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Family › Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by CNN80: 10:56pm On Sep 22, 2013

So the man can remarry but the woman must remain single? I must have been reading the wrong bible.

Virgin Finder: She can leave temporarily/permanently but she must remain SINGLE for as long as the separation lasts or as long as he is alive.

That's what the Bible says.

Once a woman is married, she's forever married. Otherwise, she toys with hell fire.

The man may remarry but God will fight for her and reward her reverence for his word/law accordingly.

God's mill may be slow but it grinds exceedingly smooth.

Our God is a just God.

#NoApologies

Family › Re: Do Women Want Equality Or Superiority by CNN80: 8:59pm On Sep 02, 2013

[quote author=edie_mafio]u have spoken ur mind, unfortunately it doesnt really work like that..insecurity is a very big problem to a lot of people.he will deal with it in his own way, just like anyother problem.it is not for u to teach him how to do so.dont give him a reason to suspect u, d only way to gain his trust is to b 100% submissive,never mind dressing like s.ex worker n keeping male friends out of office and strange call n all that..u need to accept ur fate if anything goes wrong..[/quote]Are you for real or just pulling my legs? I'm honestly wondering.

Family › Re: Do Women Want Equality Or Superiority by CNN80: 2:20pm On Aug 25, 2013

[quote author=edie_mafio]What women want is superiority just as it is in UK and many other western countries.Imagine 2 flat mates (men) when they quarrel,it can't b resolved cos they see them selves as equal and right,if u apply same equality to marriage,how many marriages do u think can survive?it is vital for a woman to respect her hubby. No matter how stupid he is,it is not for her to decide..unfortunately,not every man feels secure about himself,it is not his fault,u'll only be adding salt to injury to run ur mouth on such a person cos u'll definitely get a slap..
Imagine a very ugly man who marries a pretty lady so his children could look better,first its not his fault that he is ugly,secondly,he did not force his wife to marry him..At this point,he already feels insecure about his situation,he will often suspect his wife,he'd believe his wife's actions are because of his predicaments,and then d woman damages his vulnerable heart by running her mouth,if he gets fraustrated and acts out of provocation and low self esteem,pls understand the kind of pressure he acted under.[/quote]First of all, why would I marry a stupid man? I married an intelligent one. And when once in a while, he tries to make a stupid decision, if I don't point it out to him, who will? Abi I should wait for him to disgrace himself in public.
And if as an ugly man you married a pretty wife, your insecurity is yours to deal with and if you do have such insecurities, you should not have gotten married. If I am that wife, you will so hate yourself. If you can't accept the fact that I love you enough to marry you, then please don't propose. I can't deal with an insecure, frustrated husband that is looking for imaginary provocation to justify acting like illiterate buffoon.

Family › Re: Rise Of The Feminist Wedding by CNN80: 10:08pm On Aug 01, 2013

coogar: of course, anyone still championing feminism today is the modern one. the first wave of feminism died last century.

you are getting it wrong - a woman can be aggressive and caustic without being a feminist, but all modern feminists are aggressive and caustic....

And this is why I refused to have a discussion with you. I love having intellectual discourses with people. We don't even have to agree, we just have to have an open mind about each other's point of view. But you!! You've made up your mind about something that doesn't even directly affect you, tarred and feathered anyone who has a contrary view and launched vitriolic attacks against people who argue with you.

Because of this, I usually skip over your post and by doing so, it is possible that I have missed out on learning something new and good from you. But when you present good food in an unpalatable manners, the chances of anyone eating it is low.

Why do I even bother?

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Family › Re: Rise Of The Feminist Wedding by CNN80: 11:03pm On Jul 31, 2013

Pukkah: Where did I say or suggest or insinuate that men are superior to women? My point is clear - men and women are different and it's cumbersome to demand that species which were even differently created be equal. Both genders are unique and were designed for a purpose. None of the two is superior and none is inferior.

Anyway, I wish you well as a self-appointed feminist who is trying to ensure that all the rights that are open to men are also enjoyed by women. Note again that men are not the ones asking for the rights of women but the other way round.

