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UnproudLife:
So it happened that at this certain time, I was running a lucrative business that had so much cashflow., to the tune of about 2-4m monthly and I married my long-time girlfriend whom I disvirgined and had been dating for 7 years.

The moment we married and started the family journey, I tried making conversations about having a core family standard that would make harmony stand the test of time. Note that I am a man who is disciplined and goal-oriented. So first I approached my wife with a conversation on how to both make meaningful contributions in getting the family from point A to B at all times, to be more detailed, one of the conversations we had was about our finances because I also mentored her in the same business and she was raking in cash as well and was profitable.

I asked her that we make it a habit of both of us making contributions, having a certain joint account where we drop in cash from a certain amount we make sure we get paid monthly from our businesses. This was because while I was a reasonable spender who knows that if I go broke nobody got my back in the whole wide world. I'm the kinda person who when I spend, let's say for example, 200k just knows I'm worth times 30 of that but even with that I didn't have a concrete structure in business, I just spend money or do things as though my business was an extension of me, which the same was my wife's as well. And this was the reason I wanted us to make the conversation and also do things together. So I told her when we get paid monthly from our businesses we send a certain percentage of it to a joint account to run the family and if I was doing let's say 70k she should do like 30k because, with all honesty, I valued her business at if not half of mine or slightly above it was close at the time. And this was immediately we got married oh.

I was met with strong refusal, as she told me I married her and it was my duty to cater for everything, but as a patient person that I am in not making my judgement rashly I kept trying to convince her. I did till when it dawned on me that we was stern with her objection. And then this created in me a sense of deep selfishness from my wife and also note that I wasn't ever nosey about her income and even though I had a way to access her accounts to monitor Everything I wasn't interested and I was being the sole provider in the family while I watched my wife spend her money how she liked, making decisions that should involve me with her sister and calling some things to surprise me, and I don't mean it negatively.

It happened that i started a project in building a house 3years before we married which I'd credit to her sisters's advice and by the time we married we were already done with the roofing, remaining plastering and the rest. We were living at a very moderate house in town but had this project at a suburb in lagos which we all know that as a lagosian is still Lagos but only that the area would be less expensive. So at a time we were planning moving to a better apartment in town when her sister and her friend advised we pour money in completing our own place to move in. After much convincing I agreed and God blessed the most during this period in business so I had a dream house kind of finishing to the interior and we moved in.

During this time we were managing living at our business place because I was still accommodating her in my business space and we lived there and went home ones or twice in 2 weeks as it was easier with my driving. We then had a certain disagreement that made my wife without my agreement move her business and everything to that house and the area sighting her sister advicing it be done. I winked at it for peace to reign and because I wasn't a fool. Sorry without having to correct what I typed up there, this was the real account of what happened. When we had our first child she moved directly there and I went home weekends while running both businesses with me just directing her staffs and guiding them with discipline. We all know when you leave business for strangers it's OYO but all that doesn't mean I was also having access to her money, the money went to her while I managed the business.

This also was playing out while we dated and got married in how she never likes making any expenditure in even the cost of executing her jobs, and she would rather blackmail which I don't buy and because at those times I stick to mindset in business she'd rebel and take rash decision that would later backfire. So that was how she came one day and moved her everything to the area where we built saying her sister advised it.

I was a faithful man, a born again personality who ever since I gave my life to Christ about 5years to our marriage I stopped having fornication even with her or anyone and till that point in the marriage. So as she had moved, ye little things I knew in her business started diminishing while I was running the family financially. But this lady was always making me feel less than a man because she was so so not submissive even though I married her with the us being both core Christians and born again where she was even more fired up than me so we all knew submissiveness was the watchword but she wouldn't sub to it at this point and when I was home she'd make life miserable for me shouting in an area that the voice travels far, insult my life telling me that she regretted marrying me because I was a person who just wouldn't budge and I used to say I don't "think" as in the thinking that leads to depression and I guess this was why she wasn't having it. I always found ways to channel my thoughts to things positive that gets me going and even forgiving her on time while she sometimes take days to stop keeping malice.

