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I don't get why there is an arguement going on. Cheating is bad. This is a statement of fact. If you can't stay faithful, don't get married. It is not by force. And as a man in Nigeria, you have another option, have a polygamous marriage. Just be upfront with your wives before you marry them.
And I agree with a previous poster. In an affair, the bulk of the blame lies with the married person, whether man or woman. Saying that it is the fault of single girls chasing married men does not absolve the men. Saying that the girls should say no to the aristos does not absolve the aristos of the guilt of leaving their wives and coming to schools and looking for girls young enough to be their grand daughters.
People should take responsibilty for their actions and stop blaming other people, the society, their body, God and God knows what else.

Location and pictures, please.

What ever you do, do not buy the tribute. I've wasted my money trying to fix the one I bought only to find out that the problem I'm facing is very common for the tribute. And since both cars use the same engine (I think), avoid them.

Can you get a brain box for a Mazda Tribute 2005?

Hi,

I have a Mazda Tribute 2005, 3.0L Automatic transmission. I have had to replace the brain box 2 times already. I was later told that there was a wiring problem in the engine and that keeps burning out the brain box. I have now fixed the wiring problem (hopefully) but I can't find the appropriate brain box and ignition coils. Please, if you can help out, I'll be grateful.
The numbers of the last 2 brain boxes are 5L8A-12A650-LH (GVY7) and 5L8A-12A650-AAD (ATE3).

It is possible to have a relationship without sex. I did it and I am very happily married now.

Haba, see long argument over simple request. And this is the first time I'm hearing that being a passenger is a tiring as being a driver. You learn something new everyday.
As for the requirements, I need someone who can drive and has his own car (with A/C). I want my poor car to rest.

By the way, as long as I leave the house before 6 am ( 5:30 to 5:45), it usually takes less than an hour to get to work. Coming back is the problem as that can take as much as 2 hours.

If im like sef, make im enter coma . He just needs to be awake when it is his turn to drive.

@ Sagamite, please I understand that you are annoyed with FXking2012 but you can get your point across without insults.

With regards to the argument that a wife make a man more responsible, sometimes it does happen. The reverse is also the case. For some people, it's when they have kids that they make the effort to put down some solid investments. Like I said, it's not in all cases.

I know we are all talking based on sentiments, but there are really cases where the presence of a spouse pushes someone to become better or to attain greater heights. You have men who have progressed at work and business due to influential contacts in the wife's family. You have women who have gotten big contracts due to the husband's contacts. All this assistance is not quantifiable.

You guys should just agree to disagree. Accept you both have valid points and all that.

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I honestly do not know why opinions can't be exchanged on this forum without insults being traded right, left and centre. Does this mean that when guys have discussions and/or disagreements with their family/friends/colleagues, they think it proper to use curse words?

To the topic at hand, I believe that child support should be paid, fully and on time in the case of a divorce. And I believe that a divorce settlement must be applied. However, I also believe that it should be applied judiciously and on a case to case basis. I've seen many cases of women living hand to mouth because their husbands abandoned them. At the same time, I have seen girls who deliberately go after rich men expecting that if things go south, they can claim something from him.

And please, let us disabuse ourselves of these notions that Nigerian women are millstones round a man's neck. I really do not know the kind of women you people associate with but I come from a family where every woman is educated and 90% of us had worked for a number of years before marrying. In fact getting married while in school is strongly discouraged as it is believed that you should be a self sufficient individual in your own right in case of any problems.

It is also a fact that a number of men ask their wives to stop working in other to take care of the children. If the women refuse, you start hearing statements like " She wants to break the home" and " Is she saying that I am not capable of taking care of my family?". Family and societal pressure then force the woman to agree. In such cases, if the man is hit with a request for a divorce settlement, he should not complain.

This is just my opinion and not an attempt to insult anyone.

I'm looking for someone based in Festac who is interested in carpooling with me. You need to be working in or around Victoria Island. I leave the house at about 5:30 am and leave the office between 5 and 6 pm.
I'm just looking for ways to reduce the stress of driving and also the cost of fuel.

Thank you for the report. It has been very helpful.

