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ayedun001:
Wow

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Ok, I get that we are Nigerians and we like minding our business in what we call "family matters" but I would have called my nwunye di immediately and told her to come home and handle the matter. Because if it was my husband, I would want to know immediately

1: You are sleeping with someone I am mentoring (even pigs know that you don't piss where you eat)

2: On my bed (E be like say you don dey craze that you have lost all respect for me)

3: And most importantly, you left my baby, whom I prayed for long and hard and carried for 9 good months, to wallow in her filth while you scratched and itch. Thunder fire you.

I mean, you didn't even have the courtesy of looking for one waka about and going to a cheap hotel to hide your shame. If you were shameless enough to do it in our house, then you should be ready for any consequences.

And if the wife starts blaming me, I will simply tell her to go and test her precious baby for AIDS because God knows how long her husband has been spreading himself round the neighbourhood.

I don't get it. Soft landing with regards to what?

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What is the point of being a member of NSChe if I still have to join NSE in other to register with COREN?

Ok, everybody has finished insulting the wife. E don do.

Yemi, talk to your wife. Find out why she has issues about you helping your brother. Tell her that it will look irresponsible of you to leave your brother in his time of need. Then ask her how YOU TWO can assist your brother.

Let me tell you my own situation. My husband can be over generous with money. He is not the best money manager. Once a family member or friend says, my guy, I need help, he will jump in head first. I, on the other hand, am more cautious. I will happily give in church, orphanages, etc but if someone directly approaches me for aid, they will get the third degrees more so if they are family. It has nothing to do with stinginess and every thing to do with having experienced people leeching off my parents in the name of family.

When we were about to get married, I pointed out to my husband that he had almost no savings. We had worked for almost the same number of years and had almost the same salary yet he had no tangible investments. He had sponsored various things in his family, weddings, business ventures etc. I told him it had to stop. How can you help people when you have not yet helped yourself? You have to pay yourself before you help others. This is basic financial knowledge.

It has taken years but now he is much better. He still gives out more than I would like (he doesn't always let me know) but I know he has savings which we can depend on if something goes wrong. And he always consults me before give any large sum of money or household item. Giving away an old phone, iron, electric kettle....go for it. Giving away a fridge.... I better have a say in that.

Communication is a wonderful tool. It builds togetherness. Saying that you want to make all the decisions because you are the head of the family does not fly. Once you married her, she became the bone of your bone and the flesh of your flesh. Talk to her, make her a partner in your endeavours and you will be pleasantly surprised at how your marriage will blossom. It will take time but you will get there.

I know a man whose family complains that the wife doesn't like the husband helping the family. But they forget that there are two things involved. One, the lady was orphaned at a early age and had to struggle for every thing she achieved. Two, the family members are actually doing okay for themselves. Of course who won't like some extra help but without it they are okay. The wife sees this so she is more concerned with saving for their children because she knows what she went through.

Everyone has a story. Find out what your wife's own is, allay her fears and show her that you are partners in your marriage.

Ok, everybody has finished insulting the wife. E don do.

Yemi, talk to you wife. Find out why she has issues about you helping your brother. Tell her that it will look irresponsible of you to leave your brother in his time of need. Then ask her how YOU TWO

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MarieSucre:
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My dear, as a woman you must submit to your husband, in all things. I tell you from experience. You see even if you had a twin brother, by virtue of him being male, he will grow to be more sensible than you are. It does not matter whether he has made grievous mistakes in the past or he has indulged in rash decisions. once he gets married and he assumes that title "Head of the House" or "Husband", he automatically gets magically imbued common sense.
Now you must understand that your husband is the God you see, throw away all talk of partnership, is there any partnership between God and Man. NO!! God is forever above man, as your husband is forever above you. You must grovel at his feet, contort yourself to the point of elasticity and numb your emotions, because the only feelings that should be your primary concern in that union should be his. You must do everything for him short of worshipping him. You are lucky to be married. Some women are still single and anytime they pass a bustop or junction, people spit at them and throw rotten tomatoes at them. Do you want to be one of those bitter single women?

Listen, any thing that is wrong with any relationship is the woman's fault. She needs to check herself to make sure she does not lose him like a toy to some other woman. Is he cheating on you? Then you must either be dressing like an old woman or not giving him enough blowjobb. Is he beating you? Then you must either be a nag or a stupid housewife who brings no monetary value to the union except maybe do all the housework and take care of both your children. Check yourself. Men are too rational unlike emotional and confused women. Check yourself Nigerian Woman.

Finally. concerning this topic, here are some definitions of what submissive means.

adjective
-Being subjected to an action without producing a reaction.Taking no action.
He remained passive during the protest.(grammar)
-Being in the passive voice.(psychology) -Being inactive andsubmissive in a relationship, especially in a sexual one.
(finance) Not participating in management.
(aviation) Without motive power.

Here is another definition--
Submissive

One who gives over their rights, their desires, and
themselves to another. As a gift.
Of the two, Jane was the most submissive.
by. Anonymous November 02, 2003

submission /səbˈmɪʃ(ə)n/
noun
1. the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force
or to the will or authority of another person.

