₦airaland Forum

Is there anybody on here that has a Standard Chartered domiciliary account?

Please let me know.

Thanks.

All you women out there talking shiite, I hope you submit half of your salary to home affairs to be entitled to everything that is acquired in the home.

OP has stated clearly that she does.

I want to know how many of you pay half the rent when it is due, or put up half the money to buy a car or put up half to buy the land.

Mtschew.

Bullocks!

Sophyrocks:
No need to argue. No need for epistles. The comments in this thread are enough for you to know.

Ciao!

Yes sure Nairaland is the perfect place to get the beat on wisdom and morals.

oyibo4real:
@BritneyStacy, i rilly feel 4 u. I still think u need 2 sit up, 2 avoid stories dat touch. I'm gettin anoda picture frm ds whole thing( though i might b wrong). I think ur hubby is using u 2 build himself up wealth-wise, after wch he'll look 4 one story 2 kick u out. Some men can go dat length, if not, i dnt undastand his reason 4 nt wantin u 2 get pregnant 4 him, of course i dnt buy dat biz crap reason he's givin.
B4 u get d 'real' pregnant, jst try n fake it first, 2 knw wT his reaction wil be.

Shiite, my dear.

Don't let these clowns here scare you or push to do or think stupid things.

Imagine what this one is saying?

He/she has assessed your situation already and has seen your husbands intentions.

Mtschew.

Be careful.

Sophyrocks:
Sorry o. if you call what you see around you marriages. Nigerians generally dont know anything about marriage with lots of them marrying for wrong reasons. You must be used to the suffering and smiling mode. I have only seen very few good marriages. The rest are nothing to write home about and many more are coming. even the comments here shows that marriage in nigeria is doomed!

I hope you are cream of the crop marriage material yourself how you have finished assessing other people's marriages to be hell on earth.

You keep talking about what I see around me. Are you sitting right next to me to see what I see?

I don't know where you live you or who lives around you. But if that is what you see around you, I suggest you move to a new environment since it has given you this impression of what marriage is, lest it be your own eventual fate.

Sophyrocks:
You call all those marriages? Ridiculous!! How many are happy? look around you. All of them looking like they were forced to marry squesszing face up and down!! The marriage in nigeria is a sham!! A plot to keep people in bondage and stuck to muderers, paedophiles and rapists!! A plot to keep women miserable!! Take it or leave it! A lot of people are not properly married. My opinion.

Scare monger. You are afraid of it apparently. Stop scaring these people.

You or your environment perhaps that is what you see.

I see beautiful loving marriages everywhere that I aspire to be like.

Maybe you are looking for paradise.

Marriage is beautiful granted you have done your homework.

Sophyrocks:
Gbam!! You have said the bitter truth. Marriage in nigeria is a sham!! Marriage in nigeria isnt marriage o.

Rubbish.

If you are unwise enough to marry a dummy, it is your own palaver.

Male or Female.

Do your due diligence.

Many happy couples out and about living happily ever after.

dasparrow:
Madam,
Open a savings account in your name only and start saving. You are not married to a white man or a man from the western world. You are married to a Nigerian-bred man who can wake up one morning and dump you at anytime. Some Nigerian men will dump you if you don't have a male child for them. Some will dump you even after you have had male and female children for them. Nigeria is a terribly chauvinist and misogynist society.

This is why paedophilia is also very prevalent in this society. The average Nigerian-bred man does NOT know how to genuinely love a woman. Some have been known to kill their wives if their wives happen to be making more money than them and then they run off to marry a young girl in her late teens or early twenties. So, be wise. The average Nigerian woman is not enjoying her life in Nigeria and that is the truth because the laws favour men and not women. Plan your life in such a way that you won't be at the receiving end of any mistrust in your marriage. Good luck!

Shiite, the current crop of Nigerian females isn't particularly promising either.

Greedy, brainless, superficial putting it mildly.

While you are working making money to build yourself and acquire assets, she is using her own salary to buy face powder and 150k Brazillian hair and 100k gucci bag.

Then she wants to be half owner of what you own.

Shiite. Mtschew.

God help you not marry a fool.

freecocoa:
Na wa o.

Could it be that your husband doesn't trust you?

Even in marriage, we earn our stripes.

A marriage of 2 years is not comparable to that of 20.

