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Ladies pls be careful.  U want to tell us in ur environ there's no lady for u to rush her into marriage.  What's ur ulterior motive?

Take this off here to the right section.

Ladies pls be careful. U want to tell us in ur environ there's no lady for u to rush her into marriage. What's ur ulterior omotive?

keep quiet, you admitted to wanting to give him your son if he paid 'backlog' as you put it?

can i ask what kind of a mother are you? i can see by your post that the dude isnt ready to be tied down, and you seriously want to tie him down, i dont believe that cock and bull story of ' doctor said i will die or loose my womb if i abort the child' bla bla bla, all your post stinks of stupidity. sorry but its the honest truth


Lie as much as you want, you still want the man, you wanna tie him down, the dude is not ready to be tied down, SO BACK OFF AND LEAVE HIM THE HELL ALONE


Thanks but I don't discussed with dumbs like u. Who think he's d only man on trouser. Don't pray it shd happened to u, sister or any connected to u.

Why does he still render threats on me?

Thx beingme (f). I did, I neva disturb him but only to get a leta fm Welfare which I failed to succumb to his pay. He now went to Ministry of Justice so dat by morrow he'll tell d son he did wanted to cater for him. He's this greedy type (aka gum) dat pretends alot.

He involved his lawyer and I also did same. I was expecting him to go to court. I took him back there to counter all his plans (it's wisdom).

forgive what
you wanted the baby he not.
he is paying for the baby what more do you want . be taking the money say thankyou and go.

He ought to have use condom rather than putting me in a tight corner (destroy my womb or die).

Why did he border taking me to welfare since he neva wanted d baby. Thank you can only be said to ppl who're poor for him to use. Thx

Thx all.

Earnestly, I appreciate ur contribution. I'll be the last woman to give my child for another woman to use has housemaid.

I am not a poor lady I only mention his earning to see his level of greed. While I was pregnant my personal house (built by me) was set on fire and he knows the place, he's my prime suspect is just dat I don't 've evidence.

We met in our former place of work, and 've been there 5yrs before he came into town from Akwa Ibom to join the Co.

I don't give a damn whether he pays or not dat's his business (l like to leave ppl to their conscience). If I was after his money I shd've been the 1st to drag him to welfare but I didn't. I've more things to channel my prayers to than to pray for him to cater for the son.

So I've no ulterior motives or mission. The only point is dat it gets me angry when he talks like a mad man (what will d son inherit from him as if he knows what my son will become in future).

YES

This is an interesting topic.

I should've been there (US) for my 1st degree but I wasn't given the visa. I have an Uncle who was ready to sponsor me. Since it's fail, I had to do my degree in Nija and am thinking of coming over for my Master.

Let me ask a question: how does it go with ppl that win lottery? At least I've an uncle who is established there.

Thanks a million. I appreciate ur contribution.

God has bless me, I've a good job.

I don't sent him with his money but I had to be wise by demanding for fees so dat by morrow he won't say he had wanted to cater for the son and I refuse.

God is always making a way for his children. U can't believe this testimony my son as a birthday mate (big shot or man). If I've issues he also assist because I had to tell him details.

More contributions needed.

We're both from Akwa Ibom

Would I've kill myself by committing abortion or destroy my womb has confirm by five (5) doctors? I had to face d shame b/cos of this 2 things.

Hello All,

Put yourself in my shoes, and what would u 've done?

I'll cut it short. I've a son with a man who right from the 1st month I told him am pregnant he urged me to abort with all kinds of threat but because my life was at stake, I had to keep d baby.

During this process my personal house was set on fire, I past thru. hell making sure I don't miss d blood. God provide d blood and gave me a lovely, handsome, beautiful baby boy.

I arrested him due to d threat when d baby was 3 months. At 5 months he took me to welfare to cater 4 d baby which we neva reach a concensus. He now went to Min. of Justice yet all to no avail. He mention DNA test and my family & lawyer insist on it first b/4 anyother thing for my son's future and safety.

