₦airaland Forum

The woman will be entitled to live in the house until their youngest child is 18 years old.

Until then, the man can be homeless, that's his own headache.

After their youngest child reaches 18, the woman will launch a legal claim for half of the value of the property that she didn't pay a dime towards.

The man has lost big time.

Fountainofyouth:
Are all of you comprehensively stupid or cognitive desonance failed you? Fvck off from my mention if you are stupid to know that not all chats like that of Op's wife means they've had sex.

I think majority of commentators have said it was unlikely they've had sex.

Yet you're suggesting everyone is stupid for saying they have. Calm down na. There are people of different ages and experience on Nairaland, so you should expect that some comments will fall well below your personal expectations and standards. No need to respond with abuse.

Back to the topic, most married women do not habitually send their photos to work acquaintances. Op has a reason to be concerned.

ReluctantAdult:
Reminds me of my office romance days
I bet you've had a fair share yourself

My brother, experience full for hand o, but not with married women.

This is rampant in many offices.

Even wives who are supposedly decent, and who love their husband can easily be drawn into this type of situation and before they realise it they're too deep into the unwholesome friendships.

Anywhere you have men and women in the same office environment, there's always a tendency for this kind of closeness between colleagues.

Women in particular need to know where to draw the line in the relationship with their colleagues as the risk is much higher for them.

It is even more common in well paid job environments.

jesmond3945:
your wife likes him and she enjoys his company. Just tell her to stop and confront the man as well. He would stop. But be ready for your wife she would fight you.

Absolutely no reason to confront the man. This is between him and his wife.

It is clear Op's wife and his colleague are becoming too close.

The sending of pictures is very interesting.

Either one assumes the guy requested your wife to send selfies & she sent them or your wife sends it on her own volition, both scenarios raise serious questions about your wife's present state of mind.

Once a woman starts sending selfies to a man, hmm, next thing is, do you like this dress, what do you think of my hair style etc, that's cheating already. Next thing is, the guy will ask what colour bra is she wearing. She'll tell him the colour, and possibly add, do you want to see? The guy will pretend like he's not that keen, but it's a lie. He'll say, you're at work, so you can't show me anyway. Women don't like to be dared. Experienced men know that. So she will say, don't dare me! Before you know it she'll go in the ladies room, snap her chest, and send the guy a pic of her chest area. From that moment everything degenerates.

I'm certain your wife likes this guy, though I don't believe anything serious has happened between them YET. That said, it is likely stolen kisses inside office storage or photo copier room and some hand gliding has already happened.

Anyway, you're lucky you found out at this stage.

377:
Go and confront the guy in the office or rather complain to the top management of the company by then he will back off. Show them the evident

Lol

That's so whimpish.

Why would a grown man go to his wife's workplace to make a fool of himself.

Cheap China products are destroying companies and leading to business closures in many countries.

Many European countries are losing manufacturers every day, mostly because they can't compete with the price of Chinese imports. Even Germany, the erstwhile manufacturing giant is facing serious plant closures and transfer of manufacturing to China.

It is unfortunate that P & G is closing here but it mainly comes down to the availability of cheap Chinese alternatives in the market. P&G can't compete.

Nigerian government can't ban Chinese imports which has brought affordability to millions of Nigerians in order to protect P & G which only a minority of people can afford.

There are no easy solutions to the 'Chinese problem'.

jaxxy:
If she goes against ur wish then she will be fully guilty of a crime and another other crime she may have planned by this hidden and mysterious engagement.

Ur brother should still go with her if she choses to against ur wishes. He too must do this like its also without ur permission.

If she intends to attend the wedding against the wishes of her husband, why should the husband allow his brother to go with her. That'll represent partial consent to the trip.

If the woman insist on going, she should go alone and take full responsibility for her action.

Also, his brother going with her will not stop or prevent her from doing anything she wants to do there.

The whole situation is just a mess.

If man needs to police his wife by asking someone to accompany and keep an eye on her , then something is fundamentally wrong and unhealthy about that relationship.

Op, if the wedding is at another city, then there's a possibility they may not return home the same day.

In that scenario, I would assume your wife and brother will have to stay perhaps at a hotel, and they will each occupy a separate room.

In that case, how will your brother know what 's going down in madam's room

The above might seem far-fetched, but bro any relationship where husband and wife are in separate countries deserved to be viewed with extreme suspicion.

Op made some points which people are ignoring.

1. He doesn't know the male friend whose sister's wedding his wife wants to attend.

2. His wife only mentioned the trip to him recently.

How common is it for a married woman to travel to another town/city to attend a male, former school mate's sister's wedding.

The wife's connection with the would be bride is too remote to warrant a major out of town trip. Afterall, it is the bride's brother that Op's wife knew from way back.

