 Politics › Re: Igboland Is Not Landlocked by chigomiced(op): 10:37am On Dec 08, 2015 |
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| Politics › Re: Igboland Is Not Landlocked by chigomiced(op): 10:21am On Dec 08, 2015 |
sleekdot:
Cross river is not part of Biafra. Your Biafra is limited to SE and Anioma part of Delta
Tell me how a ship coming from outside would get to Biafra without passing through parts of Nigerian land The Eastern Region was one of Nigeria's federal divisions, dating back originally from the division of the colony Southern Nigeria in 1954. Its first capital was Calabar. The capital was later moved to Enugu and the second capital was Umuahia. The region was officially divided in 1967 into three new states,in the East-Central State, Rivers State and South-Eastern State. East-Central State had its capital at Enugu, which is now part of Enugu State. The Region had the third, fourth and the fifth largest ethnic groups in the country (Igbo, Ibibio, and Ijaw) next to Hausa/Fulani and Yoruba. The then Eastern Region failed to capitalize on this but rather engaged in in-fighting and the wrong labeling of Ibibio and Ijaw as minority ethnic groups. The region was what later became Biafra, which was in rebellion from 1967 to 1970. [url] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eastern_Region,_Nigeria[/url] |
| Politics › Re: Igboland Is Not Landlocked by chigomiced(op): 10:16am On Dec 08, 2015 |
unite4real:
can you answer the following questions and forget about wikipedia?
1. Igboland is bounded in the north by -------------------
2. Igboland is bounded in the East by --------------------
3. Igboland is bounded in the West by -------------------
4. Igboland is bounded in the South by-------------------
The answers will tell you landlocked or not bros we cannot forget about wikipedia..... we are in the jet age and certial informations and detials cannot be disregarded |
| Politics › Re: Igboland Is Not Landlocked by chigomiced(op): 10:09am On Dec 08, 2015 |
MaziOmenuko:
That's one of my major problem with ipob youths; you can't force people into your Biafra. The port at Rivera state is at onne and it's Nigerian territorial waters; are you going to force them to be part of Biafra?
If the method of getting Biafra is by peaceful resolution, they will opt to remain in Nigeria. If its through war, threatening and mad riots, you are not equiped or ready for war. The Eastern Region was one of Nigeria's federal divisions, dating back originally from the division of the colony Southern Nigeria in 1954. Its first capital was Calabar. The capital was later moved to Enugu and the second capital was Umuahia. The region was officially divided in 1967 into three new states,in the East-Central State, Rivers State and South-Eastern State. East-Central State had its capital at Enugu, which is now part of Enugu State.
The Region had the third, fourth and the fifth largest ethnic groups in the country (Igbo, Ibibio, and Ijaw) next to Hausa/Fulani and Yoruba. The then Eastern Region failed to capitalize on this but rather engaged in in-fighting and the wrong labeling of Ibibio and Ijaw as minority ethnic groups.
The region was what later became Biafra, which was in rebellion from 1967 to 1970. [url] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eastern_Region,_Nigeria[/url] they are all biafrans in the eyes of the Northerners and Southerners |
| Politics › Re: Igboland Is Not Landlocked by chigomiced(op): 10:07am On Dec 08, 2015 |
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| Politics › Re: Igboland Is Not Landlocked by chigomiced(op): 10:00am On Dec 08, 2015 |
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| Politics › Re: Igboland Is Not Landlocked by chigomiced(op): 9:56am On Dec 08, 2015 |
sleekdot:
Where in that map did anywhere touch the ocean? Or because one gutter pass through Ibo land means its not landlocked?
For any ship to reach Biafra it must pass through Nigeria, thats the definition of landlocked how does a ship get to Cameroon  talking as if Nigeria owns all the water |
| Politics › Re: The Igbo Man B4 Nigerian Was Created (aro Confederacy) by chigomiced(op): 9:52am On Dec 08, 2015 |
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| Politics › Re: Igboland Is Not Landlocked by chigomiced(op): 9:47am On Dec 08, 2015 |
coolscott:
[size=13pt]If we had said these people display inferior intellect, it would look as if we are attacking other people. See how they are doing it on a national level now. He makes a claim and boldly puts up proof that makes his claim false, while calling it proof that makes that claim true.
Meanwhile there was no neeed.