Now, d baby is a yr and six months (1yr 6mths), he's of age to start School. I sent him mail to look for d School but he neva did, I checked d Sch. and now gave him d bill with my son's a/c no. to pay in the money, no reply. I took him to Min. of Justice this time around, he now insist he's paying 60% & I've to pay 40% for the fees. Feeding 5k, clothing 1k, medical 1k. He was now told medical is not inclusive dat they're not wishing d baby to be sick, he said "NO" he must pay because he doesn't want to be called upon incase d baby is ill. I don't agree to this terms. He earns 350k per month.

B/4 dis last meeting he calls me names and I gave him back also and still sent him terrible text. "His father neva train him (is mum did until he's a Mech. Engr.), could dis be nemesis". Unfortunately, d mum is late.

He said "I come to welfare anytime I want to see him" He still feels I want to use d baby to trap him. It's far from my mind. I was angry and felt I can't forgive but when I read a book by one man of God about danger in unforgiveness, I had to forgive him immediately with most of my friends who were involved.

I've move on with my life and still very happy. Could he be dat when he sees me at d welfare looking good, he's not happy? He said lots of things this last time but I gave a deaf ear. (1) I'll soon cross his line (2) What'll d son inherit from him dat he neva inherited anything from his father.

Anywhere, I make mockery of him dat d baby is a male child. He can run to anywhere dat even if we're not married he's d head full stop.

He said "he's married" thank God for him. Whether he's married or not I don't give a damn and am not interested even if he's d only man on earth, I WON'T MARRY HIM" Am from a home dat parent are happily married.

I TOLD HIM TO PAY ME ALL MY BACKLOG AND TAKE HIS SON since he's not ready to take d responsibility. He said "NO"

PLEASE GENUINE ADVISE NEEDED

Hi dear, I feel for u alot but God has a way of rewarding such men. U might feel he has married, as a baby girl he's free but just relax let God work it out for u. Forgive him so u can get ur blessings but don't let him do away with ur son. Bible says "Be wise as serpent but harmful as dove".

Am in this shoes but mind is just a yr and six months (1yr 6mths).

xxcarolxx (f) pls I'll like to discuss with you. My e-mail is confido200899@yahoo.com

Hello, pls where is this. Is it Lagos?

I am interested.

Hello, pls let me know d products and what I'll be marketing. I am interested.

Hello Woman,  the problem with we Nigerians is dat we pray alots in issues we've to think, take action and decide.  God had served u d 1st time because of your innocency and for the seek of your kids.  If u make d 2nd mistake, God may just look at U.  Continue your life as long as u've forgiven him.  If he had remorse, he won't still belittle U.  Who knows his next plan or step?  Leave him to his conscience.

Sorry my sister for this question. If u were suffering with dat children would he have come back? THINK O!!!

Hi Richard, am not trying to condemn u. Most time people don't realise what they've until d loose it, it's a common practice or principle.

U may be surprise dat God will bless her with a lovely and wonderful man that cherish her even with ur child. What I've noticed is that most men dat turns their 1st girl off with child do end up in wrong marriages.

It's still early for u to reconcile with her. All what u need is to make up for the wound u've given her and betraying her love for u.

Which one are u in more danger or at risk in marrying especially when it involves a male child or the baby in question is a boy?

Hello,

Pls nairalanders do send d website for DV-2011 for me to apply.

What's d deadline for d DV-2011?

Thx

Pls do help me with the DV-2011 Lottery website so I can apply.

Direct link

Girl, dat man do not deserve u.  Be glad and move on with ur life.

Most men proposed just to sleep with a lady or get something at dat moment.

Any man dat love u will stand no matter what he hears and then find out from u than blank u suddenly.  Permit me to say He's a play boy.

This is not to condemn u but to find out few things from u b/4 I answer.
1) Did u not love her b/4 going to open her skirt or sleep with her?
2) Do u have another girl friend which u did intend to marry?
3) What if another man shd act dis way to ur sister what will be your reaction?
4) What about d future of the innocent child?
5) What if u were in her shoes?

