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porsche2014:Hmmm, so they usually say but I doubt its necessary as breast milk alone is enough if u are feeding well, anyway I was compelled by older ones around me to get the following which I did- Gripe water for colic which I doubt it works, I only used for 3days and stopped vitamin c(i actually used this for cold when I observed it) tuclox (they said for the first seven days to wash dirt away as its antibiotics)I didn't use it anyway , panda (which I used after he was circumcised to reduce pain) Then there is a particular multivitamin maybe abidek or so, didnt buy that anyway. Note that I wasnt told at d hospital to buy them o, only elder mums around me kept repeating over and over to get them which I just did to feed their eyes but I actually know people that said they used them religiously for their LOs |
Cant thank you eenough for this great analysis. I will surely put all into consideration. E-hugs.. author=AlphaHandMaiden post=59115948]Damisinto: Its not an easy one and you need to honestly analyse a few things before you decide to resign or not. Brokeness is a BASTARD!. In any location! It is not a funny thing! Does your office have a branch in the town or one closer to where your husband lives? You could ask for a transfer if so. Bear in mind you may have to take a paycut as the regional offices may likely not pay the same salaries as lagos or other major cities and sometimes these transfers take a while to be occur. So you also need a workable interim plan. If you are keeping 2 homes, who's salary takes care of what? Are you solely responsible for your own upkeep, rent etc in lagos, or does your hubby chip in to your upkeep as well as his own place where he lives? If he does then perhaps the extra income saved from you all being in the same location will make a difference. It is not impossible to leave your son with your hubby, as long as you both have an understanding of the circumstances.... the boy is his son as well and him being a man does not mean your son will lack any care. If this is a viable option then he needs to have a plan in place, will he be getting extra help? Or can he manage by himself, with the baby in a creche. Other things to factor is how much are you actually earning in Lagos? Assess if it is worth it? Will you have any savings at the end of the month? Will you be eating into your savings every month to make ends meet? If so how long before you burn the savings and start borrowing? When you resume, since no constant electricity, introducing formular (at least during the day) will be your best bet, have you factored this in your financial out goings? Also what are the child care costs in the area where you live? Have you calculated these? Are you able to afford this on your current salary, (remove any family donations for now) especially if you are unable to get a close family member to come stay with you since you stay in a self-contained studio. If you are going to be spending more than you are bringing in..... then you are in no better position in lagos with a "job" than in another state jobless. I know of a person who had to quit her job due to the finances not making sense with her going back to work after mat.leave. and she became a child minder working from her own home taking care of 2 -3 other children and that brought in more than she would have made going to her "office job". I am not saying that you should do the same as childcare is not for everyone, but the moral is that you may need to think and look out of the box. What are the services you could provide in the town that your hubby stays and get paid for it. It only needs to be something that will tide you over till you get the job you are looking for? And you could also continue it as a side hustle even when you get employed. The usual crafty things like sewing, beadmaking, baking / catering etc may be ok, but i find many towns are over-saturated with these so it may be hard ton stand out. But also think of teaching..... are you very good at any subjects? You could be a home/ private tutor teaching maths or english or science during term time. Working around your own hours. If you are crafty, you could organise summer schools for art and crafty things, even field trips to local attractions if there are any near you. The main issue is that with the current state of the economy, what you offer will need to be seen as a somewhat essential service and not a luxury as most people can do away with luxuries when push comes to shove. Sorry there is no clear" this is what you should do answer" because what worked for A will not work for B. As even though both scenarios may have similarities, something as small as the flexibilities your place of employment may offer you just because your boss favours you may make all the difference. You and your hubby need to sit down, bring out then calculator, paper and biro and explore ALL foresable scenarios before you make any decisions.[/quote] |
