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From what I've read through the IELTS website,  it is just life TOEFL.  Pls am I correct?

I've a B.Sc. in Accounting but 've not work as an Accountant. I've experience as a Secretary and AutoCAD Draftman. If I apply for Secretary position won't they consider that I don't ve a certificate on it but in doing the work am OK. I can type more than 100 words per minute with minimal errors.

U know in Naija most times u 've a job in a different field far from what u read in School.

I am not exaggerating but just need ur advise.

I want to know d criteria as per age limit, if single what's d guarantee. My friend dat went left as a family.

Hello Naira,

My friend with his family has travelled through this process but he was married.

I want to fill this form, the website is (www.cic.gc.ca) which give opportunity to get Permanet Resident Card (Canada) I want to be guided b/4 I start filling the form.  I am single and a B.Sc holder (Accounting), working at the moment in Nigeria.


Pls if there's any info.  Kindly advise

2. Wait till your sister finds out. this also has it implication. the earlier she
knows the better for her. Just in case of death or health issue and your in-law
cant talk or respond, and if your sister marriage is traditional and not legal
(registry), in that capacity the person that bears child for the man will
have right to his belongings.

What if he has done nothing on dat ladies head (like traditional etc.) will she still have right? I am really concern about this lady (what a world).

U dat's saying what's ur buz.? If it were to be ur sister won't u be worried.

I know d might turn against u but if u let ur sister know d truth, it will help her also. If it were possible for u to trace d place and let her see it for herself. Ur sister can talk it over with the husband.

Pls treat has if u were in my shoes or am ur sister.

I've a child outside wedlock. The man took me to welfare but we neva come to agreement.

When it was time for the son's third term School Fees (the son is just 2yrs + now). I went to his office but he didn't want to see me and I left quietly with the baby.

He later called dat he has long term plan for the son. Is it because he knows am capable, he now want me to face the responsibilities alone all in the name of I don't have any other thing to use my money for.

I'll be the last lady to take him to court. Advise pls.

God will really help men. For God's sake if u've issues with ur wife ur blood (children) should not suffer for it.
Give them dat fatherly love.

Carolece, I can understand what u're into and how u feel.

If I shd tell u my stories u'll leave urs and be thankful to God. A man got me pregnant and abandoned me with my lovely son for 2yrs + now. It neva ended there I was called names, my dear lots of things took place but am thankful to God that am alive with my baby.

My pastor says "forgive in advance" even when the person has found it not deem to say am sorry. I sent my son's father text "dat in as much as God forgive me for sleeping with him outside wedlock, 'VE FORGIVEN HIM". Pls forgive ur sister and listen to her, blood is thicker than water.

Permit me to ask u a question - what about if u were married to him and it now took place? Thank your God u weren't married to him. 've seen it happen dat a sister had a baby and now brought d younger one to cater for the baby only for the hubby to get the sis. pregnant.

FORGIVE UR SISTER AND DAT MAN. 3 YRS IS ENOUGH your sis. has gone thru. torment and has seen her deed.

Most of U 've read my stories and given me advised which I did apply.

My son's father called after 2yrs 4mths that he has a long term plan for his baby incase he's out of the country and dat he doesn't have any probelm with me which I told him I don't also 've any problem with him.  I don't understand what he means by long term when he's not taking his responsibilities as a father now.  Any explainatn pls?

I called his co-worker which I know he's close to him to let him know a bit of what happened but only for him to tell me (my son's father) has not informed him anything.  His co-worker said he will meet me for us to talk.  My question is shd I go?   've not scandalise him because I felt he will act in a matured way for us to cater for my son amicably.


Stage 2

I've a man who just want to take me to altar soon if I say "YES".  He knows I've a son, he came when d baby was 4 mths and since we've been communicating.  It's a distance relationship.

He told me he was married and had problem which they parted after a yr.  His own point of the story "the wife neva allowed him to make love to her and she finally parked out".  My question is:  I've is home town address shd I go there and make enquiry because I wouldn't want to make mistake the 2nd time?    (2)  He has spent most of his life outside is villa (preciesly Abuja) will they know his true story?  (3) He's d only survival in his family lost all bros & sisters (6).  (3)  The mum is late, dad alive with stepmum whose children are all alive.  (4)  I will 've to change my Pentecostal to Church of Christ?

