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Newdawn30:
Wow, to wait for 4years after is the path I don't get. If the blow was too much for her, she should have walked away, she has been cheating on the husband for longer time. Na they one way him know be that

Facts!

Reminderz:
if you cheat on her, don't confess, repent and move on...

if she caught you cheating and she cheats back, divorce her... that's the rule of the game... cheating is not the same with men and women...

before a woman cheat on you, she has lost all love and respect for you... but this is not true for a man, a man can have zero feelings for a woman and still fvck her... men don't attach feelings and emotions to sex, this is only for women...

1, 2, 3 go, ohyaa come for me...

100%

Exactly. She will do it again!

almarthins:
This kind woman go kill a man without a trace.
She go still cheat again, and again. As she no fit forgive and that's how they get damaged.

lexzycc:
Cheat again!!!

This thing don full everywhere now o.

I came across this on the social media and I want to know the opinion of naira nations. The question is, is payback cheating okay in a marriage?

ADVISE HIM, ONLY FOR MATURE MINDS.
I cheated on my wife one time in our 3rd year of marriage.. she saw a text from the lady and confronted me crying and asking me where she went wrong.. she spoke to me in such a way that I felt useless and ashamed of my self.. indeed she’s a good woman who has stood by me all these years and this is how I repay her.. I went sober.. and very remorseful.. I confessed everything to her and exposed the lady In question.. She cried.. for several days and night.. she starved herself.. she was almost slipping into depression but with Gods help and my constant apologizing and actions she pulled through.. she told me she has forgiven me and I should not worry no soul will ever know about it.. I was like God thank you for the blessed wife you gave me.. she returned to being my sweet, loving and affectionate wife again and we were able to heal from the hurt .. I promised her and vowed to God never to ever cheat on her as long as I’m alive and this is our 7th year I have kept that promise by Gods grace.. two weeks ago my wife told me she was traveling to attend a wedding in another state.. her friends baby sisters wedding.. she even bought a lace.. sewed it, bought gele, and a purse.. I helped her book her flight, I drove her to the airport and even gave her extra money for spending.. I took care of the kids while she was away (she was supposed to be gone for 4 days ) the next day.. our fist daughter woke up with a high fever and I was panicking.. I rushed her to the hospital and they put her on admission instantly cos she had severe malaria.. then I tried to reach my wife at least to inform her.. her numbers were all switched off.. I’m not the type to be calling my wife’s friends but I had to call the friend she told me she was going to see just to inform her of the emergency.. so Was shocked to hear that my wife said she was coming to her place.. at first i greeted her and said ah ah madam how the preparation coming up? She was like what preparation sir?? I said your sisters wedding.. she said which sister? I immediately knew something was not right but I pretended so as not to embarrass my wife any further .. I cut the call and tried to keep my cool.. after series of medication she was stable.. my wife called me hours later and was apologizing that her and her friend (the one I called went to market to do some shopping and decided to leave their fones at home so it won’t get lost) I said okay no problem.. she encouraged me to be strong and even prayed over the fine and sang for our daughter.. she returned home after 3 more days and I was already disgusted by her presence.. I tried to be calm and act normal until our daughter was very strong and recovered fully.. one morning after I dropped them off at school I returned home to my wife who was still in bed..
Then I asked her to get up we needed to talk.. I asked her politely where she travelled to but she was acting clueless and pretending I went for my friends sisters wedding nau.. didn’t I tell you.. why are you asking me again
She even tried to call the friend to ask her but I told her it’s fine she should not worry because I already talked to the friend and she told me she hasn’t seen you in a very long time.. I became furious!! Because she was even trying to deny to my face.. I pressed and pressed her until she confessed that she travelled with her lover to Ghana !! I got the shock of my entire life.. my own wife did not just cheat, she travelled all the way to defile herself I asked her why and she said she’s sorry.. that she felt betrayed when I cheated on her.. and that she hasn’t been able to get it of her head.. that’s why she decide to get some distraction.. it’s been 4 years ago since that one Incident I had.. and she was the one who prayed with me and begged God to forgive me.. only for her to be plotting her own.. I o don’t even know what I’m feeling in my heart presently.. I left the house and I’ve been staying at my late moms house .. she’s been calling me and sending me lots of epistles but I’m too weak to even face her right now.. how could she? My chest literally feels like exploding with pain.. the upsetting part is that my wife is extremely beautiful and her body is beyond amazing.. the thought that another man has seen it all and touched it and felt it and been inside her is just killing me I want to die already!! For the first time in my marriage I cried profusely like a baby.. I can’t stand it.. I’m disgusted and perplexed!!!! I don’t even know what to do next..
#copied

