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Sentiments aside,
After reading this story, I couldn't help but deduced the 12- year old gurl consented to this act, check out her response below:

"She said, "He beat me up so much that I thought I would die. He brought me to Lagos in 2010 but I only started attending school some months ago and he does not allow me to go to school all the time. Sometimes, he tells me to stay at the shop

She didn't even talk about the incidence with Chibueze, she was more concerned about what her guardian did [which I support he should be punished for] but what about Chibueze?.

Even in my home, I see lots of these young gurls throwing themselves @ my brothers [who are way older than them] and I can't help but shake my head - my brothers on the other hand always give me a stern warning not to interfere in their biz.
Really sad, I tell ya!

Wow!

Aww,see how cute he is, still loved the dreads on him though especially when knotted in a pony-tail.

[size=13pt]Three Myths and Three Facts About Left-Handers[/size]
By Christian Jarret.

It is a curious quirk of human nature that most of us prefer using our right-hand, while a minority of around 10 % prefer using their left - a ratio that has remained relatively stable throughout human history.

Experts remain unsure how handedness emerges in a developing child, and they struggle to explain the persistence of the ratio of right to left-handers. Against this backdrop, a number of cultural myths have grown up around the differences between left and right-handers. Here I give you a low down on myths and facts about handedness.
Before we start, let me debunk an immediate misnomer. There really is no such thing as strict left- or right-handedness. Most people can do something with their weaker hand. A more important distinction might be the strength of preference we have for one hand, be it left or right (researchers use the term "mixed-handedness" for a lack of preference). With that clarified, here are my three myths and facts about left-handers and handedness:

1.Myth: Left-handers are more introverted, intelligent and creative. 

There are anecdotal accounts of artists and musicians tending to be left-handed, an observation given wings by the overly simplistic notion that the right-hemisphere (which controls the left hand) is the seat of creativity. Advocates point to Leonardo de Vinci, a leftie, Paul McCartney, another leftie, and many more. But as psychologist Chris McManus explains in his award-winning book Right Hand Left Hand, "although there are recurrent claims of increased creativity in left-handers, there is very little to support the idea in the scientific literature." Regarding lefties having an introverted personality, a paper published just this year surveyed 662 New Zealand undergrads about their handedness and personality. "Left- and right-handers did not differ on any personality factor," the researchers reported. However, there was a tendency for people with a weaker preference for either hand (i.e. the mixed-handed) to be more introverted.What about IQ? One massive study found no link with handedness; another (pdf) found a slight IQ advantage for right-handers (put both studies together and any intelligence/handedness link is neglible). 

2. Fact: Left-handers are less likely to be left-hemisphere dominant for language.

In the vast majority of the population, language function is nearly always localised to the left hemisphere. This is why a stroke or other brain injury suffered to the left side of the brain tends to lead to language problems. Among right-handers, left-sided dominance for language approaches upwards of 95 per cent prevalence. However, among left-handed people this drops to 70 per cent, with the others either having language localised to the right hemisphere, or spread evenly across both hemispheres. 

3.Myth: Left-handed people die earlier and suffer more immune diseases

The early death myth originates with a 1988 Nature paper by Diane Halpern and Stanley Coren: "Do right-handers live longer?" The psychologists analysed death records for baseball players and found that those who were left-handed had died younger. But as Chris McManus explains, this is a statistical artefact borne by the fact that left-handedness increased through the 20th century, meaning that left-handers, on average, were born later in that century. As an analogy, McManus points to Harry Potter fans, who tend to be younger than non-fans. "Ask the relatives of a group of recently deceased people whether their loved one had read Harry Potter and inevitably one will find a younger age at death in Harry Potter enthusiasts," he writes, "but that is only because HP readers are younger overall." If this statistical argument makes your head spin, let me offer you a 1994 study of cricketers, which concluded: "Left handedness is not, in general, associated with an increase in mortality." A related myth, propagated by Geschwind, is that left-handers are more vulnerable to immune disorders. McManus and Phil Bryden analysed data from 89 studies involving over 21,000 patients and an even greater number of controls: "Left-handers showed no systematic tendency to suffer from disorders of the immune system," McManus writes.  

