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igaro: Recently, I gave a strict warning at home that no light must be on whenever there is nobody in the particular room (Prepaid meter blues). One evening, I saw the maid's light on and muttered, 'these people no dey hear word ' and entered to switch it off only to see the maid in her naked glory towelling both her huge 'twin peaks' (she' about 20 yrs with a crazy physique for a local girl)...Quickly I froze, apologized and chastised her there why she couldn't shut the door. She just smiled and said 'sorry sir'. Since then she's been giving me some stupid coy looks, and looking for every opportunity to sweep my room whenever my wife isn't home etc etc. Should i just tell my wife what happened?, Should I fire her because of this her new funny attitude? Or Should I simply ignore and play along o? huhhh!

fire her for what?
let things play out - don't tell your wife yet. the next time she comes into your room to sweep, stay there and pretend you are doing something else. you need to be sure what she's up to before sending her back into the black sea of unemployment. i am 96% sure it's your grotesque imagination playing tricks on you - housemaid of 20 giving you coy looks? get out of here, you philandering coyote!

the nigerian health system is a disgrace......
what were the doctors waiting for after 36 weeks was completed? giant of africa my foot!!! too many educated people in the country and yet no common sense. a woman was pregnant for 25 months and the doctors didnt think of splitting that belly apart and saving the baby after she's due? no wonder an official said half a million expectant mothers die in nigeria annually!

bebrief: Do you doubt the fact that Mr Oscas Pistorius murdered his girlfriend If you do, then it's a shear waste of time discussing with you!

i doubt he murdered her. shooting her does not mean he murdered her. go and learn the difference between murder and manslaughter?

And I am amazed how you have never mentioned the late Reeva in your entire "argument", which I pass for as baseless. I can't but wonder how people, like you, have so less a regard for human life...

because unlike you, i don't attach emotions to critical issues. reeva is dead, may her soul rest in peace. however, reeva's death does not make pistorius a murderer. he's guilty of manslaughter and the illegal possession of a firearm - charge him for that and stop the charade already.

StarBoard: Coaches lose games all the time, home and away. Nothing new. Coaches endure winless streaks. Nothing new as well. It's the way you lose that bothers. How about home losses to bottom sides?
Next.

if managers lose games all the time then why are the daggers out to skewer benitez's flesh? you are strengthening my point - benitez played his best tactic available against man city.....chelsea won a penalty, lampard missed it and yet benitez should be blamed for lampard missing a penalty? is lampard so sacred that he cannot be criticised for letting chelsea lose a vital game? this is exactly what i said about lampard weeks ago when people say he's great cos he's scored 15 million goals in his career.....sheer number of goals mean shyte if those goals don't come when the team needs them the most.

Selective arguing.
A Champions League win and FA Cup triumph in the space of 4 months doesn;t count as sterring the ship right? Laughable.
Remember Chelsea were effectively out of the League race when he was appointed.
Your Special One Incarnate AVB managed to ruin Chelsa in less than six months and keep them at the brink of Champions league elimination after the shambles in Napoli.
Are you forgetting so easily?

you are the one struggling with your memory to know if villas-boas didnt navigate chelsea through the group stage and through the earlier rounds of the fa cup, di matteo would have won nothing. it's a fallacious statement to say di matteo won 2 competitions in 4 months - it's the logic of a simpleton. seeing that di matteo couldn't even qualify chelsea in the group stage this season, it raises some doubt about his competence. there's no empirical evidence di matteo could have done it all by himself in a full season.

What exactly is your point?How do you intend to succeed when you have so many people praying for you to fail,players inclusive,given that you practically gave them a reason to loathe you? The fans have been protesting, apparently the deranged owner and the arrogant coach are to blind to see it or pretend not to notice.

which then goes to show it's not benitez's fault that chelsea are underperforming! there are mitigating factors. he's not loved by the players and fans.

Funny.
Benitez didn't start playing 4-2-3-1, yet he as a coach who replaced the custodian of the system can't do anything to rectify the situation.Interesting.
So why then is he the coach?To warm his fat a$$ and collect a paycheck equal to his obese girth? Try as hard as you want,you CANNOT dismiss RDM's achievements in a short span. Lucky or not, the records speak for themselves.

what records speak for themselves - do you have any empirical evidence to show di matteo would have qualified chelsea from the group stage last season? did he not win those competitions on the back of villas-boas achievements last season?