Some men here will want to wrongly deceive you that there is power in submission. That is a bloody lie. There is no requirement for how he is to reciprocate. Even if the Bible tells you that Husbands should love wives as themselves, you know some women, they will try to take advantage of such love. Don't let her cross boundaries. Plus we as women, what do we even need the power for sef?
We are helpers. If He need sex we give it. Why do we need to stay on top? What else. We start asking our husbands to give us mouth job, cunninlingus? Start demanding that we also have orgasms? That is un-african. There is no power in being submissive. You are a woman. You do not need to have any. Thank God you have a man.

So this is not a case of him getting your opinion, he doesn't bloody need your input. Did David need his previous wife opinion before marrying a new wife? NO! If he wants to bring in the whole village into his house, then he bloody well can. He is the head of the family. Its his house, he paid a lot of money on you, you're his property. You will host his guest, cook and clean after them. If you cannot do that, then he gets another girl to do it simple. /

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No

None of you were there and yet you have concluded that the girl is lying. Well done judge and jury.

smoby:
Let me ask the accusers some questions:
how did u end up in his car, - He asked to drop me off at home/school/office like any other normal person would. Should I be asking if he is a rapist before I enter the car?

Y did u not say u r busy when he asked u out, - I was not busy. He asked me out, I wanted to see if we would click and I was quite willing to pay my own way. Will I marry myself?

Y did you dress to kill . - If my dressing is a stumbling block to you, then turn away. What you say is dressed to kill is normal in some other locations.

Y didn't you say no when he asked you to coming. Huh?

Wait ! watin you find go his house. - So na only outside we go dey meet, abi? I no fit enter your own and stay safe abi?

If no answer then I rest my case.

Guy, are you a rapist?

And this is why less than 5% of all rapes/sexual assaults are reported in Nigeria.

You say you are raped, instead of sorry, you get

a) What were you wearing?

b) Why were you in his house/room?

c) How can you say you didn't understand his intentions? What? You are only 13 years old? Well, you never shine your eyes well.

d) Why are you reporting this small thing? After all, you do it for free with your boyfriend? You are a virgin? No wonder, you have been wasting this thing?

e) Are you sure of what you are saying? How can your own father/brother/uncle/cousin/priest/pastor/choir master do such a thing? Abeg go sit don.


With the stigma that is attached to reporting a rape and with the way the police force will treat the victims as if it is their fault, I am in awe of everyone that has the courage to stand up and report their attacker.

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Why does everyone start with "For the sake of the children". So someone should be suffering for the sake of the children.

Personally, if I was the one, the kids are going to Grandma's house, I'm going to a hotel to clear my head(thank God that I earn my own salary) and you had better be ready to go to counselling and a battery of test before you even THINK of touching me again. Maybe a separation away from me will show the dude what he is missing. Is it easy to find a good woman to marry that people are treating it withe the same levity as buying a yam from the market?

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ifefunmi:
Hello mamas, hope we are all fine? pls which immunization package is better? General hospital or private. A lot of people are recommending general hospital, pls educate me as I just had a baby

No matter where you go, it's the same set of vaccines the baby is given.

Please I need some expert opinions. I found commercially prepared soybean powder in a supermarket. It has crayfish, dryfish and groundnut added to it. Do you think I should get it for my baby? I can't make it myself. He's already taking pap but when I put crayfish in it, he doesn't like it.

Joy1706:
I told him even as my husband, he can only ask me to change my church after marriage but that the decision is mine to take. And that religion is a very personal issue, it's not something that can just be decided for a person esp an adult.

Then he says it seems like I won't be a submissive wife bla bla bla. Did I say something wrong?

This is from personal experience. Please end the relationship. Your faith IS a personal thing between you and God and if you don't think that his church will satisfy your spiritual needs, then respect yourself and leave.

Hi, how do I find out the address of the jamb centre? It's not written on the exam print out.

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The wife is currently feeling insecure in her own house and they both need to take steps to rectify this issue. This is why we never refer to major purchases in our home as my own. He should sit down with his wife and they can agree to buy a car for her in a couple of years. Meanwhile, he should ensure that when buying the land, both of their names are clearly stated on the deeds. Not Mr and Mrs Unknown but John Unknown and Jane Unknown. This will show the wife that her husband regards her as an equal partner in the family progress.
Hopefully, as time goes by, the husband's caring attitude will once again show the wife that he values her.

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olusolaj:
Let the probability of student with both football boots and footballs be x
Then: (3/4 - x) + (7/8 - x) + x = 1
Then x=5/8
Therefore the of students with both football boots and footballs = 5/8 * 24
=15

This solution works if the question specified that all the students have at least a ball or boot.

No of students < 30

Exactly 3/4 of them own footballs, therefore no of students is a multiple of 4 i. e 4,8,12,16,20,24,28
Exactly 7/8 of them own football boots therefore no of students is a multiple of 8 i. e 8,16,24.

If no of students = 8, 6 own balls and 7 own boots. This means that one person doesn't have boots. The 6 that own balls can be made up of all the people that have boots or 5 that own boots and 1 that doesn't. Meaning at least 5 students own both.

