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oh boy, we need more prisons than schools now o... .

more like wow... cool way to be a big boy

There's too much castigation on this thread. You made your bed, blah blah blah.. The beauty of humanity is in the errors we make, the hope we see, and how we are able to overcome it. eLse, why is Nigeria screwed up?

The OP is not the first, not the middle and never will be the last to have such an issue or 'made a mistake', so, Please, let 'advisers stop ' castigating people...

My advise: Buy here more 7 buttpads!.. 1 for each day of the week.

Nairaland O... seun, I hope phi d phi, have not called you to come and chop o... This story is been twisted o... why is it from November talk?... why not from Jan. 1st sermon!

Abeg, view the video and make reasonable conclusions!

nieema:
You are my twin sir. There is NO OTHER GUY.
My belief that most freindships last LONGER than relationships which is why I was hesitant to agree to date him in the first place.
I have seen how people can react if the relationship has to end...just read some of the comments on this thread. I stand in my own truth still.

Women and men are different, friendship is nothing, relationship is everything.

I find it ridiculous, just thinking about it, to be a friend to someone I have intimate feelings for. Where's the time for friendship?

Obviously, you've a better control over your emotions, and the guy carry am for head, which I should add, is important. cos, at least one person suppose carry am for head.

Really, my advise is more suited to the guy to face front. It's dangerous to be in a relationship where a woman as a upper hand on the emotions, cos, women think a lot with their emotions and have mood swings easily even when they know they'll hit the rocks. For example: as a guy, I can discuss anything with anybody, and it's easier to discuss and get instant and real time effective feedback from fellow guys. But it's seldom the case with women, most women don't even think that far...

My advise is for that guy to get the sh!!t together, and face front.... You are a wonderful person, but he's not yet man enough... else, this your mood swing, should be nothing

stint:
Hmmm i think i understand u a little better now, maybe that is because i am a little like you. You dont know how to ask for help. I like to think and think about my problems too untill a solution pops up. While going through this process, a lot of people get offended that[b[b]] i dont call, they say i dont care, the truth however is that I care more than most people.[/b][/b]
If i am right and you really have something thats really confusing that you have to handle. I think you have two options
1. You can break up and then think and think over it untill a solution pops up or whatever the usual way is. Then u might have another problem of loneliness. Missing someone you live. Might.
2. Or you can take this opportunity to learn how to solve your problems while in a relationship with someone that loves you. You shouldnt feel bad to accept a help you know you would also render if the tables were turned. Especially when love is in the equation. Dear you will get married eventually and this wont be the last big problem you have to solve. What will you do then? Get some space?
Or maybe this is just one big sign that you both are not meant together. You have the right to walk away. Just try and make it the last option. Try and solve this problem in a way you havent solved it before, involve him. If it doesnt work, then you can break up and take the space you need.
I AM ASSUMING THERE IS NO OTHER GUY.

Been there, done that. To tell you how terrible mine was: I actually just allow my sim go off, lost most contacts.. and I didn't use a smart phone, so, no watsups, no bbm, etc... just shut down.. telling you: 5years now... just rebooting.... got my firsrt smartphone (even the free gift one I was given I didn't use) in 4years last week.

Do you know Happiness and sadness, Problems and solution is all a Perception...and in reality, thats why, we need mentors, and we need an outlet to express our worries, else we just a psychologist. WHat you think is a big deal is nothing,.. absolutely nothing, the worst is: health, and frankly, science has fixed health a whole lot more...


Talk the matter, look for pros in the field of worry, talk to them, if you wish to do anonymously, go to forums where there are extablished Pros, matter talketh, matter solveth...

But I still say it. THat guy needs to handle cash!..$$ answereth all things!...

nieema:
1 & 3 are correct. However, I have loved this man for a long time. We have been through ups and downs. I myself come from humble beginnings and money has never been a factor. I make my own money, always have & will. Money is a great servant but a horrible master. I only thought to offer him assistance be I personally know he needs it but would never ask. I simply wanted to help. Thank you for not accusing me of bribery like others have.
Yes, I have tried to break up with him twice within the last 3 months. It was a difficult conversation to even bring up at the first attempt. I know myself and I know the issue I'm trying to resolve. It is serious and somewhat embarrassing; It's hard for me to bring such matters to friends, family, or my bf. It's always been a struggle for me to depend on others. It makes me feel weak like I can't handle my own problems I usually go on a hiatus kinda until I sort it all out. It's been an effective way thus far except now I am in a relationship with presents another challenge. I know it's weird but it works for me. I am good at hiding and smiling through my personal stressful hell. I guess I learned how to as a kid...dunno. Thank you for not accusing me of being a "cheat" or "gold digger"
The bold is what is all boils down to. Very simply put, I need my energy and attention more than anyone else during my this difficult time.
It doesn't me I don't love him.

