Depressed and lonely people wanting others to come share in their mishap.

Brexxit:

The mansions been built on daily basis across Nigeria from monies from Canada and other European countries,is it spirit that is sending those monies?

How much is your own worth too?

You people always say this. But can u show us one mansion that is built this way in Nigeria

ednut1:
keep fooling yourself. Went to usa and returned to become a troll Joker

I'm just letting u know these Western countries are not the paradise you and ur illks claim them to be. Stop shoving these things in our guts idiot

ednut1:
too many lunatics on this forum. Served in 2018 probably still jobless and chatting shit from his foam mattress

Lol. I have an Msc in the US within that time till now And I'm back in Nigeria. Talk another one

ednut1:
Let me not use myself. My friend in similar company i worked was getting about 4,400 cad dols net. He was saving 2k monthly. His net salary in Nigeria was about 400k naira. Note he was working for same company in Nigeria and continued at same company when he got to Canada.

Another was making 3500 a month and was saving 1200 to 1500.

Another is making about 6k net and saving about 2,500
All in Toronto area.

The problem is many Nigerians especially females they want to love above their means. I know someone still doing hustle job ( customer care) while she doing some tech courses. Salary 2200 a month, but is staying in an apartment costing 1700. Well na fine babe so maybe clitocurrency will augment her other bills. Some want to drive benz , some want to eat on uber eats or restaurant daily. One bed room condos in a luxury condo in Toronto is about 2200 now, but there are other apartments you can get for 1500

Canada slave Man don talk. �. This guy can sell his generation to be in the good book of the white people. Canada my foot. With the loneliness, working my ass off just to get taxed to death and enduring the harsh weather.

Well, I still want to go. It's a joy to be a slave in Canada

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I can't believe this

CaveAdullam:


That's why you need to buy her more gifts, place her on a monthly salary with allowances, build a house for her, pay all her tuition fees, buy her a car, buy her a power bank plus 2 extra batteries, feed her to stupor while you remain with "Ijebu garri'' before you can have a chance in getting out of the friendzone. Had it been you're consistent bro, you would have nutted in her a million times with multiple kids around.

The right strategy is what that matters first before consistency and persistence. Even the right strategy will fail under a poor environment, poor health, poor governmental policies, poor tools, lack of resources etc.
If you're consistent with the wrong strategy, you'll always lose 100% of the time. Also, let us not forget that more than 70% of the things that happens around us are beyond our control and full comprehension. Notwithstanding, there's need for developing oneself as it will definitely gives that one an upper hand when the opportunity is there, however, "time and chance happen to them all".

Have a nice day.

Please Dont follow this advise. That's how this guy advised me that time to keep spending on a girl that doesn't appreciate me. Told me he'll appreciate me with time. Boy, that girl left me after everything. I nearly became suicidal. Thank God I applied wisdom in my dealing with the girl

Vairux:
please can somebody recommend an affordable hotel one can stay close to the embassy at Abuja

Optimal hotel is at the back of the embassy. Say three minutes walk at most.

8k per night. Standard room option

elllalistic:
Good morning everyone

Thanks a lot to those that have been contributing to this thread. I must confess, I've learnt so much after going through the thread.

Please I wanted to ask if it's possible to start my application on January and still get access to funding/GA; would it be too late by then? I could start this month but I've not written GRE yet. Also, is it possible to get funding without writing GRE. Thank you �

Sure. I wrote GRE, TOEFL and Duolingo. Applied to three schools. Two gave me fully funded offers. However, I didn't use my GRE score because they ask not to upload it.

It depends on school

If you are denied an emergency appointment in Lagos, will you be able to request for an emergency appointment in Abuja again? If not, can you still be able to scout for normal appointment just like you could before you requested for emergency

TheUndercover:


It was a shit test, only those deep in the game will know.

1) Never ask for a girl's picture (except maybe you're meeting online for the first time), it shows you're missing her and she may start misbehaving. If she finds you interesting, she will flood your phone with it even without asking. Even if you do ask, for example, if you ask for one, she will send more than what you asked. I once remembered a girl I got chatting with online and I asked for her picture, she sent me an album and some other similar scenarios. Sometimes, I used the picture asking as a shit test to see if a girl is interested in me.

