₦airaland Forum

J111333:
You haven't mentioned major fears yet which include trust and loyalty because what we read here gets scarier by the day.
Marriage these days is just like how an elder gets excited when presented with local gin but makes a different face when drinking it.

victorian:
It's true.

I understand where u are coming from.

That's why I'm always reluctant accepting money favours from guys I know I won't date or marry.

If doling out money to me, means u want sex or marriage, and probably I don't find the guy attractive, no chemistry whatsoever. Then it's no use.
Keep your money.

I had an accident with my leg, last year. It was not healing after series of drugs and injections. A guy on my neighbourhood wanted to help me by bringing his own doctor to check my leg and he was ready to pay for everything, with continuous dressing of the wounds but on one condition. He's in love and wants to marry me.

But to me, I see him as a friend, I have no feelings at all for this guy. And I know he's a kind guy but unfortunately I don't see myself waking up everyday seeing his face first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Even when. He wanted to hug me, I felt repulsed. And he notice. Then he said look Vicky, I know I'm not a dashing handsome man and I know I'm not the ugliest man on earth, neither will I be the only man with an ugly face. But please I sincerely love you, lemme help you with this leg.

I was holding back my laugh, as I winced in pains. I sighed and I replied : I cannot marry you. I'm sorry. If you want to help me with this leg, fine but don't expect marriage. He sighed and said he will still help.
His doctor checked my leg and prescribed some expensive drugs to take and dressing thrice a week until it heals. I calculated everything, the money was much. The next day I sent his nurse away And told him not to worry. Cause he's already calling me his wife. Which I don't want to even imagine, how much more to hear it from his lips.

Thank God I have my own money but it wasn't enough at that time , So my dearest Funmi came to my rescue, out of the blues to see me and footed most of the bills, without asking me for sex or marriage or anything. She's a female like me and she's no lesbian. But she paid for everything , even though she's a corper and a nairalander


So that's life. We can't have sex with all our helpers in life!

AdeeT:


I've betrayed her trust, I have really hurt her, I wish that I could undo all I've done. But it's too late, and I'm reek of guilt, it's all over me.

I just cheated on a beautiful lady that has stayed with me through thick and thin for years, a wonderful soul that anyone would dream to have. Cheating might be a common thing, but the moment you cheat on a pure soul, an innocent woman that gives you all, WITH HER BEST FRIEND, then it's beyond cheating.

I am charming, good looking working class guy, guys and girls easily comment how good looking I am, my fiancee is so proud of me, and my achievements that she easily shows me off at the slightest opportunity. She attended the same Uni with her friend, and ever since then, they've been a very good friend. They even served at the same place(worked out), to show you how close they her.

Now my fiancee works in the southern Nigeria, we planned to seal things up next year, and live together here in Abuja. Her friend came for a job interview here, and my woman advised that she rather stay with me for the period instead of her spending a lot on hotel accommodations since I live alone in a bedroom flat. I obliged, and she came down here, little did I know that things would get messy. Long story cut short, I fell in to her seduction the second night of her staying after some series of events. We ended up having sex couples of time before she left. I feel terrible now, though she felt nothing, I can't even flow well with my woman on phone again, guilt is all over me. I don't know how I will stand her whenever we meet. Of all girls in the world, she's the least anyone would want to cheat on.

I'm thinking of telling her. Mind you guys, I'm not a weakling, I've never been one. Before I met her some 3 years back, I was on the other end of life. She changed a lot for good for me, and helped stop many bad things, as well as starting several good ones. I don't know what her reaction would be after telling her. Her friend still communicates with her as if nothing happened.

I'm in pain guys. A serious one. I need advices.

Mcslize:
It's your fault. Most of you ladies like forming champion even when you love a guy, always waiting for the guy to be the one to reach out to you. Common checking on a guy you're in a relationship with, you girls can't reach out to the person you claimed you love. How many times do you reach out to him? How many times do you check on him if he is still alive? Do you know what he has been passing through? Are you aware of his worries? Do you call him to find out how life is treating him?

Relationship is two ways directions. It is reciprocal. Don't always sit on the fence waiting for your man to reach out to you before you reach out to him. Don't always wait for your man to reach out to you before finding out how life is treating him. Majority of you girls don't know how to care for a man. We men want to be shown love too.

The only thing that will make a man to stop talking to you is if you are just there contributing nothing to his life. But you want him to keep chasing you, professing unrealistic love to you while sitting right there folding your hands. No text, no call and you expect the man to waste his time with you. No way.

The only thing that will make someone you've spent 5 years with to stop talking to you is because you as a lady is not playing your role. You are not reaching out to him to check on him as often as you should for someone who truly wants to build a future with a man. He sees that you are just there always wanting him to be the one to do all the communications and building of the relationship. Don't blame the gentle man.

