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Your profile resembles mine so much, and I'm a techie too😂

I've been staying alone all my life, it has its pros and cons and I'm used with it now, however, I've had wonderful folks around me who helped mitigate the loneliness.

You too can have one or two, cheers✌️🏾

You guys are so sick on here 🤢
Why playin’ tribal cards on everything?

Dear Joeola4u,

Did you finally find the babe of your dreams?
How’s it going with her?

EreluRoz:
I'm glad to see this, believe me you'll improve with time and actually laugh at what you were before. It's part of life and we all have that one bad habit we struggle with but our ability to identify this bad habit and outgrow them is what makes our existence beautiful.
I'm rooting for you

🫂🫂🫂

Kaczynski:
ok rope so you stop taking up space

The available space can still accommodate an additional 8 billion and more, so why would my presence or absence matter?

LIVINGICONREBOR:
Mumuboy, e be like say over-feeding dey worry you.🥱

Why are you angry? Or are you hungry?
😐

EreluRoz:
You are welcome

I value your advice & contribution to this thread today, I made a few calls, and they were all happy I did. I also called my girlfriend and told her I didn't mean to break up with her. She was happy I put a call across, and we made peace together.

Below is one of the calling schedules my cousin prepared for me early in the year. I'd be following it up henceforth, thanks again🙇🏾

Chochovini:
. Like seriously? How prepared are you?

3-5%
I have little enthusiasm for the afterlife or what happens when you finally close your eyes. I'm very less religious but moderately spiritual.

sam121:
The way see it, you will always walk alone and always be alone.
The habit has eaten you deep and you have anger issues.

It will take the grace of God to give you a partner who can tolerate you.

I want to love & be loved. I won't be alone forever. About having anger issues, it's an absolute zero.

Farrason:
You need some time to refresh your mentality and help you learn life's lesson to appreciate those who love you truly & fight for you.

My advice, go to Kirikiri, jump the fence into the prison and go to the guards to explain your way out. The outcome will teach you something very vital in life.

What an advice🥲
I won't trade my freedom for anything on Earth. Thanks btw.

muyico:
why?

That's the twist, I can't even give a tangible reason. Primarily, it's disagreement about call mode & relocation.

Sandralight:
Eya sorry

😟😟😟

EreluRoz:
Like I said earlier it's good you identify your problems. Next thing is taking that bold step to solving it.

You can start by returning the calls you've ignored, visit some of them at your reach. Start from somewhere, it's difficult at the beginning but you'll begin to love yourself when you take that bold step.
Take the bold step now and start your redemption

Thank you so much sir/ma🙏🏾

muyico:
k! wot happened to ur marriage?

I never marry oo, I broke up with my supposed wife-to-be four days ago, and now I'm sad I did that😭

EreluRoz:
It's a good thing you have identify your problems and know you have a lot to do on yourself. Release yourself first and see everything in this life as vanity. Make friends with people above and below your class so you can have a balance, while doing this call yourself to order each time your weakness want to rare it's ugly head. Healing is a process, start from somewhere.

Thank you so much for this.

I'm trying to have acquaintances, but the more I try the more I fail, so many unanswered calls and texts from my to-be friends, old classmates and even colleagues, and over time they just forget my existence.

It's not intentional but it just happens and it's unfathomable to me. I'd be like, “why am I doing this?” but I’d still repeatedly do it. I'm sick 😫

wrongman665:
Darklover. You will always be alone.

I always feel like this curse has been placed, maybe by one of my exes. But I reject it!

That love I seek shall be found.

I need practical tips from those who've been in my shoes on how to deflate ego & I don't give a damn attitude.

EreluRoz:
Give your life to Christ and everything will fall in place for you. Locate any of our church branches Christ embassy and receive your deliverance. It is well

I don't need deliverance, I’ve identified my problems but surmounting them is the challenge, hence the reason I'm here. I hope someone here will come to my aid.

My problem is my ego, knowledge & high self-worth, they're not entirely bad moderately, but in my case, they're above the roof already and are affecting various spheres of my life.

He should come on time, please!

I feel like the loneliest person on the planet, and it's beginning to make me sick. I'm losing my appetite for food and other things that make up life on Earth.

Knowledge can be a curse, and for me, it truly is. Sometimes, I wish I didn't have the knowledge I do—maybe my life would be simpler.

I’m good-looking, have a good job, and a supportive family, but my love life is a mess. I end all my relationships over little things because I'm using my standards as the judge. I've lost so many beautiful people because of this—men and women alike.

I might never find the love I crave because I'm always ahead of the few I've met. My intelligence and looks seem to be a burden to many of them, to some, it breeds insecurity.

