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fammo:
Hello nairalanders, is it not funny and somewhat annoying how we can give good relationship advices to other people and we seem to be confused when faced with our own issues. Well I'm in that situation now and I need your help.

I am currently engaged to this lady and we have even done an introduction, we've been through the various phases of relationship together, the happy days, sad days, break up periods, make up times etc. I love her, but I'm having doubts as to whether I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

We are age mates but she looks older than I am already even before having kids. She has had to change her religion just to make the relationship work and I think I'm going through with these relationship out of pity for her sacrifices, I fear this pity would one day wear out and i'll start resenting her and myself. Should I be worried about these feelings or is it just the normal cold feets guys get before finally saying the "I Do". Pls help me out guys.

Will really appreciate if this can make front page, this is my first ever NL post.
Thanks!

There is a time in the life of a nation when the bitter truth of her nationhood is told. Any nation that takes freedom, equality, equity, justice and fairness for granted must brace up for the winter of discontent at any moment. We live in an ostentatious society where we are required to erroneously believe that all is well among the ethnic nationalities. There is no love lost between Nigerians and the ethnic tripods upon which the country stands. The bogus sense of love and unity bandied around is discernable even to the uninformed. The reality happens to be that of a sick nation in dire need of “truth” as a life support. Nigeria needs a balm: the type made in Gilead to be able to heal her festering wounds and infirmities. As an entity, we have pretended for too long. The height of our hypocrisy has become diminutive and an outlandish way of solving gnawing national problems.
Early in the life of Nigeria, there was mutual suspicion of political and economic dominance of some ethnic nationalities against each other. At independence, an established huge crack on the wall of national cohesion was already visible and threatening. Owing to the sublime desire for self-governance, the nation brushed aside very serious contentious national issues such as ethnic and national diversity, and agreed form of government, revenue sharing formula etc. The country forgot or refused to resolve them after clinching the coveted independence trophy. Many years after, the country is beginning to be haunted by these simmering challenges.
The discordant tunes by leaders of the three major ethnic groups and the political developments before and after independence were good indicators that our union of expediency. Their views on the unity of Nigeria were contradictory. First, “Nigeria is not a nation. It is a geographical expression. The word Nigeria is merely a distinctive appellation to distinguish those who live within the boundaries of Nigeria from those who do not.” – Obafemi Awolowo. Second, “It is better we disintegrate in peace and not in pieces.” – Nnamdi Azikiwe. Third, “Let us understand our differences. I am a Muslim and a northerner. You are a Christian, an Easterner and by understanding our differences, we can build unity in our country.” – Ahmadu Bello. The effect of this disharmony, lack of trust and cohesion shoved the nation into the ill-fated wild, wild West crisis of 1962 and the attempted break away in 1966 of the South-East resulting in a civil war.
Now, old and emerging trends of discontents across the land ably represented by Boko Haram and their ruthless trademark of massacre of more than 10, 000 people in the North-East; the agitation for resource control in the Niger-Delta and the new mantra for self-determination by MASSOB and the Indigenous People of Biafra(IPOB), have menacingly emerged. The reincarnation of the vanquished and forgotten “secessionist ideology” has really found a new lease of life in Nnamdi Kanu. Before his arrest Nnamdi was a thorn in the flesh of government and one man- energetic- squad pushing for the realisation of Biafra through his radio station and other activities. His mass medium is a vociferous channel for chastising the Nigerian government, which he labeled a “Zoo.” The approach to views expressed by these groups might have defied rational reasoning and the best standards of civilised articulation of opinions but they are all by-products of the pre and post-independence era blunders that should be urgently addressed. This piece aligns with avid proponents of a united and indivisible Nigeria, but these clear snags should no longer hold the nation hostage.
Clear conscience fears no accusation. How come previous and present Nigerian governments fret at the sight, perception or hearing of any agitation aimed at bringing to light the level of inequality and injustice permeating the land? The world over, agitation either for self- determination or any attempts by groups to draw the attention of government to their plight is never a crime. At no time did England hound Alex Salmond for championing the independence of Scotland from Britain. Salman Rushdie once enthused that; “two things form the bedrock of any society – freedom of expression and rule of law. If you don’t have those things; you don’t have a free country.”
Many will definitely disagree with views of some “dissidents” on certain issue but their harmless positions are inalienable in a democratic dispensation. A man considered a terrorist in Israel is a hero in Gaza or Palestine. No amount of pressure or application of raw force will stifle agitations for fairness and inclusiveness in governance. It will rather strengthen it, attracts for them sympathy from international community or worse still aggravates the entire issue. Consequently, a lot more of national dialogue designed to untie recurring knotty national issue should be embraced by President Buhari.

grad2012:
I swear that's why sometimes i prefare male frnds

A professor of psychiatry, Joseph Adeyemi, has said that no fewer than 800,000 people commit suicide yearly due to depression, yet policies on mental challenges remain archaic.

