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Goo0dHardDick:
My business associate came to my office and we congratulated him on his wife safe delivery and his new baby girl arrival. But we noticed he wasn't happy and asked what was wrong, first he complained about the hospital and its numerous extortions. It's a federal government hospital and he kept saying if he had known he would have gone to a private hospital instead.

His wife has been in the hospital for 2 weeks after she delivered and each day he was asked to pay #10k for the hospital bed, excluding numerous tests and other expenses because his wife delivered through CS.

This is the craziest part, he said his wife gave birth to a female child and although he thank God for the successful delivery but why a female child? That he is afraid of what is going to become of her because female child nowadays can do and undo, he made mention of the way women nowadays dresses, the sex and finally pregnancy that'll follow suit and that no matter how you talk or train the female child, if she wants to go and have sex, she'll still do it regardless without you knowing at all.

The guy went on complaining and rambling with so much pains in his face. I even tried encouraging him to take the baby to his mother (that is, the baby's grandmother) when she comes of age so the old woman will train her but other guys there said that would be worst because the old woman will spoil and pamper her too much.

Why is it that most men don't want female child?

he is afraid of what he is doing to people’s daughters.

Prestar:
Secondary School Student Goes to School With a Cutlass for Self-Protection in Oyo(Video)

Students in southwest now go to school with cutlass for protection pic.twitter.com/mKanMJJGKb

— Star Potter (@Starpotternews) May 23, 2026

it well with this country, despite the poor learning environment that can impede learning they are now adding fear to it. Please the people supporting APC, u people should present a good person that can lead us well. Personally I really do mind who or where the person comes from, all need is good leader please give us one. Except this is the best u have for now.

tunjijones:
Are you igbo?

no i’m from kogi state.

Pinnup:
Fake and standard products everywhere.

this what bad government can cause as a result of hardship. The seller want to sale and make profit and also want to make it affordable.

Since 2013 I Dey go Togo I never see any fine girl compared to my random Nigeria beauties.

kiddaz:
I smoke loud daily and I know 100% that I'm better and stronger than you, physically, financially, mentally, psychologically, spiritually, in character, charisma and judgement and in every single way walai. And looking at your profile picture shows you are the very weakling yourself. This your psychological projection will not help you. Accept the truth and work on yourself

oboy u wicked oh!!!. Just because she mistake mentioned one of ur department na ehn u scatter her like this. Unbehave her forgive her na my sister she be.