Dazzle86:Am not too sure but mine did not exceed 11 days after delivery (VD) and I wad told all is well. |
Sorry lovie! Yes u can visit d hosp but i can assure u you ll b told its part of d package and that u need to rest well. Read up on ways to manage morning sickness, u ll get suggestions on what u can add to your water to keep it down as u need to stay hydrated while all these is going on ensure u dont skip your prenatal mefications as this will supply ur foetus the nwccessary nutrient u are unable to provide as a result of lack of appetite author=booqee post=59116216]does it make sense to visit hospital cos of it's been almost five days without been able to keep any food down in my stomach.. I vomit it all out.. I don't have appetite either except for bland foods like pap or sugarless oat which I end up vomiting.. I also cant drink water.. it makes me vomit. I tried ginger tea today to stop the nausea but it's works for an hour or two and nausea is back again.. I've lost a lot of weight, and I think I may be dehydrated cos I've not been drinking water (although I don't know how dehydration feels) I'm very weak to do much or even walk around. is this how severe it should be or I should visit the hospital .. please help.. I'm losing my mind right now (I cry sometimes especially when I feel so hungry but I know I can't eat cos of zero appetite and nausea at the same time).. I'll be resuming work next week.. and I'm terribly afraid on how I will cope. #modified# **im currently on a week bed rest after been discharged from the hospital on three days admission..my scan showed threatened abortion..hence the bed rest** so right now everything is OK with the pregnancy and the baby.. prior to admission, morning sickness was under control and I was very OK and healthy.. I wonder if I'm reacting to a medication they gave me at the hospital. it's called Cyclogest.. it's inserted into the V twice a day. it's progesterone[/quote] |
All your tips are useful....thanks so much sis. hunniesuzie:Thank u once again sis! |
Akorkor:I so much appreciate Ma, YES I CAN |
Jaygrl:I think about this same issue everyday since I put to bed. DS is 3 weeks old 2day, I have 9 more weeks as mat leave. Hubby and I don't work in d same state, presently spending mat leave with him, I live and work on the island in lagos Hubby wants me to resign but his present take home salary isnt enough to feed 3 of us cos of present economy My parents/siblings at times depend on d little I earn as no amount dey earn is enough considering cost of leaving How do I cope financially if I resign How do I go back with a 3 month old son to lagos No constant light supply where I live so no wsy to depend on refrigerating breast milk Does it mean I have to wean him so early Getting a nanny is not an option as I live in a room self contain Mother cant follow me cos she had her own work Hubby is presently saying if I insist on going back maybe I should leave our son with him as he stays in a far more comfortable apartment. How is that possible Have submitted several cv here but....how do I even cope with not having a source of income Any sister here who has coped with raising a baby so young alone while working |
Chanbaby:D improper sef sweet well, 6 weeks ke? Me I kpekus 2 weeks 3 days and it was funnnn |
Thanks lightedpath zaynie liftedhands Giddyperson ....am relieved |
Hello senior mummyz. Kindly help a FTM with these questions 1) My two weeks + baby prefers sleeping on his back instead of his sides as we were told at the hospital, yes I pad his sides well to ensure he doesnt turn but he feels so uncomfortable till I remove the side guards and sleeps better. How dangerous is it? 2) he streches A LOT, he doesnt cry while stretching though but I just feel its too much for his age as he does it like an adult. What could be the cause or is it normal? Thank you all for your prompt response |
[quote author=booqee post=58876799]when do they start administering that.. at how many weeks.. they haven't told me anything of such at the hospital [/quote I got the first dose at 19 weeks, second At 25 weeks. |
jazzyjazz:As regards this, mamas kindly list out things (food ) am not permitted to eat as am just hearing for d first time there are restrictions. Thanks everyone |
blackFTM:From ajah or wherever board a bus to eleko junction, from Eleko junction a car to akodo general hospital. |