This lady graduated to the aspect of telling me she stooped so low marrying me and I could go out and meet other ladies that she wouldn't even give a damn, and this went on for a long time. Without exaggeration, I myself was someone that in her words she feel for initially because of my looks although I was 5"7 and she like 5"6 in height which isn't that short for a man. I knew how young in thought and look I was when I start taking care of myself and dressing nice again and without a doubt an handsome man, so it got to a point I said to myself I've had enough. At this time I was already lusting at my spec in ladies out there in which I married her like but she refused to remain at. I brushed off and even while being in my early 30s I had several ladies saying I looked 23-26 in age and I started meeting ladies and having affairs with multiple through platforms and it was mind-blowing to me because they were telling me I looked better in person even though the profile pictures I had were compelling themselves. So I had several young ladies wishing we were dating for real but u didn't want that and wouldn't lie to get them laid with promises but the only lie I told was that I wasn't married neither with kids which some weren't even suspecting not to talk of asking such. But something was just not clicking with the way guys if this age behave when I relate with them and this is when we have more deeper relations and then they start sensing the nature of responsibility which makes them ask if I was married.

So at this point I said to myself, I was separated from my wife and I told her in several occasions because I wasn't going home as often as before she noticed all the changes in my looks but cared less. I was so far gone in having other ladies that I didn't even know what could ever make me wanna get back with her again. But in all these I was still a man who doesn't believe in divorce, which is what I always tell her made her misbehave. Then lemme note this. I was so far gone playing churchy Al these years I never knew the age had turned around and ladies were now so much for sale, I could remember hearing the word hookup for the first time 2 years ago when I had started contemplating cheating and I turned so many girls down on those platforms when I understood what hookup meant. I mostly kept them friends online for whining and all and I went off without meeting anyone until last year, that same last year by almost the middle of the year I had my first encounter with a lady who was almost begging I had s*X with her right in my car as the car was tinted at the back, and this was while being friends. I refused and explained I had never done it before. But a month later I started getting in the act until miraculously this year at mid year I had been longing for a change in lifestyle when I got the gift of repentance right in church and I just at this moment didn't care what my wife had ever done to me, I just forgave her in my heart, asked for forgiveness from God. Then it has been happening lately by then that she had been begging me and her sister was saying she in the person of my wife was already fed up and wanted to beg back in good terms with me but you know basking in the love of flesh I wasn't into it and knowing she was the kind that goes back to her vomit. But at this point I determined to make her come where I was and then we reconcile. But shortly after I did restitution with her and told her all I had done and what she made be go into but to my surprise she was so disappointed crying and telling me all sorts which was surprising to me because I expected this woman should have already seen the writing on the wall because I don't know how to pretend at all but she said she never suspected that she knew I was a Christian. Although I played a clean game but was was obvious was the fact that I changed in looks and all and shouldn't that be glaring. And now she only sober occasionally when the thoughts kicks in

My main problem now is that, while my first child is a copy of me, I started seeing the looks of my sister in law's last born in my last kid, which my mum has vaguely noted and I seconded. We can't even nurture the thought as we just said it. But personally each day I now stay with the kid I keep looking the semblance and thinking what if my bro in law which is my sister in law's hobby fathered this child. You see that would have out the child conception at about 3 months before I ever started having affairs outside marriage. I just wish to know what you guys think because I haven't even been able to ask any question relating to that as my wife just seem to off to ever fall into such.

Please ignore any typo as it was long and I'm trying to get by with a new course and it'll be hard to go through what I've written again. Pardon me

Odewaleadesoye:
Socio-political activist Reno Omokri has said that President Bola Ahmed Tinubu’s re-election in 2027 is now certain, following the removal of Abba Yusuf as the Kano State governor.

DAILY POST reported earlier on Friday that the Appeal Court ruled that Governor Abba Yusuf of Kano State was not a member of the New Nigerian Peoples Party (NNPP) at the time the elections were conducted.

Yusuf won the election on the platform of the NNPP but the court upheld the position of the governorship election tribunal, which ruled that the governor is not qualified to contest for the seat.

The judges further stated that the tribunal was wrong not to have disqualified the appellant, Governor Yusuf.

