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cucumbae:
This your lie no rhyme.

I always say the way things are. Believe it or not, no problem.

Jonn01:
Thanks chief, ladies are really complicated. The first month after the breakup it was like we are still together. There was a day she waited almost 2hrs to just say 'hi' that day I was with my level cord so I couldn't meet her till I was through with what I was doing. Then when the lockdown started, she was like I shouldn't talk to her again but of recent she do send me text and calls attimes but when I explained the whole situation to she still said no

You shouldn't have explained everything to her, just a little part of it will do.

You see, you need to know when a woman is genuinely frustrated with you over your poor behaviour, or she's just verbally expressing her frustration at not being the one to run the show.

Mine was in a hotel though. I have been avoiding this lady for so long. You know the more you avoid women, the more they get attracted to you.

So, on that faithful day, she called me on phone and asked if I was in town and I said yes. She said she's in the hospital and even if I hated her so much, why couldn't I make out time to see her. At first, I was reluctant, but on a second thought, I was like okay, text me the address of the hospital and I would surely come right away. She said the hospital is very close to the hotel.

After a couple of minutes I arrived at the hotel but she said she isn't longer at the hospital. That she's in the hotel to have lunch with some of her friends, then gave me a room number. I went to the room and saw the girl completely naked when she opened the door. I was like oh my God, what are you trying to do? She begged me to make love to her but I refused. She also asked me to touch her, and I refused.

I was like why did you lie to me you were in the hospital? I can't do it. You think because you're a very pretty lady and that you can get me easily?

I left the hotel and ever since then, the babe has been speaking highly of me. This babe is hot and she's got a nice shape.

Jonn01:
Goodmorning nlanders I
I have an issue at hand, growing up I never really considered relationships as one important aspect of life. I remember during my secondary school days while my mates are into relationships, I was the only one left out. They usually make fun of me but I don't really care. Fast forward to my university days, I still remember a day I was sick, at the health center the doctor asked me about my relationship life, the man was shocked at my reply and was like'are you a pastor'.


In my final year, I had my first gf, with all sincerity this girl was the best type of girl any man could possibly ask for. She was so sweet, caring and loving. She is very independent and has this entrepreneurial spirit, not all this I need money or I want girls. I don't like going out with her because if we do, she would insist on paying or we split the bill. If I get angry at her for that, she would probably go the least expensive thing there.


She is really caring and I can remember a lot of wired sacrifice she was willing to make for me. Let me also add, she has no secrets, she gave me all passwords for her phone, banking details, infact anything that has to do with password. If she steps out and a guy ask for her number she gives them mine and tells me about it. She tell me everything about her daily and can call me 5 times a day just to find out how I'm doing.


To cut the long story, she she broke up with me four months ago, ever since then I can't get her off my mind. I tried a lot of things like My self engaged in meaningful things but it hasn't helped.
We still talk once in a while, sometimes she just text me sometimes just to find out I'm doing but If I call her myself she could take ages to reply.


I tried reconciling with her but she keeps telling me I pushed her to it because I took her for granted, she said she has another guy but she can't deny the fact she still thinks about me , she said her bf fought her many times because she mistakinly call my name instead of his own. I often get absent minded nowadays.

The fact is she thinks about you sometimes indicate that she's still in love with you. Stop worrying and get a grip on yourself. Talk to her man to woman and she will be yours again. Trust me.

That man is simply an imposter, not Buhari. He couldn't sing the national anthem last time.

iwaeda:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2020/06/10/mamman-nigerians-now-enjoy-18-to-24-hours-power-supply/amp/

I am sick and tired of hearing politicians making pious pronouncements about their devotions to the people.

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

The young man is scared, as to what happens after getting married simply because most Nigerian girls these days are not willing to make sacrifices through love. Are you willing to make sacrifices through love?

OBelz:
DEAR YOUNG GUYS AT THE AGE OF 25 TO 30

Don't make mistakes some of our Fathers or Senior Brothers made.

Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow with them.

Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or achieving your plans.

You might still not succeed at your target year. So start your life early, with consistency you will grow.

My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was talking about making billions before i marry.

Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love of my life very early, But my fear was, can i really take care of her? But right now She's married with Four grown up children.

The guy that married her was still schooling then, but had the courage. They worked hard and succeeded together. I failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids..

Most of them are not doing as well as me.. But they are happier with their families..

Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your

happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.

Trust me it

isn't money, What is our problem?

Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of, and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_

Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at that age? Their grand father.