Thqnks mam, i didnt do the plastic method as it wasnt aavailable instead the old method was done. Hospital recommended coconut oil or olive oil buy dear MIL said she will use engine oil hmmmmmm. She has her own wsy of doing everything. May God help us! author=hernyhorla post=58705426][/quote] |
Lilliesbud12:ė You are right. |
Lol uote author=katchycouture post=58681112] I'm holding ur hands very tight oooo....nobody is running away without me... #teamseptember how are we all preparing.... have we gotten our bags ready?? me I no fear for vigilante oooo because I'm covered with the blood of Jesus, I'm covered with my mother, my father and my 3 lively sisters,I also have a help and then my brother's girlfrnds who are trying to get to my heart....so my only connection with my baby wld be breast milk..[/quote] |
My sister it is really well. God bless our LOs, my face is swollen, eye balls heavy feeling dizzy as a result of sleepless night. We circumcised him this morning and he has not stopped crying, i so much pity him sha. To d remaining pregnant mum PLEASE use this period to rest well ooo vigilante is real except u have siblings or inlaws to help out with chores. May God make it easy for u. Mamas please which is better coconut oil or engine oil for d circumcision site? uthor=queenhecate post=58675921]thank you all. am still reeling from the whole debacle. please this vigilante is killing me, I had to go back to the hospital yesterday as I nearly had a seizure yesterday. constant headache, chest pain, swollen legs you name it and nobody to do omugwo for me join. my bp was 180/92 and the doctor prescribed sleeping pills and scolded me that I should sleep when baby sleeps. fastforward to yesternite and I was looking forward to sleeping as I was told baby will get it from breast milk and sleep too. na so sleep carry me oo but this little rat for wiaaaa.. She woke up her usual 53times when my breast aka her soother removes from her mouth. am just a walking zombie this morning. my husband is so worried too. I am feeding her now to see if she can drop off so that I can sleep awhile. I really don't want to go on hypertensive drugs as the doctor threatened. sleeping after childbirth has always being my problem as if the adrenaline will refuse to come down. women dey try oo.[/quote] |
As for d online class start reading from page 0 of this thread if u can or start from page 3000 then write out iimportant tips one after the other. author=Chijiuche post=58539218]Happy new week Mamas, I am 14 weeks 3 days gone. I have been on Antenatal but my hospital dont do antenatal classes and I am a first time mum. I am currently confuse because I dont know jack about taking care of baby - Even to wear diapers. Even the list of what to take to hospital and list of what to buy - I know no jack...Please assist me on how to deal with this....Do you know any good hospital I can just pay and register for classes in Lagos or even any online classes. Please help a novice mum.[/quote] |
Chijiuche:Mam, since you are a FTM I will advise u register in a general hospital close to you as you will be taught all you need to know and monitored closely (if you wouldn't mind the crowd and insults at times.) Kindly walk into any pharmaxy to buy your folic acid as you should have started taking that by now. Its a common drug u take one daily or you can buy pregnacare as that contains all you need. Pregnacare contains folic acid so dont combine. All the best |
Oh Lord my God!!! Just two nights and am sickkkkkkk and u just said 6 months ? WTF.AlphaHandMaiden: |
Well, my cappo from pregnancy thread has officially directed me to join this moving train as I have offloaded. Dear mamas, kindly put a FTM through urgently. Put to bed less than 48 hours ago but no breast milk yet. Please help as hospital has refused discharging me till my milk flows. Remedy please. Kindly assist as this environment is killing me. Suggestions whether traditional medical etc will be highly welcomed. |
Thanks wholesome grace and giddyperson recommend names for me to buy |
Mamas, abeg torchlight this matter, breast milk never come out, LO is hungry ooo I don press rhe the breast tire. Please help with response asap |
