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Baby mama: Why am I not surprised
Coogar defending sagamite
Birds of the same plumage

just because we are both igbo does not mean i won't criticise your wrongdoing. kpachara anya'ngi. i think you need to send him a private apology - just my 2 pennies.

dinachi: @ Coogar, that is why I call most of the here fake feminists! They cannot stand the implementation of what they espouse.

it's the internet......
anyone can claim to be anything. even the ones beaten & bruised on a daily basis by their male partners do come here to claim they rule their house. don't take what most people say here as the gospel truth.

Baby mama: Coogar you need to follow the main character of this thread like twitter
He needs to take you under his tutelage

heaven forbid it.....

i don't take lessons of life from deluded & disillusioned ruminant animals like the writer. if it's taken him that long to rediscover himself then he's a failure at whatever he does.

then again, you didn't answer my question. if a woman hits you & you hit back, does it make you a misogynist? stop bandying the word when you don't know jack about me.

i was just reading your spat with sagamite a moment ago & i saw you calling him a misogynist. it's painfully apparent that you think anyone that questions the sanity of some black women is a misogynist.

byvan: I Thought Cougar is an Easternooooo!! This sentence funny die,abeg palaleloglam sounds better.

i am from enugu.....
everyone knows this - i told you babymama is confused. that's what excess jollof rice & isi ewu do to people.

dademola: wot about his abysmal stats as a center foward for the 3 lions??

his stats is not abysmal!
welbeck does a lot of covering for 3 lions. people praise rooney's hardwork but there's no english forward with welbeck's workrate.

he's dispossessed more opponents than any other english striker i know. this is why SAF, hodgson, etc rates him. if he's not a poacher like hernandez or owen, don't talk about his stats.

yellowpawpaw: Baby mama, u r a genius!
So Coogar can be tamed afterall?
Not to worry, anytime d knot loosened, I will contact u.

Whao! Unbelievable!
I still prefer him to others though.
He never curses his opponent unless the opponent started it.

tamed? lolololol
you call mistaken identity taming? ok then. yellowpawpaw is also callotti. you have been tamed.

byvan: The writer's pattern seems different enough but he definitely sounds like Coogar,i don't see anything wrong in returning a slap, even if it was dished by a lady.

Don't hit a lady but not when she hits you first.

thank you, lady byvan.
these are the feminists i respect, not mgbeke breeds like babymama & someone i refuse to mention.

ileobatojo: Abeg shift with your jokes jare and allow me shut down any ideas that I have any dealings with you beyond what happens publicly on these pages.

Good God! Do I really look that desperate or gullible? Why would anyone even think I'm 'searching'?

It didn't take this thread for me to know that when Coogar says "good morning", I must look outside to make sure the sun is actually rising. Abeg o.

**Disregard if it wasn't me being referred to.**

what is this one saying? where was it written that you are searching? do you people read upside down? babymama is stuck with mistaken identity & you are talking piffle about what nobody said. i think you need to lie down.

dinachi: Classic! They now attack OP because she dared to denounce feminism as impractical and injurious to marriage!

As per you post I corrected, was just trying to prove a point. No offense intended.

you have nothing to prove....
even women know feminism is the root cause of broken homes. something has to give if the laws keep getting stretched to favour women. i can bring out stats but it would be a waste of cyberspace over-flogging what is obvious.


i can actually understand caucasians buying into this feminist movement, it's the africans that i pity cos they now have what i call an identity crisis. an african woman wants to be western & african at the same time. i keep asking them which is which?


seriously, i would support their feminist cause if african women abolish traditional wedding. western women don't ask their men to prostrate & spend millions of naira on a wedding. an african woman should not complain if i call her father by his first name instead of addressing him as sir, chief, igwe or whatnot. she should not complain if i don't attend or my only gift to her dad's 60th birthday is a £1 greeting card.


what's more?
an african woman must not throw temper tantrums or quote bible scriptures if i come back from work on a friday night & head to a strip club to stick pound notes in red satin panties. these are the little perks western men get to enjoy with their feminist western wives whilst african husbands get nothing. once the equation is balanced then i am up for feminism.

dademola: elampiro is just.......!! As for welbeck, he appears to hav found his scoring boots- we can attribute it to him playing centrally, and staying behind after training so as to improve on his finishing. There's still room for improvement though..

let's be honest - welbeck's stats last season were skewed because he operated mostly as a winger. he was decent for sunderland on loan & he improved greatly in 11/12 season.

then lord fergus stuck him on the wing last season & his numbers nose-dived. the media got on his case & he lost his confidence. the more a striker plays in his natural position, the better he would get.

ileobatojo: Da heck? No way it could be me.

you mean jazz can't work on you?

zamua: And what is your issue with Anambra people?

no problem with them...
i used to think life was hard until i heard an anambra girl pronounce parallelogram

Baby mama: Hahahaha
Is that what you told her?
Ok
Your secret is safe

who? you mean ileoba??
nah, i just wore my ring & gave her a pat on her back & she followed me.

