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jkpbestseries:
so many are very happy now

Softmirror:
YOU ARE FUNNY WITH YOUR NEGATIVE THINKING.

Nazgul:
I'm afraid that your observations are on point cos I have the same observations as well.

The most recent was my cousin brother who got married in 2020 before the lockdown, as I'm writing this we barely talk these days, even to reply WhatsApp messages na war. And when he does it's one complain or the other, ranging from how things are hard and since I'm single and an only child, I should assist him financially, to how his wife has changed, to how their one year old child consumes food like an adult... etc.

To understand him much better, I decided to put myself in his shoes. I'm a single guy, I renewed my rent last month (April) and I sat down to calculate all my monthly expenses. Data, fuel, gotv/Netflix, electricity, security, LAWMA, feeding, gas, miscellaneous...etc.

My point is if a woman comes on board that budget would tripple cos kids would be expected, she might want you to open a business for her, courtesy of your pocket, she might come with her younger sister to help out whose training and welfare would be on you, she would sometimes want you to assist her family eg, parents, siblings writing exams, school fees, rent...etc.

Now while your expenses has tripled, your income most times remains the same or even lower, you would resort to borrowing just to sustain your home, of which she won't even appreciate cos according to her, it's not enough, other men out there like you are performing much better for their families. You would live all your life working to finance the home, even your own kids would be strangers to you and love her more when she buys them Christmas clothes from the money you gave to her. They would grow up loving her as a sweet mom and vow never to see her suffer. forgetting all the sacrifices and dreams you gave up just to give them a better life. After pondering through all these, I understood my cousin's situation much better.

If I'm to be honest there's nothing special about marriage, it's more or less like bondage for men. And benefits only the women. Marriages if you have noticed have have reduced greatly, there are so many guys in their 30s and even 40s who aren't even talking about settling down. Would you blame them....of course not.

Women these days aren't helping matters. They dump the larger chunk of the financial responsibility on the man in the name of men are the head so it's his responsibility to cater for the home. But what they don't understand is God created women as a helpmeet, meaning they're there to lessen the budern of the man and not to add to it.

Open any topic here on Nairaland and talk about responsibilities in the home. More than 99% of the female replies would be that it's the job of the man and the man alone.

Women need to change such mindset, cos it has killed and drained the honey of millions of marriages.

alanto:
Lol. You left Lagos because it was filthy and moved to IMO?
You need to change your moniker to crazyclown you funny die.

Justhere:
now you have #28k
if you need it cash out if not risk it.
the unsettle games are more than five, penalty is likely.

Agwadi:
NO

Julianaa:
I prefer you don't

If you want to, go ahead

EzegeNdiigbo:
Wow ya have made it in LIFE


Dissap come see this retired clitocurrecy

Jas80:
Yes sir. You can use it to travel around the world. Congratulations sir.

SILENTandSMART2:
The devils are with you,

You will need some spiritual bathing ,


The dark spirit is ready for you

SmellySperm:
I sha know say na Valentine puna u dey find

good luck bro

SmellySperm:
u no dey always waste time to shoot shot

Bola146:
How I wish I have one

StacyO:
Keeping your virginity or staying chaste helps save you from a lot of dark forces or circumstances.

starbuck:
Craze people full here aswear
Learn to chose your type of craze

Zzor:
Ask a man out or initiate a relationship? I don't know which condition will ever make me do that