BritneyStacy:
. I am not of that mentality that what I earn is only mine..and what he earns is for us! I met this dude, 1year after he started working. That's when we started dating. Its from then we started building our lives. That's is why I can boldly say that 60percent of what's in our home now, I contributed to it cos d other 40percnt is what he had before we started dating. 80percent of his clothes even up till now are gifts from me. Even when we decided to get married, our wedding was contributory funds too!! Am not mincing words here...but he can't say same about me cos I understand he is not really good at giving gifts and am not compalining either. My only disappointment is that he decides to make his brother a beneficiary of things I shared in other than me because we don't Ђåvε̲ a child yet!

How long have you been married? The next of kin in the document was filled before or after you were married?


----updated-----

....nevermind. I see that you are newly married.


See even though you are his wife, your bond with him is still new. As time goes on, you will be the most important person in his life.

It ought to be already be his mindset. But some of us aren't so experienced with these things.

3,4,5,7,20 years down the line, you will be everything to him.

If his mindset was programmed to see you as that, it will happen very fast.

It obviously is not. Just go about your life and don't worry too much about this matter.

You guys are just starting out. This doesn't stop you from saving some money on your own.

Do you part and be a good wife. Have a light-hearted discussion with him about it.

Not asking him if he writes you as his "next of kin," but suggesting he is the most important person in your life. Are you his?

You get my drift?

You'll be fine.

There is nothing wrong with either party having a personal savings account outside of the other persons knowledge. It only makes sense.

fixed123:
exchange @225 just now with my dom acc

which bank?

I've seen alot of posts with women that have been supportive to their men.
This is the ideal situation. In such an environment where everything is shared and in the open, a man certainly has no reason to
put any one else as his next of kin. Even if such was the case before they got married, he would eventually get it changed
when the relationship between he and his wife has developed far deeper than anyone else in his nuclear family.

This is how it ought to be.

However, the problem is some of these women are something else.

Their approach is that what the man brings home is for the home, but what she
personally brings home is hers.

So imagine a scenario like that.

I pray God gives us all wisdom to deal with these sort of matters and most importantly
helps us marry the right person.

There are many husbands and wives today that have no business been together.

How long have to been married? Do you have kids? What "assets" has he or you or both of you acquired after getting married?

heheh

EroticAngelina:
thanks, but I know my bf, he would become mad and confront his dad... and I don't want that. isn't there another way to make him stop without letting my bf know.

Tell the man you are going to tell his son if he continues.


why do you have a boyfriend anyway? You look way too young to be worry about men.

sheeeet, i'm in 5 now sitting at and browsing on my 'puter

uwaremevoh:
Pls this is my dish set up irib is the first then amos 5 is the next then the outright one is etv Hyde Park. Pls where do I put the mbc (7e) lnb at. Thanks

my oga that etv is open? is that ses 5 etv?

Who bought or sold dollar today?

Malcomkelvin: 90cm? .....Try 1.8m

1.3m does it easily.

suptol:
Observing

or advertising

Where the match dey people

estilo:
I purchased something ni o

That's criminal. Even mallam will have given you N226

You make these purchases often?

Heheheh, his John Thomas.

estilo:
Gtb charged me #225 to $1 today... This is serious

How? On an ATM or making a purchase

rokiatu:
who told you he was faithful and loving?

You better take your time and read some pages.

See love can be confusing at times.

How do leave something u cherish and have kept together so long. He's beating you in between?

They should try and work things out but he should never beat her again abeg.

Rose2014:
I am Rose2014 and I endorse this message

heheh, ya obviously from America.

rattlesnake:
ur grammar and use of cohesive devices is horrible....please spend more time on ur books than ur boobs

Chill out, we aint in school.

Obviously there is abuse in the story so it is a bit different, and it's tricky.

And they are overseas is another matter.

No woman/man should tolerate maltreatment.

Cheating is the least tolerable.

Abuse is once, and never EVER again.

Frankly he sounds like a deadbeat but she obviously loves her husband.

She should go home with stipulations of what she expects of him.

Should anything go wrong one more time, she better leave him for good.


The mother-in-law relationship needn't be perfect but the man in question if he has an of inkling of sense in his head will repair it gradually and make peace.

Life is simple folks, don't make things hard for yourselves.

We make mistakes, we take correction, say sorry and move on.

Simples.

Peace.

Olumideogundare:
dis weekend

Dis weekend...which channel?

Sounds like a jealous supervisor/boss. She looks very pretty if you ask me.

LOVE. FREE. INTELLIGENCE