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Davash222:
That's not the biggest mistake..
The biggest mistake is to marry a Nigerian girl.

white girl all the way

funkmrflexx:
We Have Been Dating For 1 Year and 6 months now. I’ve met her parents, we wanted to get married last year but her dad told me to wait till she finishes school which is supposed to be next year. I’m 25 years old and she’s 22 .

I live alone in the city while my mom lives in the village. My younger sister who I’m sponsoring through school sometimes comes to my place during holidays and weekends. My girlfriend practically lives with me because she comes from a type of an Abusive family. So she lives with me and I even assist her with school fees and house rents sometimes. I’ve spent even more than her father for her school.

Everyone In my family knows her and she’s a very wonderful girl. Typical wife material. She supports me every time even when I’m broke. I’m not the type of guy that dates a lot of girls . I don’t even cheat on her. Since I met her I’ve done away with a lot of ladies. I’m 100% committed to the relationship

But the problem is that she Has very bad anger issues. I mean she can destroy your property when she’s angry and I’m the quiet type. I don’t like hitting a lady execpt once in a while a general brain resetting slap. When she starts she doesn’t listen to anyone. Not me, not even her parents. So anytime she’s angry like this I will just find a way to make her laugh. Both of you can just be eating and she will get angry if you ate the fleshy part of the meat and left oily part for her (we have quarreled because of that I mean serious quarrel) . Sometimes I get tired of the whole situation. At the end even when she’s wrong I’ll let her for peace to reign. So I try to manage the anger at home so it shouldn’t go out

So we went to visit my mom in the yesterday. Because of curfew we slept over. So my mom bought us mangos this morning and told us to carry.

My girlfriend then said she doesn’t like mango that if I want to eat my mango I should carry it myself. Then my mom (she is the type that always shouts at every body. The real wahala woman) told her that if she can’t carry the mango then she should just put it on my head for me to carry na (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na).

That was the only thing my mom said. Then she sparked. Started shouting at my mom. That she should stop talking to her like that, that she doesn’t like it. In fact she’s going home. So she carried her bag and started going home. Every one in the compound started saying it’s ok (Na dat thing why dem tell u Dey make u Dey vex so) she was still shouting. I was even try to calm her down but no way. She was still shouting. Even my sister who had never seen her angry before became angry (na so you b? She said). I was really disappointed In her

The issue is what even made me angry is how she reacted. If she didn’t like what my mom said made her angry. At least she should have waited till we got home (this was the first time we were both sleeping over) then she would tell me. Or she could have called my sister and told her what my mom said. After all the fracas, she went inside the room till we left. I just told everybody to just leave her.

So when we got home I told her what she did was wrong that she shouldn’t have reacted like that. Na there war start. She started yelling and shouting at me that if my mom talks to everyone like that she won’t take it (my plan was to tell her that she should apologize to her. Because my mom already apologized that she won’t talk to her again like that. Which I know she will o . So we can just forget about the issue. But she never accepts she’s wrong ) She said I took her to my village to intimidate her in front of my family people, I was really angry and called her uncle and told him what happened. He said there was nothing wrong with what my mom told her (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) and that he would talk to her .

I even scolded my mom before I left that I didn’t like what she said what she did that’s she was just causing issue. My girlfriend said when my mom said the word (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) that I should have immediately rebuked my mom. But me sef no see anything wrong with what my mom said( If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

I just Dey follow her uncle advise and leave her be until she calms down and I talk to her

So my people what’s offensive in this word? If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

But this her attitude don tire me. Break up is not on the card for me at least not yet. She always thinks that they are other guys out there because she has a lot of toasters but I know they can’t do quarter of what I’m doing for her. In this modern time it’s difficult to see a guy who will allow his girlfriend stay with him thereby losing his freedom to do certain things. A guy who doesn’t cheat, a guy who takes care of her does everything for her .

I just think the things she went through in her family is affecting her physiological. And sometimes when I think about leaving her I feel pity because she can’t go back to her parents house.

Dump the girl... That's my Advice... If you dare marry her, you'll end up hating your life.

Offpoint:
My phone was stolen during the lock down period, so I lost my both sims MTN&Glo. I couldn't retrieved, nor get a temporal sim due to the lockdown.
So I sorted myself out by borrowing unused sim from my neighbour just to stay online.
Bought a temporal used phone, still in good shape. Realized the internet speed has been extremely slow, though I'm using Glo... I've never had a problem with their speed cuz it's quite OK in my area.
But it sims this guy sim card is cursed with SLOWNESS, I realize it's 3G sim cuz I tried using it on my 4G lite Mifi and 4G option isnt there.
Even at 3G I should get a good speed like before, but the case is different with the sim.

