₦airaland Forum

djseanjohn77:
I see the West here trying to use their usual oppressive manipulative manoeuvring tactics to cause a rift between Nigeria and Chine for their own gain - Then in turn pressure Nigeria to assist them in gaining further grounds in the Sahel region by occupying Nigeria North for an enhanced access to invade the Sahel.

Not everything is a western conspiracy. People like you think that the Chinese care about Nigeria instead of realizing that it's just a business relationship and they're just looking to make money off Nigeria. Most of Nigerias exports are to the West and its imports are from China. When Nigeria fails to pay its dues Chinese companies will take Nigerian public property as collateral. This isnt a western conspiracy. This is just business.

RepoMan007:
foolish southerners will start rejoicing. they are just twisting stats to position their pockets for windfall from the centre. someone who rejects western education and goes to almajiri is not a child oit of school.

The only thing that children in Almajiri schools learn is the Quran. Nigeria does not need 15 million islamic preachers. All of these children will only be able to contribute to the economy in the most basic ways aka farming and cattle herding. They will remain in poverty and won't help Nigeria to advance. They'll either get involved in the clashes between farmers and herders or will be recruited by extremists.

If the North wants to continue rejecting western education despite its many proven benefits it can do so. Islamic countries in the middle east have all established western education but the North only wants to study the Quran. Thats fine. Thats their choice. However, if northerners then remain in poverty while the rest of the world progresses, if they continue to beg and be faced with constant insecurity because of the high population rates and low economic gains then that is but a consequence of that choice.

2elliot:
My point still stands. The north is not suffering because of population, but leadership. Even that over population is a lie, if we consider your point that a few number of men marry the women who are limited in number; therefore, leaving a larger number of men without partners. That then means that, even if these men with multiply wives give birth to 20 children with their multiple women, the figures will tally if these same women were distributed to the unmarried men and they gave birth to 3 to 5 children as their Southern partners who are largely monogamous birth. We will likely arrive at the same figures, when also we factor into the more infant death rate as compared to the south.
That aside. Population is not the problem. If food is all that is needed to keep us alive and healthy, then that food is very easy to source if we consider the technology available that can do that. It will only become a problem if they are equally dreaming to drum up money to build skyscrappers, and trying explore space, e.g to go to plannet mars. But even that, if the will is there, then it is possible.

While you're correct that the figures will tally if the polygamous men give birth to many children or those same wives are distributed among a few men, the problem is the 3-5 children. Nigeria's fertility rate is 6.5. That is unsustainable in a country with high rates of poverty, low productivity and insecurity. If Nigeria had a small population like Qatar or Saudi Arabia then it would be rich off the oil wealth.

Leadership is a problem but so is overpopulation. Food may keep people alive but it does not improve the quality of life. Why aim for a massive unhappy population instead of aiming for a sustainable and happy population albeit a smaller one? If you think Nigeria will become like China with a large population it won't happen. China underwent significant reforms that allowed them to develop their country. It included multiple genocides, assimilation and land reforms. Historically, the Han Chinese conquered the entire country and forcibly assimilated everyone. They burnt all the books and got rid of all other languages besides mandarin. After ww2 Mao instituted several land reforms which took all private property and made it state owned, redistributed land to the peasants as rental land to farm on, allocated land for factories, killed all dissidents and created a state driven socio-capitalistic economy. Will the Igbos, the Yorubas, the Hausas and the Fulani give up their ethnic identities? Their languages? Their private property and traditional practices to create China like reforms in Nigeria? If Nigeria cant do what china did but just breeds a large population it will be the world Capital of poverty and recruitment for extremist groups not the China of Africa.

AntiChristian:
So Shura is democracy to you?

Women can work if she feels like! It is not the women working that is problematic but the free-mixing with men and associated fitan!

Please go and learn Islam according to the sunnah of the Prophet and jettison your desires and lust!