It is also not very common for a friendship between male and female ex classmates to remain that close years after they left school to justify this type of trip. Is there a lingering longing somewhere...hmm

The fact she offered to go with Op's brother is not sufficient security against shenanigans. Afyerall, Op's brother won't follow her up and down every nook and cranny at the event. The wife only needs to give Op's brother a seat, plenty of food and drinks to occupy him while she excuses herself for a while. And Op's brother will not suspect anything.

Anyway, much of the above is speculation and Op's wife's trip might be totally innocuous. But, I have my doubts about people's fidelity in a situation like this one where husband and wife live in different countries.

If Op shares some of these concerns, and is worried, then he should let the wife know that he is against the trip.

The fact that the woman suggested she would go with Op's brother could, I suspect, be an attempt to give Op a false sense of security.

grandstar:
I believe in open borders. Lift all bans and apply low tariffs on imports of goods and services.

Wow...

Thank goodness you are not in charge of the Nigerian economy.

No country in the world practice what you're advocating.

You want to ruin the Nigerian economy, destroy the naira, and condemn Nigeria to permanent economic dependency - all because you want to be able to buy what other countries produce cheaper even if it means destroying Nigeria 's manufacturers.

grandstar:
I believe in open borders. Lift all bans and apply low tariffs on imports of goods and services.

Wow...

Thank Goodness you are not in charge of the Nigerian economy.

No country in the world practice what you're advocating. You want to ruin the Nigerian economy, destroy the naira, and condemn Nigeria to permanent economic dependency.

The so-called investors have more money than sense, hence the reason they invest in 'tech' companies that are ultimately doomed to fail.

Many of these so-called tech companies have nothing more than brightly coloured offices, a few computers/laptops and a half-baked, bound-to- fail idea that they wax lyrics around and sell to investors as a viable business.

Many of these founders have no tangible business or life experience - yet, misguided investors will give them money.

It is no surprise over 95% of them fail.

This particular company raised $2m less than a year ago, yet they're already out of business. No doubt the founders took very good care of themselves and left the naive investors licking their wounds.

I saw a truck with a load of timber yesterday. It was a shocking sight.

The so-called timber were so small in diameter, it was obvious the forestry sector is in a desperate crisis.

I remember growing up seeing huge logs of timber on the back of trucks, but that is now history. Wanton and greedy deforestation has led to a near- permanent loss of sizable timber.

Are we also going to start importing wood

The thought beggars belief.

MadamExcellency:
Why are we still borrowing after surpassing our budget and revenue target?

Because the revenue is still significantly less than the government 's expenditure.

Imagine a family of six whose monthly income is N100,000, and their monthly expenditure is N190,000. The parents have been borrowing for several years from one cooperative to another to keep the family afloat.

Now, the family's income has increased to N110,000 per month, but they still need N190,000 per month. Do you think they can stop borrowing because their income increase by N10,000?

Of course, no.

That's the exact position Nigeria has found itself.

crossfm:
I can see you don't get my quote.

Was making reference to what our president said sometime ago.

Ok, I get you now.

crossfm:
Hehehe.

Na statistics we go chop?.

Don't dismiss statistics.

It is like a student telling himself na test results I want chop. Isn't it test results that show you how well you are performing in school.

It is through economic statistics that you know whether the economy is moving in the right direction or not.

The more the statistics are moving in the right direction, the more business people, and investors have confidence in putting their money in the economy, opening factories, creating jobs, and improving the wellbeing of our people.

In less than 6 months, the tide of economic records/statistics is starting to move in the right direction.

Mr Tinubu's will and courage to confront and address multi - decade structural economic problems marks him out as the most accomplished leader Nigeria has had for a long time.

No Nigerian leader since independence has come into office facing the depth and scope of economic challenges that Mr Tinubu faced.

Initially, it seemed there was no way out for the economy. But slowly, what appeared to be irreversible economic armageddon is giving way to signs of light at the end of the tunnel.

Nigeria is on track. We need to be patient with this President.

This is clearly a sad and very serious matter.

However, given their comparable age, and unless the lady has an underlying medical condition, straightforward sex alone is unlikely to have led to her death.

Absent a medical issue, Police should look into strangulation, choking etc. These days, many impressionable people want to practice what they see in adult films, including choking which can be dangerous .

This is ridiculous.

So every time I'm sitted next to a lady at a airport and she whips out her phone to make a call, I should assume she's trying to lure me/attract my interest.

How did you even have the time to know if the person sitting beside you is making a video call or the sex of the person she's calling Don't you mind your own business?

It seems you have made widely wrong assumptions about the intents of the ladies.

They were probably just doing their own thing, and their calls had nothing to do with you.

Price hikes was nothing to do with scarcity.

It's as a result of factors including:

1. Differentiated pricing which has resulted in buyers flocking to filling stations with lower prices resulting in long queues at those stations.

2. Greedy marketers with high prices are not selling hence why you see them issuing press statements every few weeks raising unnecessary alarms about fuel scarcity. They're trying to pressure the govt for their own selfish interest but they're being rightly ignored by the govt.