4. Fact: We get more mixed-handed as we get older

For a 2007 study Tobias Kalisch and his colleagues recruited 60 gfparticipants who were all strongly right-handed and tested them on a range of fiddly manual tasks, including: line tracing, aiming, and tapping. Whereas the younger participants (average age 25 years) performed far better with their right hand on all tests, the middle-aged (average age 50) right-handers performed just as well with either hand on the aiming task. And two older groups (average age 70 & 80 years) performed just as well with either hand on all tasks bar one. Unfortunately, the main reason for the older participants' greater ambidexterity was the fact they'd lost their superior performance with their right-hand. 

5. Myth: Left-handers are persecuted

Reviewing a recent book on left-handers (Rik Smits' The Puzzle of Left Handedness), a Guardian critic observed: "Sadly, prejudice against left-handedness is deep-rooted and universal." Is it? There's no doubt that left-handers have had a rough time in the past. Many were forced to use their right hand, and across many cultures there's a deep bias towards right being good and left bad. Consider expressions like "right-hand man", "two left feet" and the fact that Muslims use their right hand for eating and their left hand for ablutions. However, in Western cultures at least, the persecution of lefties appears to be over. Look at the fact that[b]5 out of the last 7 US presidents have been left-handed[/b]. If life is so tough for lefties, you'd hardly expect them to reach the most powerful position in the world so frequently. Okay, that's largely conjecture, but what about the 2013 study I mentioned earlier, which also involved over a 100 New Zealand students rating the personality of a typical left or right hander. Their belief was that left-handers tend to be more introverted and open to experience. As the authors wrote, this "artistic" stereotype "can hardly be considered negative." They added: "We found no evidence that left-handers are a stigmatised minority in our young Western population."

6. Fact: Lefties have an advantage in many sports:

Left-handers are disadvantaged in some sports because of the safety rules - for example, in polo, the mallet must be held on the right-hand side of the horse. However, in sports where opponents compete against each other directly, face to face, such as boxing or tennis, the left-hander has a distinct advantage. Stated simply, they are more used to facing right-handed opponents (which the majority of their rivals will be) than right-handers are used to facing left-handers. Indeed, one evolutionary account for why left-handedness has survived is that it confers a fighting advantage - the so-called "fighting hypothesis". There are many studies in the literature that explore the left-hander's advantage in sports like boxing and fencing.

--I hope you enjoyed this round-up. If you're interested to learn more, I highly recommend Chris McManus's book Right Hand, Left Hand, The Origins of Asymmetry in Brains, Bodies, Atoms and Cultures and also check out the new paper I cited by Grimshaw and Wilson: A sinister plot? Facts, beliefs, and stereotypes about the left-handed personality.

Oh, in case you were wondering, one last thing: left-handers tend to perform better with their right hand than right handers with their left.
http://m.psychologytoday.com/blog/brain-myths/201303/three-myths-and-three-facts-about-left-handers
 



[size=13pt]Now my severe warning to all parents out there [present and future], stop forcing your kids to be a right-hander , left-hander kids are extremely cool[/size]

CFCfan: I miss her too. Heard that she got married sometime last year in Lagos.

Yeah, I read that news as well, even read she's put to birth also. Wishing her the very best, wherever she may be!

This is so cool..LOL

Don't I just love this icon of a lady

Of recent, I read an interview where Liz Benson said she's now more committed to God and His works.
She's presently happily married to her man, a pastor and finally living a fulfilled life in delta state- so nomore nollywood.

One lady I sure missed is Dakore Egbuson [had a crush on her way back] and also Hilda Dokubo, missed them loads!

And why is this thread not reading 3:0 yet?

ShyM-X:
Wahh? I didn't know you had some rasta/yardie in you, rudegyal...

Wahh ya say?

Been taking some lessons papi, roger that!

texazzpete: See why I said you're a m0r0n?
I pointed out your obvious imbecility in insinuating the girl was saying YES to free stuff...and you go off on a ramble about me being 'promiscuous'. How does that even relate to what I talked about?

Do you even KNOW the meaning of the word 'promiscuous'?

You need deliverance.

Oh please, choke on ya bullshit and then get your fvcking pathetic self outta my cute face.

