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PrimadonnaO:
Not taking sides, but you didn’t understand what she’s been on about.

Joining resources is perfectly normal. She’s talking about situations where the man doesn’t provide financially at all! The family surviving on the woman’s toil.

Such a man is the “worse than an infidel” the Bible talks about.

I never said anywhere in my quote that a man should be feeding off the woman and that's why I cited the examples that I did.
From my first quote of her, she even referred to me as an infidel.
Her mentality is that a man should be "solely"(100%) responsible for providing for the family which I don't think is wrong if it is possible.
But to her, the bible says so.
Times have changed and marriage is a partnership. Planning for the future with your spouse is the best thing that can happen in a marriage. Both parties feel they belong together.
When mutual understanding and respect are involved, the sky is the limit.
What do I know sef?
You can check where I quoted her and her responses too.
Thank you.

The End.
©DSSlywood 2020.

Renida:
God bless you

And you too.

I'm assuming you are a female too.
I saw what you tried to do but unfortunately life is like that.
Some people just don't have it and only hold onto what they wanna belief.

emmaodet:
But this is very bad. What is marriage when we can't have each others back? Why should marriage be one sided to favour only women when things are good?

Why should we encourage a system that wants women to just be there with a man when he has money. That means - Owo epo laraye bani la, wan kin bani la teje. People will only lick your sugar hand and not bloody hand.
Life is all about you rub my back, i rub your back.
Ki owo jowo ni owo fin mo - you can only get a fully clean hand when you use both hands to rinse thoroughly and not just one.
If my wife won't be there for me when things are down, support me, raise a loan for me in her cooperative then there is no point marrying in the first place.
Let me enjoy my life a lone when i have so that i will suffer a lone when i don't have.
This is really bad and i don't encourage it.
Life is never a straight line graph. Today am working and earning, tomorrow i may run into turbulent times and lose my income or businesses or investments too.
Nothing is 100% predictable bro

A lot don't believe in that anymore.
So sad.

Simbrixton:
dere are many poor and struggling igbo families the truth is modern society means men and women have very equal opportunities unlike previous human societies

See mentality......
In this day and age.....
She has a role model tho....

Simbrixton:
in modern society?

Lol.....
In the 21st century....
You too see am?

emmaodet:
Please stop quoting that lady, she has a very wrong mentality and wrong upbringing.
We know such people, if the hubby enters turbulent time, he is finished.
All the i love you, i love you will turn to bag and she will kill the hubby.
A lot of guys should please stay away from such women, they are mobile deadly cancers

Thank you.
You saw where I apologized to her.
It was the first couple of quotes that I saw before quoting her but after I saw how her line of thinking is, I just let her be.
Each one to their own.
Thank you jare.

fati2001:
disgusting, too much of everything is not good

Which one ?

The "paynt" or the ukwu?

doggedfighter:
And what will keep the woman happy 24/7?

"Boxer line"....

Or "Swinging pendulum" around d house....

Benbisco:
In fact, you took the words right out of my mouth.

Lol....
Thank you jare...

crackland:
Bro any man that remains in the house eating his wife's money after life happened to him, is on his own.

Same thing I've always stated here.

He ought to move far away from her and only visit occasionally to see the kids.
If it's not against his moral/ethical codes, he can have a side-chic at his new base to release tension once in a while.

"Eating his wife money"?

CAPSLOCKED:
THAT'S JUST THE FACT. YOU'RE HUNDRED PERCENT ON POINT.
THIS IS WHY I TELL MEN TO NEVER BE WITH A WOMAN THAT EARNS MORE THAN THEM. INFACT, LEAVE THE MARRIAGE ONCE YOUR JOB IS SHAKY. DON'T EVEN WAIT UNTIL YOU LOSE IT BECAUSE HELL FIRE IS BETTER THAN A MARRIAGE WHERE A WOMAN IS PAYING YOUR BILLS.

This sort of thinking is not good though.

Raalsalghul:
Now I understand why Dirkcoyt is not interested in marriage.

What, is it with all this fuckery that "baby" persona is pasting.

Jeez!

Na so bro.....
People really need to experience life and see that there are no laid down rules when it comes to certain things.

Ybaby:
Oga ade, the epistle is long so I did not read it.

Pls refer back to your free will.

Thanks

Okay.
Thank you.

Ybaby:
You write so long though I did not read it so will not know if it is well but a few infidels read it.

If you are still asking you wife to pay Bills then you need below.

Content writers long epistle people can earn money from it. $85 per hour on up work....

Go for it.

Ok ma.

informationNaija:
Any mystery behind dreadlocks(dada), is it a natural gift, superstition or is it spiritual. Let's discuss.

All of d above.

You forgot to mention fashion too.

Ybaby:
Sir, if you want to be eating from your wife's sweat you are welcome to eat it... infact some parents eat from thier young kids sweat and ask them to hawk. Everybody wants different for thier life.

I gave my opinion and experience and belief.

However every human has free will.

Eat away sir. (It is a prayer)

First of all, let me say I'm sorry for having quoted you in the first place. It was this one I saw first that I quoted to debunk what you said but after reading subsequent quotes, I can only say SORRY.