Isn't shura a form of democracy? A council of people electing the leader? Democracy is where you extend that council to the citizens of the entire country.

Wasn't there the free mixing with men when Khadijah hired the prophet and proposed marriage to him? Without free mixing she wouldn't even have seen him.

I have no desires or lust in a haram way, I'm just asking questions.

AntiChristian:
Say anything you want!
Democracy is anti-islam! Shariah is our law!
And we don't support protests even if the ruler is a Christian!

Are you shia? If not the caliphs were elected by the shura which is an early form of democracy
Next you'll say that women cant work even though the prophets first wife was a merchant and caravan owner and whos wealth is what allowed the prophet muhammad to meditate and focus on religion instead of running to work everyday.

2elliot:
China has a billion people, yet they are not blaming their population. The north is not backward because they are too populated, but it is because of leadership issues. That 12 children a singular northerner has is a big blessing if harnessed for farming and manufacturing. North has everything to develop themselves, except poor leadership and religious extremism.

Theres two critical problems with your statement.

1) A big population is not a problem if its harnessed for farming and manufacturing -

Farming-

When it comes to farming the north has a very large nomadic/pastorolist community who not only don't farm but often have direct conflicts with farmers along traditional grazing routes.

Additionally, farming in Nigeria is typically done on small landholdings and plots which are usually inefficient because you cant deploy machinery or fertilizer or pesticides the way you can on large farms

Also, farming is typically a low foreign exchange earner and usually does not make a region much money

Manufacturing-

Nigeria cant beat Chinese prices in manufacturing and has an overly protectionist economy which makes the import of raw materials too expensive. Why will local markets buy Nigerian products when Chinese products are half the price and better quality?

2) The polygamy of northerners

There's a limited number of women all over the planet. When 1 northern man takes 4 wives, that's 3 other men who don't get a wife. These men are then more prone to crime and violence and become easy targets for recruitment by extremist groups. This is why extremism is more prevalent in places with polygamy. Marrying more than 1 woman is even more problematic than having many kids because it creates a large group of disenfranchised young men who have no hope for marriage and are very likely to become recruits and actors of violence.

Quest7777:
"things getting better under Tinubu"
Which kind of demonic lie is this.


Even APC NL Bot is confused.

If Govt is so much worried about protests, they should restore Fuel Subsidy.
Look, Nigeria is rich enough to subsidise fuel at ₦100 per litre, if Govt cuts down on cost of governance and effectively fights corruption.

Unfortunately, Tinubu's modus operandi is impoverishing the masses to settle the elites and his interest groups.

The government has about $20.5 billion to spend in total (oil and gas revenue and customs and tax revenue). That's $91 per Nigerian because of an overly large population. That money includes funds spent on the army, police, infrastructure, education etc. Fuel subsidies cost about $2 billion right now and that's only because of low usage and low rates of private ownership of cars among Nigerians. Do you really think 10% of the entire government funds being spent on fuel subsidies is a good idea?

Execute him and anyone that peddles drugs

Earthstorms:
This shows one of the negative side of modern living.

Our forefathers married many wives and also families arranged marriage for their children. This largely ensured that majority of the women had husbands.

Today, polygamy is frowned at and arranged marriage is seen as a taboo by many.

The young ladies are now expected to source for husbands by themselves and some fail to get husbands.

Also many young men can not afford to marry because they financial requirements exceeds their capabilities unlike in the old days where the financial requirements to raise a family is very low.

Polygamy only works in a warfaring society full of tribes. The men at the top with resources get multiple wives. The men at the bottom are sent to war to vent their anger and capture war brides.

Polygamy is why the sahel and the north are full of angry terrorists. Its easy to recruit young men who will never be able to find a wife or start a family. If you want to practice polygamy then first decide which of Nigerias young men shall go to war and die and who's woman will Nigerians steal? Those of Benin and Togo? Those of Niger and Mali? Those of Ghana ?

worksmart:
So this involves the PID case which was basically a case where UK court made an order to unfairly rob Nigeria of about $10bn.
Forget all the long winded drama, forget chinese investor, this is just another UK judgement trying to rob Nigeria.

