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Fenrir:
Because I live in Nigeria, my daughter is half yoruba from my first marriage and she died of cancer now im married to an igbo woman

And before you ask, no traditions either time and thats the law

Federal law = mandatory for everyone
State law = mandatory unless it conflicts with federal law

But customary law = irrelevant unless the COUPLE CHOOSE IT and what the family thinks doesn't matter the law is freedom to marry and freedom does not come with conditions from family however irrelevant does not = unimportant it just means its a choice of the couple not anyone else.


Your marriage and wedding laws that none of you know or care about.

The laws of marriage and weddings in Nigeria THE TRUTH

⚖️ LEGAL RIGHT TO MARRY FREELY IN NIGERIA
(Applies equally to Nigerians and Foreigners)
1️⃣ The Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria (1999, as amended)
Section 34(1): Dignity of Human Person

“Every individual is entitled to respect for the dignity of his person…”

Explanation:
No one may be forced into marriage or compelled to perform any traditional, cultural, or religious rite. Forcing a person to comply with customs (like bride price or family approval) violates dignity and autonomy.

Section 35(1): Right to Personal Liberty

“Every person shall be entitled to his personal liberty…”

Explanation:
Marriage is a matter of free personal choice. Neither families nor communities have lawful power to impose cultural or religious obligations on adults who freely consent to marry.

Section 37: Right to Private and Family Life

“The privacy of citizens, their homes… is hereby guaranteed and protected.”

Explanation:
Marriage decisions are private matters. Family or cultural intrusion in the couple’s private marital decisions is unconstitutional.

Section 38(1): Freedom of Thought, Conscience and Religion

“Every person shall be entitled to freedom of thought, conscience and religion…”

Explanation:
A couple may freely decide to marry under religion, custom, the statutory (civil) system, or a combination — or to reject all religious and traditional rites entirely.

Section 42(1): Freedom from Discrimination

“A citizen of Nigeria… shall not… be subjected to any form of discrimination…”

Explanation:
Families, communities, or institutions cannot impose traditions or rites based on tribe, gender, or religion as a condition for marriage. The same protection extends to foreign spouses through the equality and human-rights provisions.

2️⃣ The Marriage Act (Cap M6 LFN 2004)
Section 7 — Notice of Marriage

“Whenever any persons desire to marry, one of the parties shall sign and give to the registrar…”

Explanation:
Marriage under the Act begins solely by the couple’s own decision. The Act does not require family consent, traditional introductions, or any cultural rite.

Section 11(1) — Conditions for Certificate

“The registrar shall issue his certificate… upon being satisfied that each party is of full age and has freely consented…”

Explanation:
The only required consent is the couple’s. Once both are of full age, no family or traditional approval is legally necessary.

Section 34 — Legal Validity of Marriage

“All marriages celebrated under this Act shall be good and valid in law to all intents and purposes.”

Explanation:
Once the statutory process is completed, the marriage is fully valid nationwide — even if no traditional rites were done.

Section 41 — Preventing Marriage Under False Pretence

“Whoever endeavours to prevent a marriage by pretence that his consent is required by law… shall be guilty of an offence.”

Explanation:
Families or community members who try to stop a lawful marriage by claiming their consent or cultural approval is required are breaking the law.

3️⃣ Customary Law and Its Limitations
Recognition under Section 35 of the Marriage Act

“Nothing in this Act shall affect the validity of any marriage contracted under or in accordance with any customary law…”

Explanation:
Customary marriages are valid only if voluntarily entered into and consistent with the Constitution. Coercive or discriminatory customs are void.

Evidence Act 2011, Section 18(3) — Repugnancy Clause

“In any judicial proceeding where a custom is relied upon, it shall not be enforced if it is repugnant to natural justice, equity, and good conscience, or incompatible… with any law for the time being in force.”

Explanation:
No custom that violates equality, liberty, or dignity can be enforced — including customs that force bride price, introductions, or family control.

🔹 3B. Bride Price, Introduction, and Family Consent — Not Legally Required
(a) Statutory Freedom to Marry Without Tradition

The Marriage Act governs statutory (civil and church) marriages. It makes no reference to bride price, introduction, or family approval.

Under Section 34, once the statutory procedure is followed, the marriage is “good and valid in law.”

