₦airaland Forum

Being arrested by EFCC is ten times better than being arrested by police.

EFCC does not beat, assault or torture detainees like the other lot.

So really, there's no need to resist arrest by EFCC.

Onepointfiveodds:
We had a [b]little argument [/b]last week and i demanded she apologise as it was obvious she's in the wrong. She hissed and walked out on me.

Looking at your write up again...I think you may be barking up the wrong tree here.

If I were you I'd actually be more concerned about her hissing and walking away, rather than the issue of apology. Isn't this seen in most Nigerian cultures as one of the highest insults.

It suggests a serious breakdown of mutual respect. Why would a wife belittle her husband like that, and days later still find it difficult to say 'my dear, I am sorry for hissing at you. I was angry but I should never have done that. I won't do it again'.

That's what grown up people do.

You too, your wahala is too much . You said you had a 'little argument', which suggests it was not serious. Most arguments between husband and wife, particularly the 'little' ones do not require an apology. Little arguments are part and parcel of most marriages. In most cases, you move on and forget about them.

You said the argument was little, you demanded an apology, she said no. After posting your thing on nairaland, you then rushed to phone her demanding again for the same apology.

Bros...drop it. Focus on the hissing, and let her know you're very concerned she'd belittle and dismiss you like that. If you approach it that way, I won't be surprised if she apologises.

Onepointfiveodds:
Honestly i do that every time i feel I'm in the wrong. I just spoke to her and she said why will she apologise when i didn't apologise for telling her to apologise for something she did wrong... I just weak sef

She's asking you to apologise to her for asking her to apologise for what she did wrong?

Were you people forced to marry? Where's the love, mutual respect and affection in all this.

Your wife seems like a bully. No reasonable person behaves like this.

You sef, you get for hand. Why calling her again to keep asking for an apology she already told you she's not prepared to give. An apology that you have to beg for is not an apology anyway.

Letting it go might actually help her to reflect and apologise when you least expect it.

Let it go. I know it's difficult to do.

APOSTLECHUMA:
ANY... ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE WRONG, WHEN YOU ARE NOT AND THATS IN THE INTEREST OF PEACE.

What kind of peace is it when you have to constantly 'accept that you're wrong even when you're not.'

This is very unhealthy in any relationship.

You need more than peace in a marriage. Happiness is essential. Living with an arrogant narcissist is hardly going to bring you happiness.

Amotekun is doing ok. Rome was not built in a day.

I travelled to a SW state in February, and saw Amotekun mounting road block in the middle of the day in one of the main arterial roads within the State capital. I was surprised. My host, a resident of the State said he had not seen that before.

He said this is not what we want from Amotekun. That they don't want Amotekun to be like the police.

Few weeks later, I asked what the situation was and he said he hasn't seen them do it again. Amotekun generally keeps a low profile while focusing on their remit without disturbing people going about their normal business.

People supported and have continued to support them. I hope the politicians whether APC or PDP pay their salaries on time and give them the respect they deserve.

There should be a proper primary election.

Ban comes into effect on 1st June.

Stop peddling false reports.

Good, if true.

APC presenting a northern candidate will be very bad for the future of the party.

olabright31:
Igbos are successful and distinguished professionals, and have made thieir impact anywhere in the world you go

I agree.

SARSCoV2:
Their is absolutely nothing on Earth that can stop Okechukwu Tinubu at this point.

Hmm. Not when the presidency is against you. We hear they're plotting, scheming and looking for anyway and every way to stop the man.

Esama:
Tinubu is for ss.But we are really angry with him here in Edo he have not visit the Oba.

I'm sure he'll come. Not visiting the Oba will be a mistake.

Superwave16320:
In every area the Yoruba SW will till eternity be progressing beta than the wretched Igbo land.

Please stop this.

It's politics, not war.

Kwara governor wasn't even one of the 12 governors that signed Tinubu's form.

President Buhari, please stop the schemes and plots to stop this man. I hear your people are now trying to change the rules.

Please let's have a free primary. If Tinubu loses in a free primary, SW people would be first to tell him to accept.

But these shenanigans your men are planning will badly harm APC when election time comes.

gasparpisciotta:
SDP loading with 12 governors, plenty senators and reps, SAs, house members, ministers, commissioners etc....90% of APC structure

It won't work out like that.

Many of these people will not be able to leave APC because of the domestic political reality in their States or constituency.

If you are a Governor facing a possible tight 2nd term race against a PDP candidate, you're better off staying in APC.

It will be political suicide to leave a party with established structure and join a new party.

Not easy to win in a new party.

I'd hazard a guess that over 90% of those into crypto in Nigeria end up losing money.