Cos I need no hu(o)rny-driven psycho explaining to me what my comment is all about - I know what I wrote on here so if you want in, politely ask, if not, go find yourself a MYLF and do your lonesome soul the honours!

texazzpete: Sometimes m0r0ns like you need to STFU and stop being part of the rot!

You know NOTHING about this case, NOTHING about this girl...and here you are perpetuating the stereotype that somehow, the 'loose behaviour' of this girl was a factor in this.
How do you know this was not a girl kidnapped on her way back from Fellowship? Or snatched from a school? Or on the way back from the farm? Why jump to silly conclusions?

I can understand sexist males jumping to conclusions about the victim's lifestyle. it's mindblowing when I see a girl (who ought to know better) spouting this crap when there's zero proof to support those assumptions.

Would you hold your lips and shut tha hell up, you dutty promiscuous thing!

Whose fault was it that you read my post the way you did? If you didn't exchange your brain with that of a dog on heat, your reasoning won't be this myopic.

So it's only loose girls that should mind where they go and who they talk to?

SMH!! Get outta my sight you tw@t and go upgrade!

eni orisha: @op it does happen & i think it is a normal thing.As a person currently xperiencing this(virgin @ 28) what has been keeping me going & my suggestion to u is trying as much as possible to control ur thinking & ruminating on sex,spend less time on romance section of ND & read less of sexually arousing magazines. Peace!

Obinoscopy: If I may add, there's no correlation btw virginity and wet dreams. Those who have h@d sex also experience wet dreams. This is becos only sex cannot remove the millions of sperm that's being produced on a daily basis (unless if the person makes a living from h@ving sex on a daily basis ).

If I may add, there's no correlation btw virginity and wet dreams. Those who have h@d sex also experience wet dreams. This is becos only sex cannot remove the millions of sperm that's being produced on a daily basis (unless if the person makes a living from h@ving sex on a daily basis ).

However those who m@sturb@te often experience less episodes of wet dreams. Also wet dream frequency peaks at puberty and starts to decline with age.

Since you are a young virgin (23 yrs) and don't m@sturb@te (this is a guess), its normal that u experience these nocturnal emissions. But I guarantee u that it'll subside in ur late 20s or early 30s, trust me

ENDORSED!

Op, there is nothing wrong with you!

austushi1: Ur somehow right, but not 2months unemployment would cause 1 to commit suicide!

The cause of his death could be depression from low grade result or heartbreak from his girlfriend. It could also be manipulated from d spiritual realm, since the spiritual controls d physical. The bible says we wrestle not against flesh and blood(visible), but against principalities and powers, demons in high places(invisible)

Also; 1 peter 5:7-11 (pls read)

I've had my own share of unemployment(2010-2013) as a 2.1 graduate. Even when I thot I finally got a job, it came crashing after a month, but I'm still grateful to God and still hopeful that all will be fine someday!

Unemployed graduates should get close to God, seek him and his kingdom, and everything shall fall in place and d devil will NEVER manipulate you!

God bless

That's the spirit but unlike you some youths can't take this all in.
There is always a point in one's life that breaks them, maybe his was unemployment and he just couldn't take it anymore after numerous disappointments experienced.

onatisi: so he killed himself to go and get a job in heaven abi?he was only in the labour market for 2 months ,not one year and according to the story he came back home from service in a sorrowful way i dont want to use the word depressed .there is more to it than all these depression theories

The first part of your statement is silly and uncalled for and yes, there is more to this!
Do you know the number of job offers he's been promised while in service and all of them turned Nil?
Or it didn't occur to you that disapponitments can lead to depression and then suicide?
How many workers [in Nigeria] have even committed suicide? With the rate of corruption going on, do you think any worker would?

Note that, am not supporting his actions, but if this country were a lil bit accommodating with the large number of graduates purged out, lotta of things would be right!

We ladies need to be extra careful these days, minding where we go and who we talk to - infact, say NO to free stuff!

This is really the worst way to die, quite saddening! Her folks should be contacted and updated ASAP.

Oh, please!
Y'all should spare me the sermon, the employment situation in Nigeria is enough to make someone go mad, now is that not death in itself?

Nah, no room for ultimatums when we can actually sit and work things out.
But if given, I trust myself to defile all of 'em which will eventually lead to our breaking up cept he apologizes.

