Hello Everyone,
Please I'm just about to begin the process of applying for PR through FSWP. I'm currently doing my MSc. I used the CRS assessment tool to predict my score and I got 459 assuming i and my husband get a high ielts score and my MSc is used. My sister just got her PPR last week and so I included it. My age must have played a role in my score being low because I'm over 35. I'm a secondary school teacher and I know that most provinces don't have my NOC listed as occupations in demand. Is there really any hope for me. Please I'll appreciate any advice I can get. Thanks

LesbianBoy:


You know deep down this is a lie

Even the kids, by the time they taste how sweet abroad is, no go gree follow you back

Anyway, you have to use small small to convince your husband. Infact use the everyday crap Nigerians face to do example of why you need to leave. With time he would understand.

Btw, what profession are you in?

I studied Computer Science but I'm.currently teaching the subject

Hello nairalanders,
What's your opinion on a wife relocating abroad with the kids while her husband stays back at home. I and my family are considering my relocating with our kids but my husband will remain at home. The essence of the relocation is to seek for ways of obtaining dual citizenship for the children after which we will possibly return back to our home country. My husband has a thriving business here which he won't want to leave for an uncertain future abroad. Are there people who have gone through this long distance marriage. Is it worth doing for the future of the children given the current situation of our beloved country?

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Please I'm interested. My email is onyinye_aneke@yahoo.com

Consy38:
pls do you know the success rate of life Specialist cos am in Aba and I want hospital closer to my area and with good result

I had twins at Life specialist hospital Nnewi on my first attempt. Four women out of the ten in the same cycle with me succeeded. I didn't have any negative impression about the clinic and the person I referred also had twins. The doctor is thorough and professional and the facilty is okay too. I wish you good luck

Excel medical center. Ada George rd by okilton junction. He's a very good gynaecologist with several years of experience.

tchiwinnie:
Ur emotions affect milk supply. d frustration wont help

@tchiwinnie,you're right but I wish I can stop obsessing about it. Its really annoying to think that I'm having such a hard time providing milk for my baby despite all my efforts when most women do it with so much ease.

bossladyMo:

Check NETT Pharmacy if you are in Lag...

@bossladyMo, I'm not in lag, I stay at phc. I'll keep looking in big pharmacies in town tho. Thanks for the reply

favoredgal:

b-milk is a demand and supply process. the formula you are giving is interfering with your production. you don't even need to eat and be fat because you want to nurse. my advice is by a pump and pump on a schedule (every two hours for now) to trick your body into thinking your baby needs that milk every two hours. trust me your supply will respond.
i had the same issue and under three days of religiously pumping round the clock every two hours, i was lactating like a cow
i drank lots of water and plain tea...no pounded yam, no pap

@favoredgal,
I have tried pumping. Initially,I used Avent manual breast pump I couldn't pump any milk just a few drops that didn't enter into the bottle then I tried tommee tippee single electric breast pump & had d same result. I know I'm not producing much but I don't know why I can't seem to pump out the little I've produced.

@bossladyMo, please do you know of any particular pharmacy where one can get Mothers milk tea. I have looked for it in a few pharmacies but they don't seem to know it. I am in the same boat as igb400 but my b.reast milk didn't come in until. One week postpartum so I had to supplement with formula. I've tried pap, tea, even palmwine, fenugreek capsules, peppersoup,oatmeal, coconut water , breast pump(manual & electric)but I haven't seen any improvement. Even when my son is having hiccups and I offer him my b.reast milk, he doesn't get relief until I gv him formula or just allow the hiccup to go on its own. I'm so frustrated at the whole thing because I had intended to exclusively breastfeed him till he's 6months. I'm still looking for ways to increase my supply with the hope that I can wean him off d formula and still exclusively breastfeed. Please ladies,I need suggestions on other ways I can increase my supply. Thanks in advance

@ Dovequeen,
I was in your shoes few years ago but d only diff is that d girl was actually his cousin cos I knew every member of his family and discovered that she was truly his first cousin but I was so uncomfortable with their closeness. They were each other's best friends and she and I didn't get along very much. I fought so hard to stop their closeness but it didn't work. I found out later that they had a lot in common dts why they were close, so I started trying to be interested in the stuff he likes and he bacame really fond of me. He's married to me now. So, its possible they r just cousins.

I too had a CS delivery. I expected d worst after but to my uttermost surprise I didn't feel so terrible. I only remembered dt I had a wound when I cough or sneeze. I drove my car about 3weeks after and started lying on my tummy at 6weeks. And I had twins so dealing with the being a new mom of two and a surgery wound would hv taken a toll on me. My twins are 14weeks now and I don't remember dt I had them via CS. I think I was just lucky and also the doctor who did the CS is really experienced. Very soon, u won't remember it anymore. But for a quicker healing process and to avoid infection I was told to clean the surface with methylated spirit regularly and I did that.