As you go on your journey as a feminist, I advise you to consider doing the following:

Do not let a man 'toast' or woo you. Find a man to woo.
Do not let a man propose marriage to you. Propose marriage to your man and drag him to the altar. On the wedding day, do not wear white, throw bouquet or say to the pastor or imam that you'll cherish or obey the man. Let it be the other way round. Of course, you're signing the marriage register using a female name as the surname and your man is adopting that female name as his new surname. Nothing wrong with wooing a man. Marriages are personal and it is not up to you to define how it should start. And if the couple decide to adopt the woman's name or both decide to take a new surname, again it is their business. Feminism has nothing to do with it.

Also try and practice female polygamy - polyandry; and let the men stay together under the roof that would be provided by you. When you go to work, call your man (or men) to get your meal ready, afterall you're the one paying for the food in full or in part. Some societies practice polyandry. It works for them. Again, it has nothing to do with feminism. And polyandry doesn't mean that the woman has to be the provider. The family gets to decide who the provider is depending on the situation. Leaving the whole burden on one party, whether man or woman, without prior agreement is grossly unfair.

If you happen to be around at meal times, read the newspapers and watch the TV while your man gets busy in the kitchen before he serves you the meal and announces that 'dinner is served'. Now this has to do with feminism. Why would you think it is okay for you as a man to read news and watch TV while a woman serves you a meal but it becomes a crime when the roles are reversed? Thank God I am married to someone who thinks like me. Whoever gets home first is in charge of dinner.

When (and if) you get pregnant, send your man (or men?) on ante-natal and when you're ready to deliver the baby, send them on 'paternity' leave. For the naming ceremony, get a female imam or pastor to conduct the proceedings while your man carries the baby throughout. You are just being sarcastic here. If I am the one that is pregnant, why is the man going on maternity leave? And frankly speaking, I believe that men should go on paternity leave, stay at home and help out with the baby. At least they might start to appreciate that caring for a baby is not automatically coded into women's DNA.

Do not breastfeed the baby, as only weak and suppressed women do so. Do not bathe, dress up or drop the baby in school. Of course, your man should do all these compulsorily. Tell him you're a feminist and it is NOT a man's world. There are plenty of babies that were not breastfed and the world did not end. And there were a lot of reasons why their mothers didn't breastfeed them and it is not up to you to judge them. I know of a baby who refused to breastfeed and starved for almost a week because everyone kept telling the mother that breastfeeding was the only way to go. Finally, an older woman came to visit, looked at the situation, went out and bought formula for the baby. Which the baby hungrily ate. The world didn't end and the baby is a healthy teenager now.
And why shouldn't my man take care of his child? Is he supposed to leave the care of the baby to me alone? We are parents, we parent together. That's it.

Socially

Sit down at events or offices with your legs carelessly separated like a man. Considering the fact that I wear trousers 95% of the time, I sit however I want. And this concerns you, how?
Stop plaiting your hair or fixing artificial hair or lashes or wearing heels or wear make-up. Men don't do all that. But I am not a man. And the way I dress should be MY decision, not imposed on me by other people. I don't tell you how to dress, you don't tell me how to dress.

When you want to swim at public pools, don't wear a bikini. Why should only men wear their boxers or briefs in public? Wear boxers like them too, expose your bosoms and swim. Totally confused as to what point you are trying to make.

Religion

Tell the Roman Catholic Church, The Church of England to appoint females as cardinals, popes or Arch Bishops. Tell Muslims to appoint female imams.
Get traditional religion to give more room/rights to females to become Oro/Ogun/Ifa priestesses as the ones dedicated to the female gender (osun and yemoja) are not sufficient or even discriminatory. The same thing applies to Hinduism. Actually, this is a very good and valid suggestion. Kudos. I'm Catholic and the church is very chauvinistic in a lot of things.

Politics
Encourage women and your fellow feminists to contest for elections and attend nightly political meetings and gatherings. They may also choose to become political thugs and hangers-on. Very apolitical here so don't really care. But if women want to become politicians, that is their choice and not mine to judge. And it speaks poorly of your mind frame if politics to you equates to thuggery.

Also upturn the traditional rulership across Nigeria. By all means, women must become traditional rulers and go through the rites.

