie, do have cellphones and say they spend a combined $10 a month on call time.

In addition, Mr. Obamza goes drinking several times a week at a village bar, spending about $1 an evening on moonshine. By his calculation, that adds up to about $12 a month — almost as much as the family rent and school fees combined.

I asked Mr. Obamza why he prioritizes alcohol over educating his kids. He looked pained.

Other villagers said that Mr. Obamza drinks less than the average man in the village (women drink far less). Many other men drink every evening, they said, and also spend money on cigarettes.

“If possible, I drink every day,” Fulbert Mfouna, a 43-year-old whose children have also had to drop out or repeat grades for lack of school fees, said forthrightly. His eldest son, Jude, is still in first grade after repeating for five years because of nonpayment of fees. Meanwhile, Mr. Mfouna acknowledged spending $2 a day on alcohol and cigarettes.

Traditionally, a young man here might have paid his wife’s family a “bride price” of a pair of goats. Now the “bride price” starts with oversized jugs of wine and two bottles of whiskey.

Two M.I.T. economists, Abhijit Banerjee and Esther Duflo, found that the world’s poor typically spend about 2 percent of their income educating their children, and often larger percentages on alcohol and tobacco: 4 percent in rural Papua New Guinea, 6 percent in Indonesia, 8 percent in Mexico. The indigent also spend significant sums on soft drinks, prostitution and extravagant festivals.

Look, I don’t want to be an unctuous party-pooper. But I’ve seen too many children dying of malaria for want of a bed net that the father tells me is unaffordable, even as he spends larger sums on liquor. If we want Mr. Obamza’s children to get an education and sleep under a bed net — well, the simplest option is for their dad to spend fewer evenings in the bar.

Because there’s mounting evidence that mothers are more likely than fathers to spend money educating their kids, one solution is to give women more control over purse strings and more legal title to assets. Some aid groups and U.N. agencies are working on that.

Another approach is microsavings, helping poor people save money when banks aren’t interested in them. It’s becoming increasingly clear that the most powerful part of microfinance isn’t microlending but microsavings.

Microsavings programs, organized by CARE and other organizations, work to turn a consumption culture into a savings culture. The programs often keep household savings in the women’s names, to give mothers more say in spending decisions, and I’ve seen them work in Africa, Latin America and Asia.

Well-meaning humanitarians sometimes burnish suffering to make it seem more virtuous and noble than it often is. If we’re going to make more progress, and get kids like the Obamza children in school and under bed nets, we need to look unflinchingly at uncomfortable truths — and then try to redirect the family money now spent on wine and prostitution.

I invite you to comment on this column on my blog, On the Ground. Please also join me on Facebook, watch my YouTube videos videos and follow me on Twitter.
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/05/23/opinion/23kristof.html

biolabee: I dont have facts to back that up at the moment but feminism has generally been associated with s.exual freedoms so i will find it interesting that feminists have high marriage rates

hahha. why do u think average family size in USA is only 2 kids. compared to 10 kids in Africa.
well, in USA, women have control over their bodies and they fight tooth and nail for the control. birth control pill, right to abortion etc. these are things that help give women sexu[size=1pt].[/size]al freedom.
multiple pregnancies is one main thing that trap women in Africa. Even when American women have kids, by law, men are required to contribute to the care of the kids so that women are not tied down.

sexu[size=1pt].[/size]al freedom doesn't mean women aren't getting married. They just have more rights in their marriages and more freedom. Rather than having 10 kids, they can have 2 and still be able to work. men (American men) are also more responsible in their marriages toward their children. maybe feminists just choose better husbands. LOL

Black Kenichi: Will women (especially black women) ever learn.

may u rot in jail.
better be thankful that ur mom didn't abandon u on the side of the street. She could have.
i'm sure she didn't raise u to become an ungrateful wrench.

Biggoozz: Fa Fa Fa, Foul!!! I was the one that woke up to carry our crying boy yesternight around 2am, except that I woke up his Moma to do the feeding before I dozed off again. But seriously, I think it is all about the emotional connection to your child, I love my boy to bits.

GBAM!!
a man will respond to a baby crying if his heart is not made of stone.
fathers who love their children will respond.
it all has to do with how much time you spend with ur kids/ babies. the more time u spend with them, the easier it is to feel attached/ emotional connection to them and respond. the love grows from this.

it would be interesting. but life will go on as usual.
also, Nigeria as a bigger country will still dominate and might even forcefully take the oil reserves. if SE and SS disagrees, then there might be war. and we know what side will win.

let's be honest with ourselves. it's all about oil.

nwando: I hope he has plenty money
That site only consolation
Nothing should possess any girl that pretty to marry this man here If he doesn't have anything going for him
If his face causes her to have akwukwu( epilepsy), he should at least have some spendable cash

he is a comedian for heaven's sake. wat do u think