2) The picture she sent you was a shit test, the response you gave her made you fail the test. It shows you're pained and she got you. You should have responded like "tell that guy to press it very well and handle it like a pro" with an emoji and block her immediately. Don't answer her call nor text, delete her with Shift + Del key. Never let a girl know that she got you.

I blocked her already. Staying far away from these gender for now.

Qasak:


It’s stuff Iike this that rekindles my decision to be red pill and never love this girls. Just look at how heartless she acted. Women care only about there selves. It’s high time we also do that. Bro disconnect all association with this girl but don’t block her or insult her so she doesn’t have the satisfaction of having more power over you than she already has.
If you like her distant yourself to recreate attraction. If she comes back fine, if she doesn’t fine but she will never respect you if you keep chatting with her after she openly disrespected you.

I actually misunderstood his advise

CaveAdullam:


Many a times, I'm skeptical about some of the questions asked here, because I view them as shit tests or just a medium the questionnaire use in garnering votes for his own conclusion. And I've come across some in the last few days. However, some are still genuine.

The reply I gave to you the first time was a sarcastic one that was posted at the heat of the immediate past debate. Once in a while we do experience such, and as this space is a conglomeration of males with different perspectives, definitely, there will be collision from time to time in order to ensure a good path to follow. It's pitiable and unfortunate that you took that sarcastic reply wholesale without proper analysis.

You know that girl is not interested in you, however, because you've enough money to spend, you think you can buy her genuine desire. So badly for you, she had to collect a whole sum of 60k to go "take care of a broke nigga". She didn't even play some romance pranks on you at all, she just showed face, took advantage of your lust and embezzled you without hesitation. A smart girl indeed! She knows your weaknesses in and out and has ways of finagling around it.

I support the Gees who told you to block her from your life and forget about her. But it shouldn't end there. That girl must vomit that 60k back. Give her an ultimatum to return your money at least not more than a week and if she fails, report her in a police station. I know 60k might not worth the stress, but for this girl, you need to clear her doubts because she's too bold. Don't threaten her, just let the law and police take its course.

On the contrary, she might be dating a "rough" nigga and you must be careful with proximity. But if you feel that taking actions will seriously jeopardize your life and business, just erase her from your life forever and learn your lessons.

Definitely, she will come back for more exploitation, this time you must reject her completely, scold her without fear and if you are a serious "madman" you can hang her dirty linens on the street. This act will help you get three birds. One, it will make her run far away from you. Two, it will make her subject herself to you for some sexual escapades, however, it will still be a means of exploitation because you will definitely lose everything in one or two notch counts. So, avoid. Three, it will make you reclaim your masculinity and set you on a path to redemption.

Reclaim your masculinity. Be well guided.

Thanks.

I'm sorry to have misunderstood you. I felt so bad that's why I shared it here. And the last time I was here was the day I shared a particular story here.

For people that want to learn

I've been dealth with a lot by these women creatures..in 2018, I married the love of my life.. Little did I know that my baby was a baby she had from her ex who's been constantly sleeping with her after our marriage. Long story short, I cut off all dealings with her. About one month back, her mother has been threatening me claiming the child is mine and I should take responsibility (the same mother supporting her sleeping with different men). Because of this issue, I lost my job but now I'm making five times over in computers and business. I have all evidences where her daughter admitted of The wrong she did and she herself admitted the kid was never mine. Now they want to rope me in because the man she had the baby isn't well to do financially.

I think women want to eat Thier cake and still have it. Right now, I'm not pursuing that girl neither will I collect my 60k because of my security and my business. These days, if u go against women, they tend to take u down.

I'm staying far away from these gender for now, and probably it's high time I engage myself with this thread.

Contrary the the advise given to me by a guy on this thread @Caveadullam or something that I should give the girl more money or something like that, well i have not follow that advise. This morning this stupid girl did something very stupid and I had to block her. I told her to send me her picture and she sent me picture of her and a guy with the guy's hand on her breast (inside the guy's room because the place looks like a room). And when I told her what she's doing is bad, and that she should start treating me well, she started raining insults. I just observe she only needs me for resources and she see me as a friend she can talk to when she's down emotionally.

angelfallz:
Why do so many men think money would make a woman spread her legs for them?