Nigeria's corrupt former governments signed the deal with a guy who had 0 history of running any companies and was clearly out to defraud Nigeria. That same govt also agreed to the UK as the court of arbitration. Foreign governments do not care about Nigeria's inherent corruption. Now Nigeria has signed several deals with the Chinese who are seizing Nigerian property because once again, they too do not care about Nigerian government corruption.

Judolisco:
They should seize it... Of what use is d property to d common man

The property was bought using the tax revenue and oil wealth that belongs to the common man

TheTravelingOne:
Yes. I’ve learned the hard way not to trust anyone. I’ll be ok, in time. Right now, it’s passing through this dark time and trying to not to think about what just happened. I’ve already had some positive things happening for me and I look forward to much more. & Maybe I’ll change my mind about this but I doubt it, I still plan to report him for his visa fraud. I don’t think I can live with myself if I just go on and let him turn my life upside down without turning his upside down. Im not normally a revenge seeker but this isn’t that, not in my mind anyway. He neeeds to learn he can’t do this to people and go on with his life unscathed. He will learn.

You absolutely should report him. Bleep letting things go. Get even with those that hurt you or they'll just hurt someone else the same way down the road.

As for what happened to you, you're right. It will pass. Keep looking forward and to bigger and better things. Focus on your upcoming move. You said you were thinking about another African country right? Have you made any choices?

Obierika:
Most men are shying away from marriage because of the bad state of the economy, the implication of this in future is that at a point Nigeria will start having low birth rate which has negative implication for the country's growth potentials

If that was true then poor countries would have very low birth rates and no marriages but the opposite happens. People get married and have lots of kids in poor countries because they need help with farming

Men stop getting married when the quality of women declines. It's why till the 1960s, even in the richest countries most people would marry and its why rich countries like Singapore aren't having declining marriage rates unlike the West.

When women become materialistic, when they want men to spend on them and buy them things, when they sleep with men before marriage and develop trashy personalities is when men decide that marriage isn't worth it anymore.

After all that Naija "queen" who wants you to pay for her nails, shoes, hair and clothes and who has sex with you and other men before marriage, why would you marry her ? What will you gain? You can just continue to spend on her and Bleep her like she's a runs girl.

Btw nigerias population is growing faster than the GDP right now. A high population without opportunities creates instability and militant/terrorist groups. South Africa and Egypt have a smaller population than Nigeria but the people in both countries are much richer than Nigerians.

DMerciful:
But he was an illegitimate leader

How ?

From Wikepedia

"His domestic policies included famine prevention, agrarian expansion, land reform, and suspending rural poll taxes, as well as a nationwide literacy campaign and vaccination program to reduce meningitis, yellow fever and measles. Sankara's health programmes distributed millions of doses of vaccines to children across Burkina Faso.[6][7][8][9] His government also focused on building schools, health centres, water reservoirs, and infrastructure projects.[1][10] He combatted desertification of the Sahel by planting more than 10 million trees.[11][9][12] Moreover, he outlawed female genital mutilation, forced marriages and polygamy.[13] Sankara reinforced his populist image by ordering the sale of luxury vehicles and properties owned by the government in order to reduce costs. In addition he banned what he considered the luxury of air conditioning in government offices, and homes of politicians."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_Sankara

TheTravelingOne:
Thank you. I am coming to terms with the fact that I was scammed. But keeping up a facade for 4 years, how can someone do that I ask myself. But the writing is on the wall even though he would never admit to it.
I plan to move to another African country because I want to stay on the continent and when I get settled, I’ll let the authorities handle him and try not to feel guilty about it. Imagine feeling guilty for reporting the person who abandoned me in his country. Smh. I need to heal & not let this keep me from experiencing love again.

