₦airaland Forum

Liballo:
So, OP, where are the right places we can find Love ? Since you've listed almost all the right places I could think of as the wrong places.

I don't agree with the OP.......... You can find your soulmate anywhere, [i[b]]even in the most hopeless place[/b][/i].

samwash:
@Op, I strongly disagree with some of your points. Many pple has found love & have gotten married & the marriage is still waxing strong & going from
Club & Bar
Work place
Weddings event
Religious places
NYSC camp
Your street or Area &
Higher institution of learning.
I nor fit type much for now, I for give you some illustrations & practical real life experience.
Pls I will want you to also highlight 10 place to look for love in Nigeria

PrimeWatermark:
11. Nairaland

To those of who are single and searching and feeling unlucky or unattractive, check this out!
Here are 10 wrong places to look for love in Nigeria.

1. Clubs and Bars
People go to clubs and bars to forget their sorrow, escape from reality, have fun and nothing serious. Yeah, you read it right, nothing serious!

You might get lucky that night but the next morning you realize things are not as they seem plus you were possibly drunk, or your so-called new catch a shaggi.

2. The workplace
Pleasure and business should not mix, it ends badly most time...you know, in premium tears. Rumors will spread like wildfire around in the workplace whether you like it or not and that will definitely affect you.

Whenever you have a misunderstanding with your partner things are likely to feel awkward and tense, and the working environment will now be a warfare.


3. Weddings
A lot of girls beg their friend's friends to allow them be the ashoebi at their weddings! You know why? To “enchant” the most vulnerable aboy there..and vice versa.

Most people come to this event showcasing their most lovely personality while observing the other person. The best way to get to know or evaluate a person’s true character is meeting them when they aren't showing off.

4. Dating apps
The internet is full of scammers, pretending to be somebody else just to make you fall in love and steal your money with deceptive means; be careful with dating apps. You might not know that white guy/girl you are tripping for is an oshodi boy!


5. Religious places
Now this may sound absurb to some overly holies. In Nigeria, a typical Sunday is when every wayward person, witches, wizards, prostitutes are human and carry big bibles! Those hookers will now be seen wearing long skirts, and closing their ever-open cleavages!

Armed robbers will head to churches with big sums asking to be prayed for so that Jesus can now shift for them to sit at the right-hand side of God.

Everyone in the church is smiling at one another!

Who are you deceiving?

Everyone in Nigeria belongs to one religious body or the other, many people come to this place to find solutions to their problems, one of which could be a delay in marriage. Delay in marriage? After most of them have overused their youthful age!

Most people you meet in this religious places might be desperate and willing to act righteous and perfect just so you fall in love with them then they show you their true colors.


6. Nysc camp
In Nigeria, it is mandatory for every graduate to undergo a three-week training before posted to their various place of assignment.

Three weeks locked in a confined space can lead to boredom and feeling might start to spring up. Most persons will forget about you after the service. Learn to avoid Premium Tears. �

7. Brothels
This is a patronized place for most men and women. Everyone who goes to a brothel is most definitely looking for a quick fun or a one-night stand, any love that comes up from such place will be built on insecurities forever. Avoid premium tears.

8. Drug Rehab facility
After suffering from a drug addiction problem and taking the bold step to seek help, it will be a very bad idea to look for someone to love in your facility. What you should be focused on his getting the right help.

9. Your street
We all have that beautiful girl or handsome guy in your street that you wish would fall in love with you so you can have a happily-ever-after. It’s possible but most times it doesn’t end well. As the saying goes over familiarity breeds disrespect.

Avoid Premium Tears make you no go dey wear suit to impress the girl in the sun. Avoid Premium Tears make mama no send you to go hawk fufu you refuse because you want to impress a guy next hood.

10. Higher institution
Looking for love in college might not be a good idea. First, the person is probably living far from you and will one day return and you might never see again and secondly most people are unsure of their life partner and looking for love might be a distraction. Focus on your studies.



* Note that when I say weddings, I mean the typical motive of people there, and not the context itself.


Action Plan: You should be honest with yourself. If your reason for wanting to fall in love is only to date the person, you really aren't ready to be with anyone. You should date when you are ready for marriage only!

pocohantas:
I honestly do not understand why you are barking. If there is anything she has done, she has walked the talk, but you are still not satisfied. You have somehow made it about her age. Which shows your problem is just to cause ruckus at every given time.

First, I hope we (including her) all know the difference between the BRIDE PRICE and MARRIAGE LIST. Two different things.