It's also true that Chelsea lost to Corinthians in Japan and Swansea at home in the Capital One Cup.

no thanks to di matteo - built a horrible squad, bought too many similar players. until benitez's arrival, torres was the only recognised striker in the team. compare that to chelsea's rivals pushing for the title. united have 4 strikers, city had 4 strikers till super mario moved in january. what's rafa meant to do when he inherited an unbalanced team?

Kindly keep the discussion within the limits of argument, which is whether or not Rafael Benitez has improved Chelsea's results.
Mancini was never sacked in November so we'll never know.
Jose Mourinho is playing God in Madrid and rightfully deserves what he is getting.
You just expect us to believe that it's just like that in European leagues?As simple as that?

he was never going to improve chelsea's results - i said that much when he was hired. the team he inherited is unbalanced. not even fergie would do wonders with this team. it's a transitional season and too many mistakes were made by rafa's predecessor. hopefully, those mistakes would be rectified in the summer when quality strikers who are not cup-tied can join chelsea.

The fact is Benitez has not improved Chelsea and therefore as a replacement for RDM is as undeserving as manger of CFC as anything can be.
You're canvassing for Benitez to be given a full season. But RDM as a winner of two major competitions wasn;t and you feel Benitez should be given same in spite of his embarrasing results. FACT:RDM has a better record than Benitez. Let's debate that instead of throwing up scenarios that aren't connected to this situation.

rafa benitez has won 2 league titles and 1 uefa cup in spain, won the champions league title with liverpoool, won fa cup with liverpool amongst other continental and intercontinental competitions. what record has di matteo have over benitez? are you shyting me? di matteo? he's an average manager - he cannot even clean the boots of roberto martinez, harry redknapp or even steve clarke!

i think you people's logic is distorted - when di matteo took over from villas-boas, he inherited 2 completions in champions league and the fa cup(the league was out of reach by then to be honest). when benitez took over from di matteo, he inherited only the fa cup and the carling cup. the champions league and the premier league were out of reach too. so what's the comparison? di matteo finished 6th in the league, rafa is currently at 4th.

[quote author=Mr_TA]Bale just smashed all those goals up, sorry Rafa. [/quote]bale just shot on target n scored, that's after 2-3 touches to set himself. berba's ball was dropping from a height and the tekkers to hit that ball on target at that angle is outstanding! i played football too and i know 9.9 out of 10 times, the ball goes well over the bar attempting such.

infolekan: Don't understand where coogar is coming from. There's no Nigerian mentality involved in all these. There's more to it than is being bandied around. Is being paranoid an excuse for murder? He KILLED someone for crying out loud. Unless he's being comittted to a mental facility,then he should at least be tried for manslaughter.

that's the point - he should be punished for manslaughter and illegal possession of a firearm. premeditated murder? that's a bit harsh for someone who just lost a loved one. being paranoid cannot be an excuse for murder but it can be for manslaughter.

And his career will definitely take a serious blow or hit or whatever you want to call him. Doubt any reasonable company will touch him even with a long stick for any endorsement or adverts. He should ask OJ Simpson what happened and OJ did not even admit that he killed his wife and the court found him not guilty.

when he gets to that bridge, he would cross it. what his career would become or not become is not up to you to decide.....if he's really innocent, endorsements would come back for him. tiger woods after the whole hullabaloo of his infidelity is still out there making tons with endorsements. time heals!

A man accused of being a child molester is never free from the accusation and parents will still have a second thought about leaving their daughters with such.

this is exactly what is wrong with the world. so you are cosigning that a man should suffer regardless of his guilt or innocence as long as he's accused of a serious offence?