Professor Adeyemi, who spoke in Lagos at the presentation of the book Shadows in the Mirror: the Many Faces of Depression, written by Dr. Vivian Ikem, said the Mental Health Act, enacted in the 1900s, was last reviewed in 1959 despite medical improvements made over the years.

He said: “Our laws should keep up with current situations, but we have remained static; the way we were in 1959.”

Adeyemi described the book as “spectacular,” praising the author for “coming to help” those in the field of psychiatry.

According to him, it was difficult to get depression patients to accept the fact of their illnesses.

Governor Akinwunmi Ambode of Lagos State, represented by General Manager, Lagos Television, Deji Balogun, said the issue of mental health had not received the attention it deserved.

He said that the symptoms of depression could easily be observed, yet people turn a blind eye to the plight of victims, with attendant costs on the economy.

“This publication by Dr Vivian Ikem is a timely wake-up call to government and everybody in the society that a smile, a word of encouragement and understanding would go a long way in curtailing the destructive effect of depression in our society,” Ambode said.

All Progressives Congress, APC, National Leader, Asiwaju Ahmed Tinubu, described the author as a woman of “excellent intellect” and “unmatchable lucidity.”

Represented by Mr. Sunday Dare, Tinubu said depression was a global problem, with 400 million people suffering from it, 12 percent (48 million) of which are Nigerians.

Calling the publication “a terrific book,” Tinubu said he had a dream that someday, the author would be celebrated across the country.

The former Lagos State Governor said for the author, a Ph.D holder in Chemical Engineering, to write so convincingly about a field of medicine shows her “intellectual discipline, curiosity and intellectual responsibility.”

The author, in her remarks, said having suffered from depression, she felt she needed to help others.

“I am happy that life gave me lemons, but I am able to make lemonade out of it,” she said.

According to her, many do not realize they were going through depression. She called for more sensitivity and compassion for depressed persons.

pinceprinz:
The effect alcohol could have on the mind is too extraordinary to ignore gawsh! It was the alcohol! The liquor!! The hot wine!!! ... There hv always been a well of lust right between them two yes! But it was the alcohol! It threw them in that well of lust against their will! .... Say bye-bye to alcohol NOW!!!

marshalcarter:
Its not "accident" its always the devil's handwork

[color=#000000]Is there any plausible reason why a supposed best friend sleeps with her friend’s partner? When Jennifer found herself in what she termed an ‘embarrassing’ betrayal of her best friend, she justified her action by trying to convince friends she never planned to seduce Chris, her friend’s fiance of two years. “Timi and I had been best friends when we were both in secondary school,” explained Jennifer. “But after we went to different universities, we’d lost touch only to link up over ten years later through a mutual friend.

“We picked up from where we left off especially since we were both back in Lagos. We exchanged details of our boyfriends, I told her Kola, my current boyfriend, and I had been together for close to five years. We broke off briefly because of his excessive jealousy but got back together again when he promised to behave. Chris and Timi had been an item for two years and when we all met up, we clicked.

“A few months later, Timi invited Kola and I for a night-out and we had such a nice time we ended up in Chris’ place. Kola had to leave to go to work as he was on night duty. The rest of us drank and chatted into the night, until Timi left for her place so she could wake up early to go to work. She trusted me completely with her man – that is how close we were. After she left, Chris and I moved closer to one another on the sofa, and our conversation became deeper. ‘I really feel I’d known you all my life and could open up to you,’ whispered Chris. Then, he leant forward and kissed me. Remember we were both drunk at this time and I snagged him back. Fuelled by lust, we moved to the bedroom where we had mind-blowing sex. I knew it was wrong, but it was so much fun I didn’t care. I fell asleep in his arms.