Very odd wife. I wonder what her thought process is.

Hi, I need an expert and reliable person to install an inverter. I would prefer that the person resides/work within the above mention areas.

Hello idy4eva, I'm still waiting for your mail. I hope there is no problem.

The inverter voltage is 24. I thought, if I got 3 batteries, of connecting the first 2 in parallel and then connecting that setup in series with the last battery (giving me 24V) but I've been told that is a bad idea.
I wish I had known that the inverter was 24V before I agreed to buy it.

Hello, please I need advice. I want to buy a 1.5 KVA inverter and I have the option of getting two 12V, 200Ah batteries or three 12V, 160Ah batteries. Which one do you suggest I buy? Thanks

igaro: Whoa, Fellas can u imagine?!…it turned out that the Uncle came into Lagos on Dec. 18th, Tuesday for a conference being held at the hotel on the 19th (learnt he was a keynote speaker) and practically ensured that the lady in question sat in the audience throughout the duration of his lecture (on the grounds that being a banker, she should update herself with current trends in the global money/capital markets…imagine ). Thereafter his presentation and photograph session, he dashed to the car-park with the lady in tow, gave her a hefty cheque, sent his regards to the husband and her kids and zoomed off to catch his flight @ d airport.
Na wa o!

See!!!! All these people with bad minds!! Most people could not imagine a genuine situation where a woman would need meet her "Uncle" in a hotel. Oh well, all's well that ends well.

idy4eva: Op, gud day. Am not at home(out of station) and my COREN Tech Report is in my home Desktop. Am only wt my laptop here. Will be bak 2 base Dec. 28. Will Dec. 29. 2012 be too late 4u? If nt let me knw. I'll send my copy 2u. I wish u a gr8 day.

Hello,

Thank you. I'll wait for the report. I'm really grateful. Take care and safe journey.

I know that they fired some of their staff this morning.

Thank you so much for all your help. You have been great.
If it is not to much trouble, could you send a sample of your report to ? You can delete the pages that have your name and other personal details if you like.

Thanks again.

idy4eva: You can register with COREN without registering with NSE. If you are MNSE, you will not write qualifying exams and you will submit ONE copy of report you submitted to NSE with your NSE certificate. Am going to be rather brief on this. You will be required to present three(3) bound (NOT spiral binding)copies of your technical report. I used navy blue colour in mine. This is what it looks like: Postgrad. Practical Expr in… U put the field you wish to specialise( for me Electronics and Communications) Engineering. Submitted by……(ur name). Presented to COREN (in full). In partial fulfillment of the requirements for registration as an Engr.
Table of Content: Declaration(by u – Name, Date, Sign)
Certification( by a COREN registered engr who MUST WRITE his name, sign and Reg. no with date – one of your proposers/sponsors)
Dedication
Ack
List of symbols and Abbrv
List of tables
List of Figures
Chapter One is intro
U state your academic qualifications and other professional(engineering) training you’ve undergone that makes you feel qualified to be an engineer, your work expr and diff engr equipt, syst and tools you’ve worked with. For me, I started with my NYSC expr
Your present job/job description. Talk briefly about the ops principles of the equipt u now work with providing schematics. Include your designs/projects. I have a higher qualification I put that as a Research Work(dat is my project/design for that prog).

I don’t really like leaving my details online else I would have given you my report as a sample. I will advise, be weary of OLD engrs!(as sponsors) They OWE a lot of professional dues and you might have to pay those debts for your stuff to be processed. I hope this helps.

I'm seriously confused. I am an engineer trying to do my COREN registration. I'm not registering a business name. And I don't need to be a member of NSE. I've paid for my form, I just need to submit a technical report on my work experience.

I'm wondering what the confusion is all about.

I just need an outline of the report and the kind of info expected. And I am not a member of NSE.

Pls, I want to ask a question and no one should crucify/insult me.

I grew up in what a lot of my friends considered a privileged home. Yet

At 7, I was expected to wash my socks and underwear and that of my immediate junior ( with supervision)
At 8, I started to learn how to cook.
At 9, I had joined my mother/aunties/cousins/maids in the Saturday washing. I also prepared corn for grinding from the farm, helped peeling cassava for garri, swept my room, weeded outside etc.