@annybliss,
Thanks 4 taking time to research and enlighten us on this topic. My husband is an egg lover. He eats two eggs each day and it used to bother me because I used to associate egg consumption with high cholesterol which I heard was bad for the heart. Now I have a better understanding of the diff types of cholesterol and I now know dt the type of cholesterol gotten from eggs isn't linked to heart problems.

I happen to be one of the 13000 newly recruited teachers. And I was getting ready to go to d stadium when I was told not to bother cos its not safe. Amaechi has done absolutely nothing wrong. We were actually asked to gather at d liberation stadium to collect our postin letters and not for any rally.its d commissioner of education & perm secretary dt must hv chosen d venue.throughout d recruitment process, we hv hd to gather in large numbers for several reasons & not for once has it been about inciting us against GEJ. Amaechi is a noble governor and should be left to rule over rivers state.

@ William & $wtme,
Thanks so much for your answers. I was so freaked out initially and scared but I have started developing other strategies to help her retain her food such as lying her down in her rocker for @ least one hour after she's been burped to let d food settle in before transferring her to her crib to lie in a sideways position and its been helpful. I can't wait for her to outgrow it though. Thanks & stay blessed.

Hi Moms, please i hv a concern. one of my 3 months old twins vomits frequently though the quantity isnt much,it not little either. initially it started with spit-ups coming out of her nose and mouth while she's lying down and she acts like she's choking and starts to cry. we were advised to give her smaller but frequent feeds and burp her inbetween her feeding and that helped a lot but despite d burping or belching she vomits after any slight movement even up to one hour after eating. she breastfeeds and takes formula so i decided to exclusively breastfeed as advised by a pedeatrician as she might be having lactose intolerance but i couldnt cope so i introduced isomil which is lactose free. it is now reduced but its still there and It makes me have to carry her for a long time after eating even when she's asleep just to make sure she doesn't spit up.pls has anyone tried similac for spit-ups, i hear dt it reduces vomitting by 58percent. If I may add, d vomitting isn't affecting her weight gain. She weighs 4.7kg while her twin weighs 5.2kg.thanks for d link on baby poo variations. I needed that info for my other twin.

@jodec,
I know of one along mgbuoba road. I haven't been to the clinic personally but their bill board is visible along mgbuoba road just after you pass conoil and before you get to NTA.(Urolology is written boldy on d bill board can't remember the name of the clinic) Its on the right if you are coming from rumuokwuta and on the left if you're coming from choba. I hope I was able to help you.

Hi all, so after d long wait, I just received a mail saying that I wasn't successful. Its all good. The struggle continues. I wish everyone of you luck.

I like GTBank & First Bank. Apart from these banks, I don't think I can accept to work for any other bank.A friend of mine said dt her source at d phc test branch said that its impossible for them to have contacted us that soon & that the training school isn't going to start next week monday. Which means there's still a glimmer of hope.

Did any of you attempt all the questions cos I personally didn't & I hear dt d cut-off mark is 60% which means that you have to score 30/50 in the test to qualify. Well, until I hear of someone from the PH venue who has been contacted, I'll still cling to a little bit of hope.

@slimghost, nope I haven't heard from them yet. From what we were told after the test, those Who passed'll be contacted via mail on or before Sunday then they'll proceed for the interview phase on Wednesday and those who scale through that will go for their medicals on Friday and resume at the training school on Monday the 27th of August. I really don't know if anyone else has been contacted but I haven't heard anything from them. Still being hopeful though.

@AngelEbi, I haven't still heard from them. They said we should expect a mail from Saturday night to Sunday morning. Dunno if any body has heard from them. I am still trusting God for a favourable reply from them. T'was my first experience taking a computer based test in such a short time but I'm still hopeful, cos all things are possible to them that believe. Please keep me posted if you get any info.

@bimbcy, I'm guessing you wrote the test same day as me cos I wrote mine today at PH. I don't really know what to expect cos I didn't attempt all the questions due to time factor but if a little bit of extra time was given,I probably would have answered all.cos it was easy. All in all,I'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed for a congratulatory mail from them. I wish u luck too.

