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sisisioge:
How did it go?

It went well the idiot is in prison I separated from my wife and I have the custody of my daughter the result was satisfactory

Dimples2022:
You are a great father and don’t let any pedo sympathisers confuse you! If you wanted to burn down their village I would follow you with the matches. You know what you are doing and I 100 support every action you take. Don’t let the sick situation and the sick people you’re dealing with confuse you. I’m so sorry for your predicament but you have to do everything to put your child back together and she has to know how hard you fought for her. Use your money, the law, and don’t leave any survivors! We are too scared of what people will say about us that we let evil take over like your future ex wife did. I’m so traumatised by reading your post, I couldn’t even imagine how you are feeling!

Thank you so much

lendahand:
don't act when you're mad. Take time and relocate elsewhere to heal but don't divorce her because you will regret it. Talk things out with her afterwards and make her know she lost your trust to an extent but I repeat DO NOT divorce her.

Yes I am so angry now I wish i had the power to take the law with my own hands I would have gone to nnewi to cut that useless boy penis then shot him and put the useless penis inside his mouth but i am trying to be calm because I want the law to do its work like I said earlier i will not save the marriage it is already over all I want is justice for my baby girl

wirinet:
The minute you report to the police, a war will commence between you and her family and between your own family and her family.

They will try to deny the whole thing, they will look for another justification for your 2 year old daughter's broken hymen. I hope you have a medical report. Even with a medical report confirming rape, they would try to put the blame on an anonymous stranger. The whole family and the whole village will support the boy given they are all complicit in covering up for the crime. Who will your wife support?

There is no way your wife will not be implicated. She has to explain to the courts how her daughter was raped serially without her noticing at first.

Which ever way you look at it, your marriage will never be the same again. She will be torn between her loyalty to her people and loyalty you and her daughter. Even if she says she chooses you, she will never be at peace with the marriage. Even your family will never forgive her.

Yes I have the medical record and a voices record of my wife and her mother confessing that's more than enough evidences the marriage was over the day she choose to hide the secret from me I am not fighting to save the marriage because there's nothing to save all I want is justice for my baby girl

eyinjuege:
So heartbreaking.
Please make sure that boy too is arrested. Even if na juvenile prison he will end up going.
14 years old is old enough to know right from wrong and to know not to defile a 2 year old

In America a 10 years old boy was charged as an adult for killing his mother and this idiot is 14 he knew what he was doing to my innocent baby I will make sure I spent all my saving for him to rot in jail forever pedophile like him shouldn't be anywhere around children and older women he deserve to die in jail

Eurolander:
Sit her down and give her two options.

Either you keep the marriage and prosecute the evil brother or You divorce her and keep your daughter.

The choice she makes should give your next line of action.

And please, let your daughter see a psychologist. She needs to heal psychologically.

God is your strength.

I don't need her approval to prosecute her brother whether she and her mother likes it or not the boy will be prosecute and the divorce will still take place

Aguogba:
1. Transfer this anger to the rapist and only display it towards your wife if she tries to plead on his behalf or defend him outrightly.
2. The fact that YOUR DAUGHTER did not even try to confide in you says a lot about your relationship with her. It could be that you made her to see you only as a disciplinarian or mean dad and not a friend as well.
DEAR FELLOW DADS, kindly learn from this.
3. Your daughter needs your love, protection, and mentorship right now. Provide professional counseling if you can afford it as well.
4. Sorry for this sad incident and good luck.

She was only 2 years 1 months when it happened how can she confided in me when she was a baby and still a baby ?

murtalaa:
Op you're heartless. You locked up a woman going through emotional stress and not thinking straight. You denied a daughter going through emotional stress motherly care. You left the real culprit roam free, probably defiling more innocent girls.