Baby mama: I joined NL in 2006,I have known him here a while

you are just typing cos you like the colour of your prints. i am not who you think i am...... stop wasting my time & prove why you think i am a misogynist.......

if i was slapped by a guy & i retaliated, would that have made me a misandrist? babymama, i warned you to stop misusing a word you clearly don't understand. biko, you can do better than this.

abi you are from anambra?

elampiro: Jones is already being listed as one of Man United top 5 players this season (half season appraisal). That's from his midfield role 'cos most of his games are from there.

please, stop yearning opata...
jones isn't a midfielder. he's a very good defender if partnered with one of smalling or evans. carrick is our best midfielder by a distance, not jones or the heart attack football you seem to love.

[quote author=Re-Learning]Greensboro. Have you been here before?[/quote]yes.....
i have been to greensboro. UNCG to be exact, back in the days.

ileobatojo:

No wonder his take on threads about abuse always have K leg.

"No one messes with my ego and goes unhurt".

Sounds very Coogar-like to me.

even a goat must see the differences in the 2 posters osisi is linking. the writing patterns & the storyline are way different.

Baby mama: Hahahaha
Is that what you've been telling the ladies
That you joined NL in 2011

For those interested ,this is that thread

https://www.nairaland.com/130768/marry-guy-hits/5#2206560

hahahaha
i get you now - you surely think i am jackal. oh, poor you. i am not in anyway related or know who he is. babymama, you failed!!!

Baby mama: Then you continued

stop your hyper-delusion with linking someone else's story to mine. can you not see the username of the poster you are quoting?

see me see wahala - you must lack vitamins A.

Skinni10ne: Schooled? Are you sure you know the meaning. Your posts had nothing to do with the original article/topic, you went from court is anti men to posting an article of the court helping two men. You didnt answer any of my questions directly. You even proved my point that men arent just slapped with handcuffs, that there are warnings by your own personal story in the uk where you claim its bad.

simply because there were witnesses. in most cases of domestic violence, it's usually her words against his.

Schooled? Im waiting for my summary, u never answer question, what specific field cuz the field of law is very diverse.

i can write everything you know about law on a grain of rice.

Baby mama: I don't wish to embarrass you but I hate it when people tell lies
It wasn't hard to find that story
You told it many times and now you are changing it to say the woman slapped you
Here
Deny it

so coogar is jackal?
how do these stories even correlate? i got slapped in a lecture class when arguing football with a classmate. this story is someone else in a restaurant & no cops were called here.

babymama, are you high?

Skinni10ne: Ok summarise. Which field or are you gonna do all fields?

Sir, stop googling. Lol

ok, ma'am.
i would stop googling but be grateful you have been schooled in the discipline you probably spent $100,000 to get it's degree by someone who did engineering.

ileobatojo: Lol! It's "Nairalandese".

So which of all these new monikers springing up all over the place are you?

i have always been coogar....
i don't need another moniker to air my thoughts out. men like me don't hide under a cloak to stick my fingers in the eyes of online adversaries.

babymama must be talking about someone else.

ileobatojo: Phew!

So, you're a polymonikerer?

what is polymonikerer?
wetin you dey talk?

Skinni10ne: Evening? Its afternoon where i am lol! And im done. He doesnt know the law, just tv.

i can summarise everything you studied about law on one page.

@cooger

And i do know what a VAWA is, that was mistype. Like i said before ur going by google, tv and hearsay. It needs evidence and history of acts.

go & read about VAWA before we can even talk about how men get shortchanged with stüpid laws that have destroyed most families.

Baby mama: Coogar is an intelligent man but these misogynistic tendencies of his are quite disturbing
He once confessed he slapped a woman and I wasn't surprised
I remember the thread where a woman was being spat on by her husband
None other than Coogar argued on his side

a woman slapped me, i retaliated.
she called the cops. i stood my ground & i countercharged. luckily for me, she did the slapping before 30 witnesses. she got arrested as well & started crying.

feminism(which you champion) is about equality. you slap someone & you got slapped back. i cannot see any inequality in my action. she dropped charges on the spot & i did the same. we were both warned & were free to go.

Skinni10ne: The only reason i spoke about my field was because you stated i should be factual about my utterances. I gave you my field to give you a background of my knowledge and now ur asking to leave my discipline out the door. Ur Personal attacks? Cheap!

i don't need to know your knowledge background, i have put more qualified professionals like you to the sword on this very subject - so the personal attacks ain't cheap.