Ajibade thought Toni was with her in Naija jersey. That was why she gave her that goal

oluwaseyi0:
What I know is JAMB mispelt my name and I have to pay heavily to correct it

the person that capture my BVN details (I use GTB in those days of bvn registration) mixed up by birth month, I abandoned the wrong month without making effort to correct it, boom federal government use my BVN detail to generate my NIN including the wrong birth date, on attempt to get my passport my request was rejected because of birthday mismatch


I have to cough out 30k, a whole 30k for NIN change of brith day and still wait for months before the correction is effected

Once the school can authenticate Tinubu as their student, can confirm he gain admission, maticulated and also graduated, to me every other thing is highly inconsequencial and delusional

I have the same issue too but i need to regularise it before it is too late.

lolz U gat it

abhosts:
LOL. Time to rehabilitate his public image and rebrand himself as a truth teller and person of unmatched integrity.

Mushmush:
Oga don't buy it. Oraimo power banks are completely useless. I bought this same type directly from the company. It's less than 2onths old. It has never fallen from my hand before but it's already malfunctioning. I read people's comments about Oraimo power banks and I was full of regrets. I wish I had seen those comments before I ordered for their power bank

Me too. i bought mine less than 2 months too. Its no longer charging any phone and the led charging light remains on.

hhmmmm. e deep oo

Hello peeps,

I don't know much about Admission so I am soliciting for your help on this one. I have a close relative seeking admission as a direct entry student into federal university of agriculture, Abeokuta but she doesn't have physic in O'level but graduated with upper credit in ND for the same course. Is there anyway she can be permitted or admitted by her ND certificate? Or I don't know....

I need someone to help me about this. Is there any hope?

Vawulence everywhere! Please guys, you can do better.

Kashif:
That's because they're handled by quacks

I don't think the cost is much. It is safer to buy another one.

Billiebaba:
Have actually tried taking it for a scan, Do a full system scan, before you make an expensive mistake

No, I will do that. thanks

ayanjamz:
..... It is not tenable ooo

So, that means I have to get the Lagos RW since I am using the Lagos plate?

ayanjamz:
..... It is not tenable ooo

Hhmmmm. This is sad. The document should be the same through out the federations.

Hello,
I have a Lagos number plate but due to the nature of my job, I may not have the time and be able to face the rigorous inspection stuff. My movement is usually between Lagos, Oyo and Ogun state.
I want to know if Ogun state Road worthiness on Lagos number plate is tenable in Lagos?

Antihelminth:
Edit ..
I think you bought a bad gear box ..replace it .don't allow anybody open it o ..
Bmw gear box don't usually like being repaired at all

Hmmmmm. Thanks.

Antihelminth:
It can be repaired ..sometimes changing the oil filters and washing the brain of the gear box works..it hardly works

You can't find a new one soooo Belgium is like 200k .in Lagos ..could be cheaper in Abuja

Now, it is worse, it do take time to change from gear 1 to 2

LadysLuvSlyfoxx:
Did he cum inside?

May God forgive u.

Aderr:
Baba, you are a vawulent man. Let the comrade enjoy his deception in peace.

Thank you Jare. The guy too like trouble.

obaaderemi:
Olodo, dots after a sentence are called ellipsis. It means that the writer has left out some details or trailed off in his thoughts. These two do not apply to what you are claiming here after you used the pronoun "I" to make it look like you are the protagonist in your fake story.
I don't blame you. I blame the ones falling for your crap.
You better go and start afresh at the nursery school level.

Here you go! So, u sabi book small. Clap for your self.
Why would you say they don't apply since you gave the perfect interpretation of the writer's mindset? Even though I used a wrong pronoun because the message was lifted from my inbox doesn't mean the story is not true. Yes, I was wrong and I am not afraid to admit that. But stop discrediting the story just because you don't believe it is true. Stop behaving like APCs that like bringing people down in other to have their way and remain in power. I don't have to show the sender's name to prove the authenticity. Maybe you are even the husband or the EX. How u miss the who the story was credited to still baffles me! You have won!
Okay, Kabiyesi! You are the winner of this contest. Please rest! Thank God you didn't fall. Let those who understand keeps falling.
Dopemu!

