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Pics 2 is the demolished building that used to house several people that made me feel safe and agreed to stay there few months back.

Pics 4 is still demolished building behind the uncompleted building I'm staying.

Even right now, the whole place is so quiet and deserted except for area boys playing at the other side.
I'm scared.

Modified: pics removed.

Lamanii22:
You are really too young to go through what you are going through….. bathing in an uncompleted building…. Begging to sleeep….. what really is the situation with your family…. Lagos ain’t easy….

They live very far from me and I can't leave this job and just go and sit at home. Who will feed me?
Who will clothe me?

No mother, no father.

NATIONALPASTOR:
Fir the @op, be very honest in answering the questions bellow.
1. Which church do you attend?
2. Where is your branch/parish?
3. Have you told your pastor of your problems?
4. Where do you work?
5. Where is the uncompleted building you live now located?
6. What exactly do you need now?


These will help us know what to do for you, that's if youre truthful honest and sincere.

What I need now is financial assistance to enable me rent an apartment in the shortest time.

God bless you sir.

Mastakija:
Who are u to dat woman

I didn't know her. In my previous post, I said I went to an old colleague of mine and explained my plight to her about my accommodation issue. She now told me there's an ederly woman who wants to rent a room in her flat. That she'll take me there for inspection and little discuss about the payment and all that.

She took me there and she said she'll rent the room for 400k and that I'll only bring in my mattress and clothes. No property.
I told her that is above my budget that I can only do 120 a year which is 10k per month for the room but she refused and claimed her don who's coming back from Canada in a few days told her not to rent it out again.

So that night as I was leaving with my colleague that took me there, I begged her to let me pay as I don't know where to sleep that night. She then said I can be sleeping in her palor for now. she made me sleep that night while my colleague left. This was on Wednesday night. By Friday night drama started.

That was how I got to know her.

dawnomike:
Oh! That's far away... But let me know if you can cope with moving to work on the mainland from lagos island.

Oh.. that's thoughtful of you. May God bless your kind heart.
The thing is, Island is quite a distance and I resume 7am. So, Im looking at the traffic on that 3rd mainland bridge because Ive worked on the island before and that was one of the reasons I changed jobs and got a place on the mainland close to my former house, cos I couldn't meet up with the timing.

Acidosis:
You even try sef by trying to help with the vague information she's provided so far. What the f. is mainland? Someone who needs help will provide a better response.

I'm glad that he at least understands and doesn't need my home address to know where mainland is just like he mentioned the island and I got the message.

Once you mention the mainland, everyone knows what you're talking about. The sorrounding areas and easy links and connecting route in that axis. So no need to start disclosing the number and address of the uncompleted building I'm currently putting up.

Try to be nice to the depressed.

dawnomike:
I just had to go and read your previous post... Where is your work place situated in lagos?

On the mainland.

Danibonk:
So you no fit pretend you let religious doctrines send you back to street. Even all ashawo no like all there male clients or the work there are doing there just have to pretend to achieve their aim and target. Op receive sense

If you know the spiritual implications of those things you asked me to pretend about, you won't be saying this.

Anyways, contributions are welcomed.

sisisioge:


Will they tie you in church as a worker? You need to learn how to be political given that that is were your shelter comes from. Go to your own church and talk to your pastor, he may be able to help.

Or go to the entrance of a big estate and talk to the security people about needing a job that comes with accommodation. Simple solutions. I wish you good luck.

Read my first post, you'll understand better.
Thanks.

SmileDance:
I can understand your situation, it's not easy I have been in a similar situation that made me decide never ever to squat with someone again, can you get a job or afford even if na face to face house

My dear, I have a job but to save up in time and leave here within the shortest time is the huge challenge I'm having.
Apartment in this area is a bit on the high side. I mean a single room and you can hardly find one these days as most single rooms apartmenys have been demolished. That was was affected me too. So the least you can get now is from single room selfcon of 300 and above.