@ persy,
My candid advice for you is to not have an abortion. These days, no one uses her future as an excuse for having an abortion cos having a baby doesnt jeopardise your future in anyway. There are many women who would do anything to have a child of their own now and when they remember the abortion they had in d past, it brings a lot of pain, regret and guilt and it feels like they are being punished for aborting their babies.Abortion can leave a permanent scar that may be difficult to heal. some others may have done it and gotten away with it, it might not be same for you. Eventually all the shame and dissapointment will fade and your family will grow to love your child. Please be wise and act right. God doesnt make mistakes. he knows why he gave u this child now.I wish you luck.

How exactly do you feel? By my calculation, if you have a 28 days cycle, you had sex during your fertile window and the possibility of you being pregnant is very high. However,do you have any of these symptoms: Frequent Urinating, Nausea(feeling like throwing up), Sore or swollen breast and nipples, Constipation, Increased sense of smell,Headaches,Tiredness and most importantly,are you late for your period? If you are , i suggest you buy a home pregnancy test it costs just N150 and use your first morning urine to test.If you are pregnant,two pink lines will show.And if u are,pleeaaaaase do not get rid of it. No matter what. Its just an advice. Good luck.

Hello ladies,
I posted on this forum last week and my post dissapeared. I decided to repost hoping that this time,it doesnt vanish too. I am 25years old and have been married for a year and a month now.My cycles are clock work regular.Exactly 28days no plus,no minus. I and DH dated for 8years and during that time, we were NTNP. 5 years into our relationship, just when we were beginning to suspect that something may be wrong with either one of us or both of us, i concieved. I was  happy but confused.I wanted to have our baby so badly but i was too scared of my parents reaction. My indecision went on until i was 8weeks along & on one fateful Saturday morning (13th September 2008)  I went and had an abortion. After the abortion, i fell into a state of depression. I hated myself so much,i hated my boyfriend(now husband) I always condenmed myself and felt i was so unworthy. 2years after, we got married . I hoped that i will concieve right away but 5months into my marraige i hadnt concieved.i panicked and went to see a gynae who placed me on clomid 50mg on days 5-9 with folic acid tabs.I didnt concieve in that cycle.In the next cycle, he upped my dosage to 150 mg. I wasnt being monitored and still didnt concieve in that cycle. My DH asked me to stop as the side effect (Ovary pain ) was a little too intense. I just continued taking my folic acid tabs and got the preseed fluid friendly lubricant while i secretly hoped it will happen naturally.At exactly 1year of ttc , we went in for some tests as suggested by the doctor. Mine was a HSG & Hormone profile while his was Semen analysis. All the results came back okay except my HSG which indicated that my left tube may be blocked.My doctor said that it didnt matter much as one tube was in good condition and most women ovulate more often on the right ovary. Right now i dont know the next step to take. I am only taking pregnacare for women and my DH is taking Wellman conception for men. We are going to see a different gynae today to see if there  is any other thing we can do to improve our chances.I am a Christian and have faith in God and his word but this one seems to be taking a toll on me. My DH  who isnt as intune with the things of God as i am even has more faith than me. Sometimes i feel,its my punishment for the sin i committed 3yrs ago though i have genuinely forgiven myself. Pls any suggestions, advice and questions are welcome. Baby dust to all the women who are TTC.Best of luck

@ blank, thank u so much for ur concern. I am relying on God to see me through this with my sanity intact.I don't know why my post is not visible.it says something about antispam bot being the reason for hiding the post n it'll b rectified shortly.do take care.

Hello ladies,
I cant begin to tell you how happy i am for just discovering this wonderful forum. I have being dying in silence for a while now,most nights,i cry myself to sleep wondering why i am going through this difficulty. here's my story: I am 25 years old  and married for 13months now.At 22(unmarried), i got pregnant and it was unplanned.I was really confused,i really wanted to keep the baby as prior to that time,i was suspecting that something might be wrong with me cos i didnt get pregnant for about 5years of irregular unprotected sex with my then boyfriend(now husband). I was faced with indecision until one fateful morning on the 13th of September 2008, i went and regretably got an abortion. 2years later (2010)we got married.I hoped that i would concieve immediately.I have a clock work regular 28-day cycle and i feel ovulation pain exacly on the 14th day,2weeks after ,i get my period so i felt that tracking ovulation wouldnt be a problem for me at all but  5months after my marraige i still hadnt concieved.Worried,i went to see a gynae,he placed me on clomid 50mg from cd 5-9 with no ultrasound or monitoring whatsoever,it didnt concieve,the next cycle,he upped the dosage to 150mg ,i still didnt concieve.The side effects were a little to much for me so i took a break still hoping that it will happen naturally. I noticed that i didnt get a lot of ewcm during ovulation so i got the preseed sperm friendly lubricant and used it up and  i still didnt concieve.last two months (1 year of ttc), my dh & i went to the hospital to get tested.I had a hsg and hormone test(day 3 & day 21 progesterone test which checks for ovulation inclusive) while dh had his semen analysed.All the tests came back normal except for my hsg which revealed that the dye didnt flow freely out of my left tube which might indicate a tubal blockage.My SIL who's a doctor said it shouldnt be a problem as most people ovulate from the right ovary.She placed i & dh on pregnacare vitamins for couples who are ttc.I am so stressed out about this situation and each time i hear that one friend or relative has just given birth or even concieved ,i get the feeling of self pity and i get so depressed .Though am genuinely happy for them, i cant help but wonder if am being punished for my action 3years ago. i am a christian,i have always trusted God in trying times but this one seems to be taking a toll on me.I am currently in my 2week wait & i dont feel any symptom.I dont know the next step to take.DH is so supportive and suprises me with his level of faith considering that i am more in tune with the things of God than him.Please reply if you have any tips,advice or suggestions.Feel free to ask me any questions.Thank you for even taking time to read this long post.Baby dust to everyone who's ttc.