Others

Talk to your man anyhow afterall you're equal to him. I can see you'll even be able to do this well from the way you responded above. People are addressed the way they address others. If as a man, you address me rudely, why would you expect politeness in return? And what does it mean to talk to someone anyhow? We talk normally. Or are you expecting me to call my husband, my lord, any time I address him?

Once again, I wish you success in your journey as a feminist that's canvassing for equality of men and women but let me warn you to be very careful of certain enemies that will rise against you in this your self-chosen and 'honourable' quest. Those certain enemies are not men; they're women like you.

Do you know why? What the majority of those reasonable and realistic women want is not the notion of equality with men (that's even naturally unattainable as I've shown) BUT equity and fairness in the way they're treated by men and the society at large.

Okay. Agreed. Why would I want to be equal to a man? I am me and he is he. I have no right to define who he should be and he has no right to define who I should be. So what was all the long story on top for?

Family › Re: Rise Of The Feminist Wedding by CNN80: 4:21pm On Jul 28, 2013

TV01: Don't mean to be nosey - so feel free to demure - but are you "married" to a man or woman?

TV

And this is what I was making reference too. What is the big deal about ileobatojo keeping her maiden name? Why must people make cracks at her just because she is in no hurry to change her name? Has her husband complained?

By the way, if you work in certain sectors, changing your name can be an exercise in patience. My govt office still issued me with a staff id in my maiden name. And let's not even talk about the fact that the only way to get an international passport in your new name is to go to Abuja. And there are varying reports as to the process involved. So now, my change of name feels like a waste of time in some instances.

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Family › Re: Rise Of The Feminist Wedding by CNN80: 3:04pm On Jul 28, 2013

coogar: i would normally not call you out on this but someone as educated as you should know there's a stark contrast between the first wave of feminism and the "modern" feminism.

the definition you copied and pasted above was the principle of the pioneers of feminism. may God bless them, they fought for a cause and they won the war as far back as the early 60s. they wanted equality and they got what they wanted.

the 21st century feminists do not want equality - they want to reduce men to mere doormats. i am assuming you are well-versed on the subject matter unlike the army of lunatics who just join a bandwagon of what they clearly cannot comprehend. even feminists like erin pizzey and camille paglia are cringing and disturbed at the principles the modern feminism is teaching.

modern feminism is poison and it threatens to further worsen the relationship that exists between men and women. those who want equality don't really want modern feminism and those who want modern feminism don't really want equality. i hope we can have a proper debate on the subject matter devoid of insults and negative energy if you are up for it. i have a tonne of information to share!

Maybe there is a difference now. But that does not negate the positive contribution that feminism has brought to this world. The issue that I have with your posts is that once you see any post that means a woman is standing up for herself, you enter attack mode. You never consider the positive aspects of the situation, you just look at the negative. And then you end up exchanging insults with anyone who disagrees with you. That makes it hard for me to want to see the points you are trying to put across. It's very discouraging.
For example, women retaining their maiden names. It's a choice. It doesn't negate the fact you are married. What is the big deal? As long as the couple are in agreement, why, oh why, are you tearing your hair out on their behalf? Live and let live.
I can't imagine being a housewife, not in a million years. But there are woman that find fulfilment in being stay at home moms. As long as they made the choice for themselves, who am I to denigrate that choice just because it's not one I can make?

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Family › Re: Rise Of The Feminist Wedding by CNN80: 1:22pm On Jul 28, 2013

LoveAmaka88: Why wed at all if you are a feminist? Marriages are patriarchal institutions perpetuated and sanctioned by male dominated governmental and religious institutions. A true feminist wouldn't want her legal identity to be compromised by attaching herself to a man. I want my damn ring, dress, friends, family, and institution that serves as the foundation of a stable and Godly home. I don't blame them for wanting something different, but don't try to label it as feminist when you are still subscribing to the institution in the first place.

Marriage is a covenant instituted by God. What is with all these weird definitions of feminism? According to Wikipedia "Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment. A feminist advocates or supports the rights and equality of women." Wanting a different type of wedding is not the end of the world. I'm married and let me say
1) I bought all the rings. It was easier for me to take care of that.
2) My father didn't walk me down the aisle. I don't think they do that in the Catholic Church.
3) I wore white just because my husband pointed out that I had earned the right to do so.
4) I got rid of that part of the reception where the cake maker describes the cake and people observing us cutting the cake and making comments on what they saw. I never understood the point.
5) I had a reception breakfast. The world didn't end.