Pls geninue advise

It's a revelation.

U just have to fast and pray. U can involve ur pastor in dat after ur fasting and praying he will pray with you at the end or the moment u want to break the fast.

Use Bible portions like "I ll live to see my children & children children" I mean strong affirmations and believe she can't kill u.

Is the boy going to Cambridge?

My sister relax.
But as a parent, I would recommend this site www.childcarebay..com for more information about child reading habits, writing skills and lots more.

This is a wonderful site that ppl cares. Thx, after the 1st advise I was relax. When I read more it makes me laugh and smile the more. LUV U ALL

Thanks a million.

I appreciate ur reply. He's my first baby. He's very brilliant.

My son is 2yrs. He's in pre-nursery. He speaks very well, recite the nursery rhymes and if u fail to speak English well he will let u know it is not like dat and correct u. He's intelligent.

The only issue I've now is he still finds it difficult to write one(1). He can counts from one(1) to ten(10), do the A for apple etc. Pls what else can I do? 've tried by holding his hand severally.

I am concern because without writing he might not be allow to enter Nursery 1.

I study Accounting, work in an Engineering Co. but as a Autocad Designer in Mech. Engineering field.

I need to do my post graduate abroad. I want a course that will comprehend or combined the two. 've been told that since I ddin't practice as an Accountant and no experience it will be difficult for me in Social sciences area.

Hope u understand my plight now. Thx

Edconsult, I appreciate your concern on this issue.

I intend to study abroad but at the moment I am working as Piping Designer (with Mech. Engr.). My discipline was Accounting and I've a degree.

've been told just like I read from u dat without experience it's not going to be easy. How can I trash this issue out? Need to go for my Post graduate there.

I can't go back to rewrite WAEC for Physics and Chem. and not ready to go to 1st degree there.

Need ur advise.

Hello All,

Pls I read Accounting (B.Sc), I need to study abroad but the issue is have neva practice it. I have worked as a Piping Designer (using Autocad) for years.

I'll ve love to switch to Mech. Engr. but it will mean going to write WAEC and back to School. Arts is far off from Science how can I comprehend this pls?

I need to go for my Masters abroad?

Pls advise

I feel for you but thank God, He has touched pple already to assist u.

Don't bother God has a way of favouring his children. U'll be great but while on top don't neglect those who will be in the state dat u're now.

Look for an handwork or skill and specialise on.

I have said it. SOmething is cooking under the fire, not On the fire.

I strongly disagree with your point dat something is cooking. No babe dat something is cooking will allow his guy to work with him. Meanwhile, there's no firm in Nija dat will permit 2 pple intending marriage to work 2gether. Spencer u've to be grateful dat God has bless u with a lady dat love u dearly.

I agree with Kazey. Company policy can actually deter Spencer's girl from revealing what is going on. Her boss probably might not have given Spencer a chance simply because he doesn't want two people going out working in his place. I probably will not allow it too if I were in his shoes because you don't know the kind of pranks the two lovers might start getting up to. Beside what about corporate discipline? Do you think one will be able to take disciplinary measures on the other?

It's still a good move for Spencer. Every company in Nigeria want somebody with experience so he probably still will be jobless if his girlfriend had not arranged something for him. All he has to do now is to stay a little while and move on to another job since he now has the so called `experience ' the companies are looking for.

Spencer, a word of advice. That girl must really love you to have taken the kind of risk she took for you. My advice- hold on to her!

I agree, u've to strongly hold on to her. She's the best. After the experience u'll get a job easily go ahead and marry her. Both of u will 've to quit the job later with a beta one at hand. Kudos

ABEG, MAKE I JUST VEX HERE NOW SPOIL EVERYTHING,,,,LWKMD

U don't have to be very angry.

I am a nija babe what Spidercylinder is telling you is nothing but the truth. No woman will want to leave her child with a man. It's beta u go on with the support for him.

Why are u saying all these things "paying their house rents etc." If I may ask when u neva met d lady was his parents not footing their bills? Be wise, a step mom won't take care of ur son like the mum would've.