“The next day, I woke up to a blinding headache. Then a figure stirred beside me and I suddenly remembered in whose bed I was. I winced with guilt as all we did the previous night came flooding back to me. I told Chris what happened was a mistake and it shouldn’t happen again. He was silent for a while then agreed. ‘I feel awful, and guilty’, he said. We sat talking, trying to make sense of the night before and what we were going to do. We agreed it was to be a one off – no repeat performance.

“While we were talking, I noticed I had some face-book messages. Timi had posted a status, stating only God could punish women who betray their loved ones. How could he know what happened the night before? ‘I’m in hot soup,’ Chris whined, looking really frantic.

“We lay down on his bed, thinking about the best way to deal with the situation. Only, at some point, we must have drifted off because it was early evening when I woke up. Still feeling remorseful, I headed to the bathroom to splash water on my face. I’d never felt more ashamed of myself. As I dried my face, I felt this almighty crash coming from the kitchen door. I ran out to see what the commotion was all about when I came face to face with Timi! His eyes were wild and knowing how violent he could be, I ran back to the toilet. But he ignored me and marched straight to the bedroom where Chris was. The poor man was no match for Timi’s rage.

“As he pummelled poor Chris, I became hysterical. I tried to come between them but he threw me to the ground as if I were a rag doll. I stumbled next door and began hammering on Chris’ neighbour’s door, yelling ‘somebody help me please.’ A few of the neighbours intervened and held Timi whilst the police was called. Poor Chris was whimpering in a corner of the bedroom. The three of us were then taken to the police station.

“It was there I found out that the morning after we’d cheated and we were having that remorseful conversation, my sensitive mobile had accidentally dialled Ttmi’s number from inside my pocket since his was the last number I called before the incident. He’d overheard us talking about sleeping together. Furious, he’d called Jenny, asking her to meet him at Chris’ place and telling her what we’d done. But Jenny had declined, as far as she was concerned, both of us were dead to her.

“Poor Chris was badly beaten up but he refused to press charges, leaving Timi to deal with the policemen. He was locked up for a few hours until his friends ‘settled’ the problem with the police. I haven’t seen Jenny since then and I’m sure I would be the last person she’d want to call a friend. I sent her a lengthy text to explain what had happened and to apologise. But she replied telling me what to do with my apologies – she never wanted to see me again.

“And I don’t blame her. What happened between Chris and I that fateful night happens all the time. We were just unlucky to get caught. And we paid dearly for it.”[/color]

ebosse:
evolve? bro, i use internet banking a lot and for every transaction #105 is deducted from my account. Banks are actually ripping Nigerians off with this internet banking. They should consider reducing the charges then I'm sure Nigerians wouldn't think twice about it.

I want to serve my country

Chubhie:
This is deep hence, I consumed it line by line slowly with my taste buds gyrating at such loaded unknown yet not hidden piece as this. Thanks for sharing.

Cholls:
my sister copy and paste.

mollysteeze:
Although some bits have been edited out, this article was published in Guardian newspaper, Saturday May 17 2014. Author - Kemi Amushan

Chubhie:
Qualities of an Alpha Female.

WOMEN are referred to as ‘weaker vessels.’ Some people think the Bible actually meant ‘stupid’ or ‘useless.’ They think that since the Bible spoke much about submission of the wives to the husband, the women are relegated. How untrue!

God uses the weak things to confound the wise. Women are God’s favourite; they are so great that they would need to be submissive to effectively contain their power.

The men are the HEAD. The head can retain knowledge. We know in the head and it ‘puffs up.’ It informs our ego and pride as men. Yet, there is a difference between knowledge and wisdom.

“Every wise woman buildeth her house, but the foolish plucked it down with her hands” (Proverbs 14 vs 1).

Wisdom is in the heart; and the woman is the heart of the home. The man may know a lot, but the woman has plenty of wisdom and the right application of knowledge. That was her temptation in Eden…she wanted to be seen as wise as God. A woman’s weapon of victory is WISDOM.

We are actually looking at what constitutes a WISE woman.

Wholesome Words…

As long as we live on earth, we would communicate, verbally or any other way. The use of words for communication is the easiest, yet costliest form of communication.