Woman that you've been on her case for sometime? Why would you spend so much time on one woman? Women don finish for 9ja?

You're not the only man that women codedly or openly ask for money.

I've been asked for money codedly and openly. One asked me for 60k that she would give me the next morning (I didn't doubt that she would have given me back) but in my mind she's just someone I chat with, no strong ties between us. Me I told her don't have that I recently offloaded the money I had in my account, that if she had asked the previous week I would have given her.
Other times she would hint that I don't buy things for her or she would say things like, "hm! You're enjoying o!" Me I would just smile and change topic.

Woman that is not my wife or girlfriend no dey chop my money free.

Hmm. I think it's better to block this girl. Because thing is if she contact me again today for help I'll still do it. You can't believe she has not called me since yesterday to thank me

CaveAdullam:


"You didn't mess up my bro. With the way you transferred the money with ease it means you got a lot to spend. Sometimes trying to talk a girl into sex or seducing her takes time. Just transfer the money and you can use her as a sex object".

"Maybe you just need to add 40k to make it 100k and I'm sure you'll unlock her premium p^ssy. After all some cash are nothing, it can be spent on alcohols, weeds and h0es".

And anybody that condemns you or judge you, but in support of paying women money for sex is the biggest nonentity and hypocrite of all time.

This is a joke. What gives you the assurance that the girl will lose guards even if I follow this your advise? See ehn, the girl is a witch seriously.. nothing you do for people like them is enough. I've served her a lot of time even took my car for days unreturned when she was around in my town. It seems to me like she will only remember me whenever she needs something, and she'll always come up with a story while giving me impression that she's already agreed. Laslas, she'll collect my thing and park up again.

Today I messed up. And I can agree that since my 2018 when i left the woman that's gave me another man's baby (even when i paid her dowry and all), ive been meeting women that are all about what they will get from me.

Now, There was this girl that I've been on her case for a long time before she left my town go Lagos. This morning around 10, she called me she's in town. That time one of my guys was with me in shop ( I sell computers, phones and all)and we were discussing how to pull money together for one business we've been on. So long story short, this girl called. Left my guy and lied that I was coming back soon and went to pick the girl where she was. We went to my crib. I thought sex was in it for me, not until this girl told me she needed some funds for something urgent. I asked how much, and I didn't even know when I took my phone, ask for her account and transfer the 60k to her (with the hope that she'll lose guard). Omoh na so this girl manipulate me out of sex and I shave even get a hug till she left. Now she's not even called that she don land

I am using this time to appreciate all of you that has provided sincere opinions on my case. I've not been able to respond to you all because I wasn't composed and I've been feeling so bad. But I'm trying to get myself to order, like pansophist had posited, it's another opportunity for me to get it right once again.

I was scared when I got to this thread some days ago reading things that are applicable to everything I've experienced with her. I wonder how do you all know these things.

I'll share the details of everything that transpired between this lady and I (in what I can describe a transactional relationship) later this evening. This is for everyone to learn from my mistakes, and not to ridicule anything.

Thanks
CC:Ubunja, Pansophist, Martinez39s ( I'm currently going through ur meme thread), glycolysis, cave adulam and others who are doing this. I've started inviting my friends to this thread ( most are unaware of nairaland)

I'm burning.

I'm in pain.

The reality hit me hard the past few Weeks.

How do I heal from this?

No job any longer.
Broken to pieces by the same woman I've loved all my life. The same woman I dated for 4 years before we got married in 2018 just after my 30th birthday. Gave me a baby the same year we got married but need I say the baby and her were never mine? Got pregnant for the same ex she claimed was a deadbeat and good for nothing man ( too much stories here that I can not say here for some reason)

I've been deceived by everyone I've ever loved. I'm not worthy
Nobody can give me love

I've been somewhere reading all these things after a friend refer me here, the more I read, the more I hate myself and what I've believed of her that she can't do no harm.

I need directions. I'm so lost. How can I even come to terms with all the things I've read here?

In my Next life, I'm not getting married again. Marriage with her made me empty

Lost my family, friends and everything cuz of her

Any 18A corp member po