With or without his post, we already knew his claim was a lie.[/size] kindly read and tell me how Igboland is Landlocked  Igboland (Standard Igbo: Àlà Ị̀gbò), also known as Southeastern Nigeria and formerly known as Ibo or Iboland,[3] is a non-governmental cultural region and a linguistic area in Nigeria that is defined by the Igbo culture and language. It is primarily situated in the Lowland forest region of Nigeria, with minor parts in the Niger-Delta, where the Niger river fans out into the atlantic ocean in a vast network of creeks and mangrove swamps on the Bight of Bonny located between latitude 5–7 degrees north and longitude 6–8 degrees east, and occupies a total landmass of about 16,000 square miles in southern Nigeria. |
| Politics › The Igbo Man B4 Nigerian Was Created (aro Confederacy) by chigomiced(op): 9:44am On Dec 08, 2015 |
Those that say The Yeeboos wont survive if The Federal Govt give them Biafruad Should come and sit for lectures  Thanks to wikipedia again https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aro_ConfederacyThe Aro Confederacy (1690–1902) was a political union orchestrated by the Igbo subgroup, the Aro people, centered in Arochukwu in present-day southeastern Nigeria. Their influence and presence was all over Eastern Nigeria, lower Middle Belt, and parts of present-day Cameroon and Equatorial Guinea during the 18th and 19th centuries. The Arochukwu Kingdom was an economical, political, and an oracular center as it was home of the powerful Ibini Ukpabi oracle, High Priests, the Aro King Eze Aro, and central council (Okpankpo). Rise:By the mid-18th century, several Aro business families had migrated to the Igbo hinterland and to adjacent areas as a result of the rise of the demand for slaves and for palm oil. This migration, the influence of their god Ibini Ukpabi through priests, and their military power supported by their alliances with several related neighboring Igbo and eastern Cross River militarized states (particularly Ohafia, Edda, Abam, Abiriba, Afikpo, Ekoi, etc.), quickly established the Aro Confederacy as a regional economic power.
Confederacy:Aro activities helped coastal the growth of city-states in the Niger Delta, and they became important centers for the export of palm oil and slaves. Such city-states included Opobo, Bonny, Nembe, Calabar, as well as other slave trading city-states controlled by the Ijaw, Efik, and Igbo. The Aros formed a strong trading network, colonies, and incorporated hundreds of communities that formed into powerful kingdoms. The Ajalli, Arondizuogu, Ndikelionwu, and Igbene Kingdoms were some of the most powerful Aro states in the Confederacy after Arochukwu. Some were founded and named after commanders and chiefs like Izuogu Mgbokpo and Iheme who led Aro/Abam forces to conquer Ikpa Ora and founded Arondizuogu. Later Aro commanders such as Okoro Idozuka (also of Arondizuogu) expanded the state's borders through warfare at the start of the 19th century. Aro migrations also played a large role in the expansion of Ozizza, Afikpo, Izombe, and many other city-states. For example, Aro soldiers founded at least three villages in Ozizza. The Aro Confederacy's power, however, derived mostly from its economic and religious position. With European colonists on their way at the end of the 19th century, things changed. Decline:During the 1890s, the Royal Niger Company of Britain bore friction with the Aros because of their economic dominance and alleged human sacrifice. The Aro resisted British penetration in the hinterland because their influence economically and religiously was being threatened. The Aro and their allies launched offensives against British allies in Igbo and Ibibioland. After failed negotiations, the British planned on capturing the Aro Confederacy in 1899. By 1901, the tensions were especially intensified when British prepared for the Aro Expedition. The invasion of Obegu (in Igboland) was the last major Aro offensive before the start of the Anglo-Aro War. In November 1901, the British launched the Aro Expedition and after strong Aro resistance, Arochukwu was captured on December 28, 1901. By Spring 1902, the war was over and the Aro Confederacy collapsed. Contrary to the belief that the Ibini Ukpabi was destroyed, the shrine still exists, and is intact in Arochukwu and serves mainly as a tourist site. The Rebirth Of The IGbo Nation: watch-out |
| Politics › Re: Igboland Is Not Landlocked by chigomiced(op): 9:33am On Dec 08, 2015 |
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| Politics › Re: Igboland Is Not Landlocked by chigomiced(op): 9:01am On Dec 08, 2015 |
coolscott:
[size=13pt]This write up did not state that Igbo land is not land locked. It mentioned the rivers around Igbo land. I have seen the river in Aba. The Imo river fans out as it heads south but that does not immediately mean that the ocean moved northwards to Igboland.
Well, even though wikipedia happened to erroneously ascribe beachline to Igbos (which they did not) they only need to be corrected on account of the non-conformity of that report with what is on the ground.
Only one thing can give Igbos an ocean. Global warming and rising sea levels in such great proportion as to send Port Harcourt, Okrika kalabari, et al under the see. This we pray will never happen
[/size] I don't know your motive for writing that rubbish but i can confirm to you that every information in wikipedia are scrutinized under heavy researches and investigations... You can keep living in deceit and self denial... Is up to you. |
| Politics › Re: If Biafra Had Won The War by chigomiced(op): 3:59pm On Dec 07, 2015 |
SurefireAsoOke:
If Biafra Go, Nigeria will still remain.
For Aso-Oke, Check my Signature without the Yeeboos Nigeria will become Niger-Area |
| Politics › Igboland Is Not Landlocked by chigomiced(op): 3:57pm On Dec 07, 2015 |
A lot of peeps has been spreading false info about how Igboland (IPOB) is landlocked and all sorts. Lemme Lecture you a lil about "Igboland" and why it is not "Landlocked" According to Wikipedia... (thank God for Internet  ) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/IgbolandIgboland (Standard Igbo: Àlà Ị̀gbò), also known as Southeastern Nigeria and formerly known as Ibo or Iboland,[3] is a non-governmental cultural region and a linguistic area in Nigeria that is defined by the Igbo culture and language. It is primarily situated in the Lowland forest region of Nigeria, with minor parts in the Niger-Delta, where the Niger river fans out into the atlantic ocean in a vast network of creeks and mangrove swamps on the Bight of Bonny located between latitude 5–7 degrees north and longitude 6–8 degrees east, and occupies a total landmass of about 16,000 square miles in southern Nigeria.[4] It has lands on both sides of the lower Niger River, although the larger chunk of the region is situated on the east of the river. The region is surrounded by a host of large rivers. Igboland's culture has been shaped by its rainforest climate. As this area constitutes a large part of the south-eastern part of Nigeria, it is often referred to as the 'The East' locally. The majority of the Igbo-speaking population in Igboland identify as ethnic Igbo. Igboland was part of the Southern Nigeria Protectorate of the British Empire and was amalgamated into modern-day Nigeria in 1914; the nation gained independence in 1960. Shortly afterwards Igboland was involved in its biggest war during Biafra's movement for secession, which eventually ended in 1970 when this area rejoined Nigeria. 