Uniquekriss:
You're a cheat, if you have an opportunity to meet your ex again, you'll still cheat. What took you to his sister's place, how much is hotel that u couldn't pay for, did your husband give consent to you sleeping in your ex's sisters place.

hhhmmmmm

Pele ooo!
Seun's deputy! So, that is all you use your data to do. You still don't know the person behind your problem. After forming online lie detector, you will now be shouting "emi lokan" everywhere!
Can you tell me the meaning of the tripple dots after that sentence?
Which secondary school did you go to?
Olodo!
Arindin!

obaaderemi:
Ode. Olodo
And here you are attributing the fake story to yourself to make it more plausible.

"He knows the truth about where I slept....

obaaderemi:
The stupid op is a man. Fake story.

Still making the same mistake. Has the OP ever denied that he is a man? or you don't know how to read and understand. I don't blame you since u only passed English language through an arranged special center. Olodo!

obaaderemi:
You sound like a liar.

Only a liar knows who lies. That means you are the king of liars!

AlanSugar:
I won't dignify you with a response, it's not worth it. Peace.

Just admit u mess up. Too quick to judge and spill trash.
Weldone sir

beyondPen:
Thanks pal. That's the first and last time. I really wanted to have sex with her but I killed the urge.

Now just business between us and she's about to get me a website to build for someone.

Married Women have sex secretly and no one not even hubby will know.

Thanks for sharing. Some people will still say you are lying.

SisterAnn:
How is that?
Ok you are the Op...
Peace!

Peace out

rickleye:
Okay my 2 cents - this won’t be popular but ….

Well before you decide on what to do- you better take advice from someone who has walked in your shoes.
There are many men who have cheated on their spouses . Their wives know or may have a hint but the husband will never confess. If the wife brings it up - they may admit it.

Let your husband open his mouth and ask you. For the fact that he hasn’t and has had sexual intercourse with you over the past 10 years means either :-
1. He’s cheated/ cheating and believes you both are on level playing field.
2. He knows nothing but your guilt is betraying you.
3. He knows and has forgiven you already.

The option 3 man does not exist.
There is no way a man will not bring such an issue up. We are not wired that way.

So my advice and what I do to rid my conscience of guilt. Is bend over backwards for things I would not do for a certain period. In short I’ll try and balance the scales.
So for instance let’s say cheating on my spouse counts as 100 Naira.
I might clean and mop the whole house ( 20 Naira ) - something I detest doing .
I might take the kids to school for the whole week ( her role) 20 naira
I might take her out to a fancy restaurant ( my treat) 20 naira.
Etc to etc till I balance the scales.

You cannot take a chance he will forgive you if you tell him. That’s for the tv and books . Confess to God and live your life . ( it was a one time thing)

Hmmm!

Philipmaxwell:
My dear, having read your story, I can tell you there was nothing accidental about what transpired that night. Maybe you didn't plan to cheat on your husband before you got to the house, but that was the only thing in your head, once you saw this ex.

Even teenagers know enough not to share a room with an ex. But you not only shared a room, but you also shared a mattress, and except me to believe any of what followed was accidental? As if that's not enough, your husband called why you were in the act, and your response was to turn off your phone because all you wanted to do at the time was focus on cheating on him. If it was accidental at all, any call will be enough to distract you and give you time to come to your senses, not to talk of that of your husband. But all you could do was switch it off. My dear, you are a cheat and you do not deserve the man you are with.

Why do I say so? I'm very certain you didn't feel any guilt after the whole thing. The only reason you are feeling guilty now is that your husband has been so loving that you can't even find a reason to justify the evil act, whether introspectively or retrospectively. You have come to see that he deserves a better woman, that's why you feel guilty.

Too bad, he will probably forgive you if you tell him. You don't deserve that much. No cheater does

Hhmmmm. Thanks

jaydee87:
Smilessssssss...
Don't let anybody make you feel bad ooo..
U made a mistake a decade ago or should I say, you wanted the mistake to happen and it happen. Let it remain in the past joor. Since you know you are vulnerable to your ex try all your best not to contact him again. That is the best way to avoid such. For your husband be more loving to him. What he don't know won't hurt him. If you tell him, he may forgive you or not but he won't forget it and he will have dis resentment towards you and can you live with that?
Just be more loving to him henceforth.

Thank you for sharing your story..

Thank you Jaydee