Please young men, take my advice seriously.

Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink, with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God’s grace....
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It's not about getting married but sustaining a family. A lot of people now live in an abject poverty in Nigeria and you never did something about that. But only to canvass marrying early. Ask your government to create jobs and provide basic amenities for them first and of course other things would follow naturally.

Sermwell:
So you mean someone you are about to get married to should inform you before coming to visit you?? what are you hiding??

It's not about hiding something. Do not let that becloud your thinking. Would you be happy if your mother-in-law pays you guys a visit without informing you or your wife first?

Think about it.

Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??

In a sentence, it's absolutely wrong.

Victorious1000:
Hello Nairalanders! I must admit I'm not one to run to the internet seeking advice on relationship matters as I'm obviously an unrepentant introvert with the mindset of always capable of single handedly finding solutions to any seeming challenge when I shut everyone out and channel all energy in our usual self isolation mode, but I'm afraid this very issue would seem a daunting task just too high for one person to manoeuvre around

I will try and succinctly go straight to the point symmetrically in other not to bore you all to death about my apparent inability to make a right marital choice

I am in a state of absolute quagmire in a period where I should have logical clarity in making a choice concerning a life partner, this is so because I'm in a relationship with two ladies who admittedly on their parts go out of their way to shower love, affection, care and unbelievable level of understanding toward my person. I mean the choice could have been far easier if one of them was found wanting in delivering desirable wife duties but NO they're equally as lovable just as they're deserving of becoming ladies who should be dolted upon by an absolute faithful man

Just like every other lady they both have their distinct strengths and weaknesses but the catch in all of this is that they complement each other's weaknesses astutely, Wish they could both be moulded into just one person , I met the first one about 2 years back having just returned from NYSC duty,she is 22 and comes from a vulnerable background economically and as such just have the solitary WAEC certificate to show for all her efforts but my goodness! she is caring and kind, she cooks so good, does my laundry, calls 24/7,always the first to say sorry even when not wrong.. etc, simply put she is undoubtedly a good girl but I fear for the mismatch socially and educationally with me, I have a Master's degree in view and don't even know if my parents will entertain such union as I'm clearly levels above her in qualification even though she is currently acquiring tailoring skills

The other I met quite recently, earlier this year to be precise, she is 30, done with tertiary education and working, I first chatted her up as normal acquaintance in January and further escalated proceedings to relationship status when I had a major fall out with my first girl(largely due to my fault) I must add, she calls just as much and hinges little financial responsibility on me,she has even gone as far to informing her parents about me and wants so much commitment from me when I'm not so sure what to even do right now even though I plan to settle when I complete my Master's program

Now I need two form of solutions on what next to do, both short and long term, my birthday comes up next month and both literally intends to spend all day with me for obvious reasons, I'm absolutely flummoxed as to what decision to make, none of them deserve to be hurt by me, they haven't remotely done anything to warrant such treament from me, but what exactly can I do?

Please I will so much appreciate if this gets to FP as I can do with a broader scope of advice and help! Thanks.

Your English is really good and women love guys who speak good English.

Just go for the 30-year-old, she's a lot better. Any lady less than 26 would always want to stress you. Some are even drama queens.

Zeal0000007:
Pals when my immediate younger sister was age 12, I'm 2years older than her. I remember one occasion where the house was very dark she came in with this little girl like age 4 who usually plays around, she placed her on her tummy I was on the bed while both of them were on the ground. she never knew I was there, she made d little girl finger her and played on her breast I was shocked, she never knew I was there. immediate I opened the window she was shocked either and I reported her to my mom of blessed memory and she was dealt with.

Fast forwardly to now, she's married and just gotten admitted into university and has a child of 1yr 4months, she's now 27 while I'm 29. Thus she stays with me because I'm in the state where she's schooling, the same school I finished from and her home and husband is in the neighboring state, so she returns home every month end to meet her husband.

Currently she brought in a 15yrs old girl to come and stay with us look after the child while she goes to school, for me I have gotten a job offshore but have not started yet because of the pandemic since march.

Pals the terrible things this 15yrs old gal has been doing to this little child has been so abominable, do u know she has been defiling this my sister's baby boy which is my nephew, before we where suspecting. And it has happening many times.

Right now we don't know what to do, we've been thinking about sending her parking back to the village but it might be very difficult getting someone else, what is this life turning into or should we blame that on karma at the detriment of this little boy. please help pals.

What goes around, comes around. Do not punish her. Just send her home.