If that's your final decision. Then simply meet up with him, apologies that you cannot really do it any further, as you've personal issues to solve. Pay into his account, and do better than 40k. I sense, he'll need it more than anything, if you can, do better, possibly up to 100k if you can.

Now, to you. There's a popular saying, nothing is new under the sun. I have lost a lot more than I could gain because I tried to manage it by myself, eventually, I do, but it cost me more time, more pain, and a very stressful process, it's childish. Really, I should have taken advantage of a once in a life time opportunity, but I didn't share it enough, and I lost it. it's been: 4 years, and I am still trying to find ways around it.

I will strongly advise you to read more, expose yourself more, and then you'll realise, whatever you are trying to overcome is nothing, cos, others have fixed it before, and their experiences can easily guide you.

9 out of 10 problems are money related. A man must address money issues. 'Love' as it's called, is simply an emotional feeling that flourishes when in the midst of constant cash flow!...

Small issue madam get, she just think am, let me just do away with all the wahalas in my life, include this guy, let me just dey my lane until i fix this other issue. But if the man na correct bobo wey load wella, nna men, na asset, so, lai lai... drop am ke?...In fact his presence alone will help me solve this issue I found myself in.

You know notice, the babe even believe say in the future when she don settle her matter, she go still meet the guy for there, to show you how much the guy rely on the girl....

Men, should be smart, money answereth all things!

e dey

EFCC don forget all the politicians o... GEJ!!!... all the gov. , all the HOR, all the senators... choi.. even ICPC don die.. na so so, police work EFCC dey do now.. what other proof do you need?... GEJ is a corrupt politician...

This guys machinery was built to handle top politicians, now they are after every yahoo boy, choi!... this country is finished!..I remember How Ridabu's car that was sprayed with bullet after he rejected Ibori's $15M I think!..

GMB wins!

tit:
so what good will you be doing by electing buhari, who will stabilize the price of crude oil with army, navy and air force?
suppose he does not appoint fashola to any office?
do you think the katsina mafia, whom buhari will bring to abuja with him, will stand aside and let fashola be the wunder-boy?
if buhari wins, (alhamdullahi, god forbid), tinubu and fashola will be the first casualties of the power play that will go down in aso rock.
infact, tinubu may not even get an invite from eagle square to aso rock.
use your coco-nut.

My sister, you need a pick up a PDP or APC membership card o!.. join them, and understand them better!

See... The greatest thing people don't realize about people like tinubu is that, he owns the framework...thats why people like fashola are still is boy boy... and he can choose an ambode over them.

See. Let APC get in first. You'll see what will happen, and frankly, I have listened to Buhari, and I am impressed!... I have listened to Jonathan, several times, and I am ashamed!...

I will trust a Buhari, Sanusi lamido, and all those other northerners with our economy better than what we currently have...

Price of cruide oil is going to continue to go down... We need a visionary leader now... a game changer, someone who never gives up, someone who has failed in 3 elections and still believes he can do it... my sister, listen to these guys, and see what they say, have faith, have hope, and believe....

Do you want to hear the truth?.. In my opinion, I don't think Our current president has the capacity to manage this country to the next phase.

Have you been in a class with a olodo before? (please note, our president a master politician and NOT an olodo, in fact, an exceptional one too, one that can delete godfathers like OBJ, which over 95% of politicians can't achieve) .. what they don't know, they scatter and play politics over.. You really need to listen to fashola, GMB and the likes... then, you'll at least have hope , that maybe one day our kids won't be pulling generator..

tit:

is this in response to why APC chose the clueless Buhari over the miracle working Fashola?

Yes my sister, I might be wrong, but in my opinion, I think yes.. Buhari is freaking popular in the North.. in fact, any abokki okada rider 8 out of 10 times always have a buhari sticker, and like it or not...the north still maintain the largest population in this country...

Fashola take it or leave it, is a nobody...outside of lagos, he's a nobody...even in Lagos... without ACN, he's a nobody... he's a great technocrat...but politically, he's a nobody...even his god father , tinubu will lose 101%... cos, he's not a northerner..

so, rule of thumb, politics first, service next. Hope you understand my perspective. thank you.

But one thing is sure, a vote for GMB is a Vote for APC, and it's a vote for the framework of technocrats that exist in APC, a hope of a better tomorrow.

