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.. where is that guy that says "kiss the truth"?

Onegai:
Decency and following the Lord means that you should do unto others as the Lord requires of you, not as they do to you. Which means, you should politely greet the man, thank him for informing you, get details of the burial, show up and pay your respects.

Kindly leave all talk of custody till you have seen your ex-wife and ascertained whether your daughters are well taken care of.

I beg of you (I've been begging you since last year)...break the pattern you have of listening to bad advice that is sure to follow. Because you're nursing greviances and bitterness, you tend to only listen to really bad advice.

You don't want to admit any mistakes, you just want to spin your version of events (mostly half truths and careful editing of your story so you're not the villain) so you can get strangers to insult your ex-wife and pity you because it makes you feel good. I've seen the path you're walking down, how it ends, e no worth am.

Attend the burial, be composed and dignified. Show your maturity. No need to contribute if you don't feel like.

Your ex-wife isn't your enemy, both of you screwed up in your marriage and until you can look into a mirror and be deeply honest and humble, peace will elude you.

And I want you to have peace.

"Tiri gbosa" for you @Onegai!
You have spoken with so much maturity. Marital issues are not easy to handle moreso with everyone wanting to have an opinion on other people's matter.
I'll just add that you go to pay your last respects to your father-in-law, along with an older or elderly family member from your side.
Wish you a speedy resolution.

Iamheretolearn:
I have some people I called friends that do not return visits or hardly call or don't call at all to check up on me but I consistently went to visit them and check up on them to see how they are faring.
I have told them that their habit of not reciprocating visits is an act of lack of concern about my welfare but they haven't changed.

I decided to snub them because they would add no value to my personality with their lack of concern about my welfare by never calling to check up on me or visiting me.





Would you keep a friendship going if the other person doesn't change their behavior after you've expressed your feelings?

I think you already provided answers to your question. They were probably not your friends to begin with.
.. like "Johnny Walker" said, keep on moving.

It would've been nice to at least see a picture of the buildings. All we have here are the first lady, red/orange tape and a multitude.

.. to leave her marriage? I feel she crossed her boundaries.
First of all, I guess there's a considerable age difference here. Anyway, he provides for his family and keeps an account balance of 14M (which you went too far by confronting him with) in present-day Nigeria while she brings a meagre 130k to the equation which he's not asking about.
May she not experience the other side of marriage (like the poster above me has prescribed) by her own making.

You're such a 'down to earth' person. Anyway, I only know of Kwaito (from the days of "Channel O") as being traditionally South African.
Thanks for sharing.

(.. in 'Omawunmi's voice, "if you come ask me, na who i go ask".)
Well, the moral of your story is that you are an able bodied man who should keep up with his struggle in this 'rat race'.
You should thank your stars that there were people around who saved you from an early sojourn to the great beyond.

Well, the damage has been done, and your sister is deeply hurt and upset. I'm sure you've received more than enough reprimands from the posters above.
You're obviously a youth with fleeting ideas that underscores your naivety.
I'll advise you to call on extended family members your older sister still respects and listens to and ask them to intervene.
We learn from our mistakes every day, and I'm sure you've learned an unforgettable lesson from this experience.
I wish you the best!

techbro1:
Omoooo this car still exists? That’s crazy. It was so popular in Calabar back in 2008/2009. I’m so surprised to see one in such a good looking conditon

That is the beauty of Nairaland!
Happy sales, Bro!!

The "big hen" is home to roost, finally. His career is now full circle.

kunle4toyeyaho:
on the contrary,the new tax law is a sigh of relief. Unless you are a high income earner,your tax will definitely reduce. Pick a copy of the tax law and read up

Well said, bro but I think Nigerians, being who we are, will become more cunning in their ways in an attempt to evade tax.
While the struggling masses may enjoy some form of tax relief, the thought of high earners parting ways with a significant portion of their earnings will push them to device ways to evade the payments.
Moreso with a largely corrupt civil service, the tax officers will become kings seeking ways to aid and manipulate payments for kick backs.
.. anyway we shall see as 2026 is around the corner.

MaziObinnaokija:
Nija police and FORCE.Whatever hapun to water canon to disperse the protesters mbanu ! FORCE

Sheh you know their full name na.. Nigeria Police (.. na by) FORCE!!!

It appears that the "chickens" are finally home to roost.

The hunter may soon become the hunted.. or the bushmeat is about to catch the hunter!

.. just because "Oga Wike" only went across to "Jand" for a few days to see his 'patent medicine' seller?

The vasectomy is not the main issue here, but the question of having another child. Going through another surgery may be more complicated and may lead to other problems.
If you decide to have another child, there are other methods of assisted conception with your wife, without sacrificing your desire for pleasure.

.. in potable's voice, "wahala, wahala"!
More characters needed.

Wowwww!
The height of irresponsibility. Thank God the aircraft landed in one piece (as it could've 'air pieces').
We await the action to be taken against the aircrew as 103 lives were needlessly endangered!!

It's a hard knock life, so keep your head up, man!

A very explicit write up you have up here.
You just offered the first few steps everyone must imbibe on our 'thousand mile' journey to financial emancipation.
Thank you!

budaatum:
Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen nineteen and six , result happiness.

Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds ought and six, result misery

Charles Dickens, David Copperfield

100 likes for you, Sir!
This is the summary of the story and the 'panacea' (.. make I borrow big English) to his situation.

lovediehatelive:
I've given this a thought because it's not like I have evidence, not I I saw his wife with anyone or so.

But what if tomorrow it's my turn and a friend decides to look away.

Besides, my conscience is troubling me

Well like the first responder to your story adviced, mind your business and face your front .
Like they say, what you don't know wouldn't hurt you. I can imagine the chaos if every man only knew the full story about their ancestry.

It's appears to be a complicated situation.
It's hard to lay the blame solely on either "spice" (), as there are really no winners here.
I can only hope that their situation improves with time and all parties find some healing.

This seems to be the last but one nail in the coffin of LP!

Ope oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!

From the list of countries, I think it's a reflection of the level of development, since the processing of raw materials to finished products and the provision of other services (for both local consumption and export) require energy, especially fossil fuel energy.

It's a beautiful thing to spot car crazy 'gals' on this forum.
I'll pick the Lexus for 9ja roads but the Urus will suffice elsewhere.

Outright domination from the "Queens of the coast"!
..more wins.

No worries dear sis. You just described what probably was a total lunar eclipse.
You just became aware of a celestial occurrence most people take no interest in or misjudge as a metaphysical experience such as the poster above.

These are wise words from a wise man. A national leader of the future.

The beef between these monarchs seems to be steeped in history.
The feud is more about the kingship rather than their personalities.

.. all these figures are dizzying.
It reminds me of how a former prime minister of UK described Nigerian public officials.. "fantastically corrupt"!