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toshmann: It's no myth, there's a special woman for Everyman. You will never know until you meet the one.

There's a girl somewhere that you are compatible with, could love and be trusted and vice versa. Just that most women and men miss that partner. It's myth. My fathers generation was the last to enjoy this privilege randomly. In my generation, it's just a few guys that get lucky with marriage and have relatively "easy" marriage. But it's no myth. I'm old enough to educate younger adults on this issue.

Even Hitler had that one and just before suicide he granted her her greatest wish.

When you find the one and she feels the same, don't dull please. Fly away with her. Because you may end up looking for something like that for the rest of your life, and never find it. You wonder why some men get up and leave one day.

toshmann: What women don't know is that inside the heart of EVERY man there is a spot for true love. It takes the right woman to bring it out and soften even the hardest Pharaoh.

ajetunde: Will that solve her problem? It could worsen things as a matter of fact. Remember the hubby "cares about this lady". Doing that will send them straight to each other's arms and they may LIVE happily ever after

You've got absolutely no single clue about men. None at all

angelhair: Your just mean

angelhair: A while ago, I discovered my husband was having an affair. It wasn't a short term roll in the hay it was more of a relationship with another Lady.

Well to cut the long story short after all the trouble, the separation the quarrels and the tears and begging for forgiveness, we decided to give it another shot.

We moved on with our lives , until last week when I tried to use his phone and found a suspicious received call. Then I discovered he was still in contact with her. now this lady has moved on, she's married now and has a child and is fearful for her own marriage cos I did threaten her about telling her husband what she was up to, so I'd doubt she will try.

So I asked him, dude what is all this about? From our discussion I realized that their relationship wasn't just sexual that he loved her and now he has a hard time letting go of her.


It is tough for me you know. I told her if he loves her, he can go to her and I'll be fine. He says he doesn't but I know he's lying, I know he loves her cos I cld tell he was pained when he realized she was getting married.

It's all really depressing right now, should I give him space to get over it cos he keeps calling her just to talk to her. Honestly right now, I'm tired, I'm about to give up.

Baba Oyo: Around 9am on Saturday, my son had asked for the 10th time if he could use his mum's car since we both have an "owambe" to attend later that morning.
And for the 10th time it was still a NO!
He jokingly told me how cabs could tear & rumple his "expensive TM shirt".....that got me a bit but, I still am not a supporter of flashing material things to impress ladies.....not a fan of that at all.
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I asked around what time he was going to see his new girlfriend, thought maybe we could work something out on his "transport palaver", and he said around 2pm.....well, that time can't work for me to drop him off....young man O.Y.O lo wa o!!.
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I got back around 6pm & he was in his room playing West-Life again!!!
Not to seem too curious how the day went, I just ignored and decided to give him time to "come down from his cloud".
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After dinner , with the ladies watching "their Mexican romance TV series", he came to my room with his "expensive TM shirt", he showed me the back & said "dad see how dirty this shirt is? You see how cabs can mess up someone's life"? I laughed & told him that next time he should go with a handkerchief, and make sure he wipes all cab seats before resting his back on the seat....that's how we did our own "fine boy" back then.....you keep wiping everywhere before u seat....lollll.
I finally asked him how it all went and he smiled....."daddy, I no dey carry last", and before I could figure what that was supposed to mean, he told me he took her to an eatery!!
I believe the eatery is a bit expensive as I have been there with my wife a few times, I kept quiet on that so I can get the rest of the jist.....who no like better jist?
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He went on to tell me how the girl came almost 1hr later & she was in company of her little brother.!!! I laughed inwardly, taking note of the fact that I already think the girl is cautious enough to have gone along with someone!!
He told me they just talked on "general stuffs" and school talk.
The girl is in 100l already & she is 18!!!!
"Did you tell her how old you are?" I was so curious, all he did was shake his head, to mean no!!
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I realised he had made a lot of efforts for a while to date the girl and the girl had constantly refused him because she wanted to gain an admission first before having a boyfriend! That makes "two points" for her already in my books.
For a while he talked about how she is a soccer fan, how they both love Barcelona, how the girl asked for his nickname so her sister can make a customised jersey for him when coming from "wherever", and he made one last remark before leaving my room.....Daddy, te ba ri omo yen, e ma like e , Daddy Mo try!! (Dad if you see this girl, you will surely like her, I really tried)
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When he left & I was alone, some things came to my mind.......
1. I think that eatery was an expensive one and I believe he wants to start his dating on a high scale, I would want to know his choice of place on the second don't to know what standard he wants to deal with....I don't want to encourage an expensive style of outing!!
2. I believe the girl has some moral standards by bringing her kid brother along, that says a lot about her kind of person!
3. In my opinion, an 18yr old girl will be a step more matured than a 17yr old boy, that's another advantage.....been silly together in their choices will be minimal.
4. I still am happy he has chosen a girl with "some class".....I mean a lady who's has soccer affinity with Barcelona sure has taste for good & quality stuffs....lollll....that's my soccer mind o!!!
5. I will definitely be meeting her soon, as I won't want to encourage going to spend money on a date each time they have to see, yea, she is welcome in my house, if she wants to come!!!
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By the way, the girls name is FOLASHADE

ileobatojo: I would probably derive enjoyment from that if it were to happen, yes.

