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Wow ladies, I'm learning a lot here although my little man is just 8 months old. The knowledge will be useful.

damiso: CC is quite right bout drugging being sort of not really frowned upon in Nigeria.So as not to sound being hypocritical you can remember in my post that i said i gave my daughter 5 ml of flu medicine while flying long haul.That was a one off BUT my daughter really is kinda of almost manic when flying.Its made me and hubby rethink family hols sef.I read so many articles on takin a toddler on a plane and none of those tips worked for her.She just screams and wails throughour.I dont know if its the cabin pressure or maybe she is claustrophic i dont know but its really bad.We have concluded 1to 2hr flights is it till she is older or better still sef eurostar cos she is ok on trains.

Just needed to clear that but when i took my daughter to Nigeria you dont want to knoe how many suggestions i had to give her phenegan and the likes.Am like duh she is a toddler she is meant to be boisterous.Even my own mother gave that kind advise and i politely declined.I told them its boredom.Back in the uk when not in nursery i take her to the park,libraries,toddler groups,rhyme time,swimming etc so she can expend all that energy.This one that you people are rationing gen(nepa was horrible on our visit) with no one her age why wont she be bored?We can only read so many books.

Even when my mum visits,me and her argue about administering medication.Its strange to a typical Nigerian that you dont give drugs for everything cos its the culture to self medicate.My baby has a cough and cold now and there really is nothing over the counter but saline drops and glycerol based mixtures.Its frowned upon to give drugs to kids.Even the said medised i gave my daughter is no longer available for under six.It took.a while to get round but i think its better to err on the side of caution when giving drugs to kids.My mum sef started arguing with my gp when my daughter had a bug .She needs anti biotics, my gp said no she does not its just time to let it wear off and keep her well hydrated and the bug dud leave after about 3 days.I had to say mum are you a doctor?
So i thinks it just a cultural thing.

Well written Damiso. It's a cultural thing. Despite my parents having been in the UK for years, they advised me to give my son Paracetamol every day because he's teething despite the fact that I'm in medical line. They still dole out their advice. Where are you based Damiso? Will pm you.

Bless you all, my little man is down with cold too and I don't know if it's to do with teething because the way I wrap him up, he shouldn't have any cold. By the way, we are all great parents just trying to make life easier. Hehehe

Hahaha, did the same tonight. Like you I'm still on mat leave but baby's clothes ended up in the bin because the look of that No 2 was enough to make me tired. We need some 'me' time once in a while. You just reminded me I need to finish the rest of Christmas shopping. Haaaa

Dadaeli, congratulations. I was diagnosed with PCOS too and had a baby boy in April.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Yeah, I am.[/quote]Hello to you sis.

Reading the above just sums up how much we need nurseries to be regulated in Nigeria if the ones in UK have issues. Hubby and I went to 11 nurseries before narrowing it down to 2. Heaven help them when my son starts in January. Efemena, are you based in UK?

[quote author=D-Explorer]Welcome, can i see your pix?[/quote]Where is yours? I'm happily married.

Hi everyone, I'm new here.

Please send to me o. princessolat@hotmail.co.uk. Thanks.

I am quite disappointed with the answers some people give here especially if you don't have any medical background. Dadaeli, where do you reside? I work in the health sector and was also diagnosed with PCOS and it is possible for you to be pregnant and not suffer a miscarriage (I am a witness to that) Do not let any ignorant person tell you that you are likely to miscarry. Your doctor will give you details of theblood test that you need to do to check for gestational diabetes at 28 weeks which is the only likely thing if you suffer from PCOS. Please, don't go buying herbs from anywhere, go for your antenatal appts and keep your faith in God, He answered your prayers and He is faithful to keep your baby and bring you to an expected end which is delivery. I recommend you buy a book called Supernatural Childbirth by Jackie Mize. Remain blessed.

Andre, I can assure you that before you start work in any hospital, you are required and compelled to go through an induction and training period. For example where I work, it's a 2 week induction period that includes all the necessary things you will need to help you and that's having gone through a minimum of 3 years training. Then every year, you have a yearly refresher, As a RNMH that does not even work in Peadiatrics, i had training in BSL for children. And as a nurse, you shouldn't accept any agency shift if you think you are not capable and efficient in carrying out the tasks. As a nurse, you are responsible and accountable for your actions and ommisions. You all need to go on NMC website and have a read through at so many things people have done.

And I am disappointed at people who are always playing race card when it comes to cases like this, there are so many nurses apart from black people that have been struck off too.