To the topic, BRIDE PRICE and marriage list is not about her, it is about the Umunna. The last time I checked, the BRIDE PRICE is not given to the bride, but to her father. The content of the list is also not given to her, but to the Umunna, Umuada and youths.

Even the bible says, give what belongs to Caesar to Caesar. A core Igbo man would be very restless if he doesn’t pay bride price, because he knows what is waiting for him in the front. Who even gave her drink to give him when BRIDE PRICE hasn’t been paid?

I do hope she had a unanimous agreement with her people on this. She won’t be the first woman to marry without her BRIDE PRICE being paid. However, they all pay it at some point, maybe when she dies.

I have seen women being treated badly and they said it is because they shamefully followed a man who didn't pay their BRIDE PRICE. I have also seen the ones treated badly and they still say it is because he BOUGHT them. Bride price where I come from is N10 and it is SYMBOLIC, not an EXTORTION, not SELLING THE LADY. The presence or absence if it is also not a guarantee he would treat you fairly. That one is dependent on the man and his ideologies.

Thank you

Eastcoastboy:
Where do you sell your academic research work?

Lee99:
Hmm this was before I swallowed the red pill, when I was still a mumu , had this girl I was crushing on abi that crushed me seff anyway babe told me that her mom was seriously ill and she didn't have any money to get her drugs, because I see fine girl na simp me of old quickly said I'll give her the money, mind you I had just gotten admission then naso I carry my two left leg go my popsi drawer comot 5k give this babe, cheeei see hug all the bobby just press my chest naso my brain lose signal, anyway it ended with hot slap from my dad and premium tears, babe I no see, money was still deducted from my allowance when I was going back.... Ask me today if the hug was worth it, Hell no!

November24:
Teaching him for a token is not helping him.

Swerve

Blackmiserable:
I can work for you if your hands are tied. I am broke af

seyiskye2002:
Oya teach me ooooooo

akpokpo:
How do you get customers in this your craft? I mean, how do you go about advertising yourself to grab the attention of potential clients?

GiZcorp:
So I was scoping this girl for almost 3 yrs and one day I went to her place and lo and behold the babe told me that she has just been tolerating me that for real she ain't got jack feeling for me. Damn, I was like let the Earth open let the son of man enter. Anyways, to cut the long crap short I stopped calling, testing or checking up on her. Like magic I forgot about her her and till date shes still calling and begging me to look her way. I guess she never imagined I can ever do without her hmmn., Ironically I'm happily in my best relationship so far, thanks to her fat ass ditching me. Lol

Meklex:
We were walking down the street when some guys in a car was driving slowly beside us and was catcalling her, making jokes about if I am not ready they're ready to marry her. I just held her hand and we were smiling at them and walking when one of them asked, "fine girl, at least tell us your name". My stupid girl told them. The thing vex me, I just leave her comot, she rushed after me and was begging. I sha forgave her.

Benki003:
Well mine happened when I was out of transport money so u decided to trek cause I has no other choice because its just hard for me to beg only for my girlfriend had to beg the guy that gave her a lift claiming that I was her brother omo the shame no be for her I was just sweating and smiling na so the guy was like abeg bro no dirty my car bikon

Omo the shame no be for here

Ishilove:
Na everything una want make we share for this forum

Candycrushy:
Mine was a day i was with my boyfriend, then my other boyfriend appeared from nowhere

I was into a serious dating game with each then
I wished the ground should just open n swallow me then
At least i later came back home with my head unhurt
I doubledate no more

crafteck:
I waited under the rain at the bus stop for hours for her to get back from her side bf... Na me dey pay LASU school fees ooo where dem meet.. Neva, neva again

chatinent:
Lalasticlala, come talk how your own take do you.

gameboy727:



The guy no even acknowledge your existence.

Obsession4u:
Teach me instead please

boladale123:
Please can you teach me?

kinah:
How do I learn?

flokii:
@OP go straight to the point.. Nigerians especially those in South Eastern part should stop worshipping money.

It's only in Igboland that a boy will leave home with one nylon bag with no school cert. or degree but after some years will come back with big Jeep and other exotic things to show off.. Igbo people should question the source of their wards wealth.

There is one Igbo actor languishing in UK prison till date for drug trafficking. One fine actor like that, just that I don't know the name. A bright career wasted in the quest for quick money.

In our place, we have a belief.. oruko rere is better than wura ati fadaka

Afonjashapmouth:
Tell us about those left homeless nor retirement money to live on, those that ended up committing suicide of die of ailment. Are they less human cos they are whites? If your parents got scammed of their life dependence would you spew this backup epistle?

ESANMEA:
Chai! E go better