Yesterday I decided to go out and get a new sim since the partial easing of the lockdown. Got a 4G lite sim, registered and start using it an hour later.
Meen the difference was CLEARED the speed was amazing, even though the phone is 3G phone. I became curious why is the other sim speed that poor? I switched the data to that sim... Speed is still as poor as anything.

This brought my curiosity here... Do Sim Cards determine Internet speed in such a way?

yeah it does

Provoker:
Hi, I really need to know if the prices of phones will increase or decrease after this lockdown.

I intend to get a new phone

yes o...I bought infinix hot 8 N52,000

ednut1:
relocate in what way Either you marry a brit, get a job offer or as student. Its not about money

as a student.

Please Nigerians living in the UK, how much does it cost to relocate to the UK. I would love to go for my masters after university.

I tried to pay for Apple music with uba prepaid card. The card was accepted, I funded it with 500 cox am on the student plan, and when I tried to pay it keeps declining my card. Saying insufficient funds.
My question is does uba charge a processing fee or something. Please if you have ever used the prepaid card on apple music... Tell me how u did it please.

I tried to pay for Apple music with uba prepaid card. The card was accepted, I funded it with 500 cox am on the student plan, and when I tried to pay it keeps declining my card. Saying insufficient funds.

My question is does uba charge a processing fee or something. Please if you have ever used the prepaid card on apple music... Tell me how u did it please.

cruzydal:
That Apple Music selects card badly . I tried my 2 bank cards , my dad’s card it didn’t work . I had to join my colleague’s family plan .

what bank card does he use?

Shezkid01:
I think these atm cards are selected
If you can get wema atm card it will work
Are u paying as student 450 Or individual 900

student 450
Do u mean barter virtual card issued by wema?

ORIJIN201:
I use my Zenith MasterCard. That's the only card that works in Nigeria.

what type of account do u have?

ORIJIN201:
I use my Zenith MasterCard. That's the only card that works in Nigeria.

I have a Zenith bank master card o... But it's an easy save classic account

Please I tried to pay for apple music with my Zenith bank master card but I got declined.. Even my friend's uba africard was declined.. Like wise my mum's access bank master card. Please apple music users how do u pay for your subscription.

Am using the apple music android app.

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Benclever1:
Hello everyone.

So I met this girl through a mutual friend and we started bonding. Initially, I didn't take the friendship seriously because this lady is a little older than me and I do not see any future between us.

Now, things got more intense between us. She visited me one time, one thing leading to another, we were in bed, about to have sex and then I pulled out the condom but she refused, insisting that she doesn't enjoy sex with condom. I was very surprised to hear that, so I tried to make her see reasons why the condom is very necessary. She adamantly refused. We ended up not having the sex that day.

Just last week she visited again and we spent the night together. We tried to have sex again but the same issue came up again. She insisted I must not used condom. Now this got me upset. During the conversation that ensued, she made it very clear to me that she does not have any STD/STI so I should not be afraid. She however admitted that she was ovulating and that the chances of getting her pregnant was high, but that I should not worry that she'd take care of herself and the pregnancy, if it happens. She said that she would not force me to get involved with the baby if I don't want. However, she made very clear that she's not ready to get married. This got me confused.

I don't want to let my guards down by indulging in unprotected sex with someone I don't trust. I also do not want to hurt her feelings. So I plan to take her for medical tests next week and then we can kick it off from there.

What's your advise for me.

Thank you.

my brother run ooo

gabazin080:
My wife and I don't like condom and we are both very sexually active. to avoid stories that touch we did family planning but it failed in May and my twin girls are just a year old then, so we decided that we can't keep the pregnancy.

After clearing that mess she went back to the hospital to complain and was given another injection and some drugs that she should come back for the injection every 6 months.

Now she is pregnant again after just 4 months. family planning has failed again, what can we do to prevent another pregnancy because we are not going to keep this also and we planned not to have kids again till maybe after 10 years.


Please help with any local or natural method of family planning.

keep killing your children

honey82:
Hello women and gentlemen, good day to you all,

I want to ask about something that has bothered me since so I need to bring it out the largest Forum in Africa.

Am in my early 20s but not up to 25 years of age now, I run a company here in Nigeria, I also have assets, trademarks and the like...
I make more than 300k profits monthly from the company..

I have talent in singing music, I have a very good voice, I can sing very well.

I need advice

What is the best way for me..

