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Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by RotrEmmanuel: 12:24pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
BritneyStacy:U are not a good wife, u focus more on material things than family welfare. your husband didn't trust u that why he chose to use his brother. Change from your egocentric and flamboyant life, I bet u , u will have access to your husband top secretes. |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Nobody: 12:24pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:im nt saying i will mke my broda my nxt of kin, wat i will do is make my child d nxt of kin, even if my wife is still pregnant, then wen my child is 20, he or she shud take full responsibility. |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Nobody: 12:26pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Dyt:there's a way u can express ur opinion without insulting her...datz harsh |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by justi4jesu(f): 12:27pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
ethylene: Listen to yourself, @ the bolded you need to be more exposed 3 Likes |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by veave(f): 12:27pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
BritneyStacy: ah! This is serious. 1 Like |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Nobody: 12:30pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Dragonking:wats dis one saying nw?? 2 Likes |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by NemzySeries(m): 12:30pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Billyonaire:Sure but I kw such problems are common in d eastern region 1 Like |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by justi4jesu(f): 12:31pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
RotrEmmanuel: You must be thinking from a poor man's perspective, so after contributing 60% towards building the household and properties you have the audacity to pronounce her as being egocentric. Go and get your brain washed. 6 Likes |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Nobody: 12:31pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
softapple: If your wife is financially supportive of the family and in the many projects you both embark on, isnt that enough proof that your wife is a good woman and trustworthy? why will you exempt her from being a beneficiary? That is my point. These are reasons why some wmen dnt bother contributing at all financially and prefer to have secret accounts and land purchases since their husbands do not carry them along in the family. When there is no trust from the husband, you will see issues like these coming up. my own is why get married to someone you dnt trust? 3 Likes |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by ethylene: 12:31pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
justi4jesu:Than you I suppose |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by justi4jesu(f): 12:33pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
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Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Nobody: 12:34pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
NemzySeries:Yes, you are right. Other regions do not even care about who their next of kin is, cos they are largely polygamous. |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by onoja12: 12:34pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
I hear women making noise thisdays about such issue,i have some questions for you. 1) is your husband your own next of kin? 2)what made you go looking for his next of kin are you planing to kill him? 3)did you marry him so that you can collect when he dies in other word is he your insurance policy? 4)am very sure if you have given bath to a male child,he would have put that child as next of kin 5)you are a thief because i would expect you to be fighting for your children to be next of kin not yourself,if you are fighting for yourself then you have evil intentions BritneyStacy: |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Misogynist2014(m): 12:36pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
This thread is very funny. See how everybody is typing as if its of certainty that she's gonna live more than her husband. Anyways, life itself is harsh to mankind. As per your story, it is Nollywood, can't face scrutiny, maybe its because you don't know how to communicate, but anyways its applicable in reality but I don't judge one-sided folklore. |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Nobody: 12:44pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:dis is d reason y i will neva allow my future wife 2 support me financially, even b4 i will get married to her, everytin dat i need in my life will b in place. the mansions, d cars, d businesses, d companies, my bank accounts in a billion fold, d private jet, d private yatch. everytin i will hav, so dat she will know dat she has nting to offer to me oda than sex n children. |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by BritneyStacy: 12:47pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Totfulguy:God bless you real good! You sound like a real man who understands what Marriage is about. My husband is Igbo and am from Rivers. We Ђåvε̲ been married for 1yr 4months now. We don't Ђåvε̲ achild yet cos he says he needed sometime to setup a particular business first before we start making babies. I was strongly against the idea as I felt a baby wouldn't stop him from starting his business. I later yielded to him and decided to wait for d 2years he asked for. I Ђåvε̲ somthing am doing tho its relatively petty. I Ђåvε̲ been supportive to the best of my ability. Even the business he wants to start, I gave him 600k as support. Now, I Ђåvε̲ nothing left in my savings. That's y I feel betrayed. But its ok sha...I will start my life all over again..wil start my savings afresh. Am even thinking of getting pregnant and tellin him it was a mistake because am feeling unsecure in this marriage atm. God help me..am thinking of so many things. Assuming I didn't see the dates on d forms, would Ђåvε̲ felt it was before we got married. It wil well... 2 Likes |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by RotrEmmanuel: 12:50pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