Women believe they must talk when things go wrong or they want to be part of the show at home. It is not talking that is the problem, but what is said and how it is said… a word spoken in due season, how food is it! (Proverbs 15 vs 23)… when should I talk? What you want to say may be right, but when will it be right? “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver” (Proverbs 25 vs 11).

Who do I tell? Who shouldn’t I tell? Will what I am about to say fit the situation? Will it bring about the needed result? That is how a wise woman uses words. “I am for peace, but when I speak, they are for war”(Psalms 120 vs 7).

There are good women who have destroyed homes and relationships by what they said. Their intention was right, but their choice of words offensive.

Jesus would say, “Hold your peace and come out of him.” Evil spirits express themselves by talking, revealing secrets, exposing people’s weakness and creating confusion.

If we would drive out evil spirits, we should first silent them. If we could stop them from talking, we would keep the peace in our homes.

Sometimes, silence is also a proof of wisdom. Some things are better left unsaid. “Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding” (Proverbs 17 vs 28).

Intelligent Industry…

Hardwork and labour are profitable. The Bible says the talk of the lips tends to penury, but in all labour there is profit.

If a woman uses her intelligence in her career and business or profession and excels in them, she will stand before kings. She is a home-keeper; she does her cooking, washing and tending the children.

She has a way around the house chores. Her husband respects her. (Proverbs 31 vs 10 – 31). The Bible says that she doesn’t eat the bread of idleness. She plans her time and works really hard.

Everything in life is learnt. We do what we really want to do. Except one is having challenges with health, hardwork and diligence keeps a woman fit, especially when she does it delightfully without complains.

We know a wise woman on how she manages her home, not how she talks or tries to control her husband. You can get your husband to do anything when you are industrious. You can’t do all the chores in one day; have a timetable.

Develop your muscles. Develop your mind. Find time to read. Listen to inspiring words and music. Nourish your soul.

Empathetic Emotion…

Some people express their emotions in such a way that it hurts others. There are negative emotions and we need to control or channel them rightly.

Emotions express love, concern, protective instincts, consideration, pity, compassion, passion, interest and desires towards your husband and children.

Feelings are products of thoughts. When we want a good feeling, we should think well, develop our mind and renew it, so that it will access and evaluate events and happening around in a better perspective.

We may get angry, but in a positive way. We may be jealous at times, but it should bring us closer to the ones we love, not create suspicion and threats. We could be offended, but learn how to reason them out in a dialogue.

A woman creates the emotional temperature of the home; she is the centre of the family. She is the fulfillment of the dream of every man.

She creates the right atmosphere of hospitality, care, affection, understanding, tolerance, acceptance and endurance. These are virtues; they mold the atmosphere of the home. You are the key.

Right Religion…

The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. A woman should be the conscience of the home. Her attitude and relationship with God should be outstanding. Her prayers, integrity, devotion to worship and God should be such that every member of the home should depend on her for such enlightenments.

Beauty is fain. The woman that feareth the Lord shall be praised. “Pure religion and undefiled before God and the father is these, to visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction and to keep himself unspotted from the world” (James 1 vs 27).

“Notwithstanding, she shall be saved in child bearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety” (1st Tim 2 vs 15).

“Well reported off for good works, if she have brought up children, if she have lodge strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work” (1st Timothy 5 vs 10).

May God give us grace to be the best we can!

FLAWLES:
.jooor oooo

FLAWLES:
.too long

Oahray:
smh. He chose to add an (f) in front of his moniker instead of crediting his source.

Says alot.

Blackfire:
never allow it to pass 'the onset', if not wait and enjoy the nemesis

Oahray:
A female wrote this, and you aren't female. Please credit your source.

Lol. I wonder what you mean by touching someone's life though.

Blackfire:
phsycollogically men fall in love with there sister in law,and vice versa.. solution is to deal with the feeling at the onset

"Sauce" to this your "Stew"

Oahray:
Awesome piece... I can totally relate. I actually was once in that kind of relationship where the lady bases her perception of you on the opinion and experiences of others. A breakup was inevitable. It's a terrible thing to date a lady without a mind of her own.

When one believes something enough, he/she actually starts to see or feel it. When a lady strongly believes her man to whom she isn't married, is up to no good, it's no use remaining in the relationship and tormenting the guy with your glaring distrust.

Op, don't forget to put your source o.