To the above post: I am a RNMH (Clinical Nurse Manager) and I also sit on the board of NMC hearings in UK and I do not agree with your opinion on agency staff not sending their nurses on training. If you look at the NMC code of conduct, it specifically states that as a registered nurse, you are responsible for keeping yourself up to date in regards to any training. And cases that puts peoples lives at risk are not 'winnable' as you put it. Unlike in Nigeria where there are no strict regulations as to what are expected of nurses, UK and other countries are different. Also, as a fellow nigerian and a christian, I find it appalling that fellow nurses (especially nigerian trained) struggle and shy away from performing basic skills. God gave us medicine for a reason (I'm not saying it takes away the place of miracle!) But when you are at work, even if you are praying, you pray in your heart and still do what is physically expected of you as a professional. It's sad that there is no month that you don't see a nigerian being reported for misconduct. Not carrying out your duty as expected is gross misconduct.

Maybe, if majority of nurses in Nigeria can perform Basic Life Support and Intermediate Life Support, we will see a reduction in death rate.

Pslm 23, you are blessed among women. I read your story with humility of heart and joy for how far you have come and where God is taking you to. I had similar experience of not able to conceive and then went on Clomid, ended up having 2 miscarriages, 1 ectopic and 1 molar pregnancy. I had a laparascopy in June where a 3.5kg cyst was removed. 2 Weeks later, i became pregnant naturally. Bump and I are doing well. It is quite sad the stigma that is attached to many things in Africa.

My prayer for you is that God will bring this to a perfect completion. You will not miscarry. You will not weep over your children. Your seeds will call you blessed. I rebuke every foetus eating demon and any plan of the enemy will not work as this is the Lord's doing and it is marvelous in our sight. You will bring forth life. God will put His own supernatural safeguard in place for your babies. And you will testify of His faithfulness and mercies. Keep rejoicing. It is well.

There are various things ranging from urology issues to tiredness.  One other thing that needs to be considered is that bed wetting could be a behavioural indicator of childhood unlawful intercourse or abuse. I know we Africans sometimes shy away from the thoughts of this.  I work with people (adults) that suffer from the effect of childhood unlawful intercourse or abuse and bed wetting is one of the indicators that we've seen.  This individual should see an urologist and carry out tests, if all does not seem right, then I will advise seeing a counsellor or therapist.  Good luck

I haven't experienced any of it but I'm a mental health nurse and i can tell you that quite a number of my patients have attempted suicide and succeeded and some have not.

Some of your definitions are wrong.

Para-suicide is not a means of crying for attention.  It could be self-harming and these are the following resons for para-suicide: coping or self-management strategy intended to relieve negative emotions such as anger, anxiety, frustration, or guilt.  It is associated with depression, low self-esteem and sexual abuse (Hawton & Fagg, 1992).    It is caused by the following: • Unstable homes (Kerfoot et al., 1996)
• Child Abuse
• The Media (Hawton & Williams, 2001)
• Associated psychiatric disorder (Houston et al., 2001)
• Cognitive factors, for example, bleakness, impaired problem-solving aptitudes, or coping mechanisms or an attributional style, in which negative events are considered to be one’s own fault (Kerfoot et al., 1996)

It is most common among british teenagers
It is very funny that i'm doing this for my dissertation.  Hope this clarifies the topic

You won't believe it if i tell you that one of the lawmakers(Oyo State) has 4 houses in UK, and is a wanted person in UK for a crime and still comes in regularly to UK and spending nigerians' money.  Can give you a link to the news.

All these people are worse than normal armed robbers

My mum stays around the corner from me anyway.  I have a good relationship with my mother in law to be and because

she lives in nigeria, she will be the one to come.  My mum can pop in once in a whil and my mama has to work anyway.

So it's my mum in law, and she's not coming to baby sit, just show me the ropes.

I'm getting married in December in Nigeria.  My parents have just asked me to write the list of what I want my H2B's

family to bring before they add the family's list to it.  What am I meant to ask for? 

Your help is appreciated

I need help with finding vendors for my wedding in Nigeria, precisely Abeokuta. I will really appreciate it if people can

send me names and numbers of decorators, traditional wears, hair and make-up artist, spokespersons for engagement

and every other person you think i'll need. It will help if they have a portfolio of pictures of previous events they have

done.

Your help is appreciated. Many thanks

I need help with finding vendors for my wedding in Nigeria, precisely Abeokuta.  I will really appreciate it if people can

send me names and numbers of decorators, traditional wears,  hair and make-up artist, spokespersons for engagement

and every other person you think i'll need. It will help if they have a portfolio of pictures of previous events they have done. 

Your help is appreciated.  Many thanks