Another thing I'm considering is the proximity too as the only places you can get something less will be very far from commercial areas which will end up gulping huge amount for TP and the stress will be double.

ibechris:
How much is your salary?

Don't get me wrong pls.

There are jobs that don't worth it at all.

But in all,I see a dogged fighter in u.

Hmmm.... Whatever that means ooo...

Why why why ...

I knew it that the invitation to the vigil was a ploy to send me away. Hmmm...

In my previous post, I briefed you fam, how the woman whom I was supposed to be sleeping in her house for the meantime invited me to a vigil and how I got there, saw candles and salts on the altar and my spirit sank.

The program commensed and I was given rubber bands. I asked for what and she said I should take it. That they were instructed to bring it. I told her I don't want (because that is not my practice). She insisted I have. So I took it and dropped it on my bag.

In all, I was avoiding being laid hands upon. So I'm mediately the MOG started the deliverance session, I went out and stood by the door. This woman came and started shouting at me to come inside. That What am I doing outside? I told her the place was rowdy as people were falling here and there. She got angry and told me to come inside.

I went inside and went to the back. She came again to the back and was shouting that I should come to the middle. I was fed up at this point because I don't want the man to lay hands on my head.
I went to the middle and the man came and laid hands and started pushing me about **sobs**

After the whole thing. They asked new comers to stand up. By this time the woman was already fuming and giving me attitude.

I stood up and he said to write down our names.
After writing the names, the MOG now asked those of us who are visiting for the first time that "if you are a worker in your Church stand up" I stood up.

He now said he wants to commission new workers in his church. that those of us standing should come out that he's going to pour oil on us and commission us after which we would become his workers and start working for him. I shook my head and he said why are we shaking our heads? That we must come out for commissioning. So the others wen out but I stood my ground and said NO! That I can't renounce my church just like that and become your worker overnight haven been a worker in my denomination since 2006. So he went ahead and anointed the others.

We closed and I offered to carry this woman's bag, she refused.

When I woke up this morning, she told that she no longer wants me in her house. That the drama I put up yesterday was this and that. I tried to explain but she said no. That I should not step foot on her house again. I cried and left.

I'm back to the uncompleted building with no hope of where to sleep this night.

This is my situation now. I just said to share. At least let it be that as all these things are happening, I cried out.

I'm crying out for help. Please help a displaced girl.

Memberclub:
The job is clearly not worth it.

Joblessness is not worth it either.

I know what I suffered with no one willing to help me back then before I could get what I'm doing now.

To even give you food to eat people will tell you a million and one stories why they can't part with a spoon of garri. How much now that things are very difficult.

I don't wish to pass through that phase of hunger again that is why I'm doing everything to retain my job. Been there and don't ever want to go that route again.

Stallionhorse:
I hope all this is not for fund raising cause its really hard to believe anything a Nigerian says!! What part of Lagos do you stay and work? If you have 120k that is more than enough to get you a pako house (Bacha)

I have 100kand the least you can get a house around here is 250 that is including agency and agreement fee.

ajailer:
Don't u have any family member around or what is ur relationship with them?

I believe u r a lady n shouldn't be going through all these.

My family members stay very far. If I'm to go put up with them, it means I have to forego my job and I can't because I know what I went through to get the ones I'm doing now.

The proximity of my office to my current location is the reason I'm passing through all these just to retain my job.

I don't want to go and be a burden to my elder sister by going to live with them without any source of livelyhood.

If I can have place to work and bulid again for three months, I'll save up and get an apartment. If I can get help, I'll get a place before weekend. It boils down to money.

I am tired.

After I was stopped from going to the Church, I ran to one woman and she allowed me spend only that night.

The next day, I told another woman at work and she said someone wants to rent a room in a flat. I was happy and agreed to follow her and see the place.

We got there in the night and the owner of the place said she'll rent the room in a flat for 400k .
I told her I can only afford 120 a year and she said no.
As we were about leaving, I told them I have no where to sleep tonight and she said I can sleep in her parlor. I was happy.