Should I just stay in Lagos Nigeria to sing and make money along side with my business or I should travel out to USA to further IT skills and expand my business


I need advice on this

USA

Mrcashman87:
I am not new to Nairaland but I have to use this account for my story . I have met her in 2009 she was calm , doesn’t talk much but easily get angry and I also noticed that she wasn’t a good cook but was good in other things ( chores) , it didn’t stopped me from loving her, I didn’t tell any of my people even though I have sisters that are good cook but I decided to take her to catering school to learn how to cook which she went for lessons to practice.

We got married in 2013 , she got pregnant that same month and she became so lazy that I will go to work and come back to found the house very messy with everything’s all over the places , dirty dishes and not dinner yet, and I have to take over cleaning and cooking dinner for us. She claimed she could not longer clean the house , she is tired and need to rest so I have decided to get a house help for her , a small 14 years old, this girl was hard working , very obedient but to my wife she is evil , every single day I comes back from work , this girl is always in tears my wife will beat the hell out of her to the extent of giving her black eye , if I confront her she will start accusing me of sleeping with the girl which is not true, I can never stoop so low to sleep with an underage girl. I have nieces of similar ages what I wouldn’t want another person to do to my nieces and wouldn’t do to another person daughter.

One time I came back from work to found the girl in a pool of blood , that my wife hit her with a wooden chair and she had a deep cut on her head , I got angry with my wife even her reasons didn’t make sense to me , all because she asked the poor girl to warmed up the baby milk and she mistakenly left it for too long , the milk was too hot to give to the crying baby so she got angry at her and hit her . I have told my wife she shouldn’t act like that no matter what and here come again you are sleeping with her and that’s why u are siding with her , we had an heated argument that I have left the house to cool down , I came back after 5 hours and next morning I have send for my brother to take the girl back to her parents , I have given her money 30k to manage that was how the girl left the house.

When our first child was 6 months , we found out she was 2 months pregnant she cried that the baby is too small , she can’t keep the pregnancy , I have begged her to keep that everything will be alright . Our twins were born a girl and boy , having 3 children under 2 wasn’t easy for us and I have to go to work while she staying with the kids all alone and she was depressed , I have decided to bring in a house help 15 years old boy , the same thing repeated again , she was maltreated him the same thing she did with the girl , that boy didn’t even stays with us for 2 months , he run away . I came back to found her crying that the boy has slapped her and run away, I was angry for what he did even swear if I catch him , he will regret the day he was born but the other way I knew that boy did it for self defence .

After the boy left I said no more e help , she will have to manage alone because I couldn’t help her anymore , but my house become dirty that I wouldn’t even want to bring in visitors because of the state of the house , dirty plates can stay in the sink for 3 -4 days , laundry she has a washing machine but she couldn’t bother to do , cooking we eats take away every single night , imagine I comes back home 9pm due to my job and Lagos traffic , at that time I’m even exhausted but I have to started cleaning , one time I got pissed with her that she didn’t wash the eldest daughter school uniform and all her uniform 5 sets of uniform were dirty and she had no clean one to put on in the morning , I have to wash them at 10pm and for her she didn’t see anything wrong with that.

When the twins were 1 years she told me she is tired of staying at home that she wanted to go to work , I have told her to wait at least for them to be a year and 6 months to start school before she can pursue her career but she disagreed with me, so I gave her money for business , she opened a shop . We had an agreement that she should be closing down her shop at 7pm so she could be home with the kids and take care of the house , she was ok and I got a elderly woman as a help , she doesn’t lives with us , she comes at 6 am and closes at 8pm and I also brought 2 of my nieces 18 and 11 to the house. Every since she started working she has never get home on time , sometimes she stays until 10pm , if I talk she get angry and will start raining insults on me , we haven’t make love in a long time , she always complains of being tired , her stomach is paining her etc etc. I have decided to leave her alone and not bother her about sex anymore , and it doesn’t bother too. She acts as im a nobody to her. So it happened in July I came back home to found my niece 11 years old with a deep cut and blood on her eyebrows and my wife did it just because the girl broke a plate so she hit the girl with the broken plate , first all I had to rush her to the hospital and she had 11 stitches and went back home, all I wanted to sit with her and to talk sense with her but she wasn’t even interested all she could do was shouting at me , accusing me of sleeping with both my nieces and the elderly house help , was so angry that I have beaten her badly which I later regretted and apologise to her.

That was the first time I have lay my hand on her something I vow not to do to the woman I love but she pushed me so bad and I have been remorseful but she refuse to forgive me . It’s now 4 months we don’t talk , we don’t sleep in the same room , she just do her own and come home anytime she pleases. I just don’t know what to do anymore , I love my wife and children but her attitudes isn’t right. We have 3 beautiful children 5and twins are 4. Sometime i want to divorce her but when I think about my children I just don’t feel like going ahead with divorce but I’m also a human and can’t stop living like this .

