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Jeon:
Why can't women be polygamous since men are polygamous in nature?.

I always laugh whenever I see complains like this, for fuvk sake men also engage in sexual explore with other ladies, but will get pissed off if the same card is been played on them.


modified:The nonsense justification coming from the weak gender that can't takes what they gave out

Cheating is different from ethical polygamy.

letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.

She cheated on you and blamed you by saying that you weren't giving her enough attention. If she truly thought you had found another woman she should have spoken about it with you, not jumped to cheating. If she's done this once then who's to say she won't do it again during the marriage. Break things off and save yourself from heartache down the road.

She was poverty shaming people on tiktok and violated Harrods code of ethics and company policy. They decided that she's a liability and that they don't want people like her, working for them.

Totally justified and it's entirely her fault.

Even if she was earning very little money and she gave you money to help with the car, why would you pay her back for a car that you both own?

You're both supposed to contribute to the marriage. Not just the husband. Your wife lied to you and hid her salary from you. If you're going to forgive her then only forgive her if she transfers 50% of her wages for the entire length of your relationship, to your name and if she puts your name on all the assets she bought during that time along with hers.

If she doesn't agree and you get divorced then speak to the judge about how she was hiding her income all these years and show them proof of her real wages. Judges don't like when one spouse hides their wealth from the other. You may be awarded a large porition of her income and property and may even be given alimony.

Before you do anything though, collect evidence. Her salary, the property she hid from you. Evidence of everything.

Omicron007:
I have heard about Body Counts before but I did not think it was that serious until I met one girl recently.
She wanted something serious between us but she said she can't date me unless my Body Count is less than 5.

For some who haven't come across the term before.
Simply put, body count is the number of people you have had sex with. It does not matter how intimate the make out was, or how much stuff you have done with someone, if there hasn't been penetration, it does not count as sex in this context.

Body count here refers only to the number of people you have had penetrative sex with.

So my question is this.
Is it necessary to know your partner's body count?
Do you know your Body Count?

She has standards and doesn't want community dick. If you don't meet her standards then just move on. Don't lie to her because there's no benefit to a relationship thays started on a bed of lies. You wouldn't like it if she lied to you about the things that you care about.

iRepNaija1:
The issue with this body count thing is that it's a double standard. Generally speaking, it's okay for a guy to have slept with many people. Some of them even have the luxury of forgetting who they've slept with. But women, whose value as a person is seen through how conservative or how promiscuous she is, her looks, body type, level of attractiveness, and how many sêx partners she's had, there is always a need to hide this information to ensure she receives validation from friends, potential love interests, or significant others.

It's not a double standard. Women are free to enforce body count standards too. It's just a case of each gender caring about different things. Women want men to be tall, athletic, earn good money etc while men don't care about these things in women. It's because each gender has different standards for what they want in their partner and it's women's fault for not caring about male body counts.

Anny69:
So once you end relationship with someone you should just block them everywhere? What kind of men-child are outside these days?

Why would the man block her? She was obviously missing him. He could easily have sex with her

She's the one bleeped up and violated her marital vows by calling him. She should have been the one to block him

Woman children, not man children

BrownEnvelop:
A South African lady has revealed that her husband divorced her six months into their marriage due to his insecurities and lack of trust for her.

She said her husband ended the marriage after finding out that she was calling her ex-boyfriend shortly after walking down the aisle.

The young woman who narrated her story during a podcast, said she she married a very jealous man who monitored the people she talked to and barred her from keeping male friends.

According to her, the major drama started on a random day that she was missing her ex-lover and decided to call his phone number but he didn’t pick up.

Her hubby found out about the call, confronted her about it and accused her of cheating with her ex. She said he even reported her to the pastor who officiated their wedding. In the latter part of the podcast, the divorcee clarified that she was not cheating.

Watch video below:
https://nigerianstreet.com/2023/12/24/my-husband-divorced-me-6-months-after-our-wedding-for-calling-my-ex-lady-video/

The man wasn't insecure. He had standards. Any contact with an ex is a dealbreaker for most people and rightfully so.

He was also correct not to trust her because she called her ex. Even if she didn't intend to cheat, this is a big red flag.

She showed complete disrespect for him. He held true to his standards and left her. Good for him. He deserves better.

eazzzy1:
Why did it lead to physical altercation? He wanted to beat the lesbian out of her? Women are supposed to be the emotional ones and men the tactful ones. He knew what would happen if he reacted the way he did but still did anyway. She probably is the one with the visa while he’s the attaché.

First, a man doing menial jobs to sponsor his wife studying is dumb to me, it almost always end up the same way. She becomes better than you and merely tolerates you or leave.

The man should have delayed his reaction till he was in a better place regarding his immigration status. When you look at it properly, cheating with a woman doesn’t seem that terrible, nothing a good talk and a rearrangement can’t fix. He just has to join in 🤷🏼.