Aww! Sorry for d incomplete BA was too weak and phone wad collected. GLORY be to GOD as he is truly the ALMIGHTY. Olorun Alasepe, Aseyiowu, Obatolagbara lori oungbogbo. Hmmmm seniour mamas who have had kids big TWALE to you. Never will I be rude to seniour mamas and our mothers. May you teap the fruit of your labour ooooo, ounje omo koni koro lenu yin o. You all are truly strong I SWEAR. Back to d point, EDD is 26th and I just felt I should start mat leave, as hubby no dey d same statr with me, he came around to come pick me on tuesday to his place, got home safely, arranged babies room but couldnt pack hospital bag ad I taught time still dey. Little did I know what awaits me. That night we were weak and I told hubby oya ooooo lets do that thing as he don tey. He said he is too tired as he drived to fro and still did house chores. I insisted oo and I took over (on top of him). Chai, if I had known 30 minutes later cramping started painful one ooo woke hubby he said he warned me o and slept back. I was awake all through grunting he go just use one eye look me and say pele na stress. Around 3am it was unbearable so he woke to check google what d cause is and he said but no blood and fluid so hold on it will go. I jejely face my lane. Early momo I packed few hospital things and told him d time is now na so we drive down and they confirmed its contractions. Hmmmm was happy thats d journey will b over soon little did I know everyone's package is different. OLUWAOLORUN ALAGBARA OOOO haa my sisters 27 hours labour ni oooo (started counting from house o) deliverd 3am since tuesday night haaaaaaaa mofekuuu. My doctors nurses were tired they tried tried inducement et al nothing ooo na so so cry shout. Naso I remember village people but was praying all through, hubby turned pastor. Ordinarily men are not allowed but my husband was given preference to stay in labour room throughout cos it was something else. I started begging for cs at a point but financial capacity wasnt there. Haa my people NEVER will I try this...ELECTIVE CS Na him b way. If only u know what I went through. But in all nko my prince charming came out weighing 3.0 no tears at 38 weeks This is not my first time o just that I lost the first last year july at 7 months was not as painful as this. God of restoration did a living one same July GOD is indeed great. Thanks for your congrats in advance as I may not reply all. To the remaining mamas I wish u swift delivery. Thanks cappo for all |
BA!!!!! |
Lucky you! But at d same time it might b early to notice MS, calm down, some women dont even feel MS till d heaviness of third trimester sets in. As regards d purging please stay hydrated, try ORS not flagyl. ORS is basically made of salt and sugar which u will b told to mix with big eva water. Bomgirl: |
A very big congrats to all mamas who have birthed their LOs, thanks to God for d testimonies of easy delivery. Thank u wonderful cappo for your care, was having painful contractions back pain and feeling uneasy two days ago, was happy LO wants to arrive, got to d clinic, was checked over and over, cervix still closed and was concluded it was just painful braxon hicks only for doc to give a crazy painful injection to ease up the pains and contactions. I feel better now. Thanks. It will end in praise. #seriouscountdown# #GODisable# #teamJulyforswiftdelivery# phlakkeys: |
She might b mentally unstable uote author=ahnie post=58162666] I beg to disagree....what kinda stress would make a mother forget her child inside a busy market,and she com4tably boards a vehicle home.Haba that z absurdity to me.you could forget a bag(randomly)but not a child Na.[/quote] |
Thank u missmalachi giddyperson graciouscharis for your prompt response. Well appreciated |
Damisinto: |
Pllease how true is this? "At 37 weeks thereabout there is usually reduced movement cos of less space for LO to move about" kindly share your experience. Also, there is this regular tightening one feels which is kindof painful/bulges out and hard when u touch, can that be substituted for movement/kicks one is supposed to feel? Thanks Cc: all mamas |
Bump size doesnt matter in as much as ur gyn/scan assures u everything is ok. As for not feeling enough kicks, whats your placenta position? If its anterior then yes you might feel u are not getting enough cos d placenta acts as cushion hence d effect of d kicks will not b felt well. I also have an anterior placenta and sometimes worried but I was enlightened about placenta position. U can read about it on Google. #alliswell# ote author=goodfortun post=58126588] Momma luv this your bump oh. Very moderate just like mine and i was seriously contemplating complaining to doc about the size but yours has reassured me. I'm 31weeks and feel my bump is small. In fact told the doc last time that baby doesn't kick as such though I feel movement regularly. Dyu think it's connected to bump size; wats your own experience?[/quote] |
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and i was seriously contemplating complaining to doc about the size but yours has reassured me. I'm 31weeks and feel my bump is small. In fact told the doc last time that baby doesn't kick as such though I feel movement regularly. Dyu think it's connected to bump size; wats your own experience?[/quote]