I have dated other so called born again or spiritually filled guys in my past that messed me up so badly and i know alot of men use this as a bait to catch women and end up showing their true colors later on.

I am a lady just as u. I've gone through this too but I want to let you know that none of them deserve u that's why it happens dat way. This doesn't mean they're not some nice ones. Pls may it neva allow you to miss your track in life.

Amos 3:3 "Can two walk 2gether, except they be agreed?" Pls am not condemning him but God first in any decision you'll make in life. Don't 4get it'll no longer be boyfriend and girlfriend issues but hus. & wife, u'll have to obey him & be submissive. Except u've sign to be an atheist.

've seen people that 've gone out with guys like this but they had evil intention. It even happen to my cousin though the man change and become a xtian but he was still evil. I am not saying yours will be same. It's just an experienced from close pple which I can't put down in details.

Be wise, he's just using u to while away time. He still loves his ex and may definitely go back. I had similar issues of which d guy now blame me am the cause of his not marrying is ex. D lady later got married while we both parted. Use ur brain and not ur emotions.

If there's anything u can do to catch him on bed with the so called daughter red handed do it.

Also suggest a DNA test and watch his re-action.

Her daughter can't come into ur house and hate u. After u've contributed to her coming to USA.

U just have to stop him if he has NOT gotten the green card yet.

BE WISE

Why did he take you to welfare?

He says he wants "to take care of his son thru. welfare".

What do you want from this guy; by this I mean not just financially; (A) for your son (B) Yourself

For my son: he has to play the role of a father and accept his responsibility and not thru. welfare" The son has an account for him to pay in whatever he has for him.

For me: am only the mother of his son. I've my life to live likewise him.

What does he want from you? I don't know he has only let me to understand dat at six yrs he will like to take his son.

Is he Local? I.e. is he physically able to see his son within reason. YES

Is either one of you still nursing plans of a getting back together? NO

Mine is from experience, my baby is a year and ten months. Am doing it all alone and I enjoy it. It was the same set-up story I got but today he goes to welfare that he want to take care of his son. But 've told him no way at welfare except u pay the money to ur son's account.

He ought to have use condom if he loves the girl he engage or stop playing planks. Nija men na wa -o. U've a serious girl why going outside again?

Girl accept ur mistake of knowing he has a serious babe but u still put ur head. Live ur life, a man who love U will still marry you with the child.

why disturbing the man when u can handle this issue?

He took me to welfare and not me. Pls who is disturbing who?

I am a single mother, 've a baby boy of a year and ten months with a man. He took me to welfare but we never come to terms on the son's welfare.

Finally, he went back to welfare Dec. 2009, I should come and collect the son's complete School Fees which earlier he wanted to pay 60% & I shd pay 40%.

I am working and earning more than N100,000.00 a month. Due to what transpired previously at welfare and his saying he wants to pay N5,000 - Feeding, N1,000 - Clothing, N1,000 - Medical.

Option1: I have told him point blank even if he pays N1m at welfare am not ready for it again through a text message.

Option 2: If he pays in the money to his son's account, I'll use it.

Hope am in the right track?

U just 've to keep your baby and forget about the guy. What will not be, will not be. Live ur life and accept your mistakes. If you're working, reserve your energy and take care of yourself and baby.

@poster he is still alive and he brought you to this world,that is nature not tradition,play your rule as a daugther and bring your real Father in,your grandpa only helped and not your Father.If he is dead,bring his brother(s) to hand you over to your husband ans not your grandpa.

Bible even curse such a man (A man dat can't provide for his family is worst than an infidel).  Still alive but neva knew she need to eat, cloth, go to school and 've all the necessary things from him as a father.  Let's face the fact and get tradition behind us.  Did tradition made him to abandon her when she needed him most.

No matter they issues he had with her mum, he had no right to turn his back from her for d past 25yrs.

I'll advise ur grandpa should give ur sister out. It shows she appreciate all what he has been doing for her and give him dat respect. Let him take all what would've been given to ur dad.

Hello NL,

Pls I need a job urgently has a Piping or AutoCAD Designer. I am working presently but no pay for the past six (6) months so it's just like not doing anything.

I am in PH but I'll also need contact in Lagos or any other states.

Thx 4 ur concern.

Please where is the location?