Kalulu44:
Good day ladies and gentlemen of the great NL house!
Before I go into the main gist. I want to first apologize to those who thinks I write stories too much and they're sometimes long and boring to them.
Let me introduce myself first. I'm a single father of 3 who lost his Benin wife to their Japa syndrome since 2010 and never seen or heard from till today.
By God's grace, after 20yrs of driving commercially to survive and train the kids, I formally retired last year. Not bcus the job wasn't lucrative, but bcus I was warned to stop after having some series of severe back pain, neck pain and leg pain.
Thankfully, before retiring I managed to win over a hired purchased bus that's fending for my 3 kids who are staying with my aunt who at 60+ doesn't have a husband nor a child.
Not wanting to stay idle, I currently work as a security personnel at a Guest House from 7pm to 11pm, while taking care of the owners house which is just beside it during the day. The owner is in US. So I practically stay in the big house all alone. Honestly there's no much work for me to do there other than weeding and cleaning the compound once every week. The rest of the day is just for eating, browsing and sleeping. Not wanting to be lonely and depressed is why I am almost online everyday, writing stories and gossips about my surroundings.
Like I always said, 90 to 95% of my stories are real life stories with the other percents like adding maggi, salt and spices to make it sweet or interesting.
I love writing, reading, driving, music, movies, sports especially football and watching documentary on history and biographies.
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Now to the main gist. I lived and work in an area fully surrounded by hostels occupied by students and youths working in Chinese companies in Ogun state.
Electricity in the area is epileptic and comes once every week. Luckily for me, due to the guest house, I have 24/7 light from either solar or generator which makes water abundance for me.
But the students and workers are not that lucky. So majority of them always looks for where to charge their phone and also gets water.
When lights come, they normally pump water in their hostels, but it doesn't last more than two days.
Like two to three compounds normally used generator to pump water where they always go to. Sometimes the owners of those places allows them, sometimes they rejecting them.
Another only source of water in the street is a well at the extreme end of the street, it's stressful for some of them.
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I started working where I am now January this year, but I always stay on my own and just observing the students and workers.
For me to make friends with some of them, I started getting water for some of them that usually greets me. If I see they have walked and walked looking for water and didn't see, I will just tell the person to drop his bucket and then go inside and get water from them.
But anytime I do this, they always thank me with sir sir.
One among them, who was learning hairdresser and selling men clothes online, approached me one day and begged for her to use my compound to make videos of her clothes.
I obliged her and ever since then which was February, we have been friends.
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With time I began to like her, but her constant good morning sir, good evening sir just like the other girls used to greet me always discouraged me from telling her my mind about her.
After Easter my phone got spoilt and for close to 3 weeks I didn't have chance to go to Lagos and repair it.
And it was the time my feelings for her became strong.
I didn't know how to approach her, so I used the opportunity of her giving me her phone to charge for her to write down my feelings for her on a sheet of paper and attached it at the back of her phone.
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When it was time to collect it, I told her there's a note I attached in her phone that she should read it. She collected it, thank me and bade me goodnight sir while bowing down a little as a Yoruba girl she's.
Hoping to get answer the next day, even though I was apprehensive on how she will take or react about it.
My people, this is 3 weeks now since I wrote that letter and she hasn't said anything or confronted me on why I wrote such notes.
But we have been greeting and talking to each other since the next day after the note till date, and both of us pretending such never happened.
I said to myself once I repair my phone, I will send her a msg asking what she thought about my note and why hasn't she replied.
I got my done last week, and I still don't have the courage to ask her both in person or thru msg.
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But there's a reason why I haven't.
In between those times my phone was still spoilt and the note sent to her. There was an electrician who came to do some repairs in my compound sent by my boss.
It was same time she too came to do videos of her clothes in my compound. The electrician told me he like her that I should run her for him. I told him I can't that he should go himself.
So he used the guise of wanting to buy her clothes and approached her.
I sha know they exchanged numbers.
This was 2 weeks ago, so last week when the electrician came to finish his work, he ask me of her. I told him I thought you collected his number the other day. He said he did, and that he has bought clothes of 30k from her.
But that when he tries to pushed further about dating her, she told him she has a guy.
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Hmmmm.... I heave to myself and asked him his next line of action. He said he'll pushed further. I just mutter the words ok o.
So since that last week, hearing she has a serious guy, (even though she hasn't brought any guy home or any man came looking for her unlike some of the other girls)
It just makes my resolve of asking her what she thinks about my note weak.
But we do see and talk everyday, but her constant "es'e sir, ekaro sir" always puts me off. I don't know if she's deliberately doing that so I will know she respects me as an elderly person. By the way she's 28 while I'm in my early 40s.
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To the other girls, I am getting closer to some of them. But they too wants to kill me with sir sir sir, and thereby knocking me off of asking any of them out. All these is bcus one of my child a girl who's 17 came to visit me one day.
But the truth is I am seriously lonely, bored and depressed at times. If not for NAIRALAND and Sportsnews and YouTube, only God knows what I would have done to myself. I really need one of them as an acquaintance and if it can lead to a serious relationship, I am ready for it.
Just that I don't know how to go about it with the over respect they're according me.
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So I am asking for womanology experts who knows how to go about this to give me some tips. The pictures attached to this post are mine, am I too old in the true sense of it or what. Cus physically I look young and agile to most of the guys I see some of them hang around with and I am not mincing words here. I will welcome any thoughts from you all, both insults and good advice.
After all I made the post to get engagement and discussion to kill off boredom.
Thanks and good day to you all once again.

from ur picture u still on pint. A 26 years old girl shouldn’t have much trouble going out with u. But u lack somethings an average lady would want.
1. Confidence
2.money
3. Directions or prospect.
No serious minded woman would want to be with u.

Next time wear condom before the mouth action.

I hope those things above are not the makeup picture?.

coputa:
IQ means intelligent quotient,this was the reason you are still stagnant.

stagnant!!! I’m probably richer than half of your immediate family put together. Why are u so pained?.

coputa:
Your level of comprehension is abismally low.

Mr/Mrs High IQ I see you. I’m sure u don’t even what that means.

ariesbull:
Intelligent people do business before pleasure while you do pleasure before business

the other way round u have to relax before u think.

coputa:
Money given to someone with a poor mindset is like fuel poured on money and ignited.
it will be wasted on lifestyle upgrade, women and wine, soon the receiver will return to where he was before, because money is a magnifier.

Money is fully utilized by only a prepared mind.

this is why u made 2,2, simple question u can not answer correctly.

E get two babes wah dey wait for me and I no get money now, I go just book hotel 25k carry one go by 4pm take one shot then around 6: to7 i carry another one go finish work. Any thing wah remain for the money I go take start business.

Dododudu:
Is it something I can do myself

u are probably reading miles/hour not Km/per hour.
On the speedo meter there is 2 size of numbers written there. The small one is km/h and the big one is mil/h. U are probably reading the miles.

This is the only thing in the society between men and women that is fair to men so please let not draw too much attention to it before the women folks rise against it with all their strenght.

Im interested in when the 3 bath takes place.

James4358:
I can proudly call myself a farmer. It sounds funny when I say I'm a farmer when ever I'm asked what I do for a living. People still under rate farmers to this day. Farming cash crops Is the best. My children will inherit my farm just the way I inherited from my father.
When I got married, I told my father inlaw I was a farmer, he wondered how I’ll take care of his daughter,. But today major family decisions can't be taken without consulting me. Thanks to President BAT the high rate of foreign exchange has been one of the reason cocoa prizes are high

ok oh the high exchange rate Favour’s u and u are happy don’t forget manufacturing companies are suffering because of what is giving u joy now. U had also planed to live the farm for ur children. Don’t also forget that high exchange rate is not good for the country. Imagine that 1 dollar is equal #500, the price of a liter of petrol would have been like #450 as compared to what it is now. Above all we pray for a better leader. Don’t forget Tinubu can not be there for ever. U can still make more money in a better Nigeria by expanding ur farm instead of leveraging on bad situations because it might not last.

helinues:
When it was that 8 m, how many Nigerians are into oil business?

