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Point of correction: studying your partner sef isn't a guarantee that your marriage will work .... now that i've cleared that aspect, lets move on to your route to happiness ...

See, if you've tried all you can and your wife isn't ready to make things work and you're super sure you can make things work with your Ex, abeg, let your wife know you wish to divorce so she can be happy and you can also be happy but i must tell u, divorce is expensive and time consuming but if its the route u choose, abeg go ahead ...

When u remarry, ensure u get it right ....

Your happiness is paramount!

Successtube:
I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.

Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.

“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.

But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.

My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.

I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.

The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.

I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.

Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!

Quim2:
Hi

My site got hacked and blacklisted by goggle about two months ago and i have been fighting with it ever since.

I have reinstall several backups to no avail and as of yesterday, decided to start over.

The problem is even with a fresh WordPress install on a newly reset server/hosting... i asked for a review last night via Search console... Goggle is still flagging my site as containing melware.

I can't even fathom how this is possible.

Note that only that 'Hello Dolly' page is there. Nothing else.

Pls what am i missing?

Bros bros, you know wetin happen na .... the theme you're using contains the malware na .... remove the wordpress installation and a fresh install ... it will take time before google removes your site address from "containing malware" list

Thank God for social media/neighbors/technology that afforded the neighbors to be able to record ...

I went through stuffs worse than this in my aunts place for over 14 years and yet, my father never saw anything bad cos the supposed aunt was his sister ....

I eventually ran before they kee me finally....

No mercy for such people who maltreat kids .... they should be jailed and the keys thrown in to the pacific

Leece:
My 50 Yrs Old Boss Shows A Lot Of Cleavage When We Meet, What Could She Want?

So I got this job around 2019 and I noticed from the very day I went for my interview, there was this woman who happened to be very lenient with me and cautioned others when they asked me tough question. All she did saved me from disgracing myself in front of 5 panelist. After the interview I waited till they closed just so i could say thank you.

When she came out around 7 pm she was more elegant and had this carriage that suits her age. I approached her and she recognized me immediately she was happy to see me and I thanked her. As I was about to leave she offered me a ride and being a very good conversationist that I am, I began to talk and she became very free with me. She told me a lot about her husband and his drinking addiction and how he neglected her sexual needs. I tried comforting her with words and ended by saying she is 50 na her libido should be dead by now, she didn't take offence but replied and said I cant handle her if we ever get down.

Fast forward to when I resumed, I realized she was the CFO of the organisation, now fear don catch me. I couldn't even look her in the eye to start a conversation. I think she noticed and she called me to her office and was laughing at me and later told me she would like us to keep talking the way we did yesterday cause she doesn't have much friends.

There was this day she was dancing to an old Fuji song in the office, her office is sound proof moreover it was already past office hours, i went to say goodbye, she called me to come in and didn't let me leave. I thought to myself another free ride.

She jumped up at a point and had a nip slip, i mean both breast were literally out. I just closed my eyes, she fixed it and was smiling at me.
Since that time till now she has been showing massive cleavage anytime i'm around her. She has started calling me my dear and other staff are calling me omo mummy and they dont know what I am facing

It all depends bro!

If u have what it takes to give her the ecstasy that she wants, you could give it a trial!

And who knows, luck might smile on u.

If u are indeed very smart, you will not only mess, you will also make money off her well well! Via contracts, etc!

Atleast, if dem wan chase u comot, u no go lose outrightly cos if u don't dance to her tune, she can do and undo!

She fit sack u and also put u into trouble!

Fear women!

Yeye boy! Na music we go chop as lockdown dey? Music gift koor, gbese ni!

Just pulling your legs!

Nice one from Deacon Toba!

A popular figure in Nigeria after a famous live interview aired on a breakfast programme, Sunrise Daily of the Channels Television, Shem Obafaiye of the Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps, (NSCDC),who coined the word, ’my oga at the top’ has eventually also found himself at the top.

Penpushing reports that, ‘my oga at the top’ initiator, who is now Assistant Commandant General has been transferred to head the Zone F of the Defence which covers Ogun, Oyo, Ondo, Ekiti and Osun States, with Abeokuta as the operational Headquarters.

The Zonal boss has resumed Wednesday, and on resumption, he held a management meeting with the high ranking officers of the Defence which include the Provost, Civil Defender College Of Security Management, Commandant Awosusi Rachel and the Acting Zonal Commander, Commandant Akinbo and other Senior officers

Penpushing further reports that, he also paid an unscheduled visit to the Corps State Command office, located opposite GTBank at Kuto area of Abeokuta, where Commandant Obiyo and his Management Staff received him

The Assistant Commandant General of the Defence took over from the immediate past Assistant Commandant General in charge of the Zone, Popoola Waheed Bamidele who was officially sent on retirement on April 15, 2019.

Penpushing reports that, following controversy which trailed his proclamation of ‘my oga at the top’ Shem Obafaiye was transferred in 2013 to serve in Oyo State after his meritorious service in Lagos State Command, also served in Ekiti State respectively.

The new Zonal Commander also served in Ondo, Kaduna, Imo, Bauchi, Taraba, Kogi, Corps National Headquarter in Abuja and was sometimes the Head of the Corps Zone B.