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| Politics › If Biafra Had Won The War by chigomiced(op): 3:18pm On Dec 07, 2015 |
Many eastern Nigerians still wonder and ask what would have happened had Biafra succeeded. What if the federal government had agreed to “let Biafra go?” Or if Biafra had hung on long enough for a United Nations resolution calling for the establishment of a new independent state in eastern Nigeria?
Ostensibly, Biafra had the ingredients to succeed and become a successful nation. It had an educated and skilled workforce, a charismatic head of state, a citizenry with a messianic zeal for their country to succeed, natural resources, a coastline, and perhaps most crucially of all –
billions of dollars worth of crude oil flowing underneath its soil.
BIAFRA – A WORLD SUPERPOWER?
With oil wealth and a vibrant citizenry, Biafra could have become Africa’s first world superpower. With citizens of the caliber of Nnamdi Azikiwe,
Sir Louis Mbafeno, Matthew Mbu, Chike Obi, Chukwuemeka Ojukwu, Christopher Okigbo, and Michael Okpara, it had men of foresight, intellect, and vision to rival any nation in Africa. Academics, civil servants, diplomats, doctors, judges, mathematicians, professors, scientists, soldiers…Biafra had them all. When Biafra seceded, it took not only a portion of Nigerian territory with it, but also a massive part of Nigeria’s brainpower, army officers corps, and wealth.
The remarkable ingenuity of Biafra’s engineers during the war proved the old adage that “necessity is the mother of all invention”. Had the
short-term technical ingenuity which led Biafra to refine fuel, manufacture everything from armoured vehicles to soap, and land mines encased in milk churns, been allowed to continue long term; it may have led to an industrial and technological revolution in west Africa. A country full of people that could create, invent, lead, teach, think, and fight. Surely nothing could stop such a country. The sky was the limit for
a country blessed with so much talent, motivation, and patriotic intensity to succeed. Biafra could have been Africa’s answer to Israel; the little
country that punches above its weight and refuses to give in.
THE “JEWS OF AFRICA”
However as well as emulating Israel’s benefits, Biafra may also have mimicked Israel’s problems. Igbos are often called “The Jews of Africa”.
The title is not fanciful. Had Biafra succeeded, it would have had similar demographic and geographic challenges to the world’s only Jewish state. It would have been surrounded by hostile nations, while simultaneously facing an armed insurrection within its borders by its own citizens.
Biafra faced many challenges within; including a Game of Thrones style cocktail of conspiracies, internal rivalries, politics, and in-fighting.
Not all eastern Nigerians approved of secession. The Efiks, Annangs, Ibibios, and Ijaws within Biafra were not enthusiastic about swapping a
Nigerian passport under a Hausa-Fulani led government, with a Biafran passport where they would be led by an Igbo government. How would the ethnic groups on Biafra’s southern coast react to being minority citizens of a country where most of the wealth is obtained from their land, but
where they did not have economic and political leadership? Probably in the way they reacted when the same circumstances arose in Nigeria; MEND,Niger Delta People’s Volunteer Force et al. The armed campaign of kidnapping and violence which Niger Delta militants waged against the
Nigerian federal government would instead have been waged within Biafra’s borders – against the Biafran government. Isaac Idaka Boro’s short-lived Niger Delta Peoples Republic (and the fact that Boro fought for the Nigerian federal army against Biafra) was a demonstration that Niger Delta militants would have turned their guns on Biafra before long.
NOISY NEIGHBOURS
How would Biafra have related to its neighbours? To its northern border would have been one or two landlocked northern republics awash with
trained combatant soldiers and guns. These landlocked countries would need would need deals with Biafra to gain access to the sea. If Biafra refused or negotiations got difficult, their demands for access to the sea may have turned violent. Would these northern republics quietly tolerate the noisy, rich, and successful little nation to their south without envy or
rivalry? Unlikely.
THE MID-WEST
To Biafra’s western border would have been a diverse country of Edos, Esans, Isokos, Itsekiris, Urhobos, Ika-Igbos and others (modern day Delta
and Edo States). Would Biafra have closed its borders to its Igbo brothers living in the state next door? Two options were open to Biafra. It could have encouraged the Igbos living to its west to migrate to Biafra by granting them automatic Biafran citizenship under an Israel style “law of return”. That of course would have presented its own problems by inferring
that Biafra was an Igbo ethnic theocracy. It would also have fuelled fears among non-Igbo Biafrans that Biafra was an Igbo project.
