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Hi everyone,

I have a serious problem, and it's really getting on my nerves.

My husband and I got married 2 months ago . We have been dating for 5 years and we were both virgins. We both value virginity and we decided not to have sex before marriage.

On our first night together, he couldn't penetrate me at all. I was terrified and I think that's why I wasn't comfortable. We tried the next day, and it hurt like hell. Only the tip of the head could get inside but it was really painful.

I started to get frustrated with time and nervous too, and so we didn't try to have sex for weeks. He didn't want to hurt me and I was too scared to face another failure.

The pain and fear made me run away from sex and find excuses. My husband suggested I should try stretching the entrance of the vagina with my fingers... When I did, the pain was unbearable, but it went away with time and now I can do that without pain at all.

However, this month, I decided to overcome my fear... desire came back and I felt like having sex again. We tried again and now the head goes in completely. There still is some pain but I'm kind of used to it now. I even got orgasms on the several times we tried. ( eventhough only the head managed to get inside ).

My questions are, is it normal that his penis doesn't penetrate me fully? Is it like the entrance of my vagina needs some stretching ( and does this stretching occur after we try so many times? )

I'm desperate and don't know with whom I could share this problem.

I'm waiting for your answers

Thank you,

take dat: Even at that, N9trillion($56billion) will accrue into the federation account from crude oil earnings alone. The President during the 2012 budget presentation gave a figure close to that amount. Excess crude account stood at $6.9billionand external reserve was $42billion. In 2012, the three tiers of government shared N6.16trillion($40billion)

Texas.Cowgirl:
OP is ignorant if she thinks that there aren't more of those people laying low in her society. And they're only laying low because of lack of opportunity.

You'd have to kill ignorance, tribalism, poverty, corruption, etc for NIgeria to be better.

CROWÉ: Someone who takes vengeance by murder is guilty and should be punished but if he was lead to the position by a system that guaranteed it will happen again punishing him doesn't do much for society, he can and should be punished but priority goes to fixing the system. These people are big and powerful, they will of course resist and make no mistake about it they can put up a good fight, that would be time and resources better spent fixing Nigeria. I don't mind if they get away with it if it means I can guarantee in the future things will be done better, fixing Nigeria is more important than punishing people who misbehaved because it encouraged them to. Priorities people, priorities.

Rgp92: "be the change you want to see in the world" ;-)

Rgp92: There is, Change the mind of the People! If you understand how humans Works, you'll understand that even though all ethnic Group are listed. People will still feel cheated and so on...

CROWÉ: If stewpidity is reason enough to be killed then there are those that should be but these people are not the cause of our current woe, stewpidity and ignorance is. Many Nigerians have gone and shifted the country in major ways because they didn't like one thing with no consideration for all the other effects it will have, the result is a flawed system that promotes incompetency and corruption.

Also OP, I think you just listed about every popular public servant you could think of, you suffer from the same stewpidity and ignorance. You people need to learn to think things thoroughly otherwise you will find yourself making regrettable reactions.

Van snickers: If these People are killed; they will be replaced. Ask yourself this question, how many of the Politicians from Shagari's Era are still active? In Shagari's time it was Umaru Dikko, today it's Peter Odilli. We have to change the Mentality of the Populace; all Leaders were normal citizens at some point in Time.

Rgp92: I can understand where you're coming from, but you need to know Nigeria is different, we have no dominant ethnic Group. Any wrong move can start a war. You need a better way of solving thing than using violence. oh Do you live in Nigeria?

redsun: Interesting.They are too many to be named.

But you missed out an important kingpin on the list,david mark.

Scarpon: killing those folks will not change anything change begins from me and you

Rgp92: wrong. Look at Egypt today. They overthrown their dictator leader, look what happen? A leader worser than the last one took over. You cant fight corruption With violence, the best weapon of fighting corruption is changing the mind of the People. Remember, most Nigerians aint even nationalist. killing of those People can cause a civil war, because of the way the most nigerians think.

Rgp92: Then you need to rethink. I order to make Nigeria a better Place, you have to change the mind of the People. Remember, leaders are reflexes of the mass. Punishing those People and a New or even worse leader will appear.