In the morning, I asked her what her final for the room was and she said her son that is in Canada said she should not rent it out but that I can come and be sleeping in the palor FOR NOW.
I was so happy..

Since on Wednesday, that's where I hope to sleep.
I got there this night and she told me she's going to vilgil and asked if I will come. .. what will I say? I tiredly said yes.

Right now, we are in a church and I don't feel comfortable with the things I'm seeing.
Candles, salt, and.... O God! I don't know how I feel.
Though their praise worship session has been great but my heart is heavy. So heavy..

I don't know what next after this... I don't feel comfortable.l don't want to say I feel suicidal. Huuuuhh...

The first week the occupants of the demolished house moved out. I ran to a woman and begged her that all I need is to just sleep at night and go in the morning. She said her house was congested that theres one ederly woman that is looking for someone to be staying with her, so she took me there.

We got there and after explaning my plight to the woman, she said I should move in and that if I see her clothes dirty I should pick it and wash. She told me that in fact, there's a dirty plate in the kitchen. That I should go now and wash it. I went and washed it. Then she said I can come and sleep but that there's a lady that comes to clean the flat for her and she pays her 4k that we would split the bill. I said its ok.

That night, I went back there to sleep. She asked why I didn't bring all my things, I told her I don't want to bug her with my property that all I needed was to come at night and sleep. She said ok. That I should make sure before 8 I'm there and that she doesn't like early risers so I can only leave by 8 in the morning. I said ok.

I woke up in the morning and wanted to enter the bathroom. She asked what am I doing?. I told her I want to bathe. She said no. That I should go and bathe at my place. Since I only want to come and be sleeping.

That was how I took a bike that morning to the uncompleted building and took my bath.
I thought of it that it won't be easy for me to first go home around eight to bath and prepare for work. I'll be going late for work.

I fell ill Immediately and was down for a week. That was when I started going to the big church to sleep before the leaders came and sent me away.

To be continued.

The story of my life. What im currently going through.
I just want to pour everything out to see if I can get relief and probably help from anyone who has some compassion after reading.

I don't know whether to say I hate my life now or the things I'm passing through. I don't just know.

I'm a very hard-working, diciplined and God-fearing girl.
I've always lived averagely after graduation. Though it has been up and down until I took my relationship with Christ to another level. Things seemed better and a bit rosy until I lost my accommodation to family issue. Then my life took another turn.

It took me months on end to try raise money to get a new apartment to no avail. As the d day for demolition got closer, with no hope in sight, I ran to my local assembly and pleaded with them to allow me put up in the Church premises. They gave me the security post in the premises. The Church is an uncompleted building. The roof of the place that was allocated to me was bad. When it rains, especially at night, I stand all through.
As time went on, I gathered little money and fixed the roof.

Meanwhile, I never knew the sorrounding area was the den of Area boys and Yahoo plus.
Early this month, a house around the Church premises was demolished.
This was a compound that was still making the area lively but since they demolished it, the place became quiet and deserted. The church premises now became scary and uninhabitable especially as its only me left in the whole uncompleted building at night. Area boys flooded the place and would play gamble from 5pm to 8am in the morning. Banging on the gate and making me stay awake in fear all through the night.


I became scared and ran to the bigger Church to sleep at night. I slept there only a few days and the leaders of the Church came and sent me away, saying I should not been seen sleeping inside the Church.

On one of the days I slept in the big church, when I got back in the morning to the uncompleted building, someone broke into the place through the roof overnight. . So I became even more afraid and made sure I ran away from there once its six pm and look for where to sleep. This has been my new life for the past week now.

After the bigger Church stopped me from coming to sleep there, ive been going about begging people to let me sleep in their house. Some would send me away. Some would only allow me for one night.

Been trying to build up to get a proper apartment but... Hmmm... Lagos is not easy...

To be continued

Saw this, this morning on my way to Ojota. Its a tipper carrying sand and and a small car that was crushed beyond recognition.

So sad.