The other option would have been to enlarge Biafra’s territory by extending its borders westward into Igbo speaking areas west of the River
Niger such as Asaba. Non-Igbos living in such areas were unlikely to
accept such territorial encroachment peacefully. Any Biafran attempt to annex territory west of the Niger would have been violently resisted. Even if successful, Biafran soldiers would have been viewed as an army of occupation in the manner of British soldiers in Northern Ireland and
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| Politics › Re: Landlocked Biafra Will Be An Economic Hell On Earth. by chigomiced: 2:49pm On Dec 07, 2015 |
tonychristopher:
Ibaka sea port and Aba is just less than 20 nautical miles to atlantic, ahw about Igwe ocham, what about the Onitsha or can i believe that the Igbo man being industrious and hardworking will find a way where there seems to be no way..... |
| Politics › Re: Landlocked Biafra Will Be An Economic Hell On Earth. by chigomiced: 2:36pm On Dec 07, 2015 |
dinachi:
It will be horrible economically for our people IF they go on to become Biafra. It will be an economic hell. With most importers being of Igbo origin, they are gonna have to depend on Lagos and Port Harcourt Ports to get anything in. And that is where Nigeria is going to make a killing on import duties and rates. The customs are also going to make a killing on goods heading to Biafra. We will be forced to import foods like, yams, beans, onions, tomatoes, carrots even beef from the north. It is not like I expect the Biafran zombies here to understand, they will never do because anything short of their beloved biafra is not acceptable even if the Biafra is hell in its self!
As for the IPOB clowns, they will never understand the damage they did to businesses of Igbo men and women with their senseless and violent protests. Blocking the Niger bridge for the length of time they did cost Igbo men and women billions in profits.
But this post is not for the zombies, it is only for the Igbo men and women. who still thinks and has balanced reasoning. Zombies can do only what they know how to do best, rant and rave. what happened to cargo planes and shipment of goods through cameroon via bakassi somebody aint doing his mathematics ryte here.... go and read the history of the biafran war b4 u come here and spill shit |
| Romance › Re: Temptation: What’s Tempting You? by chigomiced(op): 12:41pm On Dec 07, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: Temptation: What’s Tempting You? by chigomiced(op): 11:38am On Dec 07, 2015 |
Cutehector:
Internet, laptop... pls kindly expatiate |
| Romance › Temptation: What’s Tempting You? by chigomiced(op): 11:11am On Dec 07, 2015 |
[b]The Wise One once said: “Where is the seed of desire planted? In your Ego or your higher self/state of being?”
“Temptation…one must know what you like to ‘tempt’ you” (TD Jakes)…. Because, you can only suffer from temptation if “it” is something you like. You can’t be tempted by it if, it is not something you like…or desire.
So just what is it that is the driving force behind temptation in a relationship, in a marriage? Does one think that the grass is greener on the other side? I won’t say it is not possible, however, if we attract into our life who we are…isn’t that cause enough for concern, at least a little? What I mean is that if we are emotionally vested in a relationship, (maybe more so in the beginning, consequently, being disappointed, frustrated, and angry…those are still examples of one being emotionally invested) how are we, as human beings to take on the “attitude” of infidelity?
Cheating is indeed an attitude, as in a state of mind: it crosses into emotional connectedness. The chemical responses that actually takes place in the brain of both the man and more so the woman is unquestionably real. Even if the person wants to deduce it down to the verbal affliction of, “It was only (or just) sex”, to vindicate the moral wrong, it still causes great despair.
Some use it as a scapegoat, justifying that they cheated because of all of the disappointment and frustration the spouse inflicted, but if we go back and argue once again that we attract who we are then where are we again? We are with someone who somehow reflects our way of being. How about first understanding it is not the victim personally. The violator is by far in such and attitude of self-gratification and seeking to, a lot of time alleviate stress by engaging in the fantasy of an ideal. The mind is great at imagining utopia, but it is often laced with doubt. The need for self-gratification is a primal urge that must be balanced to have a quality life.
Time and time again it has been proven and expressed with those that can be truly and shamelessly honest, in terms of some discord in relationships. What I mean is that if an argument begins…listen, listen intently to what the other person is saying, do not be in the mode to defend yourself; they show their hand so to speak. They begin to reveal who it is they are. The Ego always reveals one’s deepest issues, many times it is a reflection of your issues. So what if they are? There is your chance to absorb, control your own-self, and transform. It may be time for you to move on. However, if you live from the space of no outs in life, as the most successful do in business…if you live from that place in a relationship, what will happen is an extraordinary shift in your abilities and strengths.
Yes, it has had me perplexed before, until I was able to process a bit more. I believe, that initially our attraction comes from the strongest most prominent emotion that a person emits. What I mean is, when often depending on the initial encounter is where the magnetism comes from. What state and state of mind were you initially in when you met? What was happening in your life then. Has the other person stayed on track and kept up or is their distance in between…did you get together or marry for love, lust, convenience, was there a spiritual connection? Were you or that other person under the influence of any addictive substance, any illicit substances? These things all matter in the way of you understanding your own weaknesses.
