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make him understand that how will he react if you talk to your ex boyfriend and be sure he is really talking to his ex girlfriend do not act without solid proof you might not like my advise:: if he refuse to stop talking with his ex girlfriend talk to your ex boyfriend from there he would understand what he is doing men take women that are weak for granted sad but that is the truth

sorry to say this your father is dead six months is good enough for your mom to look for some one new she is a human being and she has needs:now put your father in her shoes will he not do the same thing at least she is not cheating what about women that cheat while their husband is still living on earth get married and know what marriage is all about before you judge your mom what you are suppose to do is have chat with your mom calmly know how she feels make her understand how you feel believe me there is always a reason why things happen

sorry to say this you are very foolish that man is using you he is living a good life; a wife and a mistress he is eating his cake and having it. hope he is rich and you are getting money from him if you are not getting any benefit from him you are very stupid he will dump you when he his tired of sleeping with you and he will look for someone new now what you have to do is plan a future for you and your child if he has money get money from him or good benefits why is he mad at you for talking to your ex boyfriend is he not married selfish man i know you have a kid life is hard but you have to be strong the man is using your weak point against you :if a man get married once and have children with their wife it is very difficult to get married again they prefer girlfriends unless they get old that time they are lonely they will like to get married again: it your decision anyway hope you do not find out when it is too late when he walks away you gain nothing he has his wife and children who is foolish you

A man will cheat if he wants to cheat if you like nag or don't nag he will still cheat. now you have two options stay with him or walk away but i am 90 per cent sure that he will cheat. There is no way a guy and a girl can be friends without him not wanting to sleep with the girl, for a girl friendship is possible but for a guy it is not so possible and i understand your fears that your husband will cheat but that is normal for almost all married women you just have to make up your mind on what to do.

let put it in this way, let say your sister got married to a man and the man cheats on her always [God forbid that anyway] even abandon her with the children and ran away with his girlfriend ,[believe me that happens all the time] leaving her to take care of the children all by herself then a new man entered into the life of his wife took care of her and the children help her to heal her pain only for her husband to discover that[ the grass is not greener at the other side] and came back to his family and the wife is already involved with another man. what is her fault in the whole issue there is always 2 sides to coin we heard the man's story what about the woman's side of the story [before a wife would cheat it takes a lot of consideration. cheating is very bad a lot of men neglected their families because of cheating only for the children to suffer now i am not saying the woman is right cheating but nobody know her side of the story why blame her

MsDarkSkin: I agree with the bolded.
Women cheat out of emotion but seriously what could you possibly expect if you decide to play the game of revenge in your RELATIONSHIP? if it pains a woman so much why not tell him how she feels and truly mean it?

don't say "i forgive you" kiss and make up then go and cheat.
it would defeat the purpose, no?

how are we sure he asked for forgiveness some men after cheating brag to the wives that she can not do anything about their cheating, i am sure she stayed because of the children not because she has forgiven him and why will a man cheat and expect to be forgiven while he can not take the same shit from his wife is she not a human being like him in all cheating is not good.

women don't cheat for no reason unlike men, it was the man that pushed his wife outside at the first instance, i am not sure but i think the man cheated many times that was why the wife cheated back. while cheating men tend to neglect their wives or flaunt cheating in their wife presence as a human being, what is she suppose to do ? a lot of women are also physically abused because of their husband affair but endured because of children. husband treat her like shit and boyfriend treat her like a queen why won't she fall into temptation cheating is bad but if a man must cheat don't get caught and if he marry another woman she might still cheat if he cheat on her so he has to forgive her and both should work on their marriage.

men cheat more, women cheat because they lack something or they were cheated on. men cheat because there is an opportunity to cheat but women cheat because there must be a reason to do that.