With this kind of warped mentality and interpretation that you are giving that verse in the bible, I can only say WOW!!!!.

"Eating out of my wife's sweat"?
"An infidel" if I can not provide for the family?
This is the 21st century for crying out loud.
A wife/husband that you both said "in sickness, in health till death do you part"?
So pulling resources together as a family is now an abomination?
Like I said before, what works for you may not work for someone else but do not put the other person down or say their way is wrong.
You live in an environment in which you wanna have a better life for you and your family and you find out pulling all resources together by both of you can make you accomplish that, you call that eating out of the wife's sweat?
Just check this out.
Wife works dayshift, husband works night shift.
Husband gets the kids ready for school in the morning while wife gets ready for work.
Husband takes the kids to school and is home when they come back. Assist the kids with homework and cook for the family before wife comes back from work.(Since he is home, why will d wife who's been working all day will come and start cooking again?). Kids attend public schools cos you pay taxes and they are good schools too.
Husband goes to work for his own shift.
Household chores are shared as need arises.
All bills are paid from a common purse. Everyone is happy. So which one be INFIDEL there now?
If wife's medical insurance plan is better than the hubby's, all family members are put on the insurance including the "infidel".
My sister, if you find yourself in an environment whereby you have to do the right thing to survive and enjoy your life to the fullest, you have to do it.
God bless you and say you wanna do it by yourself and not be an "infidel", na "dead infidel" you go be sef.
In marriage, love and understanding is not enough, good financial planning is needed too.

I wonder what you will say to a man who has been shouldering everything for his family for years and suddenly have a debilitating illness like a stroke or something and can not do so anymore. Should the wife not work and take over the running of the family affairs?
Or she should just go and find another man to take care of her?

Like I said in my first quote, "God bless your family" but please do not use your own yardstick for other marriages out there and please also stop quoting that verse.

Shalom.

Ybaby:
In a family setting the husband provides he protects - locks the doors at night, spiritual head, kids school fees, shelter, discipline etc

the wife nurtures basically she she does everything else - family health, ego stroking, storytime, PTA, Home cleaniness, Kids to school, Gifts for Teachers, Arranging holiday time, Nourishment etc

For the kids
She teaches affection and pampering - he teaches affection and courage
They both teach self esteem but it is more of his responsibility to let his kids know the child of who they are
They both do homework but it is her responsibility to teach and guide the child in the path of moral
They both teach business but it is more of Daddy's role
etc





Any job! some jobs are more feminine but she can do any job as long as she is able to perform the above duties for her family

I run a software company and code really well - we have a staff of about 30 programmers
I run an importation company and own 5 ecommerce websites that are doing quite well
Also a media company that is doing ok but could be better
Both companies are over 6 years and though my husband gave me capital - he does not ask me for money and he never will. Na man him be.



My husband is not required to do chores in the house at all. If he wants to - all well and good but he is a very busy man with plenty on his shoulder- because of him other men have a salary to feed their family.

I have helps that do chores and I coordinate. I cook dinner every night too and make sure we have a meal together Oga, myself and the children. We talk about our day and give support. Crack jokes - watch TV or play monopoly.
He also gives one weekend a month for family recreation and a vacation every year - all funded by him but organised by moi



Once a boss slapped by ass, I slapped him and my husband later locked him up. No one messes with the Queen.

I also never say no to seexx in 19 years. I respect my husband as in truly adore and respect him not audio type. He is a one of a kind man and he in turn adores me even more - I am the queen

Hope this answers your question

Beautiful.
God bless your family.
One thing though, just because it works for you does not make it a yardstick.
I saw where you kept saying a man should not eat from a woman's sweat......and even supporting it biblically.
Is it not the same bible that says both of them come together together to become one.
If you find yourself in a situation whereby the way the traditional roles were supposed to be played out do work, adaptation is needed.
Marriage is a partnership, there is no my money or your money as long as trust is there and there is transparency.
In some environments where both the couple have to combine incomes to raise the family, it can not work especially in the western world. All hands are needed on deck. There is no traditional role for any gender. Understanding is needed.
Any of the parent can cook, assist the kids with homework, attend PTA meetings etc.
What works for couple A May not necessarily work for couple B.
Thank you.

Kdon2:
He is not a helper he is a superior officer working for the government i think. He even told the driver to proceed he will join him later.

Really?
That's very unprofessional imo for him to say that.
Even the patient and the stretcher were not properly secured.
No PPE worn and I think only one of them was wearing gloves.

It is well sha.
Thanks for the enlightenment.

What's there not to believe?

A very funny and sad situation at the same time.

Did you hear one of the "helpers" say the patient will put his head down when his neck starts paining him after being told to lie down.

"Ti orun ba n ro, yoo gbo'ri sile".

Just so sad.
Naija I hail thee.
Where were the professionals whose jobs were to evacuate the patient?

That no 5 get as e be.....

The baby just came out of the vagina.....

rukell:
but that line in between the buttocks, what do you call it.

it is called butaline.

No joor....
Na buttcrack

NairaMaster1:
Let them go and continue their prostitution.

How on earth. Prostitution is in the blood.

For goodness sakes.....how did prostitution get into this now?
Chai!!!!!