For better or for worse…That is quite a provocative part of the vows that married couples assert. The “worse” part can really be frustrating can’t it? When you are in it, when it is your personal experience likely you have not yet cultivated the ability to be able to simultaneously allow the unfolding of events, and to extract meaning in the middle of the perplexing event; resistance creates tension, often much more than you are aware. In our simple-mindedness when we are in survival mode, extremely stressed out, we tend to think so hastily, so topically. Many of us can’t think past the wrong that is about to be committed or has been done. That is because we are in the what I refer to as the “infected ego” state of being.*
Just now after reading that, cultivate the ability to be able to allow things to just be as they are and stop the convicted feelings. This can occur when you clam your mind enough to access the greater perspective on what is taking place created by you, for you. I believe this wisdom has brought me inner piece…It is responsible for what has brought me peace. I believe it will be of great value to you as well.
The key I believe is how you’ve decided to grow within the time in between the time (of the temptation). Did you look deeper into your driving forces and address them or did you succumb to the temptation? Are you blaming? Or are you creating a new way of being? Are you able to realize consequences either way? Are you prepared for feelings of great depression and despair? Know this: cheating crushes the unknown party, when the offender(s) finally understand this, it is yet another cycle of negativity they must deal with.
Remember this: You cannot halt change in the universe. As change occurs you can guide it by channeling it towards all that you want for yourself, by paying attention to its cycle. Allow change to flow freely redirect it with your focus. You will fully experience this when you do not feel any doubt of it working. Imagine the lawn at your home, it doesn’t need to much attention to display its perfection, but you still need to give it some attention during the cycles of each season and make adjustments as whatever other outside influences occur. Whether it the be snowy season, allow it to go dormant, the monsoon season you don’t have to water it so much, you nurture it as conditions change to help it to its destiny. Embrace your fears, embrace your tendencies to temptations.
What place do you envision going to when the urges begin to surface?
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| Romance › Re: Finding The One by chigomiced(op): 1:54pm On Nov 23, 2015 |
Anyss:
To me the first step to finding the right partner is by working on your self and making yourself right for your partner to be. Check yourself and answer these. Do you think when you find that Mr/Mrs right the person will be willing to stay with you, will you be willing to marry yourself? #thats if it were possible#
Lastly you see many gals/guys saying I want to marry a rich, beautiful/handsome, sexy God fearing lady/guy. What effort have to put in place to attract this lovely angel you desire. Or do we think angels don't have taste? are you sure you read the post at all abi nah only the topic you look at b4 u proceeded to comment |
| Romance › Finding The One by chigomiced(op): 12:22pm On Nov 23, 2015 |
How can we tell when we found the right one? I wish I knew a better answer than this: we choose ‘the One’. Choose wisely! THAT is the right one.
We cannot presume that God will intervene and force us to make a good choice. We regularly see Christians make poor choices in dating and marriage.
When I think about poor marriage choices, I think about Solomon, whose marriages to unbelievers brought about his spiritual downfall, his family to shambles, and undermined the society he was leading. We can make either good choices or poor choices in dating/courtship and marriage.
There is no checklist in the Bible for evaluating a spouse, but there are many verses that give us guidance on the type of person we should be seeking. A while back, I wrote this list to help me as I pondered what I hoped for in a wife:
Does she want to be a stay at home wife?
Is she ready for marriage?
Is she virtuous?
Does she have a temper?
Is she kind?
Is she interested and active in spiritual things?
Is she modest?
Does she want children?
Does she want courtship?
Would she wait until marriage for the first kiss?
What does she think about abortion?
(One can replace the SHE with HE and make a similar list.)
Those questions are not perfect, but an attempt to help me understand what I should be seeking. Lists like this help because they are spiritual standards and they challenge us to think about what really matters versus what was in our hearts.
We can have very superficial standards based on beauty, lust, money, and social standing. I suspect many of us have in our minds dismissed someone on superficial reasons, only to look back at that opportunity, and see spiritual beauty and faith that we overlooked. We blew it!
We can miss opportunities. In our prayers, we ask for God’s help, but sometimes what we are looking for is not what we should be looking for. Earlier we established that God can providentially provide a spouse for
someone. Some examples: Isaac and Rebecca, Boaz and Ruth, Adam and Eve are providential couples. Does that mean that God will always work that way? Poof, there’s your spouse! Not necessarily. I think for many of us God
gives us a number of choices to choose from, some are better and some are worse.
And in fact, that was even true of Isaac and Rebecca, Isaac had the freewill to make a bad choice, he could have married a pagan girl, instead he waited for a better choice and God blessed him. And Rebekah had a choice
too, she was asked if she was willing to leave her family and all that she knew to marry Isaac, she acted on faith (Genesis 24:58). That is true of Ruth too; she had the freewill to make a bad choice, to choose beauty instead of virtue.
Boaz was an older man, from a worldly point of view, not the best choice (Ruth 3:10). Ruth choose to wait and honor God, and was blessed.
The choice of who to court is something most of us struggle with. We might have of a number of people whom we could potentially court, but or various reasons, we feel they are not the best spiritual choice. In some cases, people just can’t seem to relate well. I think sometimes we have personal preferences too: education, personality, cultural differences, age, height, and
race.
On occasion, these preferences are superficial and perhaps should be forgotten, sometimes they are an important preference.
