Johndoe100: It never seizes to amaze me, why adults will turn to children for advise. How can unmarried 16 to 28 year old kids be giving advise to these people based on what? The "stolen" sex they have with their boyfriends and girlfriends? Anyway on nairaland, lack of experience has never been a hindrance to expertise. Some of the replies on this thread are hilarious.

naptu2:

So I ask again, did you sign the form? Did you attend marriage counselling? Was your marriage announced in the bans of marriage?

8ogoegbunam: I admire the catholic church and respect them , though I have my resevations about them, I do not despise them. I am liberal when it comes to religion,I believe that I can marry any lady, as long as we practise the same religion after marriage.I was even ready to marry muslims as long as the lady converts to christianity. Sorry am not fashola or tinubu. They chose the way their families and marriage should be. I believe I should choose mine.

Whether you admire the Catholic Church or not is immaterial...stick to your story
You sound a bit patronizing now, uncool

shaybe baby: I think you need to sit down and think of the vows you took recently. Did you not promise to love each other through and thin? Your faith is but a small part of your marriage. Why are quibbling over who attends what denomination, is it not the same God you both serve? You need to both respect each other's faith and work on a compromise. Your marriage should be based on mutual respect, love and communication. Though I'm not very religious myself but I'm sure the answer to your dilemma lies in the scriptures. My husband doesn't believe in God, I do yet he is one of the most moral and decent persons I've ever met. Do i chuck him for his lack of belief when he is honest, kind and displays a lot of the traits the bible asks us to demonstrate? Don't get caught up in techinicalities. You married her for who she is not because of what church she might be attending. Don't lose sight of the good things in your marriage.

mutter: Figures the fact that you earn most of the money does not mean that your husband should not be able to make decisions regarding the money. In a family it is wise for the man and woman to plan together for the future.
It is also not unusual that he did not want a househelp, many people would avoid taking a househelp if they could afford to, they often come with a lot of problems.
As regards the errand sending, I can only shake my head. That`s your husband and it is your duty as a wife to serve him hands and feet!!!!
I do not think that your man does not appreciate you, I am sure he does however four years is a very short time give him time!!!

cold:
Are u ok   What's with all this chauvinistic crap u're spewing,so she must remain in this marriage even if it's goin to cost her her life?

glo12: You don't leave your matrimonial home for any reason. Remain there and be Focused . Be a good wife no matter what, be patient and always pray. With time, things will come back to normal. Thats all i can advice you to do.

solomto: Someone was complaining smtime ago that 120k a month cnt substain hm and some posters here actually took side wt him. Another also seek ur advice on 90k per month and majority said no while few said yes.
My point is,pls Mr poster dnt listen to all ths and do wateva ur mind tells u,u cn do wt dat amount if u manage urself well. A lot of people here are earning much more and are even spending that 30k on a weekly basis and some are spending that only on their child education,some on diesel for their gen set others on feeding,wears,clubs,women and house rent.
Why i mention these is to make it clear to u dat class differs and anyone belonging to that class i mentioned above wld never encourage u to get married on that level of ur income.

eddy1977: next time dont blame a white person for using the same language you ysed to make fun of our albino brothers and sisters.

common for god sake,why are we even talking about it here?
in this day and age,we are still farting publicly with this kind of biggotery?

i just feel so bad with some comments i read her today.

if there is any albino here on nairaland,let me say this: you are cute,you are loved and you are no less than any other person.
i apologize on behalf of all these modafokers for using manure filled words to describe their fithy rotten underbelly biggotery.

to all of you,
f@ck you all .

goofie: you men have a point. a lot of women believe that their man is meant to take over their upbringing once they start dating.

for me, i believe a woman shld be an addition to a man and not a subtraction.

its give and take.

Scarpon: A woman who doesn’t ask for anything
DESERVES everthing.

richarts: Lust, contempt & immaturity... Thats what I think. Girls can testify to it that the times they had cheated on their guy, its becos of one of this three.

didara86: Ya, that's my worry as well--- this BEING THE MAN thing
And i definately WANT a real MAN!

Never knew it could be that difficult

ladunsky: No worry by the time they clock 35, with no husband, Mentality go change Sharp Sharp

dayokanu: If the man is paralysed YES.

If not then the woman can choose to or not

marjo: When i got married, it wasn't with the mind that i wouldn't wash his clothes. I used to do the washing every weekend but if he needed to wear a shirt before wash day, he washed them himself. With time - children, work, all sorts of other pressure etc i have stopped. he washes and irons his clothes outside while our son washes his undergarments, hankies etc. Son is away at school and second son can't wash clean enough so i wash them now. we have no issues with this. he doesn't bother with my things and i don't bother with his although sometimes if i am washing for myself and kids he may hand over an odd shirt for me to wash if he needs to use it before the washman comes round. at the end of the day its all about what both of you are comfortable with. He hasn't complained about the system so i presume he's ok with it. Too many people like forming what they cant really perform in real life. i read a lot of posts on NL and am amazed at what people write sometimes - its amazing how being anonymous brings out the dark side in us. Summary; Dont mind those girls. if you surprise them one day and bobos house you will see them scrubbing the floor sef.

onila: sharrap! Nigerians are the funniest Africans out there!

go to other African forums u will die of boredom

~Sauron~:


Times have changed, Pittbaby.
Pollution, crap climate, crap nutrients and reh reh reh have queered the pitch for today's women.
I even read somewhere a woman's menopause has dropped from mid-40s to early 30s.

Phiozy: @cikadile...guess we are of like minds, I personally dnt knw hw 2ask sum1 for sumtin, and d day I venture 2ask and d person doesnt giv,dat wld eva b d last... Initially, I was tinkin he finds any gift he may get 4 u insultin as it may nt b up to ur expectatn/class, buh dis ur case is sumtin else. One of my galfrnds was actually datin dis guy for more dan a year,buh NEVER did he spend a dime on her, she stayed arnd cos of d luv she had for him,she neva complained...jst recently he proposed 2her, she accepted, and dat was wen dis my frnd startd reapin d fruitsss of her patience..d guy started showerin lotta gifts on her. His sisters(home and abroad) and his mum got 2 knw her and dnt joke wt her @al, last tym we went 2 visit his mum(he's ryt nw in d UK on a biz trip) his mum so wlcmd us,and I knw wat we left dat house wt dat day...she neva knew his pple was even wealthy... Buh menh dis case of yours is sumtin else I wont lie...for him 2 hv continued wt such an attitude (to d point of engagemnt)means he wont chng afta marriage... Its a gud tin u left... I pray u get sum1 compatible, sum1 who wldnt hesitate 2 shower his love on u in evryway he can...best dearie...
Abt d msg, check d email u used in openin ur NL acct

Sarah a: Pls i need to know if am having problem.Here is my question, where ever i urinate i notice that my urine comes inform of boning water,i.e just as if i put soap in water which form foam.pls i need to know if it does not mean any thing.Also when am about to see my period(menstruation)precisely three days before ,i do urinate alot ,pls what could be attach to all of these.Thanks for taking your time reading through my thread.

Sarah a: my dear if what you wrote truly happened ,oh girl you try oh.some ladies experince more than what you experience but instead of them to quit,they went ahead to marry such men all in the name of the foolish love.

Tosinville: OP, thanks jare! for them, them no dey know o! until time don go finish.