he is using you to satisfy his sexual urge, wait until his wife find out about you he will dump you and go back to his wife and try to save his marriage this happens all the time then he will take you like shit that wants to ruin his life and marriage , so he loves his wife but you are not lovable, you are a sex tool believe me by the time he is tired of having sex with you or his wife find out about you he will regret his actions and beg his wife and you will become an old story

your wife should be able to contribute a little amount if she has source of income at least 20 per cent, if she can not contribute any amount at all to financial welfare of the family and she has source of income then she is unreasonable.

you can only fix it with someone that is willing to change, marriage is about two people not one person, if only one person is fixing the marriage that will never work. she can only decide what she wants for herself i am just giving out my point of view, if she want to stick fine , if not oh well it is her life the choice is for her to make.

for worse is sticking to a cheat right marriage is to be enjoyed not endured can the op husband´s accept cheating from his wife and be happy about it ? emotional abuse is also part of; for worse in marriage right ? it is her choice any way it is either she look for a solution to his cheating or accept anything that comes out of it maybe std. i do not know; but why should one individual be enjoying marriage and the other enduring abuse.

can men here stick to their wives if they find out that they are cheating on them and she is not willing to stop ,that is a big no, majority would not .why will people advice a woman to stick to cheating and not do something about it, this is emotional abuse we are talking about here, and if you think he will stop cheating no way he has nothing to loose, he has a family at home that is going no where to show to people that he is a responsible man and side sex for his enjoyment he is living his life to the fullest why will he stop ? believe me this will continue for years like this, that is the truth but if the wife wants to stick with him you will have to pray very hard because if he encounter any girl that turns his mind he might abandon you, one day or he might beat and you and treat you like shit because of the girl or worse if he is not using condom you might contact std from him. you just have to think of solution believe me your husband will never stop cheating .

believe me he will never change that is the sad truth , he will only change if he does not have money to spend anymore on women or encounter a bad experience, but normally i do not think he will stop, so you have a choice stick with him , divorce me or get a male friend it is your choice but think very deeply about any choice you want to make ,if you do not want to divorce him and want to stay with him, get a male friend just a friend but without having sex with him, allow your husband to notice the relationship between you and your friend believe me he will tone down his cheating a bit or stop it depends on him, but if he does not care about your relationship with your male friend that means it does not care about you anymore then from this you can think deeply on solution to your problem, but this is just an advice.

i pray you do not regret this.

women do not forgive men quickly they will only pretend to forgive if they need something from the man, in that aspect they would use him and and they would dump him if they do not need him any more 2. another way is,  if the man is rich they will stay but immediately the man becomes poor they would leave him and go for another man why because of the bad treatment the man gave to  them while he was rich.3. some women will wait till a better man comes along still pretending, to forgive, before you know it they will dump the man for the new man and no matter how a woman forgive a man know that things will never be the same a again in her mind unless you prove to be very sorry and trustworthy and allow her to heal and trust you again but this can take years, that why a woman will just wake up one day after many years and tell you it is over and that is it , a lot of men miss good women and end up staying with women that teach them the lessons of their life.

you need a strong evidence to be able to come into conclusion that your wife is cheating, you are suspecting her you maybe right or wrong when she gets back home ask her why she behaved the way she did. have you cheated on her before ? if you have done that then she might be looking for pay back but if you have not cheated then both of you have to talk hearth to hearth find out what the problem is come to a solution that suit you and her best of luck.

you have to think carefully before you do anything that you would regret for the rest of your life i do not think the problem is your wife, it is you that is the problem you are bored this happens to almost every couple once a while in their marriage and you made a very big mistake  marrying  someone you know nothing about and you are not attracted to, although for some people that kind of marriage works but it is very difficult. she does not know anything about you and getting married to your ex does not mean that the marriage will last, dating and marriage are two different things. it might be difficult for you to stay in your marriage because your wife looks like a stranger to you and if both of you are not compatible the marriage will lead no where what i can advise is talk to your wife explain to her the things you like and let her tell you the things she likes and take some time to study her before you take your final decision .