He must have found someone else who is doing all that you are not doing for him. What does it take to communicate with your man and always get involved in his life? It takes nothing - absolutely nothing. But you girls will be feeling like Queens of the coast putting all the work of maintaining a relationship on a man without doing nothing.

Do you truly expect such a man to choose you as a partner? What makes men choose women for wives is how supportive they are to men. Men choose women for life partner based on how supportive they can be to them.

In those days we see supportive fiancées and that makes men take such ladies for wives cuz they are supportive and not parasitics. They give good advice to their men and encourage them to attain higher feats in life. If a man do not see you as the supportive type, he will surely not take you seriously.

Brace yourself up and move on my sister. When you see the next man, learn how to fully get involved in his life. It will make make a man see you as the serious type.

geosegun:
You may never realized the gravity of the feeling you stated above until when you are older and passed menopause.? Then reality will be dawned on you. By that time it may be already late to turn back the hand of time.
I am aware of a lady, she used to work with BBC, , no husband, no child and life became so boring to her to the extent that she became depressed and having memories issues. Just at about 55yrs yrs now and taken to a care home, I mean at 50+? She keeps lamenting every now and then that she got no one.



I can bet when she was younger, she was probably saying what you are saying now and defending it until reality dawn on her and she start experiencing boredom. Most will not tell youvthier regrets, people are only eager to share their successes and not failures. My dear, I will advise you rebuke every thought of singleton in your life. Men forget it. There is no better life than being in a blissful marriage with wonderful children for they are the inheritance of the lord. The proverb says, happy is the one that have is house full of children.
Do not allow one faceless bitter woman to mislead you.

All the very best

Sterope:
I like your analogy.

It is going to be difficult for you to find a man with a like mind. Good luck to you.

mamatwiny:
Guy, flee from all appearances of Fxtm. I lost 1.5m trading with them 2 years ago cos of their high spreads and Nigeria public holiday factor. There spreads are killing. Also, never trade Crypto with them.

Also flee from the copy trading u just described. I have also tried it and my account was blown. The money the trader has in his account may be bigger than urs, so if a trade goes bad ur account will blow up BT cos the trader has more money or puts more money, his own will remain b4 the trade reverses. Also, b4 u say one is a good trader, check his one year performance.


Thanks for the advice..

Flee from Forex trading !

ogwuche4u:
Kindly share a link to this. I want to check them out

senit:
I want to invest my money there but am still afraid

emman44:
maltedbet@gmail.com. I intend to share the information here on nairaland but I am overwhelmed with task now.

yudee233:
Hmmmmm but Lai Mohammed has already pleaded with Nigerians and considering the number of years PMB left office, please can we accept the plea

yudee233:
Hmmmmm but Lai Mohammed has already pleaded with Nigerians and considering the number of years PMB left office, please can we accept the plea

Elijahrona:
You're pessimistic, you have no hope for the country again. For me, I remain optimistic and hopeful... My positive mindedness and thoughts are enough to keep trying. You should try to remain hopeful too.

BTW you can always start a business without borrowing... Start as small as you can and build up. You must not start big or on a medium scale.

wacuc0:
I totally agree with you. Here in Nigeria we want Government to carry all our burdens. Lack of investment by Nigerians is killing us. Even those that do invest, it is mostly for money grabbing not entrepreneurship. Ask, how many Nigerian owned business have seen next generation.

Abiola empire collapsed, Ibru, Igbinedion, Chidiebere Transport, Inyang Ete, name them. Hardly any business in Nigeria is run with cooperate identity. We have one of the highest idle money in the world. It can never generate employment. Our idea of education is looking for job which is a negative approach, this will make the sectors or our economy not to be developed while waiting for government. Thank God the music industry took it upon themselves to push on. Now they are the 3rd most branded music in the world. Do the same in textile, sports, agriculture (this is trying), Education, Health, IT, Medicine (this is the worst, almost all hospitals and clinics are owned by one doctor), Pharmaceutical, Banking (Soludo tried to teach us cooperate business in banking through merger and acquisition).

It pains so bad when you go to western countries you see companies of over 100years. You see people 4,5 and 6 joining hand and pulling fund to establish businesses that will run in over 150 countries. Why cant Nigerians do this. How many Aba shoe manufacturing young boys has teamed up to put up an enviable outfit to aim at having international presence in 100 countries. Very impossible.

pornmaniac22:
D stupid govt knws all these but wickedness and greed will neva allow them to create an enabling environment for d citizens,no good roads,no light no water.cost of production is very high and tins are expensive and the unemployment rate is high.to give out loans is a prblm cos of high interst rate .abeg wia them want mke we start frm??evrytn abt nigeria is a SCAM... beware of thiis shithole called nigeria i smtimes belive dat satan resides in dis country cos d evil and wickedness particularly in nigeria is just tooooooooooooooo much.i hate dis country with a passion

Elijahrona:
Now that the government has failed and proven to be unreliable, you as a citizen why not think of what you can do without them?