justi4jesu:And u believe her 60% contributions if she is that rich or maybe richer than her husband, why is she so keen about being the next of kin? #SMH I hardly believe ladies when they share matrimonial testimonies, because they can lie more than Lucifer. |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by chioma134: 12:54pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
@BritneyStacy, thank God this happened early. Apply your own suggestions, open a secret savings account, acquire properties in your name alone, use your own family as next of kin, and pretend as if nothing happened. If you use your children as NOK and something happens to you, the law gives their legal guardian, in this case your husband, the right to adminster your estate until they come of age. So, eventually, it goes back to him. Always use people who have your best interests at heart as NOK. Ur husband's actions make him untrustworthy. There is provision for a will, where you spell out who benefits from your properties on your demise. I have a sister who is very comfortable cos she works in a multinational company. Her company is in the process of winding up operations, and staff are being laid off regularly. So she decided to save and open up a business. Her husband convinced her to use her savings to start his own dream business, and she agreed on the condition that her name be included as one of owners of the company. However, after spending several millions to set up the business, she discovered her husband did not include her name. When she confronted him, he said it was an insult for him as the head of the home to include her name. She was heartbroken, cos it was her life savings she used, and he had contributed less than 10% of the total cost. So she's now hoping that her company doesn't lay her off soon,so she can save enough money to start her own business. I told this story for you to understand that some men are naturally cunning. Be wise. 5 Likes |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by justi4jesu(f): 12:54pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
RotrEmmanuel: Lol Some men are Gold-diggers and even better liars 2 Likes |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by RotrEmmanuel: 12:58pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
justi4jesu: |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by justi4jesu(f): 12:59pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by coderXO(m): 12:59pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
How long have to been married? Do you have kids? What "assets" has he or you or both of you acquired after getting married? |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Nobody: 1:01pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
justi4jesu: I know say you been dun charge to fire me bumper to bumper. |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by justi4jesu(f): 1:02pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Nobody: 1:06pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
softapple: Chai!! No wonder a lot of marriages are shams!! with this mentality of yours, i pity whoever becomes your wife oooooo. Ladies need to pipe low on this marriage thing because of the kind of men they will end up with. I thank God i'm not the 'Marry by fire by force kind' ooo. 2 Likes |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Nobody: 1:09pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
justi4jesu: Nuh let me charge for you oh, I hot pass fire, 3000 degrees dey do me like ice water. Anyways, I think communication will solve this, negotiation should always be the first step in anything, it is only if the husband refuses to understand that she should have a rainy day personal account. If the husband finds out about a secret account, it may destroy any standing trust, and further push them both apart. Its easy, cool down and try to understand it, no fire me back oh, heat dey. |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by coderXO(m): 1:09pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
I've seen alot of posts with women that have been supportive to their men. This is the ideal situation. In such an environment where everything is shared and in the open, a man certainly has no reason to put any one else as his next of kin. Even if such was the case before they got married, he would eventually get it changed when the relationship between he and his wife has developed far deeper than anyone else in his nuclear family. This is how it ought to be. However, the problem is some of these women are something else. Their approach is that what the man brings home is for the home, but what she personally brings home is hers. So imagine a scenario like that. I pray God gives us all wisdom to deal with these sort of matters and most importantly helps us marry the right person. There are many husbands and wives today that have no business been together. |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by coderXO(m): 1:17pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
There is nothing wrong with either party having a personal savings account outside of the other persons knowledge. It only makes sense. 1 Like |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by justi4jesu(f): 1:21pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Imanuelle: Yea i guess so. overheating dey worry you abi |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Nobody: 1:26pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
nedu2000: If you knew me well you would know that I don't play that card Why don't you answer my question? If truly it is fair. The truth is she contributed because she had an expectation. Besides I knew of such situations that despite being a legal wife. It took ages for the court to rule in the woman's favour that is after spending lots of money on legal fees. If it had been her name, the brother wouldn't have had any legal standing at all. The worse they could do is to threaten her life. 1 Like |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Nobody: 1:29pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Misogynist2014:This is not about outliving, most wives outlive their husbands anyways . This is also about protecting their children's future. 1 Like |
Re: Rude Awakening: I Am Not My Husband's Next Of Kin And Beneficiary!! by Nobody: 1:32pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
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