How do you live in britain and think you know more about america than i do? Its quite hilarious really. VAMAs need evidence.

because, my dear, 2 of my siblings stay in america & i get to visit them from time to time.

I would like you the link the case of the black woman.

VAWA has a "compulsory arrest' clause, which means that in several US states if a woman complains her male partner has hit her the police must cuff him whether there is evidence of assault or not. ask your colleagues who are divorce lawyers about this clause. if you don't even know what VAWA is, how can you level with me in this discourse?

And then you go back to uk (from the u.s) international law informer.

injustice against men is the same in america & the united kingdom.

You do not seem to be understanding what im saying for some reason. Dont men have ball.s, if the court issues an order, the man can bring his own paternity test. You seem to lack critical thinking.

what is the essence of a paternity test when the man has been kicked out? he's been reported to have abused the child, his paternity test will not remove the order, my dear lawyer.

The article you posted is a sad case, and fee which is why it news. The court did the right thing. The mother is at fault, one court case cannot be used to generalize all

it's not a sad case - it happens everytime. the only reason we are hearing about this is because of the amount of money the guy has spent on the case. 82 court orders & the woman won't budge - if that was a man, you can bet your bottom dollar he would be in prison by now for bringing the court to contempt.

ileobatojo: Abeg is Dayokanu in the right thread? Cos he seems to be discussing a different topic entirely out of the blue from the one at hand here.

As for Coogar, there are no words.

ileoba is alive?
merry christmas - i came by & i was told you went to the forest to pluck my special leaves for the concoction i told you about. when will it be ready?

Baby mama: Nobody is arguing here that women are saints
But a man is 10 times more likely to be a criminal than a woman
That is just pure fact
A man is more likely to harm anyone than a woman

that's a lie.....
a woman is more likely to harm anyone than men. there are 2 other categories a woman can harm apart - children & men.

men don't report cos it's a stigma to even admit a woman slaps me around so the statistics does not truly reveal what goes down. in the kids category, women abuse kids more than men - dispute that!!!

Skinni10ne: If you believe reality TV, then sir I dont know what to say to you.

if reality TV is not to be believed, then perhaps i should believe fiction.

I studied law. The police does not just take men to jail and give them restraining orders, there is a process. They do keep records but the first time is usually a warning. Sometimes the women take back what they said (it takes the police sometimes s few hrs to get to a domestic case) and refuse to give statements.

which law did you study?
please - leave your discipline out of the door before you comment or else anything you say shall/will be used against you.

restraining order can be issued - it depends on what lie the woman must have told. the woman that forced her daughter to lie against her father is still walking the streets free while the husband has spent 22 years in prison. the police did not investigate nada before putting him in prison. the daughter is now grown & has now confessed she was forced to lie - the man is yet to be released.

interestingly, the liar is a black woman.

I hope you're not going by hearsay, these statements ur repeating are not urs but a perception that occassionally talked about by those who have never witnessed or being in that situation.

says the law graduate that does not police have the powers to arrest on the spot(without an arrest warrant) if a woman claims she's been abused. do you even know what VAWA is?

Sir, they do they are called court ordered paternity tests.

court ordered paternity tests? lololol you must be kidding. women refuse those court orders & the law is incapable of doing shyte against them.

read this..... http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/10505235/Father-refused-access-to-daughter-despite-82-court-orders.html

Ur straying away from the question, again. The men know its their child, why are they not taking them from abusive women since they are the reaponsible ones out of the two. Since the women are irresponsible and abusive why arent the men saving their children?

no man knows this....
only a woman can tell whose father is whose kid. the men can't save their kids cos they have been restrained from seeing them. will a man see his kid if he's serving 10 years in prison?

You said it had to do with men, or did i misununderstand. You said women should not be given custody and they raise the angry black men, so binaries? Right? Women/men. So the men should take custody, right? Or should the children be put in a home? Which directs me to my question, yet again...

yes, children(after a certain age) tend to do better with single fathers than single mothers.

Since the woman is irresponsible and abusive why arent the men saving their children?

try saving a child while you are homeless, locked in prison or slapped with a restraining order. it's easy to do, innit?

there are no excuses like restraining orders, thise are very few cases. Many single fathers are walkig around free and are able to see their children at any time.

they are not few - it's a norm if domestic violence is reported. almost a million restraining orders are issued each year in the US.

dayokanu: ^^ Its a known fact that a woman gets away with more.

Baby mama you can get any man in jail within 5mins with just crying on the phone.

