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sirdouglas:
OK here is the deal; I met this girl fews months back at a friends office as a sales girl. She is everything a man could want in a woman. An epitome of beauty. It took me like a while to get her contact cos she wouldn't give me. I refused to get it from anyone else but her. One day she did give me. I tried all I could to convince this girl that I am not like her ex but she wouldn't believe me. After what seems like forever, I got tired so I let her be. But I noticed something. Each time I stop calling or texting for a while she will call me but yet will never accept to date me. I'm not of great looks for sure but I've got a big heart. Sometimes I feel probably it's bcoz I'm not that handsome. I just can't figure out exactly what the problem is. I so much love this girl and meant well for her. She called me into their office one day to tell me that one girl told her that she loves me. I was bent on her telling me who the girl is but she refused. She said she is afraid I will leave her for the unknown girl. That girl is just messing up with my head and life...... Lols.

After what seems like a two weeks I heard from her colleague in office that she no longer work with them. I didn't want to call her since she never bothered to let me know. I was on my own one good evening my phone rang it was her. She told me she no longer work with them and is searching for a job. I am looking for a sells girl also so I felt it will create a room for bonding. I hired her few days ago. But the thing is, I am leaving the country in less than two months by God's grace and I don't even have anyone to leave my business for. I have this girl I have been dating for a while now but I have told her plainly that our relationship won't lead to marriage. I am feeling it would be bad to keep her for selfish reasons. Until I see some level of commitment I can't leave my business for a total stranger who from the look of things don't want to make clear her stand but at the same time would make a great wife. So it seems anyway.

What do I do? I want someone I can trust to give control my business from here while I travel.
Would it be stupid to pay her dowry and travel?
She doesn't know about my traveling plans.
Should I speak to her plainly and tell her exactly what I want from her? Should I disclose that much information to her?
I hate wooing a lady with what I have or who I am.

I need all the help I can get before a brother makes a life time mistake please.

Gidilagoon:
Thank you so much bro, I appreciate.. I believe everyone deserves a second chance but my fear is that, what if she bumped into one of her old lovers later in the future since I know she has dated many guys in the past, and she’s too emotional. I hope they won’t end up banging again after brain washing her?
One part of my heart is telling me to forgive her and counsel her ,while other side is telling me, she might do the same thing after I finally put a ring on her

BlackAfrican:
Anyone with useful tips on how to move on please share.... I'm so drained emotionally and can't stop the tears streaming down my face even as I type this....

Salex007:
This woman have been on my neck ever since she got my number, just few weeks earlier she told me to pls help her deactivate the silent mode from her phone which I helped her did after which she said I should flash her so that she can confirmed whether it has return back to general mode not knowing that she used that scope to get my number. now for the past two weeks now she's been calling me telling me that she want to go down with me that she likes me bla bla bla and my reply to her was that I don't do married women although am not loyal shaaa. but am really scared. although her husband is a traveller.
pls nairalanders all I need from you is advice on how to turn down her proposal without getting myself into any trouble... thanks in advance.
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why is everyone finding it hard to believe me. I don't even want it to get to trending talk less of front page just help me with advice's and believe me you I will delete the topic b4 it cast.