As mentioned before, there is no biblically right way to do this as long as you are pure. I think you can quickly get to know someone well in the things that matter. I say this because most people in past ages didn't have the same
choices, yet somehow made marriage successful and had godly children. In many cases, the father or family would ask good questions of young men and their families, and would help lead a woman to man they approved of. The families didn't always make a good choice, I am sure that some families chose lemons, but that is also true our modern dating today too.
We should ask good questions today too (similar to my list above): Is the person is a faithful Christian, kind, merciful, slow to anger, honest, works hard, has an honorable job, is prepared for courtship, is someone who you consider a friend, and someone you are attracted to? They might be a good match.
Careful planning and preparation can’t guarantee 100% success in anything, but in general, that is how any effort is going to be most successful. Why not seek what will help you succeed?
While seeking a good choice is wise, it is important that we don't demand perfection. We are all works in progress. As we grow in Christ, we change and improve. Someone who was once immature and not ready, can in time be a good choice. We should not hold unrealistic standards of perfection for seeking a spouse. Each of us has areas of our life that we need to improve and areas of growth as well as areas of maturity and strength.
The lists I made above were to help me have godly standards in seeking a wife. Make your own list, and then prayerfully consider what you are seeking. cc seun lalasticlacla tosyn2much |
| Romance › Biblical Love Vs Societal Love by chigomiced(op): 12:01pm On Nov 23, 2015 |
True Love:
It is not always easy to remember the distinction between love and lust. What does it mean to love someone? One of the advantages of the Greek language is that there are four different words for love that give deeper
meaning than the one word we have in the English language.
1.Agape: Used to express the love of God. This is selfless love; it gives
and expects nothing in return.
2.Philia: Love between friends.
3.Storge: Love between members of a family.
4.Eros: Romantic love, lust, passion.
In order for a godly marriage to flourish, it must be built upon selfless love, agape love.
Romantic love/lust doesn’t sustain the relationship when children, age, and health problems come. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
(5) does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;
(6) does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
(7) bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
( Love never fails...”1 Corinthians 13 is talking about agape love. Agape love, selfless love, is all about someone other than self. Both men and woman will be very unattractive at times. Selfless love puts the needs of the other person ahead of our own needs, wants, and desires.
Selfless love is what keeps a marriage together through any trial. One of the greatest lessons in selfless love in my life was to see my mother
take care of my paralyzed father. When my dad was in his late 40’s he had an aneurysm which caused paralysis on the left of his body and left him wheelchair bound, partially blind, and very weak. My dad, who was athletic and strong, a man who could do anything, was reduced to a man who often needed help just to use the bathroom. Not a lot of romance or passion in my parent’s relationship, but there was love
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selfless love, the love that lasts through any trial or problem, and the same love that God has toward us. If you want a godly marriage, you need to learn selfless love.
Fake Love:
Romans 12:9 Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good.
Love with hypocrisy is a selfish love. We learn selfish love as children very early. We learn how to manipulate people to get what we want.
We learn to treat someone nice before we ask them for a favor or maybe complement them on something, then ask them for a favor.
We can get into a habit of fake love. Love with hypocrisy in relationships is when you put your desires and passions ahead of what is proper or what is best for the other person.
Love with hypocrisy is when you want to satisfy your lusts at the expense of stealing someone’s purity.
Agape love looks out for what is best for the other person and for God, not what is best for to fulfill the passions of the moment.
Do you know how to selflessly love someone? To be honest, I think most young people don't have much experience in practicing selfless love. But the good news is that we can learn! In practical terms, we can learn by being nice even if you have nothing to gain.
It will mean caring about people, who many times, you might never see again. It will mean doing nice things for retired people, little kids, and strangers. It will mean going to church events even if there are no attractive singles there. It will mean being nice to people you don't think are attractive. This is sincere love.
The parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:29-37) is a good example of selfless love, doing what is right because it is right, not because you have something to gain. The Samaritan went out of his way, spent his time and his money on someone he most likely would never meet again. He spent what was equivalent today to several hundred dollars on a stranger in need!
Selfless love often doesn’t have an instant reward. In fact, selfless love is often inconvenient. But without selfless love you will be exactly what 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 talks about, you are “nothing” and you “profit nothing”.
The irony of selfish love is that one will never be satisfied by selfishness. It is by giving and being generous and selfless that we find the blessings and joy of true love. |
| Romance › The Worldly Baseball Analogy About Girls (baseball Metaphors For Sex) by chigomiced(op): 11:19am On Nov 23, 2015 |
Among American adolescents, baseball metaphors for sex are often used as euphemisms for the degree of physical intimacy achieved in sexual encounters or relationships.In the metaphor, first prevalent in the aftermath of World War II, sexual activities are described as if they are actions in a game of baseball.
Among the most commonly used metaphors are the bases describing levels of physical intimacy (generally from a heterosexual perspective). Definitions vary, but the following are typical usages of the terms:
1. First base – mouth-to-mouth kissing, especially French kissing;
2. Second base – skin-to-skin touching/kissing of the breasts; in some contexts, it may instead refer to touching any erogenous zones
through the clothes (i.e. not actually touching the skin), or manual stimulation of the genitals;
3. Third base – touching below the waist (without sexual intercourse); in some contexts, it may instead refer to oral stimulation of the genitals;
Home run (home base) – "full" sexual intercourse.
