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I need practical tips from those who've been in my shoes on how to deflate ego & I don't give a damn attitude.

EreluRoz:
Give your life to Christ and everything will fall in place for you. Locate any of our church branches Christ embassy and receive your deliverance. It is well

I don't need deliverance, I’ve identified my problems but surmounting them is the challenge, hence the reason I'm here. I hope someone here will come to my aid.

My problem is my ego, knowledge & high self-worth, they're not entirely bad moderately, but in my case, they're above the roof already and are affecting various spheres of my life.

He should come on time, please!

I feel like the loneliest person on the planet, and it's beginning to make me sick. I'm losing my appetite for food and other things that make up life on Earth.

Knowledge can be a curse, and for me, it truly is. Sometimes, I wish I didn't have the knowledge I do—maybe my life would be simpler.

I’m good-looking, have a good job, and a supportive family, but my love life is a mess. I end all my relationships over little things because I'm using my standards as the judge. I've lost so many beautiful people because of this—men and women alike.

I might never find the love I crave because I'm always ahead of the few I've met. My intelligence and looks seem to be a burden to many of them, to some, it breeds insecurity.

It's only been four days since I told her I was done, but even though we're thousands of kilometers apart, her company and commitment made it feel like it's been four years. Still, my ego won't let me text or call her.

She’s on here but not active, she might read this in time to come, she’d know it’s me, and she will understand that I didn’t leave her because I don’t love her, I left her because I’m battling with myself.

vanbonattel:
Its a fact. Ekiti people have severally asked for a separate ethnic group because other Yoruba's are embarrassing them. Ekiti should be a tribe on its own.

I thought your submissions were genuine.

But now I see that they were borne of tribalism & hatred, you're a troll looking for cheap attention, going forward I’ll avoid you.

vanbonattel:
Ekiti people don't speak Yoruba language, they have a different dialect which makes other Yoruba's avoid them.

They can be considered an ethnic group on their own to avoid the insults.

You know very little of what you're speaking of.

Op asked us to name other ethnic groups aside from the ‘big 3’ and you're here naming Ekiti😃

Each Yoruba state has its local dialect, a slight variation of the general Yoruba language, go to Akure, they speak what you’ll call Ekiti, the same as Ilesha in Osun state, and even in the Ekiti, many towns have their local dialect that easily tells off where such a person comes from in the state once they speak.

Ekiti is a dialect of Yoruba language and not a tribe. We are all Yoruba.

nairalanda1:
Jukun,kuteb,ijaw, kataf, tiv, idoma, igala, Edo, urhobo, itsekiri, ibibio, Efik, annang, ekoi-yakurr, kanuri, shuwa Arab, ogorri, bassa, bariba, koma, mambilla,angas, birom, gwari/gbagyi, igbirra/ebira, ogoni, eket, nupe, ekiti, Fulani, ikwerre, bura,

Ekiti isn’t a tribe, it’s one of the Yoruba states, and was created out of old Ondo state in 1996😀

I’m from Ekiti.

Guys up there, please, don't turn this beautiful thread into something else🙏🏾

imagrg:
Power of philosophy flowing through your brain.
Do you smoke ganga?

I stopped smoking a long time ago.

Fulani, Ijaw, Jukun, Gwari, Langtang, Kwale, Ikwerre, Bini, Tiv, Igede, Igwarra, Egbira, Nupe, Bariba, Urhobo, Esan, Basa, Idoma, Gbagi, Efik

I don try😃

This is so on point walahi!

And @op,

You clearly stated that you love the current arrangement, so why are you bringing it here? I mean what exactly is your complaint?

Wisdomclass1:
bread winner ?
I make more than times 20 of her monthly allowance in a month.

It just the luv i av for her though. We are both trying to build a better career.

After her retirement, i know d benefits will be massive.

Even as she works now, she has placed almost her entire life to seeing our marriage work.

I take care of the baby most times, bt she doesn't hesitate to come home whenever she got time. We have free medical care and subsidized apartment whenever we travel for her posting.

I want her to prosper in her career and I will never allow her to retire early or leave her career because of me.


According to her, sooner we will be getting armed(army) security when we travel inter state.

Also, she is very disciplined to others outside, but submissive to me. Army gals are the best.

I can't go into details on how her position helped many of my friends. Even me especially.

My ex wanted to resign from her job, she was a Navy Sub-Lieutenant then just to make our relationship work but I wasn't even sure if I wanted to settle down then so I was against it. What's the point I'm trying to make here? If she really loves you and her home, she would take up a new job or start a business since you guys have enough funds to do that.

But my guess is she loves her job more than you, and that's the truth bro.

Lol

I can relate to this, you made a mistake telling her to join military setup instead of you yourself but I won't blame you ‘cos I’m assuming you didn't know what you're setting up yourself for.