The single most impt fact is not the empty urine or the paranoia but the fact that he had a "loved" one at home in his bed abd that should have been where his heart should have gone to. I thought he would be trying to defend his gf and not shooting blindly around 4, four IV times at a noise in the bathroom.

defending himself is also defending his girlfriend. he's disabled for crying out loud. without his prosthetic legs, he cannot defend his girlfriend. grabbing his gun then was a quicker way of protecting himself and his girlfriend. let's assume there was an intruder in truth and pistorious had acted the same way, we would be hailing him that he's got the instinct of a cat.

That wasn't a defensive shot nau cos he dint even see what he was shooting at.
Coogars reasoning is funny at its best to me

that's exactly why it's a defensive shot! he shot 4 times because he couldn't be sure if the shots hit the target. he couldn't see what he was shooting at hence more shots to be cocksure. his story makes sense so it's left to the prosecution to prove he's guilty!

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]I'd bet no Prudent manager who's already out of the title race would attach too much Importance to Such game with an inexcusable final on Mind - Wondering how Voluminous ur Wisdom is[/color]

except that he managed to win the final with a margin of the skin of his teeth. he would have been sacked had chelsea lost the final too and his success or failure still depended on schweinsteiger's penalty kick - nothing to do with di matteo's tactical acumen!

[color=#0066ff]I'd only be a dimwit to tell u that Roman is contempted with Munich's heroics, he wants more sure but not Cravey Mad like before, so its no longer his 'Most prized Silverware' - If we keep winning the League for the next 3 Seasons, do u think the gaffer incharge would get the axe cos of not winning UCL? I mean it when i say u know no dot bout Us![/color]

that's an excitement people don't want to lose. the joy of winning the biggest prize in europe is savoured every season. roman has tasted it once and he's hungrier for it than before. he didn't have to sack di matteo if he's not mad hungry for it. he sacked him based on the result in turin!

what has winning the league got to do with roman? he didn't buy chelsea because of the league title. he bought chelsea to experience the glory of the champions league nights. ancelotti won the league, what happened in the end? mourinho won 2 league titles, what happened in the end? you know nothing about your owner - it's fair to say that.

[color=#0066ff]Well, i fink the Chances that God would dine with the Devil in heaven is really Slim and if by Chance it does happen and devil fails to show remorse for his evil deeds which would irk God - Does that make God lose his class? [/color]

i fail to see the relevance of this statement in this discourse. i think you need help asap before it's too late. how did football matter delve into satan and the throne in heaven?

Guy we typically prefer that our wingers drive
towards the penalty box with the ball at their feet rather than
indulge in crossing-despite having a figure like Drogba in our Disposal then.
Why all of a Sudden shop for Navas and Downing kinda players? I repeat, we only went to get the tiki-taka materials - Lest u forget, Pep's arrival was envisaged!

what a joke!!!
so chelsea put the cart before the horse then - signed players adept to tiki-taka and failed to get the manager to implement the system. what even makes you think tiki taka would work in the premier league?

Can someone help me tell this Fella that we're 19 points adrift of the title, lost the World club cup, lost out in the Carling cup and could miss Out on 3rd Place!

what has that gotta do with benitez? were chelsea on top of the table when he took over? world club cup and carling cup are domestic cups, anything can happen in those. the league cup final last night was between swansea and bradford - what happened to the big four teams in england? were they banned from participating in the final? rafa should be judged after a full season.

Baridon1122: @Coogar, are U a male or female? U seems to think pregnancy is a disease or illness. IMO, it is a blessing.

yes it's a blessing but can be discomforting! her wedding is a one day event that won't be repeated. let her enjoy it!

Baridon1122: Yes! I still live there. Anything wrong with that?

little wonder you have that i must born pikin for my own house at the expense of your wife's happiness. now that i know you are a villager, i think you are right. complete that building first before doing any white wedding. make sure it's gated, painted with locking floor tiles in the surroundings.

good luck!

Baridon1122: No, she is not asking too much. I will certainly do church wedding. But her reason for rushing so that people will not notice. About the chapel wedding, that is the major reason we waited till now. She wanted a society wedding while I wanted a small crowd of families and close/useful friends. I can do a society wedding without borrowing money, but I don't see any usefulness of it. During our court wedding last year, we hosted about 80 people. It was nice and warm. Now she wants the whole town to attend.

let her enjoy herself - she's your woman, her happiness should be your priority. like you already said, the money is not your problem so why are you denying a woman her happiness. as a guy, i don't even want common cold on my wedding day but you want a woman to carry pregnancy symptoms on her wedding day - how convenient would that be for her? how many women would feel comfy carrying a bump in their wedding dress.