Penpushing recalled that, the incident which brought him fame and into limelight was while speaking as a guest at the station’s breakfast programme, Sunrise Daily, where he was answering questions on the employment scams in Government Agencies.

The Civil Defence Corps boss, during the interview insisted that the Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps (NSCDC) was not part of the job racketeering, stressing that, “I can assure you that in Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps, nothing like that is happening,” .

Penpushing recalled that, Obafaiye ran into trouble water during the interview session when he was asked to state the Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps( NSCDC’s) website for members of the public who would like to get information about the agency.

“The one (website) that we are going to make use of is going to be made known by my Oga at the top. Yes. I can’t announce one now, and my Oga says it’s another one that we are going to use,” Obafaiye had said.

The programme’s anchor however, insisted to know the website address in the interest of the general public, and at this stage, Obafaiye who was then heading the Lagos Command of the Defence said, “If you want to know about NSCDC as at now. Ok, www.nscdc…. That’s all.”

Penpushing also recalled that, the interview, was later compressed into a 1 minute 8 seconds video, which went viral on social media, with music DJs spinning off a ‘remix’ of the interview and shirts with the ‘Oga at the top’ insignia’ retailed on online shops.

The dramatic development was thereafter followed with a rumour which viral that Obafaiye had been suspended following his ‘dismal’ outing at the March 6, 2013 interview, but in swift response, the then Commandant General of the Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps( NSCDC), Dr Ade Abolurin, however, stoutly denied it.

Penpushing reports that Abolurin who spoke with journalists after the annual National Co-operative Corps insisted that he (Obafaiye) had not committed any offence, adding, “We are still on course because he has not committed any offence”.


Source: http://www.penpushingng.org/index.php/news/item/3943-flashback-my-oga-at-the-top-civil-defence-eventually-finds-self-at-the-top-becomes-zonal-head

obiekunie2:
Permit me to ask this question - is civil defense not a federal government parastatal?

if they are, why are they not doing open public recruitment as stated in the constitution?

since i started hearing of civil defense for more than 10 years now, i have never seen them publicly announce their recruitment.

does it mean they dont do recruitment? or their staffers doesn't have retirement, retrenchment and recruitment on their constitution that established it?

or is there an exception that allows them not to do open recruitment like the rest of the parastatals like immigration, prisons, customs, etc.

PLEASE ANY NAIRALANDER THAT HAVE IDEAS ABOUT THIS PARASTATAL AND THEIR RECRUITMENT PROCESS SHOULD PLEASE ENLIGHTEN US.

Well, you should 1st and foremost understand that civil defense was a volunteer group before becoming upgraded and harmonized with the other parastatals like immigration, prisons etc.

The recruitment exercises are publicized when its going on even though there are always few spaces.

To get up to date info about whats going on in Nscdc, go the website: www.nscdc.gov.ng and stop speculating.

No recruitment is on going for now. Pls check attached pictures

Omooba77:
Nairaland will be the major focus, but truth lies in the fact if people are driven underground the result will be worse off. Waiting for DSS to delete us, can they fight God!

So u don't know they are on nairaland already, abi? Since 8 years ago!

I'm super serious o! Had to change my moniker to post this!

Delayed expulsion is caused by too much spiking of d system with sexx stimulants

Its not that black and white. I'm experiencing same and I've not been taking stimulants in years. Just regular multivitamins. I'm also asking for a way to reduce ejac time.

U know, it really gets frustrating anything 30mins plus and u don't even feel like d white is anytime ready to leave d balls.

justscorchone:
Do you even lift bro,start working out

Did u say work out? That would worsen it bro! Its not Pre Mature Ejac o! My complaint is delaaaaaaaaayed ejac!

falcon01:
alright then. I guest its time to put my doctors suite

how long have you been experiencing this?

Say 4years but then it was 15-20mins then I expel but like I said, was in a relationship and she's complaining so, my doc amplified it with manix, etc then 30mins plus but now, its taking too long and still d white man isn't ready to show face.

U know, d stamina is there but sometimes, u just wanna drop it quick sometimes but then, it then takes long, toooo long.

Is there a drug to make it come quicker?

falcon01:
its cos you have a Chubby black dick

It isn't funny. Its just a moniker.

Hello doctors in the house. Don't mind my moniker. Had to create it to hide my identity.

I have this issue and its been like this for a while. I take about 30mins before I ejaculate.

I had a partner that was still complaining its too fast. Met a doc who prescribed manix, etc some years back.

I feeling cool not until it takes more than 45mins and still won't climax/release. Now, I'm with a new partner and it really gets frustrating. I also get tired and heavy when ejaculation doesn't come even when I want it.

Pls help cos its not funny.

I've heard about premature ejaculation before but delayed is something I didn't really take serious.

U can try this tea called horlicks. 2 or 3 spons in a cup with warm water can help u sleep. I've experienced it before and it's horrible.
Horlicks is about N1,100

Biko, make dem leave the girl na make her tiny pu*ssy experience some shange!

Girl, na kondo sure pass joor!