I haven't let him to roam free I will deal with him next week I will make sure that he rots in jail

To those of you who are asking me not to divorce her are you also expecting me to forgive her mother and brother and to still allowing her to keep visiting or speaking to her family while she still married to me? I asked you this question because staying married with her means I will have to banned her from speaking or visiting her family forever since she valued them more than her womb open I think divorce is the best option for both of us she will go back to her people whom she valued the most and I will take custody of my child when she grows up I will tell her the reason I divorce her mother

Thanks all for the advice the reason I will bail her next week is because we will be going to the village together I will arrest the rapist if I bail her now her brother will escape for him not to escape my wife must be in jail until we go to the village

Mindlog:
Where is your daughter now and how old is she?

Is your wife still in detention?

What about her mum and the brother who defiled your daughter, have you involved the police to get them arrested?

She is 2 years old my wife is still in detention I will bail her next week I haven't arrested him yet because I am in Lagos there are in nnewi I am planning to go there next week along with my wife to arrest him and I will return to Lagos alone she will stay with her people

My wife and daughter traveled to her village in August for 3weeks and they were supposed to be back before the school resumption but she changed her mind saying her mother was seriously ill that she has to extend her stay which was fine by me and when they returned back I noticed that she has lost so much weight which I asked her why she said it was due to the stress of caring for her sick mother which is normal.

She is her only daughter and oldest of 4 her younger ones are boys so they cannot take care of their mother better than her. Here is the reason I got her arrested, during her stay in the village, her 14 years old brother raped my daughter. This is one of the reason she overstayed in the village. She didn't tell me anything about my daughter being raped she and her mother had decided to give her treatment and cover the idiot that repeatedly raped her and when she came bck she didn't say anything to me but she confided in her prophetess which in her turn has started spreading news until it came to my ears that my own daughter was raped and her own mother has kept quiet and I can imagine if it was a member of my family that did the abominable acts the whole world would have heard it and she would have done everything in her power to put in prison.

But because it is her own brother, she has decided to keep quiet and not knowing the world is small and not secret is hidden forever. I took my daughter to the hospital the result has confirmed she was tampered i was devasted she has been the best wife to me and she has helped me and my sisters to reconciled in the past but what she has done to me it is unforgivable and I have arrested her and when I bail her I will divorce her and take custody of my daughter.

I don't know if I need advice or not but your input and suggestion are welcome I will be reading all your comments.

We are orphans and 5 in number I am in the second position and first son my late parents had teachers us love and togetherness we were unity and always caring about one and each other but after their departure my elder sister had divided us she and the last born were together while she neglected us 3 boys she said we are boys we will never do anything good for her that if she help us tommorow if we become rich it is our wife and their family that will benefit from it hence why she doesn't want to waste her money on us so tommorow she won't regret even we become millionaire she doesn't care whether we help her or not,  she had always mistreat us by saying painful words to us imagine back in the days she was working and earning well but she refused to help us and our last born whom she had treated like an egg has deceived her she got pregnant twice for a useless guy who takes drugs and beat her black and blue and today I am doing do well I have my own business and I am married too and my other brothers are also not doing bad one is in dubai while the other one is working for me and I don't even have any of my sisters contact but my wife has our last born contact they chat on WhatsApp sometime and she called my wife to tell her that our big sister had been to the hospital for sometimes now and she is stuck there because of money they can't afford the bills and she pleaded her to please talk to me so I can send her the money , honestly I was angry with my wife I told her to never tell me anything about her again because I am not interested but she keep pleading me to give them the money but when I think about everything that she had said to me that she will not need me even if I become a millionaire and it is the reason why I don't want to help her because those words are stuck into my head and it makes me feel bitter towards her , I just hate her a lot. I don't even want to spend #100 on her. But my wife is on my neck everyday I almost slap her last night because she wouldn't allow me to sleep she keep asking me to help and I left the room for her and she followed me to the parlour it made so angry that I almost slap her. See how wrong my sister was with her saying that the woman I will marry will benefit with her family from my money but see the woman is here fighting me to save her in the hospital. That's why we should be careful with our words. I have the requested amount needed but I just don't know how can I forgive and give her the money because my heart is not ready to help her.
Please how do I deal with this?