Classic example Tiger Woods was cheating the wife beat him up badly. No one talks about the beating its all about the cheating

Lets twist it that assuming it was Mrs Woods that was caught cheating and Tiger beat her up badly What would the theme of the story be? Cheating or domestic abuse?

she won't answer that.....
watch any episode of cheaters where a man has cheated on his partner - you see the woman slapping the man around with the man defending himself - such gesture is cool & accepted!

however, when the reverse is the case the man can only whine & cry on camera. women are more violent than men. they abuse kids more than men & the law allows them to get away with it.

Baby mama: Oya Coogar more statistics since u love them

the statistics is null & void because women hardly go to prison in the UK. besides, men who suffer dog abuses from women don't report them to the authorities.

it's not manly for any bloke to admit he's been beaten by a woman. however, if you look at the violence committed against kids, women came tops.

that's your food for thought!

[quote author=Re-Learning]This is my first time on this site. I am 35 from America. I live North Carolina. I've been here most of my life. I found this site after googling a relationship topic. Feminist threads came up and I wanted to post my own experience.[/quote]i am starting to believe you.
where in NC are you? durham, greensboro or charlotte?

Baby mama: You want facts
Then say them all
Over 90% of criminals of all cadre are males
Over 90% of women killed are killed by men
0ver 90 of rapeests,child molesters and the vilest creatures on earth are males
Name any crime you hear about,the perpetrator is always male
So why should you be surprised that most divorces are initiated by women

why won't it be so when women hardly go to jail. they have their hormones & emotional flashes to blame. even when all that fails, the court see them as nurturers and the kids would suffer if the women are sent to jail.


in 2013 alone, about 20 female teachers slept with kids(their students) in the UK. none of them went to prison because somehow the court feels it would do their children more harm. men & women both have equal natural disposition to be violent & commit crime.

Baby mama: Coogar has some misogynistic tendencies himself

of course, any man that tells a woman where to stick it is misogynistic in your eyes. don't misuse the word if you don't understand what it means.

Skinni10ne: Lets not use reality television or media as references.

why?
because those things were plucked out of a pig's arse? right?

A man who is a legal citizen, paying his taxes, doing right and doing his part does not get a restraining order from their child unless he commited a criminal act. The court and the law are not stupid.

what has tax paying & citizenship gotta do with getting slapped with a restraining order? all the woman has to say is she feels threatened or she was threatened. please, be factual in your utterances.

Even if theyre 'thugs' the court still gives them a chance as long as there is no evidence he commited a criminal act against the mother and/or child.

except that the police don't need a compelling evidence to walk a man out of his house if his wife rings them up. her claim is sufficient enough & if she sticks with her story, the man might even be jailed.

The court sometimes even gives the father options of keeping the child on certain days if he wants to, however, a lot of men dont want the children. They dont care about their children. Its one thing to hate the mother but another to hate an innocent child that has your blood.

in very rare cases would you see the father taking custody. those are in the cases where the woman is using drugs or has a thick record of violent crimes in the past.

And mind you, The court has to have a valid paternity test for the above to even happen.

no they don't....

Tbh, you really didnt answer the question...
If the men really care, why do they wait for the women do the paternity tests?

should there even be a paternity test if the woman is faithful? you mean these women get räped in their sleep they don't know how their pregnancy came by? what about asking why women don't own up when they commit adultery?

According to you and a lot of men, these black men are better than black women...meaning they are responsible men. Why dont they take the children for paternity tests as responsible men ([s]who do not suffer from identity crisis and know what they want unlike black women[/s]) would and fight for their kids in court against the abusive black women?

the facts are out there.
70% of all divorces are initiated by women. 83% of child custody goes to the mother. by quite a distance, women are the ones raising these angry black men. so i ask again - what has it gotta do with men?

Baby mama: This was the writer's post about his father before you go on with conjectures

and you want me to believe what a disillusioned loser like that writer? hahahaha.

He impregnated his mother and moved on to another woman
He was irresponsible
At 8 from a pay phone he declared the child may not be his from a feeling he got

that's the story he was told by his mom. black women always have something to say about absent dads. he's lucky he wasn't even told his father died.

This is the child himself speaking not the mother. But somehow you must twist it to blame a woman who was abandoned with a child she story pugged to raise in his absence

i know that was the child speaking but how factual is his story? isn't his what he was told by his mum? how could he have known what happened before he was born? these women don't even realise they shoot themselves in the foot saying vile things about their partners.

byvan: ;DI am very sure that Coogar of all people knows that I know that he knows who .

i don't have a clue.

the OP's style of writing is very good & kind of unique. i dunno anyone who write this way here but then i don't know many things. i don't even know kulyie's gender.

byvan: Yes!a poster with several monikers .

who??