Omokri wrote:

DAILY POST

Islie:
Policemen, Immigration Officers Clash, Exchange Fire In Borno Over Ownership Of Outpost



https://saharareporters.com/2023/11/17/nigerian-policemen-immigration-officers-clash-exchange-fire-borno-over-ownership-outpost

lexylaw40:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/11/looted-funds-weve-seized-n45bn-identified-terrorist-financiers-fg/amp/

Politicstoday:
https://dailypost.ng/2023/11/17/kano-guber-governor-yusuf-was-not-qualified-to-contest-appeal-court/

ogododo:
https://punchng.com/customs-lost-n1-3tn-to-buharis-waivers-for-investors-cg/

Clevite:
PRESS RELEASE

ALLEGED MANIPULATION OF ACCREDITATION DATA ON IReV



https://twitter.com/inecnigeria/status/1724459306672652771?t=cdUzTvQ8hhzuTqqtiy7Dtg&s=19[/quote]All these stuffs of IREV, BVAS,ABS or whatever were simply created by INEC as a means of knowing the elections results upfront n altering it to favour their preferred Candidate n not for the endurance of a transparent n fair elections, INEC will always come up with all sorts of hydraheaded excuses to justify their criminality,why should the number of votes casted at a polling unit supercede the number of registered or acreditated voters in the same unit? isn't that a clear case of over voting and ballot stuffing?, during the presidential election INEC came up with the false claim of a glitch to rigged the election but the courts turned a blind eye to it,the NASS must alter the electoral act to make electronic collation and transmission of results mandatory,the act Should also make it mandatory for INEC to account for her actions during elections with the possibility of punitive measures against them if found wanting else it's just a waste of time, resources n risk for anyone going to vote,the number of registered n pvc collected in each polling unit is known so it should be easy for INEC to do their job so that even if there would be rigging it should be minimal.

CandidAdmin:
One keeps hearing from the men on NL that they want a submissive woman. Almost every thread about relationships and marriage has that word.

Now, over to the men, what's your definition of submissive?
Is it that when you say A, she must obey and not say B?
Or she shouldn't even give her opinion at all?
Or her choices and prefrences don't matter at all just because you want something?

Men!!! Let's discuss.

Question of the day - True or false, Responsibility without Authority is Slavery?

Difrent:
Apart from the Constitution....there's also the Electoral act that sets guidance for INEC.
In all acts or laws..there's the definition of terms section where meaning of terms used in the act are defined.
Get the electoral act and look for the definition of collation....don't rely on this dictionary meaning

DesChyko:
At this point, it will be wise for INEC to just stop issuing these contradictory press conferences and focus on conducting their selection process. Are they implying that they do not rely on Form EC8As for declaring the winner (after all, that's what we expect to see on the iREV)

Which of the definition of 'collate' does iREV not do that makes them utter such careless assumptions that it is not for collation..are they educated at all? After all these weeks and they can't use their terms properly 😑

DesChyko:
INEC says IREV not for results collation,



https://punchng.com/off-season-polls-electronic-collation-illegal-says-inec-police-warn-nlc/

Indispensable85:
If you've not seen the judgement why are you concluding? Beer palour gist... Lol 🤣

Indispensable85:
Have you seen the judgement?

Indispensable85:
You just confirmed my assertion that you guys don't know that the appeal court is the final court in national assembly petitions. Lol 🤣

Indispensable85:
This is how you know them. Obidients are the most ignorant humans on earth today. So they want the appeal court to reverse the judgement. I bet most of them don't even know the appeal court is the final court for national assembly petitions. Lol 🤣🤣🤣

sarkinbauchi:
A Presidential yacht refers to a vessel of a country's navy that would be specially used by the country's President. It is common for a vessel to be designated as the presidential yacht during a fleet review.

Some countries (below) have vessels permanently designated as presidential yachts:

List of Countries with Presidential yachts

Egypt
The President of Egypt has the eighth largest yacht, El Mahrousa, as his presidential yacht.

Finland
The President of Finland has a small private yacht, Kultaranta VIII.

India
The INS Sumitra is the presidential yacht of India.

Italy
The Italian ship Argo (MEN209) is the presidential yacht of Italy.

Philippines
Casiana (1936-1941), renamed Banahaw.
Orchid (1946-1948)
Dalisay (1948-1959), renamed Apo, Pagasa, and Santa Maria.
RPS Lapu-Lapu (1959–present), renamed RPS Roxas, RPS The President, RPS Pag-Asa, and BRP Ang Pangulo.