Therefore, even if no bride price is paid, no family introduction held, or the families disapprove, the marriage remains fully legal.

(b) Constitutional and Human-Rights Protection

Sections 34, 35, and 38 of the Constitution guarantee dignity, liberty, and freedom of conscience.

Forcing or coercing a couple to perform cultural rites, or to pay a bride price, violates these rights.

The African Charter (Cap A9 LFN 2004), enforceable in Nigeria, also prohibits discrimination based on national origin or culture in matters of marriage (Articles 2, 6, and 18(3)).

(c) Customary Law and the Repugnancy Test

Courts recognise that bride price and “handing-over” are typical proof elements in customary marriages (e.g., Obi v. Bosah (2019)), but only when the couple choose customary marriage.

When a couple marry under the Marriage Act, none of those customary elements are required.

Even within customary law, any rule that forces a bride price or family approval can be struck down under Section 18(3) of the Evidence Act as “repugnant to natural justice.”

(d) Judicial Confirmation of Freedom and Consent

Osamwonyi v. Osamwonyi (1972) – Consent is the foundation of all marriages.

Agbeja v. Agbeja (1985) – Customary marriage must be voluntary.

Mojekwu v. Mojekwu (1997) – Discriminatory or oppressive customs are void.

Obi v. Bosah (2019) – Bride price and handing-over define a customary marriage, not a legal or mandatory one.

(e) Legal Result

Bride price, introduction, or family consent are purely cultural — never legal — requirements.
Couples may lawfully reject them and marry under the Marriage Act or any other voluntary system.
Any person who attempts to compel them commits an offence under Section 41 of the Marriage Act and violates the Constitution.

(f) Even in Traditional Marriages, Specific Rituals Like Prostration or Kneeling Can Be Rejected

Relevant Laws and Principles:

Constitution Section 34(1) — Dignity of the Human Person

Any act that humiliates or degrades either spouse (e.g., forced prostration, kneeling, or other imposed gestures) violates this constitutional right.

Courts recognise that dignity and personal autonomy cannot be surrendered to culture.

Evidence Act Section 18(3) — Repugnancy Clause

Customs that compel a person to perform physical acts of submission or humiliation are repugnant to natural justice, equity, and good conscience and therefore unenforceable.

Even where a couple opt for a customary wedding, they may lawfully omit any ritual they find offensive or inconsistent with their beliefs.

Constitution Section 38(1) — Freedom of Conscience and Religion

A couple may object on conscience or religious grounds to any ritual gesture. Their decision is legally protected, and no family can lawfully insist otherwise.

Case Law Support

Mojekwu v. Mojekwu (1997) – Any custom that degrades or discriminates is unconstitutional.

Meribe v. Egwu (1976) – Consent, not ritual formality, determines validity.

Agbeja v. Agbeja (1985) – Customary marriages stand only where all acts are voluntary.

Practical Effect:

Even in a voluntary traditional marriage, no family, elder, or community leader has the legal power to compel a bride or groom to prostrate, kneel, bow, or perform any symbolic act against their will.
Refusal to perform such a gesture does not invalidate the marriage under any Nigerian law.
The essence of both statutory and customary marriage is mutual consent, not ritual form.

4️⃣ International Human Rights and Equality for All Persons
African Charter on Human and Peoples’ Rights (Cap A9 LFN 2004)

Article 2: Equal rights without distinction of race, national origin, or religion.

Article 6: Right to liberty and security of the person.

Article 18(3): State must eliminate discrimination and protect family rights.

Explanation:
Marriage freedom and equality extend to all persons within Nigeria, including foreigners. No one can be treated differently because of nationality or ethnicity.

5️⃣ Judicial Principles Supporting Freedom to Marry
Case Legal Rule Meaning
Osamwonyi v. Osamwonyi (1972) Consent is fundamental Marriage without free consent is void
Agbeja v. Agbeja (1985) Customary marriage must be voluntary No coercion or forced customs allowed
Mojekwu v. Mojekwu (1997) Discriminatory customs invalid Oppressive customs have no force
Obi v. Bosah (2019) Bride price/handing-over define customary marriage only Optional and cultural, not universal requirement
6️⃣ Summary — What the Law Means in Practice
Legal Source Applies To Legal Effect
Constitution (ss.34–38, 42) All persons Freedom, dignity, equality; no coercion or discrimination
Marriage Act (ss.7–41) All persons Marriage valid solely on couple’s consent; no tradition required
Evidence Act (s.18(3)) All customs Voids coercive or discriminatory traditions
African Charter (Cap A9) All persons in Nigeria Protects equality and freedom to marry
Case law All marriages Upholds consent; voids forced or oppressive customs
✅ FINAL LEGAL CONCLUSION

Under Nigerian law —
for all persons, whether both Nigerians or one foreign and one Nigerian:

Marriage is purely voluntary — only the couple’s consent matters.