I once briefly dated a Navy sub-lieutenant but the relationship couldn't fly because of our work demands, I work in an elite paramilitary setup while she’s mostly on the sea, so I had to end the relationship because of our busy schedules & the long distance between us.

I've been feeling odd lately, trying to understand why I feel the way I do. It's a sense of foreboding. I don't want to die, not yet. The world hasn't experienced the best of me.

I know the world will go on like nothing happened but many people will be lost without me. Save my soul and keep me alive Lord of the host, sheath your scythe Grim Reaper.

Ilamina:
Sucks I was born cursed

No money, no confidence. not strong enough

Hey 🫶🏾
Don’t die just yet
Don’t die for the fun of it
Don’t die for these pains you feel
We all feel one or two
And we turned it into tools
Tools to our prosperity

These pains would go away soonest
Your life’s sacrosanct
Your living is even more,

I love you❤️

I love Military way!

Your likes should be locked up for sabotaging our national asset.

You people are the reason why this country is this bad, y’all are so unpatriotic & disloyal. Imagine advising your fellow citizens to stock up dollar criminal arbitraging, only in Nigeria such happens. All of you people wishing evils on this country will never end well, continue rejoicing evil folk.

Lizzysamuel:
Mannabbq did more than this for 8 wasted years.

Clown

Check my profile and check yours to see who's an Asslicker like the person you mentioned, that answer lies inside of you- ‘cos you're a blind supporter driven by emotions rather than logic.

I'm not a propagandist, a political actor, or a supporter like yourself. My life is blessed & it's the best. All I want is a country we can all be proud of anywhere in the world, you're simply delusional, enchanted, probably depressed & looking for who to attack here on a daily basis.

Get a life worth living bro.

I'm getting married next year to have a firsthand view. Yeah, marriage is losing its relevance but some marriages are still a good sight to behold, mine would be one too

So many pessimists on a thread, whether y'all like it or not, Nigeria will grow, and it's in my lifetime.

I have high hopes for Tinubu’s government.

SadiqBabaSani:
What if the Refinery is too heavily invested on propaganda. It is possible that the Refinery is not refining anything but rather importing, warehousing and redistributing the products

This one is working. My question is if a could dream this & get it achieved what's stopping the whole country?

We don't love our country, we only love our pockets, it's pathetic!

Why are our refineries moribund? Is making them work rocket sciences?

Why can’t we make them work?

The fate of the whole country is in the palm of a man. Until we're ready to move collectively as a nation, we ain't going nowhere. Personal interests supersede the Nigeria’s interests as it stands now.

Nigerians are the problem of Nigeria-very wicked set of people.

Imagine paying for 5 tons of cement while it was sold for less than 5k, and you asked the distributor to keep it for you at a cost only to come back for it & he's asking you to balance up as the price has shot up, so I heard by the way. He won't sell again if he dares try such with me.

They're quick to increase their prices at any slight opportunity but would be so reluctant to bring the same down, yet they're the toughest critique of the government

Sonnobax15:

Op,you certainly do not know what you have,not until you'll lose it......many men are longing to have a woman like her in their lives.......

Any ways,since you said you've already have a woman who dearly loves you and you equally love her in return,no problem.....

A clingy woman is a dangerous woman too, maybe I'm just lucky or it's a pure design by nature, I’ve met a lot of loveable ladies that many wouldn't blink twice before marrying, but then it is what it is.

malaria:
Start visiting your house with your babe ..especially when you know she is around she will get the message very clear

I dey tell you, I wasn't ready for a real relationship, but it's changed now. She clearly got the message in our last encounter that what is gone is gone. If she refuses to move on, she should continue living in her memory.

DarkLover:
Guys I've left home, I'll update asap.

So guys, as body no be firewood, and reading her antics while at home, I had to leave home to an entirely new place to stay with my friend, it turned out I made a good choice as my holiday was quite eventful & memory-filled, and even more relaxing knowing the fact that I avoided a prowling ex.

Omo, I forgot about Nairaland & everything else as I was lost in the bask of my new adventure up-up NORTH. My holiday was well spent, even though it didn’t go as planned- I intended to spend it with my family.

Now I’m back to my base & work is taking its toll on me again. I missed my girl 🙂

Bongadu:
Pipe and dump


Why's it so hard for you , simp ??

See this one😏
How old are you?

Guys I've left home, I'll update asap.

Coolsat:
Then just keep ignoring her. Make konji no go make you go knack her again ooo. Just leave her like that she'll eventually accept her fate

No, that won't ever happen again.

Coolsat:
Funnily enough she may give you peace and the needed respect than the one you are longing for, that's the irony of life.
As a man marry a woman that loves you more because that gender ehn hmm

Maybe or maybe not, or maybe I’m just lucky with women. Settling down with someone I don't love would be a disaster for her. It's better we love ourselves. My current girl would give her life without questions.

I just need a way(s) to help her move on. She’s stuck with me and I don't even have 0.1% feelings for her again.