3. Due to the cost of diesel for fuel tankers, the futher away you live from Lagos and Port Harcourt, the higher the cost of petrol. This is unfortunate, but it is an inevitable consequence of removal of subsidy.

Omeikeandrew:
Nigeria judiciary

The appeal court cannot override or ignore the law.

The law says candidates must be registered members of a political party. Proof of membership is taken from the register of members that a party submits to INEC shortly before the election.

The man's name was not in NNPP's register.

What do you expect the court to do. Ignore the law?

Kukutente23:
I'm interested in seeing how Appeal Court arrived at the non-member status of Abba Yusuf given that he's known to have joined NNPP since March 2022. Fergie001 do you have a copy of the judgement?

From what I understand, the register of members submitted to INEC by NNPP didn't have the man's name.

That's fait accompli.

[quote author=Jostoman

I thought Supreme court said one party can not meddle in the affairs of other political party or they want to change their ruling to favour APC again as usual.[/quote].

The situation here is different. This is not an intra-party affair. It's about the law, and that makes it a public matter.

The Electoral law specifically requires that a party's candidate for an election must be a registered member of the party. The Appeal court has concluded that the NNPP Governor was not a registered member of the party as of the date of the election.

Accordingly, he did not qualify to contest the election and so cannot be a Governor.

APC is entitled to raise the matter before the court.

The man has a mountain to climb at the Supreme Court.

tiswell:
One of the very few sensible and vibrant omoluabis alive

Not that it matters, he is not Yoruba. He is from Edo State.

When you run the judiciary, and by implication the Nigerian legal profession down before such an important international audience, is it any surprise that education and work experience obtained in Nigeria is often not recognised abroad?

Do Ghanaian, South African, Kenyan, Indian, Sri Lanka etc lawyers also run to international forums to condemn their country 's judiciary is such generalised way?

Are Nigerian judges more corrupt than Indian judges for example.

The country desperately needs investment, both local and international. How do you think potential international investors will feel hearing your unguarded, unjustified generalisations.

All because you are a Labour Party politician.

You are a disgrace Mr Akpata.

This is not the way to speak of your country at an international forum.

Making unguarded and unqualified statements that denigrate the entire judiciary is ridiculous.

So all children and spouses of judges appointed into the judiciary in Nigeria are unqualified. And Nigeria is the only country where offsprings tend to follow their parents into their parent's professions. It doesn't happen in other countries

Do citizens of those countries go to international fora to demand intervention of external international agencies in their country's internal affairs?

Every little thing, some Nigerians will shame their country on the international stage, calling on the UN, USA, UK, EU to intervene. Is it down to colonisation-induced inferiority complex or what. You end up giving foreigners the impression that black people are unable to govern themselves.

Painting the entire judiciary as corrupt is disgraceful. Many judges are some of the hardest working and most poorly paid professionals in Nigeria. Many of them are not corrupt. It is so unfair to paint them all with the same brush.

Just because you're contesting as a Labour party candidate in a forthcoming election, you took to running the image of the entire judiciary through the mud before an international audience.

Are there no corrupt judges in America, Europe, South America etc. Do you see their lawyers running their country 's name through the mud at international conferences and calling for external intervention.

Challenges within the judiciary are not unique to Nigeria. Like other countries we have to find our ways of addressing them locally.

nairalanda1:
Seriously I doubt we can achieve self sufficiency in rice production.

Thailand and Brazil are already producing so much rice, it is even cheaper to import their rice than produce ours.

We are not achieving self sufficiency in anything.

Ordinary corn barely last 3 months these days because the population has exploded.

Whether it is Garri, Yam, plantain, you name it, we don't produce enough.

And now, we have made rice, a foreign food, the most widely consumed food in the country.

My niece doesn't eat yam, eba, pounded yam etc She just can't eat them even if she tries to It's rice, rice, rice.

Nigeria don enter am.

nairalanda1:
Seriously I doubt we can achieve self sufficiency in rice production.

Thailand and Brazil are already producing so much rice, it is even cheaper to import their rice than produce ours.

On that basis, just as we hope Dangote refineries will relieve some of the pressures on the Naira, we will be entering into a rice importation palaver where we will need to spend $2 billion or more per year importing rice.

So, back to square one, as the more rice we eat, the more the naira will fall.

Nigeria 's problems are never ending.

Jking20:
It's a pity, shame on our brainless leaders.

So it's the leaders that are to blame again for the obsessive consumption of rice in this country.

The last government through the CBN spent billions trying to improve rice cultivation, but to no avail.

Many of the challenges the country face are because of us, the people.

The government is absolutely on the right path.

Nigeria was on its knees and on the verge of collapse.

Tough decisions needed to be taken. Mr Tinubu took it and did so decisively. Brilliant.

Petrol Subsidy gone - one of the best decisions taken by any Nigerian president for at least 25 years.

Without that decision, this country was heading for bankruptcy, the consequence of which would have been worse that where we are today.