Please my brothers and sisters help me with your advices

Divorce her.

ginaolo:
Hi

I’ve been with a lady for some time now but I’m starting to have doubts about this girl.

My main concern is that she is too reserved and she doesn’t like to do anything that involves people. I come from a big family unit and she’s always avoiding family get togethers, outings, even to meet my friends and socialise with them is a huge problem. We’ve gone out very few times, she’s met my mum and a few friends, but she avoids meeting them most time. I addressed it to her and she claims she has social anxiety but for how long can I continue like this? All she wants to do is be at home. My family are already starting to get the wrong impression of her and they believe she is proud. I know my older sister is not too fond of her because of her quiet nature and I think this will take a toll on us in the future if we get married. I don’t want a wife that cannot do basic things like go out with me to events or represent me well. I don’t want a wife that will be hiding in the house 24/7.

Another thing is that she has some stubborn traits in her. She’s a lovely woman, she’s very kind, compassionate and she motivates me a lot. When she’s around me alone she’s very cool, but when it comes to going out and doing things, she starts acting up. I cannot deal with her shy nature as it’s too much and it’s becoming embarrassing. She’s 24. What do I do please?

I love quiet, shy girls..... Maybe try talking to her about it

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Zlatan can do so much better

emerald16:
My wife has been really helpful from when we started dating, she has actually taken me from grass to grace and helped me from a self contained to a 3bedroom flat. She has been helping with house expenses for over a year now, I do work but my salary is very small, just around 60k.

She is into business which flourished so much but it's a little down for now. She helped made our marriage possible by contributing far more than i. She is every woman's dream and is even poised to help me secure a better job and a side business.

I have also contributed my part in helping her grow her business though not financially but through technical support, expert advice and more as she just started her business the very month we started dating but though in a small way with very little capital.

I feel I have over burdened her with my own problem and she is carrying way too much on her shoulders cos her parents and siblings are also depending on her.
I felt a pinch of her frustration when I asked her if she could help transfer a little sum of 200 naira to me for airtime, she was about doing it when I told her I actually wanted to send the amount as airtime to my dad,then she flared up saying she will take care of me, herself and even my parents! I felt bad and terrible cos I rarely ask her for money to send to my people except on very rare occasions which are but a few.

I kept mute and didn't feel like talking to her and we haven't exchanged a proper conversation since last night when it happened.

What do I do? Even when I try to initiate a conversation, she doesn't seem interested

you're slowly losing respect bro.... Go make more money

Imoh555:
Do you know that In Nigeria, once the man stops calling, some relationship will just die a natural death?? I really just want to know why ladies always wants the man to do almost everything but they don't want to do or contribute anything yet they clamour for equal rights and feminism (let's not talk about that today) ever hear a lady say help me do so and so thing and guys will rush to do it..

But try telling a lady to help you carry your bag, you will hear something like do you want to kill me don't you know I'm a lady? My question is that is it appointed for men to suffer and always do the hard stuffs while ladies relax and get everything done for them and always be at the receiving end? I am very equal in my relationship we either split bills or work on projects together I don't have time to be worshiping any woman, Jesus died for everyone and not just for women alone that men should always be paying for their sins by living life for the ladies..

I was chyking one babe last December and I noticed she hardly ever calls even if I send airtime she liked me no doubt and was giving it to me hot, so I decided not to call for a week to see if she was gonna call and I ignored her whatsapp massages na so we take dey silent since February till now..

She called last night to ask if everything was OK and why I don't call and I asked her if she knew the phone works both ways...

Ladies please some of you should upgrade. A relationship is a 50/50 thing. For me I pay for our outings today you pay tomorrow or we contribute money and do whatever chills we want, you call I call, you text I text, you buy me gifts I reciprocate. Someone said I'm too strict that she can't date me I just told her I'm not strict that I just don't entertain mediocrity and I'm too tall to be bowing down to worship a woman who contributes absolutely nothing to my life.......

Make una no mind my rant,na bread and avocado wey I eat dey sweet me.... But let's learn to practice equality....if I have all it takes I'll provide for my woman but she just has to reciprocate in her own little way just to show me she cares too... Hope I made small sense

preach bro

Run away bro

Sadiqali24:
Hy my friends, I want you to help me out.

I'm an N C E holder but currently in 300l.

There is this lady at my work place(I teach in government school) who is doing her MSc(currently), she profess her love for me and want to marry me and I'm just 22. the thing with women is that they can be intimidated by friends and maybe along the line after giving me so much hope will end up saying, "I'm not her class". your advice is strongly needed please.

she wants to marry you?... Do u want to marry her?

Tufia