PDP has too many hooligans and criminals.. and unfortunately, they are not even smart criminals... I mean, when you steal, you should hire the best yahoo boys so there won't be a trace, but they steal, and all the newpaper still make a mess of them.. I am ashamed of their poor stealing tactics!

tit:
is fashola on the ballot?
if fashola were so wonderful as you would have us believe,
why did your apc not put him on the ballot?
are they blind?
or did they consider something other than roads, electricity and okada in choosing their candidate?

I understand and appreciate your comments.

In my view and opinion, politics is different from service delivery. And I will make a few examples: Fashola, could never in his life time have become a lagos Gov. if not because there's a politician like tinubu....cos, politics is a different ball game entirely...how do you think fayemi lost?.. cos yes, he sabi book, but NO, he no sabi people... Winning is Politics, and Politics is about understanding people, greedy people, good people, bad people, dangerous people, which is a pretty tough act to master.

So, I think this is what happened. This is why there's always a god father, cos, they know how to play the game, they've the political infrastructure to execute, and deliver the job.

Same way a politician cannot do the real job. Have you ever listened to Jonathan talk?... he's a politician from bone to bone.. compare to when you listen to fashola talk... go to youtube and listen, you'll probably better understand what I mean...

In my opinion, to get the JOB done, right now.. we need good , very outstanding politicians.. this is why I think 3years ago, Burahi of CPC sat down and realised this task cannot be done by myself a lone, and Tinubu of ACN did the same, and they came together.. and thought, this country can and should be better, what can we do together?.. and today, people like tinubu are about to deliver another master piece!.... They've brought the North, with the SW together, to see what we can do together... CPC tried that in 2011 with Pastor bakare, but bakare didn't have the political instrument to deliver the necessary votes.. but ACN does...

I don't expect ACN to field any SW VP.. cos, we are pretty sophisticated in the SW, and most of us will vote massively for APC.. as this is our party, even though it's not our party right now. I expect them to use an easterner who is pretty strong in the SE... very strong.. someone like ojukwu or something like that.. but then again, Tinubu is a Master player, whom I have absolute respect for, so I am sure they'll do fine.

And this is why I love politics.. the strategies and the games involved are so cool...

So, my sister, The rule of the thumb is always, first you've to win, then you do the job. a loser cannot get the job done. and thats why I think fashola can't make it to the polling boot yet.. maybe he can be a minister of works or something like that, or chief of staff, and in another 4years, GMB will resign, we you'll see him use ACN to attain greatness...

tit:
so we should vote him president because he gave you a seat?

Absolutely not.

What the story rather portrays is a man willing to give, rather than take, even when he's nothing to gain.

Well, I don't know GMB, but I know APC, I know fashola, the fuckard seized one of my delivery dispatch bikes in his no << 200cc bike implementation in Lagos, but I forgive him, cos now. I am about to get a personal commute bicycle. I know if APC wins, Nigeria will change, cos, I see the roads man, I see the efficiency of a great part of the govt. in Lagos. I see improvement in the hospitals... In fact, I am a fan of lagos state on facebook, and everyday, I see new projects commission, EVERY freaking day!...

So, I won't vote. I will campaign man. I will do my own shirts and campaign, cos I am freaking tired of no electricity in 2015!... and I am tired of hearing stealing is not corruption and everyday, a new thief who is not corrupt on the pages of news paper.

And I think it's a shame our first lady cannot discipline herself to go to skool for just 6 months to brush up her english, even OBJ freaking went back to skool. Does she want to continue to rule over her village?.. . she's the no. 1 lady of the most populous black nation!... so, I don't want that sort of village thinking who is indirectly controlling this country!...

I prefer the 'thiefing' tactics of APC.. where they create a business that works and employ thousands of people... BRT works!.. so somebody must make the money, I don't care whether it's tinubu or fashola or dangote, of course, someone must make the money anyway, it's how a capitalist system works.. not some stupid shithead stealing the road money... and we hearing deaths... when last did you hear of a pot hole accident in lagos?


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I Kinda agree with the ideology set by the OP.

Even statements made by ihedinobi2 further emphasised what the OP said.

ihedinobi2 , You have to understand that a man with loads of cash is far more confident about life and circumstances in most cases than a broke guy, and that my friend is the primary reason why you lost out on those babes.

Most women that are asset don't really depend on your money, but fact is that, it not only has to be there, it's also necessary to deal with issues that'll naturally arise from such relationships. Unless in rare cases where the man has seen money, and probably experiencing a temporary brokeness, then he can better manage the situation

I stand by what the Holy book said. Money answereth all things.

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