It was our wedding ceremony. We were allowed to make it whatever we wanted it to be within reason. An elaborate ceremony is not the foundation of a stable and Godly home. And I really don't know why not wearing white should be considered feminist.

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Family › Re: Rise Of The Feminist Wedding by CNN80: 12:53pm On Jul 28, 2013

coogar: like i said, don't preach to me, we are not in the church.

where were you when your mates were doing set theory in school? you were probably a perpetual truant. this is simple mathematics.

100% - class size

76% - traditional marriage(no compromise)

10% - no white wedding, no dad walking the aisle
14% - white wedding, no dad walking the aisle

remember, the article said almost a quarter....which means it's a bit less than 25%, not 25%. how difficult can it be? if you cannot make your own deductions from simple data, please kill yourself.

First of all, please don't blast me. I no send this argument. But as a lover and user of mathematics, your application of set theory in this case is kind of flawed. Just saying. The first rule is solving these problems is, never assume what was not stated.

Family › Re: Rise Of The Feminist Wedding by CNN80: 10:08pm On Jul 27, 2013*

TheMadame: Look,your questions are irrelevant to me. My point for the laast time is that there is NO organisation in this country where people of different gender,with the same qualification,employed the same day on the same grade level are renumerated differently because they are of a certain gender.
I am not gonna play your games so just because we are the same gender does not mean,I should support a false point which is only being stressed by you and your supporters to win an arguement.
I will never burn my bra because I want to be a feminist because it is like cutting my nose to spite my face.
I think am done with this thread-you are free to believe whatever you want-your prerogative .

Again, I have to state that I don't know why a lot of arguments on this forum end up with people insulting each other. I mean, you don't know each other in real life and see you killing yourselves online.
As for the wage disparity, I started with the same salary as all the people hired the same day with me. But as a previous poster has pointed out, there are allowances that are available to male colleagues due to them being posted to departments/sections that are not considered suitable for women.
I personally don't see what is so unsuitable about some of those sections but it is a throwback to older times when women didn't even work in my field. I don't have strength to fight it. I believe it will change over time. I once had a classmate who asked me what I was doing studying my course as I would end up in some man's kitchen.
I don't know if I can be called a feminist but I believe that everyone should be provided the choice to do what they want. Telling me that because I am a woman, I should study the arts or that I should love cooking is you assuming that you have control over my life. That is wrong. So if you have a son who enjoys cooking and a daughter who loves tinkering with cars, do you tell them that due to gender roles, they need to stop what they love because it is not appropriate for their gender?
I was fortunate to have parents who insisted their kinds learn things with no regards for gender. This meant that we all learnt to cook, change a tire, make garri from scratch and repair/troubleshoot basic electrical appliances. I believe in levelling the playing field and giving everyone the same chance, that is all.

By the way, if I could burn my bra and never wear one again, grin

I'd be dancing right now.

Romance › Re: Pls I Need An Advise Urgently by CNN80: 7:33am On Jun 18, 2013

thorium: Two parties involved, only one side of the story is being presented here. Kinda makes it hard to offer a tangible solution. Old habits die hard!! He probably didn't start cheating in marriage, and can't stop now because it has already taken its roots in his character. Let's be careful not to pass judgements or condemn someone who's clearly under an influence, but with love, try to correct the defect. I'm not making an excuse for anyone and I'm not suggesting her to tolerate his behavior. All I'm trying to say is, approach him in a loving manner, if you haven't, (without any disrespect or judgemental comments). Maybe cook his favorite meal, treat him like your master, like he is. Be faithful to him and don't feel you need to revenge anything. Gain his trust back and eventually he'll start opening up to you, and then, talk about your issues without blaming anyone, perform your wife duties(censored), do some research to improve on yourself. Most importantly keep praying for him and hope for the best.