It’s funny how these UK stories usually come from a third party. Never the ones directly involved.

I agree with this. The more a woman studies, the more arrogant she becomes. Women think they're intelligent and capable just because they have degrees and see a man that's less educated than them as less worthy of respect and love. There's countless stories of women leaving their men after getting more education or after being promoted at work and outearning them. Women are usually only in love with what a man can provide, not the man himself and if they think that they or someone else can provide more? They leave.

mbaise1000:
First, what most people who made comments ALREADY did is condemn those women, and it will be difficult to believe that none of them have fuucked a hook up girl before, who exactly are you going to leave them for if you have used them BEFORE?
Most importantly, there is nothing wrong in people marrying former sex workers if they have REALLY realized the danger and badness of that lifestyle and changed.

Even if men bleeped these hookup girls why do they have to marry them? It's using a service vs buying a used product. Would a woman marry a garbage collector just because she uses his services to get her garbage collected?

So what if they want to sleep with you? Just ignore them and keep saying no. Many men are depraved but these men should just be ignored. Don't drop your values and morals for anyone.

You probably have a fungal or bacterial infection which is why the smell comes back when you go in the heat. Washing won't fix it. Buy a strong antibacterial soap and antifungal cream, use it for one month everyday or as the pharmacy reccomends. Cover your body in the anti fungal cream. It should fix the smell

advanceDNA:
Dont mind them...they like claiming victims over petty issues...

The moment they heard of the medical anomaly of women not having hymen..all of them started claiming they dont have hymen.

Carry rotten fish smelling pvssy around..and be calling it condition....


Now..they've gone to look for name for this one too to make it a condition ..to have excuse for when boys don press am finish... modern women ..i just tire for thier BS

Same here. I'm tired of them playing victim. There's a reason why every subsequent generation of boys is becoming more misogynist than the one before it. We're all tired of women's bs.

Men are shamed for being fat, bald, short, broke, ugly, having high pitched voices, for having small dicks, for having acne, etc.

No one should be shamed for anything but why does body shaming apply only to women and not men?

Women have been selling themselves to the highest bidder for a long time. They do anything for money. Why is this surprising ? In the west most women have become prostitutes for money, with onlyfans and all of that.

I don't find it hard but I don't post on social media in the first place. My life is my life and idc about showing it to other people.

olabrinks:
Because he is your friend, you have painted him to be the victim. Are these allegations or did he actually commit all these things listed? What exactly pushed the wife to divorce him and are there any ways they can reconcile, because it’s going to be a very very long battle for him starting afresh.

Women lie about abuse all the time. Especially when it comes to divorce. They lie because they know the law favours them when they do.

HellVictorinho6:
prostitution can also help to pay bills.

Sure but to gain easy money you lose something. If you become a prostitute most men/women won't marry you and most companies won't hire you.

There’s nothing wrong with it but it is prostitution, plain and simple. The only difference between a girl with a sugar daddy and a tuna girl or ashawo is the number of clients.

Omopasito:
Why not face the issue at hand and not the educational status.
Not everyone is opportune to start School early. Some do not even go at all while some because of the love for education started when they could send themselves by going - to trade after school.

I do not know the story and how it happened but sometimes in cases like this, the lady involved may be a victim and not have shown interest in any of them but they kept rallying around her and claiming false alliance- and friendship

I doubt that the woman was an innocent victim. She was likely playing both guys to get the benefits. Women can be very manipulative.

The white man came and gave Nigerians his religion and the brown man came and gave Nigerians his religion, both of whom took millions of Africans as slaves. Now Nigerians stay fighting over who's religion is better, European or Arab while ignoring the real problems Nigeria faces.

ZIMDRILL:
fair enough, you only see the world in your own tunnel vision, am sure you are below 30 hence you see 30 as being old

am 47 i see 30s being young and attactive and i see the world with much wider view than seeing from a tunnel vision

You missed my point when i used the sister as example, the point is if it is your own sister who is said to be too old marry, you would disagree becoz you want to her happy in her own marriage regardless her age. simple meaning regardless age we all want to be married

I am 30 but i see 30 years old as being far too old for a woman. You are 47 so a 30 year old woman would be ideal for you, just as an 18 year old would be for me.

If my sister was 30 am someone were to find my sister too old to marry, i would be sad for her because of course i want her to be happy but i would understand where the man was coming from. Think about it from this perspective. If a man is too short, too unattractive or too broke would we tell a woman that she should marry him anyway because her brother or father may be short, broke and/or unattractive?

ZIMDRILL:
You got me wrong i did mean waiting
to marry a 30 and above woman for maturing etc

the maturing talking is while she is marriage



whats wrong with marrying a 30 and above women ? if it was your sister would you have the same attitude of women of that age ?

A 30 and above woman isn't as attractive, isn't young and full of life. I'm not marrying my sister. I don't owe these random woman anything so why would I marry an old woman?