Russia
Russia employed presidential yachts serving the Russian presidents, including:
Olympia (2002–2009), was used by the Russian President Vladimir Putin during his first and second terms.
Sirius (2010–), was firstly used by the Russian President Dmitri Medvedev
Graceful (2018–), the most recent presidential yacht. The Russian government also employing the special vessel named Rossiya which was built during the Soviet Union, and used in the internal waters. In 2003 ship named Burevestnik was commissioned to serve the Russia's leaders.[5]

Turkey
Presidential Yacht Savarona – The current Turkish presidential yacht; prior to 2010 privately leased while her replacement (below) was in development
New presidential yacht – The Turkish Government has currently commissioned a new 50 m yacht for the personal use of the president and visiting heads of state. Details of this new yacht first surfaced in September 2008.[6][citation needed] The yacht is being built at the Istanbul Naval Yard, Pendik, Istanbul and is reported to have a ballistic hull, surface-to-air missiles and high-tech equipment.

United States
In the past, the United States employed presidential yachts serving the American president:

USS Mayflower (1906–1929), was decommissioned as a result of economy measures just prior to the Great Depression.
USS Potomac (1936–1945)
USS Williamsburg (1945–1953)
the most recent presidential yacht was USS Sequoia (1933–77).

Yugoslavia
The most famous is Galeb, the yacht of Marshal Josip Broz Tito.

Herdamorlar:
With the high rise in the prices of all the basic needs. I returned from work this evening and I tried to write all I needed and to my surprise, my salary has finished with no savings for me.

I just don't know what to remove from the list right now, are we really going to continue like this? Especially those of us working for private companies, these private companies don't even bother to increase the salary of their workers with the rise in all commodities in the country.

tinsel:
https://www.thecable.ng/he-has-privacy-rights-fbi-cia-reject-request-for-tinubus-records/amp

Twy:
I think we should have a change of heart from crime. I seriously doubt the top three never benefited from crime or their wealth is detached from the rewards of crime. He is not the best to talk about crime. He can talk about it if he gives away his weatlh to fight crime and educate citizens about good behviours.

seunlayi:
Atiku is actually right, but many Nigerians won't reason.... They like been manipulated

Nemere2020:
'Fisayo Soyombo (Twitter)

FreeStuffsNG:
‘Converting’ HND to degree is absurd'




https://punchng.com/converting-hnd-to-degree-is-absurd/

Twy:
I suspect, they are using a staggered strategy towads transmission. From one of their reports ", IReV has
enabled the Commission to test three
things that are germane to electronic
transmission of results.
First, it has been used to test the efficacy
of electronic results management,
should the legal encumbrance be
lifted. This system has been deployed
in several major off-season/endof-tenure and bye-elections. These
include the Edo and Ondo State
Governorship elections, six Senatorial
and three Federal Constituency byeelections, 15 State constituencies and
one Councillorship Constituency in the
FCT. From the result obtained from these
elections, the Commission is convinced
that electronic result management will
add great value to the transparency
and credibility of elections in Nigeria.
Secondly, the Commission used the
IReV portal to test the security of
our systems if they are deployed for
electronic transmission of results. Again,
our systems have passed the entire
necessary security tests, including
“dummy hacking” by ethical hackers.
Thirdly, the Commission has used the
IReV online publishing of Polling Unit
results to test the capacity of the
national infrastructure to support
future electronic transmission of results.
Results were transferred in real-time
from all parts of the country covering
different types of elections"

Odewaleadesoye:
What lesson can you learn from Alhaji Atiku Abubakar, Peter Obi and President Bola Ahmed Tinubu?

donphilopus:
The Supreme Court has dismissed Peter Obi's appeal.

Twy:
Forget what you read online. I am reading from INEC documents from 2021 to 2022. They have never publicly admitted programming the IREV for transmission of results. By their definition of electronic transmission, collating and transmitting polling units, wards, lga, and state results and assigning winner. What they claim it is to upload images of polling units results. They can design or programm it for electronic transmission but I am Nigerian, I doubt that IREV can actually do that right now.

Twy:
It is a beta project that INEC choice is using to upload polling results. The next phase is likely collation but they have not started it.

Estello:
CSU Deposition Gotten by Atiku Discarded By The Supreme Court Of Nigeria.

Section 22 of Electoral Act has also been denied

Judgement By Justice Iyang Okoro

Estello:
Justice Okoro has held that not having 25% of the votes in Abuja does not stop a candidate from being declared president.

The judge held that people of Abuja are equal and not different from other Nigerians

fergie001:
Justice Inyang Okoro JSC

Baatunde:
Sorry what is happening on the 31st of October?