The couple may freely choose the form (statutory, religious, customary, or combination).

Bride price, family introduction, and traditional rites are optional, not compulsory.

Even where a traditional ceremony is chosen, any specific ritual (such as prostration, kneeling, or symbolic acts) may be lawfully refused without invalidating the marriage.

No one (family, culture, or religion) may impose extra conditions or coercion.

Any attempt to force compliance with cultural or religious rites violates the Constitution (ss. 34–38), the Marriage Act (ss. 7–41), and the Evidence Act (s. 18(3)).

All couples — Nigerian or mixed nationality — share equal protection under law and international human-rights treaties.

Oh boy

Fenrir:
Im not black at all,
Im Norwegian/Swedish/Danish by blood

And you people here confuse nationality, race and ethnicity

My nationality is Norwegian
My race is white
But my ethnicity is my clan the same way that your ethnicity is your tribe but your nationality is Nigerian and your race is African not black

Okay, just wondering, nairaland is a local site, you seem to have an interest in Nigeria...I totally agree with some of your submissions, but there are still some very reasonable Nigerians, the problem is the political class.

Big men should go for armed private security as it is obtainable in other countries... police is for the public.

Fenrir:
No actually, in my culture back home people can leave the front doors of their home open and go out knowing everything is fine

Norway is in the top 5 countries in the world for law and order, almost zero corruption

Nigeria is 140-180 corruption, crime and rape everywhere especially in the Yoruba communities so do not lecture me about nonsense you know nothing about and the difference im willing to fight for my country and yours but all you do is sit on your backside complaining. Does anything like this actually happen in civilised countries? Or just countries like this where the government only steals from the population?

Are you a black Norwegian?

Fenrir:
Im Norwegian and an ex British Royal Marine dont talk to me about terrorism if your government gave me permission and equipment they would be gone

Stop complaining about one law while you break and abuse the rest

Stick to the topic. People break laws everywhere, it's the duty of the state to enforce laws. Terrorism and kidnapping by jihadists bandits bokoharam and iswap, in cohoot with the fulani militia is the problem of Nigeria. Not about breaking traffic laws etc...

DaGC:
Ancestor wey dey call person Gen-Z, e go pain me if I know say I senior you. So bye 👋🏿

You sounded like you are going for NYSC, the way you speak passionately on it, I finished my NYSC 2 decades ago.

What type of phoolish people do we have in government?

Fenrir:
And citizen to obey the law which almost none of you do. And no not the politicians your government cannot be trusted. Well actually none of you can be trusted.

Stop talking like a kid, people disobey laws everywhere, but it's the strong laws that is the deterrence... enforcement of laws, and strong laws.

We are talking of terrorists here not breaking of laws, we are talking of terrorists killing people, this topic is about state security, arming our vigilante to be able to unalive terrorists.

Or are you a terrorist sympathiser?

They are useless to Nigerians, parasites and jihadists enablers. Tax them and tax the church and mosque as businesses.

Religion is destroying Nigeria

Fenrir:
You can’t shout about “law” and “rights” when it suits you, while forcing culture, forcing tradition, lying, and breaking laws that are meant to protect human rights and basic decency.

You have no right to complain now, because you’ve ignored or denied the very protections that should apply to everyone. Laws don’t disappear when it’s inconvenient for you, and neither do basic human rights. Be consistent before you try to lecture anyone.

What or who are you referring to?

It's the job of senators to make laws and job of police to enforce laws, so if you have nothing sensible to say, move on.

We are talking of jihadists and terrorists killings you are talking of people breaking laws, are you a jihadist?

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Fenrir:
I’ve lived in your country long enough to see it clearly: Nigeria is a corrupt and criminal place. THE MAJORITY, though not all, break the law daily and openly don’t care — until a crime personally affects them.