Sai Nairabetguru

Naijasinglegirl:
No, I am not fat yet. But I recently noticed a sprout of abdominal fat and I have every cause to worry my body may one day blow out of proportion. . . If I don't make money and move out of my house ASAP.
This is probably due to the fact that I spend a lot of time lazing at home, I mistake boredom for hunger and of course, there is my super caring mother. A typical Nigerian mother that never thinks her kids are fat enough.
Please, allow me to narrate my futile attempts to stay fit.

1. You are never fat enough for a typical Nigerian mother

My mum has made it a point of duty to keep tabs on my weight even though I maintain a fairly constant weight all year long. Whenever I'm out of her sight for a few days, the first thing she says when we reunite is "Were you sick or didn't you feed properly where you went?". The next thing she does is overdose me with akpu with egusi soup.

2. You are never fat enough for your neighbours
Do I need to mention other mothers in my neighbourhood that make it their responsibility to keep reminding me, "Naijasinglegirl you are not adding oh. What's wrong?" "You would have been finer than this but you've refused to add."
Technically, weight gain is a compliment in some parts of Nigeria. Its no surprise "Good morning, you are adding weight oh." has become a style of greeting in some places.

3 No money for gym
I can't imagine spending my money on gym and gym equipment in this my unemployed state. Nope. Not yet.

4. Routine diet
My mom is the principal chef of the house and her meals are stereotype. Morning- bread. Afternoon -Eba, Evening- rice. How am I supposed to stay fit when I am carbohydrate number one ambassador? Whenever I attempt to prepare calcium and iron like plantain and strong pomo, an angry mom is at the kitchen door, warning me not to exhaust her gas.

5. No place for home exercise.
We live in the second floor of a 2 storey apartment. Last week, I attempted running up and down the staircase as a form of exercise. I barely went one lap when our landlady came knocking at the door to reprimand whoever was disturbing her quiet.

6. No defined mealtime
In a typical Nigerian house like mine, there is nothing like breakfast, lunch or dinner time. Your breakfast may be ready at 11am, lunch at 7:30pm and dinner at 1am. When I complain to my mother, she usually says "My friend go and sit down. Is it your money or food?" I'm pretty sure you all know the consequences for eating heaving meals at odd hours.

7. Fruits are so frigging expensive
One can't ignore the benefits of fruits and veggies when going on a healthy diet. In Lagos supermarkets, most of my favourite fruits like apples, red grapes, lemons and bananas are overpriced.
The only ones that came cheap for me are cucumbers, garden eggs, oranges and agbalumo. When I got tired with chewing tasteless cucumbers, bitter garden eggs and sour agbalumo, no one told me to give up and return to my mother's good old fufu & egusi soup.

8. No place to jog
I made a new month resolution to jog around my street but fail to keep to my word each time.
Reasons being,
- Mama Ronke and co don't fail to make a jest of me when they see me jog pass their house in the day. The first and only time I tried it, Mama Ronke asked "You wan disappear ni?"
- When it gets dark, my overprotective dad never fails to remind me of criminals lurking around the corner to snatch my phone or inflict some other body harm on innocent passersby like me.
- There are 4 vicious, untrained, no-nonsense dogs in my estate, they might mistake my running around for a criminal behaviour. Need I spell out the consequences for me?

9. Appetisers, appetisers, appetisers
This is a spin off from No.1. In a typical Nigerian house, there is always the need for the mother of the house to force her kids to swallow appetiser tablets or one of those blood tonic capsules to encourage you to eat and sleep indiscriminately which inadvertently results in a big belle.

10. No Motivation
Our family friend is currently residing with us. Frequent trips to the labour room left her with two tipper tyres on her tummy. I told her to partner with me so both of us can work on staying fit but her attempts cracks me up. Every evening, she does only ten rounds of lazy situps and gulps down two bottles of beer immediately to re-energise her. How refreshing!

SOMETIMES it is very tough to make decisions. It can kill you or eat you up inside when making a very important one. Tell me, when making decisions; do you follow your heart, or your mind? My suggestion would be to make sure your heart and mind work together like a team, and not fight like enemies!

I got a question for you ladies. Do you believe in love at first sight? Or is your experience more along the line of “Love at first fight?” They say when you are in love, the brain secretes chemicals like dopamine, making us feel that “special feeling” when we meet a guy we like. Is that not cool? After all, the brain and the heart have different functions, don’t they? But they start working like a team when you are in love.