You're welcome and I understand your pain. Unfortunately some people just fucking suck. If you do plan to stay in Africa definitely look into Kenya or Ghana. Life in Kenyas a lot more comfortable, rich and it's the perfect mix between what you're used to in America and an African experience. However, Ghana is more welcoming, friendly and safe.

ogbonti:
The bold parts, please provide proof that he called most Pakistani’s in the UAE criminals

stop saying what you dont know!

Here you go, from a pakistani newspaper at that

https://www.dawn.com/news/1399320

Did you even bother to look it up? I gave you the name of the police chief too. Pakistanis are known to commit crime in most countries they go to so I'm not surprised. In the UK they had those pakistani grooming gangs where they were raping little girls and Italys first honor killing was by Pakistanis.

TheTravelingOne:
He has broken the law. He has a fake $4000 SA visa. That’s a very good reason to deport him, especially a Nigerian will get beat then deported.
& normally I would cut my loss and move on but this time, I gave too much and got shitted on too many times. I want him to hurt too. For example, before I moved here, I sent him 8m to find a place for us to live in lekki. He had his own money too but I definitely did a lot for us.

People will tell you to let it go but don't. Get your revenge. He doesn't deserve sympathy. If you've got the resources I'd even hire a lawyer and get him listed as a romance scammer so that he's never allowed into the US or western Europe for the rest of his life.

I'm guessing you weren't privy to the reputation of nigerian men. A minority of Nigerian men are good. Most are not. The number 1 scam in Nigeria is love scamming where they get men and women to fall in love with them over years, milk them of all their valuables and then dump them.

You've got 3 options now. The first which I'd recommend is you move back to America and rebuild your life. Forget about this man. He scammed you but you're still alive and you can still rebuild yourself. The second you remain in Nigeria and rebuild your life but there's a lot less opportunities and a lot more chaos in Nigeria. The third is to move to a different African country and rebuild your life. Ghana is peaceful and has a similar west African culture but Kenya would be the best option. Peaceful, economically booming, rich and the people are a lot more honest and welcoming than Nigerians.

Now the black man is getting cucked while the fine black women are taken by white men. Truly life is coming full circle.

She's 48 and has 3 kids. Tell her she's only worth fucking unless she wants to be someone sugar mama. No man in his right mind would want an old single mother.

We4all:
I believe the heading is clear enough. My friend(a lady in her 30's) wants a man who is a virgin for marriage. Her preference for a virgin man stems from the fact that promiscuous men have a high tendency of cheating in marriage and infecting their partners with STD's.

The friend in question is not a virgin, but now that she is ready to settle down, she desires a virgin for marriage. The man in question should be between the ages of 36 and 39. He must be tall and athletic with a good sense of humor.

He must be a respecter of women, liberal in religious views, a neat freak, sophisticated, calm, domesticated and educated.

His level of income doesn't really matter, but he should be able to support himself, while the lady does the same for herself.

Furthermore, the lady is a tokophobic and desires for a surrogate birth while in marriage. So, the man in question should be sophisticated enough to accept that.

The marriage contract will be for a period of 1 year and if things works out fine, there will be a renewal.

If you meet the above criteria and you're cool with the terms, indicate by sending a pm and I'll hook you up with the lady in question.

Okay but what does your friend have to offer ? As you stated she isn't a virgin herself so she has a "high tendency of cheating in marriage and infecting their partners with STD's." She's in her 30s so she's not at the peak of her physical beauty anymore, she isn't making enough money to provide for the man and she can't even give birth to his children. Why would a virgin, tall, athletic, funny, respector of women, liberal, neat freak, sophisticated, calm, domesticated and educated man who makes enough money to support himself, want your friend as a wife ?

ogbonti:
sorry Sir, UAE never grants citizenship to anyone that is not originally an Emarat - They may allow Iranians, Pakistanis and some Sudanese serve as police officers IF they were born there and have lived in UAE all their lives and that is subject to the recommendation of their Dubai Court of First Instance and their local Mosque Imam. Mind you, they are still not citizens - The ONLY Iranians who got UAE citizenship were those who lived in UAE for 10 years prior to UAE Independence in 1971 - Thanks!