Using the same logic

If no of students = 16, 12 own balls and 14 own boots meaning at least 10 own both.

If no of students = 24, 18 own balls and 21 own boots meaning at least 15 own both.

I think there might be a part missing from the question.

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TonYzeallY:
It's high time Ladies begin to understand d men...if a man is ready to offer u a lasting trust n love he test ur Respect n submissivness...why not just do it n be ready to do more.

If my husband had made the mistake of trying to test my respect and submissiveness before we got married, we wouldn't be married now. Is he an exam invigilator? Why didn't he do his homework before proposing? Please, marriage is for matured people. if you want to play games, go back to primary school.

Famouspecky:
Am having problem with my hubby over my sim card. He's insisting I break my sim card after our wedding but he refuses to break his.
Honestly I don't think this is fair.



What do u think I should do?



N; Matured advice pls

Why does he want you to break your sim? If it is because he doesn't trust you, then you shouldn't be marrying him in the first place. If he's worried about you being disturbed by people who won't respect your marital status, then he should break his own too.

Onila, Onila, Onila......how many times did I call your name?

Stop trading insults with people still living with a mentality you are not able to grasp or make sense of. It is the equivalent of arguing with a Chinese person about Yoruba culture...the chances of him grasping the richness is very remote.

As for me, while I am a practising Catholic, if I see a woman in a marriage where she or her children are being abused, I will call her an idiot and tell her to take action. If I see a man in a marriage were his wife is sucking the life out of him, I will advice him to take action.

If said action is divorce, que sera sera.

chibansky: I AM YOUNG AND HAVE A GOOD JOB, JUST FEW MONTHS OLD IN MARRIAGE NO KIDS YET, MY JOB TAKES ME OFF MY HOME FOR TWO WEEKS.
ON THIS FAITHFUL THURSDAY 19TH SEPT 2013, I CAME BACK FROM MY NORMAL FOOTBALL TRAINING AND OBSERVED MY WIFE SERIOUSLY ENGROSSED WITH HER PHONE CHATTING,LEAVING ME WITH LESS ATTENTION, I GOT ANGRY AND DEMANDED TO SEE WHO IS MAKING HER IGNORE MY PRESENCE, BUT TO MY SURPRISE SHE BLUNTLY REFUSED, THOUGH I STRUGGLED OUT THE PHONE STILL COULDN'T ACCESS IT BECAUSE IT WAS CODED AND SHE REFUSED TO UNLOCK IT EVEN WITH ALL MY THREATS SO WE QUARRELED OVER IT WHICH LEAD TO CARRYING OF FACE AND ALL THAT.
THE NEXT DAY, OUT-OF ANGER I WENT TO MY FRIEND'S/COLLEAGUE'S (MALE) PLACE AND SPENT DE NIGHT AFTER THE BEER THINGS THOUGH THE FIRST TIME SINCE I GOT MARRIED,ONLY TO RETURN ON SATURDAY AND DISCOVERED SHE ALSO WENT OUT THAT SAME FRIDAY I LEFT AND DIDN'T RETURN, I CALLED HER FAMILY AND MY FAMILY SHE WAS NEVER THERE.
WHEN SHE RETURNED ON SUNDAY, I WALKED HER OUT AND SHE HAPPILY WALKED AWAY AND NEVER CALLED OR WENT TO EITHER OF DE FAMILIES HOUSE TILL I WENT BACK TO MY WORK PLACE THE NEXT DAY MONDAY.
3 DAYS LATER IN THE WEEK I WAS INFORMED BY A NEIGHBOR SHE RETURNED IMMEDIATELY I LEFT TO WORK,NOW AM DUE TO RETURN HOME FROM WORK IN FEW DAYS TIME.
my concerns are:
1. who was she chatting with that she refused to let me see?
2. why did she decides to sleep out and where?
3. could she be cheating on me?
WHAT SHOULD I DO? PLEASE I NEED UR ADVISE.

Questions, seriously
How old are you two?
How long did you know each other before you got married?

Now let us get down to business. I'm married. And I have a life apart from my husband. When he comes home and I am engrossed in whatever I am doing, he DOES NOT act like a petulant child and insist on my undivided attention. Let's look at it from a man's perspective. I assume that like most Nigerian men, you like, no adore, football. Are you trying to tell me that there has never been a time you have been totally engrossed in a game on TV to the point of ignoring everyone around you?

On to the next point. You DEMANDED? Meaning what? Because you are who? Even when I was still living with my parents, they never demanded. And my mate will be demanding. What rubbish. Didn't you ever learn to ask politely? And even if she ignored you, you couldn't go and calm down? Really, how old are you?

In anger, you spent the night away from your matrimonial home. Again, how old are you? In fact......
And then she does the same thing. How old is she? In fact, you two fit each other.

Then you come back, find out she is doing tit for tat and your oh so matured response is to send her away. Nigerian film.

And after thoroughly acting like a ..........(fill in the gap), you want advice.

Are you sure you are ready for the institution of marriage? Marriage is about communication. And I see no mention of it in your story. Go home and talk with your wife, not to her.

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