Truly, the feeling of attraction is the first stage of love. But here is the problem: our “feeling of attraction” is different from a guy’s “feeling of attraction.” To be exact, men are more focused on what a woman looks like initially while we are more focused on how men make us feel.

Let me tell you a short story on how big this difference really is. Why our feelings can make or break our relationships.

One of my friends is a 35-year-old woman who was once very happy with her love life. She was divorced, but she had everything a man wants in a woman – good looks, smarts, and career success. Best of all, she had a great new man in her life, and she was taking a shot on love the second time around. One day, one of her good friends lamented that her marriage had fallen apart. Her husband had just decided to break things off with her, leaving her alone and in pain. After hearing her friend’s story, the woman’s relationship with her boyfriend changed drastically. I wondered why.

As she thought more about what her friend was going through, she thought about the possibility of it happening to her, too, in the future. And from being excited and inspired, she suddenly became withdrawn and doubtful. Her relationship with her boyfriend suffered, and the time finally came when she and her boyfriend broke up. What could have gone wrong? Sympathy.

As human beings, we tend to sympathize with loved ones going through a rough time. Unfortunately, sympathy affects us a little too much, and we sometimes think our loved ones’ bad situation is also happening to us or is just waiting to?

Do you have that kind of fear and uncertainty in your own love life? If you do, let us do a little analysis. Right now, for a few moments, think about what your ideal, most perfect relationship would be like. Pretty good, right? Now, think about your worst fears that could happen in your relationship. Did you feel a big change in your mood? If you did not, that is a good sign. It simply means you are strong enough to know that your negative feelings should never affect your relationships with other people, especially with the man in your life!

But here is the thing: If you did feel a big change in your mood earlier, then you basically just felt what my friend felt and that is a bad sign, because the more you dwell on these bad feelings, the more you trick yourself into thinking they are real and happening right now, even if they are not!

My friend made that mistake. She let her friend’s sad story affect her once-vibrant love life. It should not be so and I certainly hope you do not make her mistake!

Why Our Feelings Can Change Drastically In A Few Moments

The thing is that what happened to my friend happens to most of us at some point in our lives. I will not lie that it has not happened to me before because it most certainly has. Men usually serve as a mirror for women. In my friend’s case, her change of perspective came between her and her new boyfriend.

Back then, nothing was actually “wrong” in their relationship, until my friend heard her other friend’s sad story. It filled her with so much fear, doubt, and mistrust and it simply unnerved the guy.

In the end, her boyfriend simply said, “I guess I am not ready for a relationship after all.”

Now the really sad part is when a man gets serious with a relationship, he is really serious. As in, if you just give him enough time, he is going to take the relationship to the wedding aisle and beyond. Trust me.

But when you start questioning the status of your relationship, it changes his perspective drastically and his first impulse is to just forget everything.

In my friend’s case, her boyfriend was simply not ready to work hard for a woman who second-guessed their relationship.

Fortunately, she realized her mistake and reconnected with her boyfriend and successfully, she got him back. So the crisis was averted!

Today, they are back together and stronger than ever. She has a whole new positive perspective when it comes to relationships, now that she fully understands how he thinks and feels and now that she understands how love really works, now it’s your turn!

If you have had trouble in your past relationships, too, then do not worry. You might simply have had bad experiences with men in the past or you have heard too many “horror stories” from your girlfriends and relatives, and you are scared that it might happen to you, too. In other words your fear has grown stronger than your love. Thankfully, “fear” is an easy enemy. All it takes to defeat it is knowledge. Forget the horror stories. Forget other people’s opinions. Forget the idea that “it might happen to you.”

When you truly understand how love works, then a tidal wave of good things start to happen:

. You make better decisions in love.

. You inspire your man to work harder.

. You will be an expert at solving love problems.

. You keep the players and cheaters away.

. You will set higher standards for yourself.

. You will motivate your man to do more.

. You will have unbreakable courage and confidence.

. Other ladies will look up to you.

. Your man will realize he would be crazy to leave you. And so much more!

Defeat that fear today and stand up for yourself. Do what is best for you. You are in charge of your own happiness.

To the loving relationships we all deserve, good luck in love and life. Cheers.