Additionally:
4. Strikeout – a failure to engage in any form of pre-intimacy or other sexual activity;
Additionally, there are two metaphors used to refer to men who have sex with men:
5. Pitching – the man performing anal sex
6. Catching – the man receiving anal sex
Other similar metaphors include:
Switch hitter – a bisexual individual, referencing a player who can bat from either side
Playing for the other team – usually indicating a person is gay or lesbian
Playing for both teams – usually indicating a person is bisexual
The metaphors are found variously in popular American culture, with one well-known example in the Meat Loaf song "Paradise by the Dashboard Light", which describes a young couple "making out", with a voice-over commentary, by baseball announcer Phil Rizzuto, of a portion of a baseball game as a metaphor for the couple's activities. A similar example can be found in Billy Joel's song "Zanzibar" in which he compares himself to Pete Rose and sings the lines "Me, I'm trying just to get to second base and I'd steal it if she only gave the sign. She's gonna give the go ahead, the inning isn't over yet for me." |
| Romance › The Man-woman Relationship by chigomiced(op): 10:09am On Nov 23, 2015 |
THE MAN-WOMAN RELATIONSHIP
By: Earl W. Traut
Years of reflection on my own two unsuccessful marriages and the study of Christians who seem to be in good marriages have caused me to repeatedly restudy the Bible teaching concerning the man-woman relationship. Also, not having a wife to influence my writing enables me to treat this subject with impunity (except, of course, from God and irate sisters in Christ). Additionally, meticulous Greek word-studies and analyses of Bible statements have led to the following understandings which I respectfully ask you to consider. Please note: all quotations from God's First Century Revelation are literal, word-for-word translations; also, any "group of Christians gathered in his name" (Mt. 18:20) is considered to be a "group of Called Ones" (sometimes translated "church" .
Gal. 3:28: "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus." We tend to pull out the expression, "there is neither male nor female," and conclude from it that men and women have the same rights and responsibilities in ALL relationship. But the "before and after" verses show that what Paul wrote about here is limited to each Christian's relationship to GOD. If this verse applies to men and women in ALL relationships, then it must also apply to "bond or free" and thus end master-slave relationships. But this would contradict Eph. 6:5, Col. 3:22, and 1 Cor. 7:20-22, which show that slaves were NOT freed from the master-slave relationship when they became Christians. Similarly, "neither Jew nor Greek" does not mean that Jews and Gentiles suddenly became the same race, but that Jews and Gentiles achieve the same relationship to God when they "... put on Christ." (Gal. 3:27).
Thus, passages which deal with a relationship between men and women DO apply to Christians. The Greek word for woman/wife occurs 213 times in the New Testament. The context determines whether "woman" or "wife" is meant. But in five passages it either is not clear which one is meant; or, the nature of the man-woman relationship itself is unclear. Let us consider these five passages.
1 Cor. 11:3-16: In verse 3, "... the Anointed One is head of every man, and the man [is] head of [not "head over"] woman, but woman of man; for indeed man was not created because of the woman, but woman because of the man." These verses declare and give a reason for the general ranking of Deity and humanity: God – Christ – man - woman. The "man-as-head-of-wife" relationship (to be considered further on). Paul evidently discussed this subject because of the bad effect of First-Century societal customs upon Christians (v.16).
1 Tim. 2:9-15: A general man-woman ranking again seems to be indicated because in verses 13-14 we read: "For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived came into wrong-doing."
Before proceeding further, let us consider "NOT this, BUT that" statements. These are not used much in current American, but are common in God's First-Century Revelation. They can show "exclusion," as in Mt. 7:21: "NOT everyone ... will enter the kingship of God, BUT the one doing..." (that is, ONLY the one doing what God wants, can enter such a kingship-relation-ship - all others are "excluded". Or, a "NOT this, BUT that" statement can show "contrast," as in Rom. 14:17: "For the kingship of God is NOT eating and drinking, BUT rightness, peace..."; (that is, this kingship-relationship is NOT about material things, BUT, in "contrast," concerns "right" personal qualities).
Back to 1 Tim. 2:9-15. In verse 9, "Likewise also the women to adorn themselves in decent clothing, with sensibleness and modesty; NOT with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive garments, BUT what is appropriate for women professing awe of God, through good works." We recognize this contrast to be an exaggeration to show that a woman should use her appearance to help let her light shine rather than let it detract from her godliness. But verse 12 reads, "... I do NOT permit a woman to teach nor to domineer a man, BUT to be in calmness". This is a "NOT this, BUT that" exclusion because "to domineer a man" contradicts the "man-as-head-of-woman" principle of verse 13-14 and 1 Cor. 11:3,8-9. But Paul also excluded women from teaching men. This exclusion may well have been because of societal customs which no longer exist (as in 1 Cor. 11:16), wherein a woman could be seen as ranking herself as "head of man" by teaching in a domineering way and thus "turn him off." So, by being peaceable and allowing him to lead, a woman might be able to teach. In 1 Pet. 3:1, husbands could be influenced similarly: "... wives, yield to your own husbands, so that even if any do not obey the message, they may be gained without a word through the conduct of their wives…".