"They may allow Iranians, Pakistanis and some Sudanese serve as police officers"

This isn't limited to Iranians, Pakistanis or Sudanese. Any nationality can serve as police officers but they'll never get citizenship. They won't even hire Pakistanis as police easily because as a high level officer in the UAEs police force, Dhahi Khalfan, tweeted, most Pakistanis in the UAE are criminals.

SoNature:
What's the value of UAE investments in Nigeria?

UAE is a just a place Nigerians go to import, import and import, taking away the USD we don't even have in this country.

Those who go there to work will have to spend 30 years to become citizens.

Why is lifting this visa ban important? Make it make sense.

When I become president, I will bar Nigerians from entering many countries in Asia, South America and Middle East.

30 years to become citizens ? The UAE never gives citizenship or even permanent residency to anyone. Even after 100 years.

Negroid001:
You're so insecure

He isn't insecure, he has standards. If you want to share your woman's body with the world. By all means go ahead. Many men will masturbate to a cuckolds woman.

The first thing you did wrong was trying to turn a hookup girl into a wife. You can date women that do hookups but never marry someone for whom sex is so casual a thing, that they can have it outside of committed relationships.

You've caught her cheating on you, you know that she doesn't respect you enough to listen to you and not do the things that make you uncomfortable. If you marry her its likely to only get worse. I understand that she gave you help when you were down and was there for you financially so you be there for her, financially, if she needs the help but you have no obligation to marry her for this.

Kenn55:
Guy I think you are the simp here. A small girl that doesn't even worth it is trying to set you up with your fellow guy and you are here forming real man.
A real man avoids anything that can lead to potential problems for him especially when it is on behalf of a useless girl that is not even your wife. You shouldn't have allowed her to do that. What if the guy is also useless and came to start fighting over a girl, what will you tell real niggaz? That you are fighting publicly over a useless girl that would jump to the next available guy? Is it worth it? Common, man use your senses.

This was how a guy in my street those days humiliated a guy cos of a woman. The humiliated guy came back with hired thugs to beat up the guy and mistakenly the guy died in the process. The humiliated guy (simp) is in prison as I write, the "real" man is 6ft under now and the useless girl is now married and living her life well. Who lost?

That just shows that the simp is stupid. Most women have some guy chasing them but they love to humiliate such men. The simp chose to get a guy killed over a hoe that didn't even want him. He didn't realize that this woman was just a hole to be bleeped and rather than trying to claim her, he should have had his turn too.

Rokiat:
Men are incapable of love period.

Never do anything based on you thinking a man love you or you love him just don’t do it.

Every single woman needs to learn this, women should never do nothing because of love, only do it if it’s benefits you.

Why even have unprotected sex with a man with out knowing his sexual health status risky as fu….ck.

A lot of piece of shiit misogynistic men that goes out they way to punish a woman.

You have to learn the true nature of men to freaking know how to deal with these creatures.

Reminds me of the book The Game: 41 Shades of Men: The Pursuit to Subdue and Use You.


She met the STD men unfortunately.

What of the girl that gave it to him originally? She also did not warn him. Some women are just as evil and incapable of love as men. Would you call her a misandrist?

Good on the mother. If her son got the money legitimately then why wouldn't he tell her the source of his funds ?

jamesversion:
The Indian woman who pays her husbands groom price has earned the right to cheat in her marriage. If I pay your bride price, expunge any such idea from your mind and head. Because if you do, they way I will embarrass you out of my house, you are certain not to get married to any man again. I will even say you learnt it from your mother.

You're stupid as Bleep. If you pay groom or bride price that doesn't justify cheating. Why even pay to marry someone in 2023?