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cindel07:
my dear there is no rules to relationship, this issue can either take you people to a higher height or break you up.for the fact other people went through similar situation and the relationship crashlanded doesn't mean that if you give her one more chance then you are making a mistake. guy follow your heart and do what it tells you not what people say cos to err is human and to forgive is divine.all the same COMMIT YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO GOD and never let OBAMA'S slogan depart from your mouth, YES WE CAN and i believe you can make this relationship work perfectly only believe in your inner self. CHEERS remember THE DEVIL YOU KNOW IS BETTER THAN THE ANGEL YOU HAVEN'T SEEN.

eyonigger:
There is nothing such as " love is wicked" it is people that is wicked towards love by cheating i.e.

In your own case, your girl was wicked towards love by cheating on you.

However love is always there after love, love is something special and sweet, but you can never enjoy it for the first time and expect it to last 4ever.

You must face the bitter side of it, it trains, it motivates, it gives hope that a better and befitting love is ahead to clinch.

As for the issue on hand, it is obvious that at the end of the day, you'll be the one to make the best decision for yourself, your being here on NL is originally to share your pain and see if it will depreciate by telling people on this forum what has happened,but at the end of the day, your final decision will be taken on your own for sure.

Not a bad idea, Romance in ruin introduced me to NL. I wish you all the best.

lysaa:
thank you!

patwhizkid:
This is my stoooooory. . .
This is my song . . .

sabak:
I WANT TO LAY THE FACTS DOWN FOR U-

1) ALMOST ALL WOMEN GOOD  OR BAD ARE CAPABLE OF DOING WHAT YOUR FIANCEE DID

2)IF ITS ONE OF U CAN CONSIDER GIVING HER A SECOND CHANCE

3) IF U DECIDE TO DO THAT U MUST GIVE URSELF 12 CALENDER MONTHS OR MORE DEPENDING  ON UR RATE OF HEALING

4)u must drop all emotions and consider all circumstances in the matter

5) the only fulcrum on which a decision to move on should be made is that there is apparently real regret on her part, a and she demonstrates practically that sticking with you means the world to her

6) in all these,  u must realise that dumping her doesn't guarantee a better deal with the next eve, this take us back to (1). almost all eves can love u and still cheat on u, just like all men can. The best of men is still a man at at best.

I survived  infidelity in a long term relationship that ultimately ended in marriage. I love my wife more now, trust her more now, and I am having a lifetime of fun and happiness. You will never forget, that's true, but u can forgive completely like in my case, and that's all u need to be happy.

My circumstances and urs are not the same, cos in my case, my would be wife came to me withoutany suspicion on my side and made the confessions, it took a while but with God we were able to put it behind, u can read  my past posts to search my story out. But if there is enough character from both ends, u can still forge the kind of marriage all around will be envious of, but of course, all parties must first learn the lessons their in. In the time being u start by  reducing the status of that relationship to being just friends, no sex no intimacy , then take it from there.

binaflexia:
, lol, No use style curse me oh!. Lol, na wah! Na advice i dey try to give am oh!

eyeshadow:
Like I said, I MAY BE WRONG but you trying to monitor her movement; Insisting on picking her call; Checking her text message; replying to the text to get more info and calling him to get even more. It just sounds like it happens all the time. That can be quite offputting for a young girl (she sounds like she may be a lot younger than you cos she was in 100L when you finished university).

eyeshadow:
You sound a bit possessive sha. I may be wrong though but does she complain about this?

nomanicole:
davidcares,
i have a friend who never cheated on her boyfriend,but he always did,he'd always get caught most of d time and beg,she'd forgive,so what does dat make her ?considering they have spent three years together,u think a girl like dat will be faithful to dat guy again?  i mean,the guys always get away with "he cheated,so what?"but the gal has to be called names. when u cheated on her last two years ,was it once?like a on night stand,did she catch u or did u confess? after that did u show signs of repentance or did u go like other men"its a man's world"
  yes i kinda blame her she slept with somebody else while heavy,how old is this pregnancy? are u sure its yours? maybe you are the other guy. when u cheated on her two years ago,did u give her a reason why u did it considering u were a broke ass.?oh ! please,if you are such a saint,apart from the two years ago that u were caught,what about the times u weren't caught.
          now listen,i'm not saying she's right,maybe she wants u to have a feel of what u always do to her,you are lucky she's sorry,i bet if she wasn't you'd be dead considering how shocked you are,even after apologies. i'm not saying you deserve what happened,u cant tell ur friends becaue ur ashamed they'll laugh at you,and say wha tgoes around comes around.
i'm sure its your type that will claim saint when they have nothing and cheat all they want when they feel they've arrived.its good you just gota taste of how betrayed she musta felt so don't do it again.stay with the girl who has been there for you through bad times,because boy i tell ya,good girls are hard to come by. this is just one of your trying times to help you get stronger.u asked my opinion,you got it!

Chuck Ba$$:
I have always said women under 35 are lying cheating scumbags! No matter how a guy tries to be appreciative of them or love them, they must always show their stupidity by cheating on the guy and they are always very sorry when they are caught. Thats why i always appreciate men who beat their girlfriends, men that are cruel to them, deprive them of things, objectify them and subjugate them because we all know that whether your nice, kind and loving to these shit-heads, they will still cheat on you.

At poster in as much as i feel sorry for you, i hope you now realise that the woman you are struggling to see if you love is nothing but a confirmed LovePeddler like the rest of her gender and it is only an eye opener for you to know how to treat women from today. No more mr lover lover because these slutty idiots will only cause you more heart ache. Rather you should be in the pole position to be causing them heart ache because they are all the same. They are never satisfied and their big buldgy eyes will always wander to sleep with another man no matter how hard you try and the lies they will be feeding you about their innocence is enough to make the devil jealous.

So sharp up! Learn to be cruel with them, maltreat them, lie to them, cheat on them back sporadically, have no remorse whatso ever so that when she does her own, you have nothing to lose and you go and pick up the next slutty scum bag and do the same. Is a vicious musical chair and you can only lose when you decide to put your heart in there and love/respect a woman.

acidrop:
@poster, u said u love her so much that u wanted to marry her, then how come u were trying to abort the baby i mean ur baby, obviously u havent found out about her cheating b4 u decided tp abort the baby. . . . . .well there are 2 sides to a story and i dont normally comment to a story like this unless i hear the other side. . . . .but if u love her n still want her go get her