Rape, child molestation, theft between citizens — all rampant. Yet if someone challenges tradition, steals your “bride price,” or tries to let people marry as they choose, suddenly it’s the end of the world.

The truth is almost the whole country operates outside the law, ignoring basic human rights and decency, and that’s why people get away with it. Until that reality changes, complaints about “law” are hollow.

It's the job of the political class to ensure laws are adhered to.

All fulani boys, yet some fools allow them to get settlement in their states.

Start state police now. Stop waiting for federal government, empower your hunters, train and employ your forests guards.

benpuzzy:
The only thing preventing the vigilante from winning the war against Banditry is the kind of weapon they use cos these bandits are afraid of vigilantes.

Absolutely, I mean as a people we are foolish if we can't make laws to protect ourselves from terrorists. No nation on earth is this stupid...we are refusing to protect ourselves by ourselves

Nigerian government do not think things through, keep disgracing us. The man committed the crime in the UK, hence he should be punished there. It's a pity this government keep focusing on the wrong things.

ComeToJesus:
Little wonder Zamfara that spearheaded the Sharia movement is the worst hit after Borno

Spot on, we all remembered that very extremists Zamfara leader that year.

Disgraced president

Apt...Kwara is a case study

Mass protests now, shut down the country

Kalulu44:
Honestly I dey tell you. Right now I have in my phone songs from Indian movies back in the days like Sholay, Mard, Loha, Ghazab, Disco Dancer, India Commando, Yeh Vaada Raha (Sunita), Kaalia, Burning Train, Nagin (Snake Girl) and so on. These songs bring nostalgic feelings about my childhood.

That snake girl, another classic.

ebukal67x:
Self defense is a constitutional right. Give the people what they need to protect themselves.

I think southern youths need to do mass protests, straight to their government houses and state house of assembly, block the entrance till we see results.

discusant:
Apt.
Boko Haram says it's fighting for a Nigeria to be governed with Sharia criminal laws, the same Sharia criminal laws adopted unilaterally by the political and religious leaders in the far north Nigeria states beginning 1999.

Bandits are offshoots of Boko Haram, all sharing the same objective with most Muslims in those Sharia states of northern Nigeria. Their common objective is for a Nigeria to be governed with Sharia criminal justice system.

The first leader of bokoharam, Yusuf, is one of the first clerics employed by the state governor of the state that started sharia in Nigeria, to constitute the sharia assembly, so sharia law literally created bokoharam.

The sad thing is so many say they follow Islam, but they won't acknowledge the evil sharia and almajirism is doing to Nigeria.

Hypocrites, Sharia law in the north started bokoharam, bokoharam members are the bandits and kidnappers. This is the problem of Nigeria.

Dogalmighty17:
The NSA will never give any governor the license to import AK-47s into Nigeria. The office of the NSA is one that the Fulani consistently makes sure is headed by a Fulani man in any administration.

Without a certificate for arm importation, no reputable arms company will agree to sell to you. The only option will be to buy from the black market or gun runners. Any governor that does that is guaranteed to be impeached by his house of assembly under pressure from Abuja.

Most of the guns in the arms of these bandits were stolen from the Nigerian army armoury. The day the president decides that a comprehensive audit of Nigerian army armouries nation wide, Nigerians will be shocked to discover that over 40% of its armoury contents have been looted.

The governor can do it if they want, they can take the matter to court if they are serious. NSA is not above the governor...matters of the state is between the governor and state parliament.

judatech:
This has always been the narrative throughout the history of Israel... Something always comes up to save them at the nick of time.

After Khomeini was hiding like a rat, all your generals unalived, and iran crying to report to UN like a scared baby... Israel occupied their airspace, Iran couldn't attack, out of fear...Iran could have been leveled

After Khomeini was hiding like a rat, all your generals unalived, and iran crying to report to UN like a scared baby.

We are facing an existential threat, farmers can't go to farms, girls are afraid to walk alone, big men no longer go to their villages.

SpaceX:
Northerners are all complicit in all this madness, why is it this madness only happening in the north?

They need 7 virgins seriously

Evil politicians, political sycophants and religious bigots, fanatics and zombies are the problem of Nigeria.