@Coogar, That she is pregnant should make me finish the house quickly. I intend receiving my child into my own house and not a rented apartment where live presently. Does church wedding really make women happy as U said?

and what's wrong with you having your baby in a rented apartment - since when has that been a yardstick? i must have my baby in my own house? excuse me, if i may - did you grow up in a village?

WAVixen: Suppress is a strong word you used. Like every human being, we have emotions and experiences, some people are guided by their experiences, while others learn from other peoples experiences and draw from that. Yes, some women might have bitterness for men due to what might happened after a broken relationship that resulted in the birth of a child and shouldering the responsibility alone.

i thought as much.....

But, an old adage says, 'If you close your eyes because you do not want to see bad people, a good person will pass while your eyes are closed'. So the issue of intimacy and its challenges are relative to individuals. We go on to have good relationships, sometimes, some men like your child more than you, other times, they play a fatherly role to that child/or children as the case may be.

do these women date to marry or date just to be happy?

But one has to draw the line in introducing every Chike, Musa and Segun to your children, get to know whom you're dating and their intentions. Some men don't want to date a woman that has a child because they feel its not theirs and don't want to father some other man's child, other men feel the women are loose and wayward, so it really depends on the guy in question. Do single parents enjoy intimacy Yes, we do and this time around with caution!

i will be on the look-out for single mums from now....thanks for the clarification!

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]Lost to Newcastle on what Circumstance? U could also count that we lost disgracefully at anfield, who wasn't aware we had a Crucial final to play? Pfft.
Losing to Albion was a far cry to RDM's fault, we had Sturridge & co wasting chances on dat day and a very erratic defense line on show.[/color]

these excuses are wearing thin!
chelsea aren't the first team to pursue 2 titles at the same time. teams have won the treble in the past! the excuses that di matteo lost those games because of the munich game is laughable. what was the excuse to lose the super cup against athletico madrid? what was the excuse when he crashed out of the champions league? you don't have enough wisdom!

[color=#0066ff]''Roman's most prized football competition"
Do u still use those choice of words after we had Won it? U simply dont know a dot about Chelsea![/color]

that chelsea won it once does not mean roman does not want to win it again. the taste of victory is sweet. why do you think other big clubs in europe are all dying to win it again and again? roman would have hoped to build on the success of last season by winning it again.......reasons why he spent money to recruit quality players in the summer.

[color=#0066ff]There's more to been called a Shrewd Manager, a man that makes the right call at the right time.
Am sure the Blue faithfuls would have buried the past if that fat Spanish homo had apologised about his Past comments buh he never Did![/color]

chelsea fans must be fickle-minded to care about rafa's comments.
when he made those statements, liverpool were his employers - they paid his wages and surely his allegiance must be with his employers. every manager does what is in the interest of the club they manage. if that is what is pissing off chelsea fans then the club have no class.

[color=#0066ff]Cant u find much berra excuses for ur homo pal Rafa? Players bought for a particular formation? Laughable.
Only if u can bring up references where such thoughts were shared, then i could pay a hearing ear to ur Bollocks - Chelsea only brought in certain players that would usher in the kinda football the Owner wanted to see. U still dont know a dot about Cfc![/color]

makes me laugh when a tool like yourself who has never been to chelsea to watch their game can accuse another that he knows nothing about chelsea. why would chelsea sign mata, oscar and hazard if the intention isn't to play them as a roaming 3 behind torres? which of them is a traditional winger in the mould of nani/valencia/young? your football knowledge is so little, i can write everything you know about the game on a plastic button.