Please Help I Dont Love My Wife
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i used to think that love didnt matter so much in marriage but i have been proven wrong,u see i married my wife out of unpleasant conditions,she got pregrant for me and everybody was on my neck to marry her that i couldnt leave her in that state,my pastor too was on my neck to marry her,so under the pressure i got married to her and we had a blessing of marriage in the church,that day was so super a lot of peolple were so happy for us but deep down in me i knew i didnt love this woman but then could i leave her in that condition?what if another man does the same thing to my sister how would i feel?and besides i discoverd the woman loved me and i was told that with time i would come to love to her,and so i made the biggest mistake of my life and married her.
Ever since we have been married i have been a good husband to her but our marriage has been a show ,cos at home we sleep in different rooms,for about 6 mths now i have not made love with her cos i cant just dont have any desire for her anymore.i thought with time i would come to love her but the reverse has been the case,in fairness to her she has been a good wife to me but i cant do romantic things with her cos i dont love her at all and i sometimes i see her crying bitterly 4 me to love her and tried as much as i can i still dont feel anything for her i only feel a sense of responsiblty 4 her so i dont joke with her wellfare,many couples outside look up to us,some even come to us for advise (if only they knew)i am dying inside slowly,i am trapped in a loveless marriage,pls someone out there what do i do and as christains divorce is out of the issue i am so confused

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This is not to condemn u but to find out few things from u b/4 I answer.
1)  Did u not love her b/4 going to open her skirt or sleep with her?
2)  Do u have another girl friend which u did intend to marry?
3)  What if another man shd act dis way to ur sister what will be your reaction?
4)  What about d future of the innocent child?
5)  What if u were in her shoes?

Hello,

Pls what's d cost of land at Calabar?

1.  Preferrably Eight miles around Ikot Omin axis, I don't mind if it's a bit inside but must be a developed area or where ppl stays or
2.  Ikot Ishie area, Parliamentary etc.

1. He want to pay for the child's maintenance but refuse to sign paternity. 've told him to go ahead with DNA test and if there's any way to check if his blood has been mixed, he's very free to do so.

2. I can't tell what he's up to? Going for d test and signing for paternity is very important to me. God has bless me so I can conveniently take care of my baby.

3. I stick to one man at a time. I left his house b/cos he will bring in girls and push me out to stay with my cousin for a week or two on two different occasions (d/f ladies). He had planned d last one for the lady to come on Wed. (thru. midnight called) ich I heard I decided to quit on Mon. I felt his actions was to walk me out so I decided to walk out myself. Unfortunately, I didn't know I was pregnant till a week after. It's a mistake I made, but after packing I went back to "THANK HIM" that same day but he neva admit.

He was knew to town, I accommodated him. He got a house so when I quit my house (self contain)due to issues cause by him. He accommodated me.

During this period of my caring his baby, my personal apartment built by me which there was no NEPA and nobody stays was burnt. Could he be responsible?

It's quite a long story but I take it as life experience. My concern is only the male child in our midst. In my place he can neva go to court to claim a child, his family pple must meet mine not for marriage but as an acceptance and naming of the baby. Could it be pride that's disturbing d young man?

He denies d child, dat it's not his blood even when I reported it 2 his family members and pastors.  Later when he must 've discussed with ppl according to him now went 2 Welfare and Ministry of Justice to take care of the child.  He doesn't want to put it in writing that he's the father of the boy.

The issue is dat I can't leave my son in d hand of any other woman who he may later marry. His mother is late, and she's d only person I wd've left is grandson with.

He now want 2 cater for d child but doesn't want to admit d paternity (sounds funny isn't it). My question is: Shd I allow him to father my baby he still doesn't want to put the paternity in writing? 've even told him to go as far as conducting DNA Test. Even his lawyer he brought was against his action.

Hello all,

I was involved in a relationship which I noticed that d man was not serious. I backed out of it quietly by packing my prop. from his house but after a week noticed am pregnant. I informed him immediately; he opted for abortion, raises fire & brimestone.

I shd've but my womb and life was at stacked as per d/f doctors advised. I decided to leave since I've a good job and will be able to cater for the child. When d child was born I informed him but he neva bothered to check us nor even care for d child from day one.

When d child was 3 months, my in-law called him he still insists on shooting me, I arrested him. The issue now is he denied d child but now takes me to Welfare & Ministry of Justice without an acceptance to sign for the paternity. My lawyer advised me not to collect any penny without his ascertaining paternity. The baby is a very beautiful and handsome baby boy (like an American).

Meanwhile, my son is up to a yr his family has said nothing.

My prayer is God a man that will accept me with my baby. I wouldn't want any woman to maltreat my beloved son.