Hello Doc,
Please I really need your advice. I am a 25years old female with a regular 28day menstrual cycle lenght. Since i was a teenager, around the 14th or sometimes 13th day of my cycle, i usually feel a nagging pain in my lower right or left abdomen(mostly the right) and exactly 2weeks later, i get my period so i felt that i could conclusively say that the pain indicates ovulation. I have been married for a year now and i try to have intercourse few days leading up to the day i feel the pain and few days after but i havent been able to concieve. last month, i and my husband went to the hospital & we were sent for some tests. The result of my hsg showed that my left tube was blocked,my hormone profile was okay,my husbads sperm count was 41million which they also said was okay. I dont know the next step to take. i also tried using Ovulation prediction kits twice but i got an invalid result. Also i dont get the egg white cervical mucus around my fertile days.My doctor has put me on clomid twice. First was 5omg from day 5-9,second was 150mg from days 5-9 but it still didnt work. I try not to stress over it but am so scared as during my 8year courtship with my husband before we got married, i only concieved once after an episode of pid. Pls doctor, what do you think should be the next step for us.Right now we are not undergoing any treatments,we are just taking pregnacare & wellman vitamin suppliments. Thank you and God bless as you reply.

Am in love with my birth date August 27th

@ Poster,

I know how you feel but u should always put yourself in the shoes of others before you completely write them off.Honestly i can understand you cos aferall,you didnt cause the death of his friend so its unfair for you to be treated in such manner.I know how embarassing it is for your wedding to be called off on the d-day.People will start talking and making jest cos they wont understand.I actually think his reaction was extreme but thats marraige for you.Both of you are two people from entirely different backgrounds and will react to bad news in different ways.I think u should give him a break.As for his hitting you.if you were impolite while confronting him at a time like that he must have lost his mind and hit u but if its a normal occurence in your relationship,thats a different story altogether.You are already married to him and God hates divorce so i urge you to pls forgive him and carry on with the marraige so that your child can have a fatherly figure.

@ Poster,

I had to reply you cos i have just recovered from a similar situation.I had to use my experience to site an example for u.Its a long story but i hope it helps.I had dated dis guy for 5yrs by 2008 & when we felt it was time to legalize our relationship,i introduced him to my mum.I was actually thinking that she'll be easier to convince & then she can help me convince my Dad who am really scared of but to my greatest suprise,she disapproved and started to fight the relationship.She got a lot of people involved to try to convince me otherwise with talks of his tribe not having value for women & their not being serious christians & his family being polygamous & all sorts of things but i knew the guy whom i was with.i asked myself if he was worth it & my answer was yes.I loved him like myself and i still do I know he has flaws but he makes me so happy & i couldnt find myself giving up something that precious for some baseless assumptions.So i began to pray to God and go for councellng.So many times,i felt like i should run off,get pregnant by him or something but he always discouraged me telling me i will only make them hate him the more.So one faithful day,i summoned up courage to tell my Dad about it.I had made up my mind that if he also disapproves totally,i'll have no choice but to give in because i dont have his strenght at all.Suprisingly my Dad said he had to think about it,after which he called me and expressed his fears about marrying into a different tribe.I understood with him and i knew that my parents loved me and they were only doing this out of fear for my safety and future so i wasnt hard on them.For two years,i wasnt sure of what to do.Just around April this year,my parents called me and gave me their consent and blessing so i am set to wed this October.There is nothing like marrying with your parents blessing so i urge you to pray about it.If u really love him.God will soften ur parents heart.Because he is God of all mankind and there's nothing too hard for him.