[color=#0066ff]Mourinho Is? Baseless Analysis
Until u understand that Rafa is not good with Healthy challenges, u'd remain bottled in ur world of 'Vendor Stand' taunts! [/color]

rafa is not good - i was the first to mention that when he was hired however, di matteo is not better than benitez. you tools are just using hindsight analysis to forge your points home. there's no empirical evidence that di matteo would have done better in the same circumstance. blimey, he finished 6th last season.......so pack it in and stop exhibiting the traits known to rhesus monkeys. your football horse sense is in the pits!

[quote author=Curious_city]Well, @coogar, I don't need to argue with U. I leave U to other women who know and agree that women don't 'live for the church wedding'. [/quote]maybe the ones in the village with no exposure or the ones whose parents never did church wedding. how would you put a woman in the house without the church's blessings and you call yourself a christian?

By your assertion, the quality of the union before and after the church wedding does not matter? When did the Church wedding become "a do or die"
thing in Nigeria?

where exactly did i mention this assertion? why do you people possess the uncanny ability to put words into people's mouth? the quality of the union matters so is the church wedding. both can coexist!

My own understanding is that white/church wedding is the invention of the white woman. Yet, many of them don't mind common-law partnership or what we call in naija "co-habitation". They live happily with it and raise useful children. Yet in Nigeria, women live for the church wedding. Do U really believe what you typed??

church wedding is the invention of the white folks so is christianity. i can also add the language you speak and write in, the clothes you wear, your education, your smart flat, the gadgets you use and so on and so forth - it's hypocritical to call one part a white man invention while you fully accept the other parts.

if you don't want a church wedding, then dump christianity in totality and start worshipping the gods of your ancestors. stop wearing normal clothes and get enough loincloths to cover your sun-battered bütt! vacate your flat for a mud-house too then i would accept your exemption from the white wedding.

[quote author=baby_123]You mean you want to say you dont know single parents have relationships? Coogar where are you going with this. [/quote]i do not know o......
majority of them seem to have this hatred for menfolk. as far as majority of them are concerned, men cannot be trusted cos of their ugly experience with an irresponsible man. so i have been itching to ask how they manage their sex lives as single mums.

dayokanu: Whose business is it if they dont gve you a winter break like all leagues in Europe do?

Who business is it that you add a meaningless competition called Milk cup to your schedule?
Bayern has 4 CL Arsenal has 0

head to head bayern has won 3 times Arsenal 1
Any level bayern schools Arsenal anyday. We are superior to you all and even your coach admits

the issue of whose business is not the crux - do teams who play more football games get fatigued than the ones with a month-long winter breaks? answer yes or no to that question. it doesn't really require common sense but who knows - you might fail the question.

dayokanu: mancini crashed out two times in a row, Wenger crashed out 4 times in a row between 1997 and 2000. In Arsenes first 15yrs as a coach he never made the CL knockouts

you mean arsene spent close to a billion pounds between 97 and 2000? do you have arsenal's player transfer statement in this period or you are just spewing balderdash as usual? do you know any manager who has spent close to mancini and crashed out twice back to back in europe?

WAVixen: Hi People,

It's time for us to come together and share lives as single parents, the challenges we face, the good and bad sides of it. This is a thread that was meant for single mothers, but then again, some men are single parents through divorce, death or shared parenting. So, this is for us to share our parenting skills, knowledge, information and life's lessons.
I am a single parent, not by choice, but certain challenges came my way that I had to live with and raise my child alone. After a long term relationship, that was leading to marriage, we had introduction done, it did not lead to the altar, a baby was on its way and I am closer to 40 than 35, lol. So I chose to have the child, do I regret?? Not at all. It has made me grounded and see life differently, having someone depend on you, being a role model and re-prioritizing.
I also had to relocate to start a whole new life again with my child, so it has been a learning process.
What are the challenges I face? I guess like every single parent it has to be raising the child alone! It takes a toll on you, that's why children need 'pairents' yes, 'pairents' not 'mumrent' or 'dadrent'.
Financial support, its not cheap looking after a child in any part of the World. Most importantly, the relationship you would want your child to have with the MIA or absentee parent or whatever the case maybe
I'll close for now and see how you all contribute to the topic and go from there. This is a support group for us to share our lives and ideas.
Look forward to reading from you all.

Julesmum.

so how do you suppress sëxual urges or single mothers don't have sëx?