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DeLioncourt:
Did you "made" a misake? You definitely did... You did not attend your English classes.

As for the main matter, i see three reasons why he would say what he said.
1. the SS factor as some people have meantioned. People fear it as much as they fear diseases (although it isn't a disease)
2. the Age factor. he may be concerned that you're both age mates, and it is believed that this causes marital problems.
3. the money factor. he may be bothered that she currently earnes more than you do and this is almost always a problem in a marriage... especially when combined with the age factor.

depending on the kind of person he is, the Edo factor may also be there. the superstition about the edo people and their alleged 'witchcratism' may also be of concern to him.

Thanks. no vex I still de learn English

Longman6:
Brother, except your uncle is speaking from a spiritual point of view, I think his advice is born out of fear, Do you know you can die before that girl? death is not programmed, and concerning you kids you can't give birth to an SS,Brother always remember this:
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with
those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia.
Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the
disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and
recycling it for more than it's worth.Go and beg that girl.

Thanks for the comment. I really appreciate, In the most simplest ways i have being a good man and friend to her, marriage is not a do die affair. I had good intentions from the first day i met her but when my family say they are not coming they are not consenting to it what do i do, go and rent people to fill in?. I DID NOT OFFEND HER, i did the right thing my taking her to my people now i am in serious dilemma WHO DO I BEG MY FAMILY OR MY GF ?

THANK YOU SIR

schumastic:
what are his reasons he gave to you, bcus for him to have told you not to go ahead with the marriage plans, then he must have a good reason. so what are they?

Thank you guys for your comments, question and advise.

My brother raised 3 points.
Age ( that we are both age mates and everything will change after marriage he spoke on respect and all sorts) secondly Genotype and the issues of child bearing, complications and crises of a sickle cell person. Thirdly Tribal difference which is not really an issue but the children will end up being too English speaking children that do i wonder why majority of men from the South west no matter what happens or every tribe they date end up marrying their own tribe even an Edo man will not settle down with any tribe that all his staff (men) who are Edo play around with other girls from different tribes and end up with an Edo woman though he was quite sentimental there.

guy! this girl has crying since Sunday evening and i am really heartbroken to see her cry even if i have consoled her over and over.

hmmmmm i don tire

Thanks guys for the comments thus far, My brother got influence as i am typing this now he just called for my In'tl passport i asked why he said you are leave his country.( this is serious) and hung up. My people even if i won go ahead with my plans my family is behind him shy make i go rent crowd i can't even concentrate anymore at work anymore.

Hello Guys,

All protocol observe,

I will go straight to the point. I have being dating my gf since the past 6 years and i planned to get married this year ending, all things being equal. From the first day we started she give me rules like, NO BLEEPING till marriage and BLINDLY ACCEPTED (thou not a priority to me)and on the long run i was really discipline and focused on my goals in life.

fast forward; Just yesterday we decided to go see my eldest brother to seek his consent as part of tradition(South East) and seek his consent. After the usual pleasantries my elder asked my gf the following question;

Where do you work?
How old are you?
Where are you from?
How much do your earn?
What your phenotype?

Her Answers

Secretary XYZ company
31 years old
Edo State
80k monthly
phenotype 'SS'

Same Question to me

IT Manager ABC Company
31 years old
Imo State
60k
Phenotype AA


My elder Brother called me later and gave the lecture of my life and told me that if i go ahead with the plan I should count him out and he will wash his hands off me.

I have not being myself. Please guys what do i do ?


Matured minds please Thank you.

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The problem here is not if they is a God or no God. My brother all I see is your selfishness and self centreness, claming to be an atheist. You are not dude. I have seen an atheist and he is the most coolest guy I ever met in Greece. He just believe he existed to love and whatever happens life goes on. Oga abeg go bath. Mtweee.

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