Eph. 5:21-24: "... yielding to each other in awe of Christ; the wives to their own husbands, as to the Lord; for a husband is head of the wife as Christ is Head of [Note: not "head over"] the group of Called Ones." Christians "yielding to each other" shows that all Christians are of the same rank in their relationship to each other, as in Gal. 3:28 (no clergy-laity ranks). But the husband-wife relationship described here is a specific application of 1Cor. 11:3: "... man [is] head of woman." Wives are to yield to their own husbands just as all Christians are to yield to Christ. But husbands in leading their wives must "... actively care about their wives as their own bodies" (v. 28).
1 Cor. 14:34-35: "Let the wives in the groups of Called Ones be silent, for they are NOT permitted to speak BUT let them yield as the law also says." "But if THEY wish to learn anything, let THEM question THEIR own husbands at home; for it is shameful for a wife to speak in a group of Called Ones." THEY, THEM and THEIR (v. 35) refers to WIVES with respect to their own husbands. The antecedent of THEY, THEM and THEIR in verse 34 is gune (Greek for Woman/wife) which thus MUST be translated "wives" (NOT "women," as usually translated). It is necessary also to translate gune as "wives" in verse 35, lest it contradict verse 34. These verses (for whatever reason) apply only to married women; however, unmarried women are not prohibited from speaking. Thus, this cannot be a general ban on ALL women speaking during a meeting of Christians. One explanation may be that according to First-Century social custom it was shameful for a wife to speak to or teach a group because it showed that her husband was not her head (contrary to Eph. 5:23), or that she dominated her husband (contrary to 1 Tim. 2:12); an unmarried woman not causing such shame by speaking. Also, verse 34 may contain a "NOT this, BUT that" exclusion in which speaking or prophesying by a wife would (due to First-Century custom?) publicly demonstrate a domineering relationship to her husband. But, whatever the specific reason, it apparently no longer exists in the 20th Century.
1 Tim. 3:8 and 11 appear to be parallel: Verse 8, "Servants similarly dignified, not double-tongued, not addicted to much wine." Verse 11: "Women similarly dignified, not slanderers, moderate, faithful in all things." The idea seems to be that women servants among a group of Called Ones (such as Phoebe in Rom. 16:1-2) are to have qualifies similar to those of male servants.
Summary and Conclusions:
1. Men and women are equal to each other in their relationship to God.
2. Christians are to yield to each other regardless of gender.
3. Man is head of woman in a general sense; and a married man is head of his wife in a specific sense.
4. As head of his wife, a husband should as actively care about her as about his own body, and should be willing to give his life for her.
5. A wife is to yield to her husband, never domineer him. In all other human relationships a wife should avoid giving any appearance of controlling or domineering her husband.
6. Among a group of Christians which includes men, an adult woman, married or not, may perform any "role" in which she does not control or domineer the group; that is, any activity in which she is not head of man. With this limitation, she may teach, address the group, lead singing, etc.
7. What about a woman's other relationship (especially, with non-Christians); such as, business, political, social, one-on-one teaching, etc.? It is the opinion of this writer that a woman can usually avoid God-Christ-Man-Woman rank conflicts wherever there are clear-cut leadership rules. For instance, any (male or female) business or political "boss" leads best by carrying out predetermined "operating procedures" rather than imposing his own will; (e.g., "This isn't my decision, it’s company operating procedures". Just as an "older man" among a group of Christians conveys God's Bible procedures rather than his own, a woman in a position of leadership can similarly avoid woman-as-head-of-man situations by carrying out "company procedures" rather than her own. If she owns the business or is in a decision-making position, she can predetermine "company procedures" in which she then leads her employees. This method of leadership may not always be possible, so she may need additional ways to avoid situations which violate her conscience.
Social relationships and entertainment are mainly voluntary activities. Both women and men do well to avoid any of these which teach or involve domineering by women.
When a woman is teaching a man "one-on-one" (whether he is a Christian or not), she can avoid woman-as-head of man situations by limiting herself to Bible statements and explanations by asking non-threatening questions, by not dominating discussion, etc.
8. Every woman can let her light shine most effectively by showing herself to no man; that is, by being feminine, not feminist! |
| Romance › Re: Top 10 Nigerian States With The Highest No Of Bleached Guys And Babes.. by chigomiced: 2:51pm On Nov 13, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: Top 10 Nigerian States With The Highest No Of Bleached Guys And Babes.. by chigomiced: 2:14pm On Nov 13, 2015 |
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| Celebrities › Re: Actress Tonto Dikeh Kissing Her Husband ( Adorable Photo) by chigomiced: 2:11pm On Nov 13, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: Top 10 Nigerian States With The Highest No Of Bleached Guys And Babes.. by chigomiced: 2:05pm On Nov 13, 2015 |
Diamonddris:
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| Romance › Re: Top 10 Nigerian States With The Highest No Of Bleached Guys And Babes.. by chigomiced: 1:42pm On Nov 13, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: Top 10 Nigerian States With The Highest No Of Bleached Guys And Babes.. by chigomiced: 1:07pm On Nov 13, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: Top 10 Nigerian States With The Highest No Of Bleached Guys And Babes.. by chigomiced: 12:39pm On Nov 13, 2015 |
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