a question for the poster with all honesty  how would you feel if your wife is receive calls from a widower all the time ? or she is always sharing the time that she is suppose to spend with the family with a widower ? would you be happy with your wife  ? how can you expect her to accept what you the husband can not accept . we are all human beings we have to be sincere here . nobody is telling the man not to help the widow but help her in a way that she wont come back or pay her off  to avoid problem. is the man ready to lose his family because of the widow let be realistic here . no man will take this from his wife , if the widow finds herself in the position of the wife how would she feel ?

if he is not ready to divorce the wife then he has to compromise that is marriage, do not do the things that your wife do not like because anything apart from that .  is either the man divorce the wife, but  there is no assurance that the new wife would be better and again if he ignore her that means he must be ready to live in misery. so it is either he keeps the wife by making her happy which can create a peaceful home  option 2 divorce her and remain single all your life or marry another woman then expect the unexpected if good you are lucky if bad then that is life or ignore her and face misery in his life.

there is always two sides to a coin, how would you feel if you wife visits a widower every time or  a widower calls your wife on phone every time ? am sure you would not like that. why don't you settle this widow financially and allow her to go because she is ruining your marriage. mind can be deceiving and put yourself in your wife's shoes to be able to understand what she is facing  ,my advice to you is that you  have to look for ways to appease your wife because if you think you want to knock some senses into her head forcefully it will be very dangerous because she will think that  it is because of the other woman. that is why you are treating her badly and believe me your house can turn into a war zone making things worse for you. and the as for the widow help her in a way that she would not come back to you and find a way to assure your wife of your faithfulness believe me if you can follow this steps you will notice positive change in your wife.

you cheated on your wife first you want her to just forgive you immediately and forget   put yourself in her shoes, will you accept your wife to cheat on you ? she was only talking to her ex on phone and you are complaining what about if she sleep with her ex what will happen  ? but in your case you can cheat because you are the man.  if you think the marriage is over because you cheated and your wife cheated back on you then you might end up marrying more than 2 wives because you do not know what your new wife character might be, there are men that are faithful to their wives but their wives still sleep around what about that  ? if you want to cheat so much do not get caught or stick to open marriage where by you and your wife can cheat anyhow. you have to apologise to your wife do things that would make her happy she might forgive you but take time to forget, and unless you want to stay single all your life do not divorce you wife because the devil you know is better than the angel you do not know, and grass is not always greener at the other side and also if you have kids put them also into consideration not because of only today but the future. and why do people keep saying man is the head of the family he has right to do what he wants that include cheating and the wife should just accept cheating because her husband is the head of the house i have not seen that in the bible.

there are some disadvantages associated to becoming a second wife 1] let say both you move in together and start having children probably you start to share bills together how will you feel if he sends part of your income to his family back home for their upkeep ? 2]the wife in Nigeria will always have a upper hand take it or leave it maybe not now but you will understand in future 3]no Nigerian man will wish to die in Europe their wish is to go back to Nigeria at their old age leaving you all alone in Europe in your old age and if you decide to follow him to Nigeria there is no assurance that he will not abandon you and go back to his Nigerian wife or how can you cope in a country that you have no relatives, families or friends that will be there for you in time of crisis .4] dating and starting a family are two different ball game stating a family is a lot more harder. 5] he can later bring his wife and kids to France in future what will happen to you then.6] starting a family is not about love alone it includes a lot of things, love just have a little to do with having a happy family.7]i like the guy for telling you the truth about his wife so that you will not have cause to complain in future that he did not tell you.8] i pray you open your to see that you are still young to settle down with a single guy rather than a married one because polygamy is a very difficult issue and a lot of people get hurts in the process and the children suffers most, good luck.