Seriously? Really? The man is a chronic cheater and your advice is to approach him lovingly and treat him like her master? Which yeye master? What nonsense love is that one? And what kind of influence is the man under that he does not know the right thing to do? This is why women are dying slowly in fake marriages. And by the way, with the kind of advice you just gave, you ARE suggesting that she tolerate the behaviour.

Madam, please collect your money back. Since you do not want a divorce, invest the money wisely and make a will leaving all to your children. This is in case his level of craze increases and he decides to bring in a new wife and/or chase you out.

Family › Re: Her Sister Inlaw Caused Problem In Her Family by CNN80: 3:34pm On May 29, 2013

juman: Why did a house wife receiving too many calls from different people? That was unreasonable.

She should stop receiving calls from different people, apologize to her husband and promise not to repeat it again.

There really should be a dislike button.

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Family › Re: Please Advise Me, I Feel Like Confronting Him by CNN80: 10:13pm On May 26, 2013

ifyalways: I didn't read yhe whole thread hence I'm commenting based on OP's opening post.

1) Why did u guys go to the wife? Why inform the wife when you've not yet confronted/reminded the man?
2) You and ur hubby decided to forfeit the loan so why the noise? Why raise a storm first?

Long story short : This is not worth the noise, anger. There is no lesson to teach anyone here. Women should learn to know when to jump into "men affair", you never might just know what other non-financial favor that man might be extending to ur husband.

Which one is "men affair"? It is family money. Before I lend out money, I discuss it with my husband and vice versa. Once we got married, it became our money, not his and not mine. So I don't see how my husband can decide to forfeit a loan without discussing it with me first.
And frankly speaking, I am very sensitive about money. So I know that he cannot make such a decision knowing how much it will upset me.
What other posters said is true. All the stories about leave him to God or you are sowing a seed is part of what contributes to the lack of accountability in our society.

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Romance › Re: Does A Lady’s Skimpy Dress Seduce Rapists? See This... by CNN80: 4:44pm On May 25, 2013

I just have to say that there is a poster here that I am totally disappointed in and I hope I do not know this individual in real life.

Anyone that condones rape in any way or tries to make excuses for those who do it should be made to experience it. Then they should come back to this forum and let me see them defend people that do it.

But, but, but....nonsense excuses.

Romance › Re: Does A Lady’s Skimpy Dress Seduce Rapists? See This... by CNN80: 1:21pm On May 24, 2013

When you tell someone, " This act is bad but....." you have invariably justified that act. Examples are

Cheating in an exam is bad but if you are going to fail, it's allowed.
Lying is bad but if it will get you out of trouble, do it.
Sexually assaulting anyone is bad but it they turn you on, go for it.

And while I know someone will say that if one's life is in danger, you can do anything, we all know that is an extreme case. Stop trying to justify an immoral act. Saying that men are visual beings in justifying the act. Saying that women dress immodestly is justifying the act. And I find it absolutely shocking when educated and civilized human beings try to justify it or give excuses. Are we thinking, rational humans or are we animals driven by base and depraved desires?

Again I say, NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING justifies that act. NOTHING.

Romance › Re: Does A Lady’s Skimpy Dress Seduce Rapists? See This... by CNN80: 11:41am On May 24, 2013

dellaziz: MENH.,wonderin what da world is turning to..same reason y God destroyed sodom and gomorrah...wouldnt be suprised if all dose giving immoral dressing a thumbs up r xtianz...and hey! am not on da molestation issue...

I'm always very disappointed when I see people spouting such opinions. Even if I was wearing a G-string and gave you a lap dance, that gives you no right to inflict yourself on me. It is like saying that because I slapped you and called you a he-goat, you are justified in pulling out a gun and shooting me. If you think someone's dressing is indecent, either correct the person or turn your head away.

Please there is NO justification for such an act, NONE whatsoever. embarassed

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Culture › Re: The 12 Top Reasons Why Igbos And Yorubas Should Not Marry by CNN80: 10:45am On May 20, 2013

Ihedinobi: Seriously, do you guys not understand sarcasm and satire? The OP is very obviously pointing out how stupid tribalism is. Didn't y'all see the third category of reasons? Jeez!

Guy, I thought I was the only one that understood the sarcasm in the OP. Colour me shocked when I started seeing posts spitting poison and vitriol left, right and centre.