And yes, I also believe it mars relationship to a greater extent cept in exceptional cases though.

Cool!

^ Sorry, you skipped this important bit in your narration - about the would-be husby being an investing president, governor, senator, a wealthy entrepreneur etc.. cos it's only on this quality I'll be supporting the last part of your statement.

Secondly, am glad you said some single ladies said that cos most single ladies I know, on the contrary would rather be single and be happily successful than to be home taking care of husby and kids.

In my department, there is this married-nursing lady with us who is often being scolded at by our boss - everyday she comes to work she does nada cos she's always busy taking care of her child and even when she does decides to come with her help, no adequate space in the office to contain them.
I see all this on a regular basis and it frightens me, truth be told.

Lilimax: In the company where I work, we have more married women then unmarried ones. Although, most of us were employed as single ladies before getting married. We were not sacked after getting married. Our marital status does not affect our productivity at work.

Nice research topic.

The management ended up building a creche for the staffs who may wish to bring their little ones to the office

Nice motivational strategy, I support.

@butta, I see you.

Am pretty much aware this topic has been abused, overflogged, battered and stripped in this section but after reading this piece, I just couldn't help not pasting this to get views, argumentatively or otherwise!

[b][size=13pt]Why Many Nigerian Women End Up As House Wives
Posted by: susan on April 19, 2013


In case you haven’t observed it yet, 85% of “career eligible’’ married women are house wives in Nigeria. I mean educated young women between 25 – 35 years of age. These are women who have spent the better parts of their lives struggling to obtain a degree only to be bagged down as “redundant assets” simply because their marital status reads : “Married”. Outrageous isn’t ¬?

You may ask about the likes of Dora Akunliyi and other prominent Nigerian women in important offices all over the country?
My answer would be: Do you know when they got their first offices to be where they are now? They were amongst the women opportuned to gain directly from all those campaigns about: “Women rights”.

Presently, women are accepted to pursue any career of their dream in Nigeria but the quest is 10 times more difficult for a woman that has married tagged on her fore-head.
I must assume that most “relevant” companies in Nigeria has conspired to delete as many married female applicants as possible!

There are several cases of women who have been denied jobs once they mention they are married. This is a recent case I was witness to. A friend of mine and I saw a vacancy post for Nestle Graduate Trainee 2013, some months earlier. We went to the same internet café and logged in to apply. I finished filling and submitting my form within minutes. My friend on the other hand hit the submit b*tton endlessly and nothing happened!
On impulse I changed her marital status to single and hit the b*tton. Viola! The form was submitted in seconds!


Now is this a co-incidence or a conspiracy at work? What do you think?
posted by Susan.[/size][/b]

Sweet collections

I kinda like that song though..

This is a man's world BUT it would be nothing, nothing without a woman or a girl.

Hmm, I guess this article holds true then given the comments on here.

Thanks guys for the insights!

slimyem: ^^depends on how you define loneliness and I think its subjective

Loneliness: feeling sad and alone
And please elaborate on it's "subjective meaning" contextually..

Yes,we have taken consolation in social media and all other telecommunication media and have milked the advantages that come with it as much as it allows.

Agreed and why not? I personally do not see anything wrong with that attitude, besides the pros far outweighs the cons so it's welcomed.

For some people,its just enough to know that their loved ones are okay so the question of loneliness does not arise and the others that value presence more are the ones this article is speaking for.

Hmm, there is some truth in that text.

Hmm, quite a lengthy read I must confess but what really caught my attention in this article was where the correlation was made between social networking and loneliness.

Does social networking help people stay in touch - or just the opposite?

Personally, I feel social networks makes people stay closer in touch with each other more than any other medium and most importantly with folks in diaspora.
To me, it is also the best , cheapest and fastest way to reach family and friends @ the snap of one's fingers.

Secondly, we were also informed[in the article] that social networking has reduced face-face interaction drastically making people more isolated.. And again, I find that statement hard to accept cos technology has also made it possible for people to interact with each other face-face via webcam, skype and it's likes so how can one be more isolated given these advancements in technology?

So let's hear from y'all your take on this..
Does social networking makes you feel isolated?
Cos to me, this doesn't hold..