I do not why mercy is so desperate my God   marriage is a life time journey with all this mess if she get married to prince Odi it is likely that their marriage will fail. There a lot of young single guys why can't she get married to one of them ?  why get married to a married man ? and prince Odi should divorce his wife properly and take care of his kids by paying alimony because those kids are for lovely and prince Odi. lovely can not take care of the upkeep of the kids alone because prince Odi want to marry another woman , if Odi don't want to stay married to lovely any-more  that is fine but you can not deny your kids, as for mercy are you ready to accept your husband's kids as yours if you get married to their father ?you always have to deal with the fact that lovely will always be in the picture because of the kids can you deal with that ? or is prince Odi going to abandon his children because he decided to marry mercy. marriage that involves a single guy is difficult , talk less of man with baggage. mercy prefer to be second and non recognised wife by law than to be the first and recognised  wife of a single guy good luck.

i do not know why some men take faithful women for granted. there also women out there that sleep with anything, even sleep with their husband's friends or any man that ask them out just for the fun of it, there is nothing that their husband would do to satisfy such women. so let put the husband in his wife's shoes whereby the wife keeps cheating on him for the past 11 years, that will cause emotional breakdown on anybody be it man or woman and bitterness. to worsen the event the husband is not discreet about all his extra marital affairs that is disgusting. i praise this woman for having the courage staying with a serial cheater for 11 years. it is totally different if he is discreet about it and she knows nothing, but cheating to the wife's face not by mistake but all the time is unreasonable. men push good wives into other men hands because short term enjoyment. men should Also remember that time will always come that they would need their wives the most , for example  what happens to a man that was pphysicallyaALright then all of a sudden the becomes physically paralysed all the mistress will run away because he is not their problem but just a sex partner, then he will have no option but his the wife. how to do think the wife will treat him after all the mental and emotional abuse ?men should think about the future not only today because nobody knows what can happen. wives are men companion in times of crisis and need so if you treat her good she will equally do the same when you need her. my advise for the wife is to take care of yourself and kids, do things you like to keep you busy in-order to decrease the feeling of being lonely and save money for the future .

why give your husband money ?cant you use your money to take care of yourself and children ? your husband is even having an affair and you stood by him when he was unemployed some men never appreciate their wives until they chase her away thinking all women are good only to find out that it is not all women that can stay with a jobless man. my advice is use your money to take care of your self and your children. ignore your husband do things you love to keep your mind off your husband's affair or better still walk away for sometime with your children to give him some space if you can cater for yourself  and children. I think this will knock some sense into his head, the decision is yours.

men will cheat at least once if not many times, but men should at least consider a lot of things before cheating, their wives, children and other factors before making the decision to cheat on their wives. some women will endure cheating while some will not. they will know that their husband is cheating and keep quiet about only to turn around and poison the man and enjoy his money if he is rich. some wives will endure cheating husband as long as he is rich but the love that the wife has for the husband will not be there any more, that why some women leave their husband immediately they become poor, in their mind they were not the only one enjoying the money while the husband was rich why should they be the only one suffering with children when he becomes poor. note ,  majority of women will never be happy if their husband cheat on them, because cheating can bring a lot of danger to families on men can find themselves in unwanted situation because of 5 mins of enjoyment some men even drive their wives out into other men hands because of cheating just for the man to later find out some of his kids are not his. do men put mistress into consideration that they might fall in love with them and go through any means to scatter the man's family even using ju-ju.  a lot of men missed  good wives because of 5 minutes cheating. a lot of children abandon their fathers in old age because of cheating why ? because children have a lot of attachment to their mothers so they wont be happy to see their mother unhappy because of their father's mistake.  if a man want to cheat so much, 1]never sleep with a girl more than once , sleep with a new girl next time.  2] never allow your wife to notice 3]never give the girl your contact like telephone number and so on.  4]your wife and your children should come first in any thing because mistress will always sleep with another man because she is accountable to you she is not your wife. 5]protect yourself with condom and be alert in-case condom bleeps up because if not careful man can expose his wife STD which can be transferable to the children using them same equipments 6]  make sure you let the girl know about your marital status and pay her for the service rendered if she refuse your money or gifts be very careful she is up to something.7] cheating is very bad but poo happens.

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working class lady