How does the bolded equate to saying consequences of sex are the same for boys and girls? Olodo rapata, oju eja lo mo je! Again put up direct quote or admit you're dense!

ileobatojo: Sisi, kudos of having the strength to type out a full explanation. So, to Coogar and any other person with comprehension issues, see this post for the full explanation of what I've been saying.

Aliens maybe?

ileobatojo: And you really believe that the drivel you just posted is what I'm saying despite the fact that my actual point is as clear as day? Stunning.

Olodo, can you show me where I ever compared or equated the consequences? If you can't post a direct quote can you at least admit you're a dunce?

ileobatojo: Huh? Then what is the meaning of this pointless statement from you?

I have no idea what you are talking about. The thread had moved on to being all about hypocrisy so I only came in to point out the most glaring hypocrisy that was being ignored. I never said 17yr olds shouldn't date.

ileobatojo: So basically none of your girlfriends as a teenager were well trained? I wonder what that says about your class and taste.

You tell us. How did you do it when you were a teenager?

*Don't forget to ignore me o. Remember you've been warned by Jenny*

bukatyne: So all the girls falling prey were not well trained?
I laugh in Spanish!
By the way, define what it means to be a prey!

yellowpawpaw: Mr coogar,u dex vex o! Take am easy naw! Do u hv younger sis them and female cous them?
Chei!I de fear for them cos big bro will skin them alive if they miss their steps.
Let me hope dat this is not d real u cos u will get hbp worryin abt them doin it right. ur baby gals included too.pls take am easy. C energy.u r right and mostly on point in most of ur posts sha.

bukatyne: Biola,

If boys are not discouraged from indiscriminate sex, they will keep sleeping with girls who have been well 'brought up' except if you want homosexuality to increase.

Look at it this way:

If A doesn't train his son properly, his son might look for a smart way to sweet talk your well trained daughter into doing something wrong and vice versa.

Afam4eva: Was Micheal Adebolajo a product of a leaked condom? But see what he turned out to be. Don't most criminals in Nigeria have mothers and fathers?

Afam4eva: Was Micheal Adebolajo a product of a leaked condom? But see what he turned out to be. Don't most criminals in Nigeria have mothers and fathers?

yellowpawpaw: I saw him peein one day.also dat place always look big kind of anytime we r together.
My mum lvd dat guy very well but I told her why I can't marry him. C d gap ss3 and after uni but I still d fear.

Afam4eva: Who're are you to tell him that he's making the wrong choice. It's his life and he know what's best for his life.
And what bearing does the London terrorist have on this?

Afam4eva: I'm not arguing against the fact that the woman has extra baggage. I'm only against terming her irresponsible because of her past. Children or no children, the man has a good reason for wanting to marry and he must hacve weighed the situation he's getting into.

adaobi123: IMO, dont marry the girl. Dont want any baby daddy problems

armyofone: Thank goodness for little mercy hope it has not shrivel from too much chopulation .

Afam4eva: Says who? The constituton?

ileobatojo: Ehen? That's what makes me 'segzy'!

Go and sleep jor, you're a village tout! Did you attend your market square meeting today? Or were you in the pit latrine when the town crier came through announcing the meeting?

Afam4eva: And where is it written in the constitution that you should not have a child outside wedlock else you'll beCome irresponsible.

Afam4eva: Having sex with someone you're not officially married to?

ileobatojo: Go and sit down! Bush meat! Agbero!

ileobatojo:
#The actions of a true village goat!

Afam4eva: You're not making much sense. If you had said it's irresponsible to sleep with someone you're not married to, it would have made some sense. But here you're telling me that you can sleep with as many men as possible like an ashewo but don't get pregnant. WTH is that?

Afam4eva: Maybe our parents should have also connected a pipe to suck out all our sperm so that we don't impregnate someone and make them irresponsible.

ileobatojo: Ahem...*cough*...*cough*

Afam4eva: Shouldn't NOT HAVING SEX = RESPONSIBLE

So, what if the CD breaks and she gets pregnant? That changes everything? I never knew that a day will come when preventing sperm from going into you will be termed responsible.

Afam4eva: Does it make a difference that she's pregnant. What if her sexcapades with men didn't come with the baggage of having kids. Would he have been responsible then? So, she's irresponsible because she became pregnant and not because she slept with men.

Afam4eva: So, decency is calculated based on how many children you have? Do you know how many people the ladies without children have killed? You don't judge decency because someone probably made a mistake sometime in their life.

It's not for you or any member of your family to determine who your brother should marry. He has a good reason for wanting to marry the lady.

Vikin: Yes sir! Reporting

goldplated: please please please please please pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!