By the time I was going to boarding school (just before I turned 11), I could take care of the house with little supervision if need be.

By 12, I could be left alone overnight with my younger ones without my parents having to panic.
By 13, I could be left hours at a stretch with a baby (3 months to about a year) and be expected to know what to do. And if there was an emergency, I knew to go immediately to the neighbour's house to inform them and my brother knew who to immediately make a phone call to.

Now, if I could do all these and take it as a part of growing up, what is wrong with getting someone at that age to do it? Please note that I don't have a maid nor am I considering getting one. I am lucky to be in a position where I don't need it.

Honestly, with the way insults are traded on this site over inconsequential matters or matters that don't directly affect people, I wonder for our people.

Now, to the matter at hand. Which kind of question is "allow his wife?" Which kind allow? Is she a child? It is very infuriating to see this kind of mentality still lingering amongst men.

This is a simple issue if the couple are as one as they should be.

Wife: Nkem! Do you remember Uncle Eze, my father's friend? He's in town and said if I could come over to his hotel this evening after work, he would give me a check to meet my target.

Husband: Thank God Oh! But, won't it be easier if he just paid it into his account by himself?

Wife: I asked him too but he said he would be busy all day and then will be travelling tomorrow. Of course, I'm making arrangement for one of my colleagues to follow me as usual.

Husband: Okay, that's good. Keep me posted on who is following you there. You know I don't like you staying out late at night by yourself.

OR

Husband: You know what. It will be good if I meet your uncle to thank him myself. After all, he's really helping us out.

Wife: No problem. See you later them. Kisses.

END OF STORY

Why all the vitriol and attacks on people? Whether the uncle has bad mind or not is not the issue, the woman has made proper arrangements as befits a woman with proper thinking faculties. Even as an unmarried woman, if I needed to go out at night, I went out with a group or a male relative/friend. This is a basic step to ensure one's safety. Is marriage suddenly going to make me stupid that I wouldn't know the right thing to do and I need my husband to allow me? Hia!

There is nothing wrong with feeling threatened in your own home especially if you have had a picture of how you expect it to be and an intruder (anybody apart from husband, wife and children is an intruder) comes in and spoils in.

HOWEVER, how you react is what determines how well and how fast you resolve the issue. Shouting and throwing tantrums will get you nowhere (unless you are 2 years old). You were rude. Accept that. Apologise to both of them. Then sit them both down and explain how you felt. Tell them that you are aware that your mother-in-law is trying to help but you feel as if she is demeaning your position in the house. Do not accuse her, don't shout. Make it sound as if you have the problem and you are asking for their help in solving it. Talk to your MIL as if you are talking to your mum when you are expecting her to have all the answers to your problems. Unless there is past history with you, she will respond to that tone of voice.

Alternatively, you can do what I did and look at the situation as to how it will profit you. I live 5 mins away from my MIL and she and her daughters like sending food over to our house. Initially, I was "Are these people saying that I can't cook?" But after speaking to my aunt, I realised, " Who cares? Enjoy the food. Assume it is out of love. And after all, it is reducing the stress of cooking". And once I took it like that, I've had no problems whatsoever on that front.

And all these guys that are shouting " My mother, my mother", respect yourself and start shouting "My wife, my wife". The reason why I feel very comfortable with my husband's family is because he has made no bones about the fact that I come first in his life always. I reciprocate that trust by treating his parents as best as I can, with all love, affection and respect. My husband brought me into his family so I believe it is his duty to make sure there is a little friction as possible. In the same way, I try as much as possible to make sure that my husband is accepted as a full member of my family too.

Hello,
I am trying to register with COREN and I need to write a technical report. Can anybody provide a sample of the report? I'm not sure where to start.
Thanks

I really don't get it. I and you are looking at the same thread so we have the same info. I haven't contacted the mechanic whose info was provided in the thread. I'll do so later.

Hi,

I received another message that you are trying to contact me. Is anything wrong?

Hi,
I received a message from nairaland saying you were trying to contact me. What's up?