Haba, Nigerians lipsrsealed

Politics › Re: Confirmed - Governor Chime Is Dying. UPDATE!!! by CNN80: 9:16pm On May 02, 2013

Why, Oh why are people trying to kill this man off? Is it not the same man that was hale and hearty at his son"s wedding less than a month ago?

I wonder who this reliable source is.

Jokes Etc › Re: You Think You Got Brains? Try This... by CNN80: 1:32pm On Apr 22, 2013

For today to be Friday, tomorrow has to be Saturday. But Saturday was yesterday, so today is Sunday.
........

.......

I hope that made sense tongue

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Romance › Re: My 13 Yr Old Brother Has A Girlfriend by CNN80: 10:27pm On Mar 29, 2013

He's 13 and you are asking what to do. Apparently, you don't know how to spank or scare the living daylights out of him, abi?

Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Baker Hughes Massive Recruitment 2013 by CNN80: 10:24pm On Mar 29, 2013

The site is not user friendly at all. I can't filter the job listings.

Family › Re: I Want To Have All Female Kids by CNN80: 9:46pm On Mar 28, 2013

CAMEROONPRIDE: ^ ask your mom what she wanted
Beside I said exception exist.
And sorry if I wasn't clear enough.

Girls/sisters are great I do have but as eldest they almost always fumble.

I give up. Thank you for saying that I, my cousins and friends fumble despite all our achievements. Sorry Oh! I will not engage you again.

Family › Re: I Want To Have All Female Kids by CNN80: 9:38pm On Mar 28, 2013

CAMEROONPRIDE: you got my comment wrong, I meant girls as eldest.

First, you should have made that clear. When you realized you made a mistake in your statement, you could have edited it.

Second, that still does not excuse you. You basically insulted all women, all men that want/have daughters as their first child and all families that have a girl as the eldest. Maybe in your family, having a girl first has been a curse. You can have then written that in your family, having the eldest child be a girl was a curse.

As for me, I have always wanted to have a girl first. I am in the oldest and female. My mother and her mother before her survived being the oldest surviving children in their family and our extended family is blessed beyond measure.

Family › Re: I Want To Have All Female Kids by CNN80: 12:43pm On Mar 28, 2013

CAMEROONPRIDE: Girls are a curse. The eldest must always b a boy .

OK, you must really, really, really HATE your mother. So girls are a curse? This is news to me. And since you came from the loins of a woman and are most likely chasing the loins of women (assuming you are not homosexual), what does that make you?

Family › Re: Thread deleted by CNN80: 12:18pm On Mar 28, 2013

Relax and take it easy. I was almost 30 before I married and made love for the first time. Yes it was painful despite all the care that my husband took. And I still experienced some discomfort for a few months after.
I educated myself and found out I wasn't producing enough lubrication. A little external assistance from lube and voilà, problem solved.

And please, stop trying to do it again. It's not by force. I rested for about 4 days before trying it again and my husband was very understanding about it (like he had a choice tongue

). Give it time.

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TV/Movies › Re: "Bollywood Lovers" I Need Some Films To Watch by CNN80: 3:50pm On Mar 27, 2013

Look for movies with Aamir Khan.

There are a number of forums with free registration that offer links for watching on downloading Bollywood, Tollywood, Kollywood etc movies. Just google them.

TV/Movies › Re: Who Is Your Favorite Bollywood Actor ? by CNN80: 3:47pm On Mar 27, 2013

Amir Khan. I like his versatility.

As for SRK, he's good but there are only so many times and ways someone can say "Mein tumse bahut bahut pyaar karta hoon" before you get tired of him.

Family › Re: Advice Urgently Needed "He's Adamant On Having Separate Rooms" by CNN80: 1:57pm On Mar 18, 2013

ayobase: SMH, what's that one ranting about?

I'm really sorry. I thought we were having a discussion. Apparently I have offended you. I will leave you now.

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Family › Re: Advice Urgently Needed "He's Adamant On Having Separate Rooms" by CNN80: 1:52pm On Mar 18, 2013

ayobase: Can u simply tell me what the man is/was doing?