It's only been four days since I told her I was done, but even though we're thousands of kilometers apart, her company and commitment made it feel like it's been four years. Still, my ego won't let me text or call her.

She’s on here but not active, she might read this in time to come, she’d know it’s me, and she will understand that I didn’t leave her because I don’t love her, I left her because I’m battling with myself.

vanbonattel:
Its a fact. Ekiti people have severally asked for a separate ethnic group because other Yoruba's are embarrassing them. Ekiti should be a tribe on its own.

I thought your submissions were genuine.

But now I see that they were borne of tribalism & hatred, you're a troll looking for cheap attention, going forward I’ll avoid you.

vanbonattel:
Ekiti people don't speak Yoruba language, they have a different dialect which makes other Yoruba's avoid them.

They can be considered an ethnic group on their own to avoid the insults.

You know very little of what you're speaking of.

Op asked us to name other ethnic groups aside from the ‘big 3’ and you're here naming Ekiti😃

Each Yoruba state has its local dialect, a slight variation of the general Yoruba language, go to Akure, they speak what you’ll call Ekiti, the same as Ilesha in Osun state, and even in the Ekiti, many towns have their local dialect that easily tells off where such a person comes from in the state once they speak.

Ekiti is a dialect of Yoruba language and not a tribe. We are all Yoruba.

nairalanda1:
Jukun,kuteb,ijaw, kataf, tiv, idoma, igala, Edo, urhobo, itsekiri, ibibio, Efik, annang, ekoi-yakurr, kanuri, shuwa Arab, ogorri, bassa, bariba, koma, mambilla,angas, birom, gwari/gbagyi, igbirra/ebira, ogoni, eket, nupe, ekiti, Fulani, ikwerre, bura,

Ekiti isn’t a tribe, it’s one of the Yoruba states, and was created out of old Ondo state in 1996😀

I’m from Ekiti.

Guys up there, please, don't turn this beautiful thread into something else🙏🏾

imagrg:
Power of philosophy flowing through your brain.
Do you smoke ganga?

I stopped smoking a long time ago.

Fulani, Ijaw, Jukun, Gwari, Langtang, Kwale, Ikwerre, Bini, Tiv, Igede, Igwarra, Egbira, Nupe, Bariba, Urhobo, Esan, Basa, Idoma, Gbagi, Efik

I don try😃

This is so on point walahi!

And @op,

You clearly stated that you love the current arrangement, so why are you bringing it here? I mean what exactly is your complaint?

Wisdomclass1:
bread winner ?
I make more than times 20 of her monthly allowance in a month.

It just the luv i av for her though. We are both trying to build a better career.

After her retirement, i know d benefits will be massive.

Even as she works now, she has placed almost her entire life to seeing our marriage work.

I take care of the baby most times, bt she doesn't hesitate to come home whenever she got time. We have free medical care and subsidized apartment whenever we travel for her posting.

I want her to prosper in her career and I will never allow her to retire early or leave her career because of me.


According to her, sooner we will be getting armed(army) security when we travel inter state.

Also, she is very disciplined to others outside, but submissive to me. Army gals are the best.

I can't go into details on how her position helped many of my friends. Even me especially.

My ex wanted to resign from her job, she was a Navy Sub-Lieutenant then just to make our relationship work but I wasn't even sure if I wanted to settle down then so I was against it. What's the point I'm trying to make here? If she really loves you and her home, she would take up a new job or start a business since you guys have enough funds to do that.

But my guess is she loves her job more than you, and that's the truth bro.

Lol

I can relate to this, you made a mistake telling her to join military setup instead of you yourself but I won't blame you ‘cos I’m assuming you didn't know what you're setting up yourself for.

I once briefly dated a Navy sub-lieutenant but the relationship couldn't fly because of our work demands, I work in an elite paramilitary setup while she’s mostly on the sea, so I had to end the relationship because of our busy schedules & the long distance between us.

I've been feeling odd lately, trying to understand why I feel the way I do. It's a sense of foreboding. I don't want to die, not yet. The world hasn't experienced the best of me.

I know the world will go on like nothing happened but many people will be lost without me. Save my soul and keep me alive Lord of the host, sheath your scythe Grim Reaper.

Ilamina:
Sucks I was born cursed

No money, no confidence. not strong enough

Hey 🫶🏾
Don’t die just yet
Don’t die for the fun of it
Don’t die for these pains you feel
We all feel one or two
And we turned it into tools
Tools to our prosperity

These pains would go away soonest
Your life’s sacrosanct
Your living is even more,

I love you❤️