Una see why it's a waste of time to be engaging with some of those opposition supporters. Their reasonings are aged as stone age

what are u saying?.

Lovelink1991:
Feeling must comes before knacking that is why men and women have spec. Before they decided to engage themselves it must have been processes until they finally have it

that means no man for Patronize Ashawo.

martinskelly:
Chief, you can always say your opinion without quoting me alright.

On the flip side, this is how it happens "leave the almajiris to beg on the street it is normal they are just fending for themselves"! look at where we are now with numerous insecurities and catastrophical hullabaloo.

There are many ways to show bonding with your child, emotional support, presence and security are just are few ways to show it.

And again, I never needed you to validate my opinion.

ok sir

martinskelly:
This remind of the Bible statement "spare the rod and spoil the child".

Training up a child is not an easy thing not to talk of even training up bunch of children but morality is the bedrock of a safer society.

Bathing with your daughter for me is gross in the sense that privacy should be private for adults because boundaries should not be neglected or ignored so as not to bring about questions you may find heart wrenching from your daughter.

Mind you, children of nowadays don't keep there mouth shut and don't be surprise she might be saying every thing she observes from the "togetherness bathing" to the outside world unknowingly.

Please kindly bath her alone, teach her sex education about "the do's and don't' of everything she needs to know as early enough because we have beast in human clothing roaming around.

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if u remove what people will say if she tell them and any funny question the baby might ask, which I also believe it’s inconsequential , u will see that u really haven’t said anything.
Why can’t u all see it from the angle of her creating openness between she and her and daughter which is what matters most.

Nigeria has gone bad and it seems unredeemable. One of the easy to salvage this country is to legalize assault riffle.

ogododo:
BREAKING NEWS: Starting July 1, 2026, Nigeria 🇳🇬 will introduce a new "green tax" surcharge on vehicles with high-capacity engines (2,000cc and above) as part of the 2026 fiscal policy measures. This tax aims to encourage cleaner energy by placing a 2%–4% levy on high-emission vehicles, while smaller vehicles, mass transit, and electric vehicles are exempted.

Source

this is better a fake news, because no sense able government will introduce any form of tax to her citizen in this present situation.

Aladeintl:
See previous topic
https://www.nairaland.com/8660227/nigerian-couple-tear-marriage-certificate#139206262


I believe you have seen the video of the couple in the attached pic tearing a purported marriage certificate.

For a fact, what they're tearing in that video is not a government-issued marriage certificate. An original marriage is rectangular with black or green ink and the seal of the Federal Republic of Nigeria on top. The one they are tearing was probably gotten from their village.

Two, anything carrying the seal and coat of arms of the Federal Republic of Nigeria doesn't belong to you, you are only the custodian of it. Example, Passport, Currency, Govt-issued certs, I.D cards, etc. So you can't destroy them. Destroying them is playing with fines or jail.

I repeat, any thing with coat of arms on it from the govt belong exclusively to the Federal Govt.

Methinks me, learned this was done to signify they will never divorce. Ignorance of the best version.

Marriage transcends that paper and it is done at home with two people who are ready and willing to work for its success. Tearing a piece of paper will not prevent shi if you don't put effort into it working.

Pasty, apart from the use of marriage certificate to prove marriage, what are the other uses of the certificate?

see ignorant me!!!. I never new u will be needing marriage certificate for divorce.

Kenobsky:
I was born there ,grew up there but unfortunately I choose a civil life.
My eldest bro just got retired last month,my dad retired in 1988 two years later in 1990 big brother join luckily he is retired.
May God help us that's all I have to say.

bros bros u sef nah my fellow grandpa for here oh. See the year ur brother join army

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

if u can, help her. I keep asking myself this question, if the reverse is the case can they help.

dgitrader:
Though barbaric, this man is very intelligent and logical. If you look deeply, he has commited not crime.

If I am an idol worshiper, and I call for the the killing of anyone who insults my JuJu based on my believes and tradition, I have done no wrong.
If you think he has done wrong, take his religion to court or keep quiet.
His religion permits killings, everyone knows that . All types of killings, even withing the same fate. Let's mind our business

his religion supersedes the laws of the land. It’s ok. We will soon create a religion that will permit us to brake into bank and take money.

Juliette5803:
So if he eventually gets the pastor who will do the beheading

do u have law in ur country?. Anybody can do it and the ass licking authority will not do anything. We have seen it happened before so it won’t be a new thing.

enemyofprogress:
08056453468

lol I still help that my Nieghour call her sha

enemyofprogress:
Can a man still love her like this?

can I have are phone number? One of my Nieghour’s needs it.