-"Don't come to my room."
-"I will call you when I need sex"
-"You don't have to sleep in my room, you have yours."
-"Lets have a joint a/c"

From this kind of man? I think it is!

Ok, I didn't understand this post of yours but are you saying that the husband is giving rules and regulations? Of course he is. And are you telling the wife that she should obey them? Of course you are. And what does that say about the husband? And what does that say about you?

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Family › Re: Advice Urgently Needed "He's Adamant On Having Separate Rooms" by CNN80: 1:41pm On Mar 18, 2013

ayobase: Two 'wrongs' can never make a -'right', so also two 'rights' can 'never' make a wrong.

As far as this case is concerned, the man is doing the 'wrong' thing (he considered it the 'right' thing though), and the woman trying to do the 'right' thing (which is gonna be termed 'wrong' by the husband) is gonna bring HEAVY clash in the home.

Two 'wrongs' can never make a 'right'

What you need do is making sure you accept your husband's RULES and REGULATIONS!

Make sure you are always there for him, get his food prepared at the right time, set out time to attend to his laundry, don't argue with him, watch his favourite programmes with him as often as you can, send him msgs at reasonable intervals (like asking him what he is gonna like for dinner, how much you love him, and the likes), and above all, ALWAYS PRAY FOR HIM AND YOUR MARRIAGE!

The fact is this, God respects the wives more than the husbands in any marriage...the success of a marriage is determined more on the wife, likewise its failure!

About the joint a/c issue. Try to cooperate to an extent (maybe a certain percentage of salary every month). I wouldn't advice you to give in all. Be wise in this regard!

U wanna catch the monkey, then you are gonna need to be like a monkey.

Man is known with his ego, trying to break it is gonna cause more harm....allow him....let him have all the scenes to himself....nobody is gonna tell him before he starts asking questions from his wife about some certain things when the chips ae down.....and the you wife should always be ready to give SOUND and SPECIFIC ANSWERS....don't talk much!

Above all things, the husband is the head of the house, yield to his COMMANDS (its not hard at all, just take off your pride...its for your husband u love so much) and be more LOVING and CARING than ever.
PRAY FOR YOUR MARRIAGE.

U can do away with my pieces of advice if u want your marriage to pack up, or you want out, or you want your man to bring in another woman!

BE PRAYERFUL, ALWAYS PRAY FOR HIM.
AND ALSO DO A PROPER CHECK ON YOURSELF TO BE SURE U AINT DOING SOMETHINGS WRONG AFTER YOUR WEDDING!

God bless you!

RULES and REGULATIONS? COMMANDS? Are you kidding me? Are we talking about a marriage or a military dictatorship? I can't believe you actually typed this. And then defended it.
Are you married? Maybe you should go home, give your wife rules, regulations and commands and then wait for her to kiss your royal tushie.
What happened to sitting down and coming to a mutually agreeable compromise? What happened to being sensitive to each other's feelings? You have some valid points but being saying these things, you have just invalidated all your points.

Romance › Re: Ladies Can You Marry A Stark Illiterate? by CNN80: 11:22am On Mar 14, 2013

Nope, no way. I need serious intellectual stimulation to enjoy a friendship, talk less of marriage. Imagine trying to have a conversation on why Pluto is no longer regarded as a planet or whether Sakura's strength in more than that of Tsunade (the fifth Hokage). He will be totally confused.

Fashion › Re: Relaxed Hair- Let's Challenge our hair growth (3, 4 Or 6 Month Relaxer Stretch) by CNN80: 10:38am On Mar 12, 2013

teetee2: All my front hairs have been removed either is natural or not, is there anything to use to grow them.I have been keeping my hair natural for the past three months due to damaging and breakage still there is still breakage when comb it. Pls tell me wot to do to make it grow i wish to keep my hair natural without fixing. thanks

Let me admit that I have virtually no beauty regiment I follow. That said, speaking from what I and my sister experienced, cut your hair as low as you feel comfortable with. No relaxing for 6 months, let your natural hair grow. As it does, start weaving it. You might think that is local but that's what I do to my hair and I have no issues with it. When combing, do it gently. A little oil, even vaseline, will help. Have patience and you should see better hair by the end of the year.

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