Everyone keeps quiet about their loses

I know a few people who crypto has wrecked and it will take them years to recover.

The prices often go up for no obvious reason. They then collapse for no particular reason. So, how can you in Nigeria say you are an expert in crypto trading when you have zero insight into the price manipulation going on in America

Until the whole industry becomes more transparent, investing in crypto should be considered highly dangerous.

Nigerian politics and politicians can leave one confused.

Mr Orji Kalu was saying a couple of days ago that he was dropping his interest and supporting the Senate president because, like the South East, the North East has never produced a President.

Now, it seems the same Senate President is not planning to contest, but intends to support Tinubu.

How confusing. Something tells me Mr Kalu might be in on this scheme. He knew SE people would be outraged if he openly supports Tinubu. Instead, he pledged to support the Senate President, probably in the knowledge that the latter would ultimately support Tinubu, who is Mr Kalu's long term friend.

Just pure speculation by me o.

I suspect there's a lot more to it than just the issue of buying rice.

1. I suspect pent up frustration on the part of your wife, probably to do with staying at home doing nothing. She needs to find a job, however small, just to get her out of the house and increase her sense of worth.

2. That your wife slapped you, and you in turn whipped her with cable wire suggests there's is a history of physical altercation between you. The slap should not be viewed in isolation.

3. Any man that hits his wife with a cable wire has a violent streak in him. To flog her so violently with such horrible material is inexcusable. Your wife slapped you, so what? Be so upset as to call the parents, may be even ask for a separation. That's fine. But beat her with cable wire? No responsible man does that.

4. You have money to pay to arrest someone, stay overnight in a hotel and pay for sex, but no money to help your wife plan her life so she too can have a sense of self worth. If a woman is left at home all day, what else will she do other than house work, care for your child, and watch TV. But you are angry she watches TV.

5. No responsible man, however angry he gets with his wife goes to hotel and sleeps with a prostitute, and be so grossly reckless as to do it a 2nd time. Meaning the prostitute was lying their with you in the bed for a while...ewwww. I suspect you have a history of sleeping with people outside your marriage thus undermining the time, energy, love, affection and tolerance that your wife needs and deserves.

Whether you take a 2nd wife (that's up to you) or choose to work at your relationship with your wife, one thing you must understand is, you need to help the woman you choose to spend the rest of your life with, to make a success of her own life outside of being just a wife.

A happy wife will most likely make a happy home for you and your children.

A woman doesn't just wake up one day and slap her husband. Your wife is frustrated. Frustrated by you. That's not to say her behaviour is excusable.

I like the guy in suit. Has a commanding height. Could he be the President's secret weapon?

They don't look happy, particularly Amaechi. Did he mislead himself into believing he would be anointed, or is the game plan still on?.

I think they did not plan to be asked to resign so suddenly.

The report looks unprofessional. Some of the details appear unnecessary and too personal. Reads like a personal attack.

It is common for such complex construction projects to experience cost overrun and delays.

1. HSE rail project UK - going to cost over $130 billion, nearly 3 times the original estimate. UK govt is now reducing the distance of the rail in order to bring down the overall cost. And that's a government funded project.

2. Berlin's BER airport GERMANY - Was due to open in 2012. Just before its opening, inspectors found nearly 120,000 defects. It took another 10 years to correct the errors. It finally opened last year, nearly 10 years later. And Germans are supposed to be excellent engineers. Building an airport is not even half as complex as building what Dangote, a private individual, is trying to build in Lagos.

Dangote's project is monumental. He deserves recognition and indeed support for his courage in taking on this project.

So, money bags, who couldn't make a way into APC or PDP will sponsor a so-called independent candidate, and you think that will produce some kind of saintly government.

And you think the 'independent' candidate will not be beholden to the money bags who sponsored him?

The best way is for an independent candidate supported and sponsored by small donations from millions of ordinary people. I think this will eventually happen as people become wiser.

Tinubu / Rufai ticket.

Unthinkable?

Don't rule it out.

Before then, all eyes are on Buhari's plan for the primary.

Gbabe2:
The more reason this man called Buhari is a disaster. How on earth can these set of rogues be ministers for 7.5 years? What have they added to their portfolios/ ministries? Ngige that can’t manage ASUU has sit down put for 7.5 years. Haba. I just can’t wrap my head around it. My one cent is for the youths to vote for the people having asked them what their manifestos are. As a Nigerian, I have not benefited anything from this scam called Nigeria. Please don’t tell me that I am bitter cos I am not. Just sad that I am associated with this fraud.

I don't think you're bitter. Many are frustrated with the President. The quality of his cabinet could be a lot better. He has had opportunities to change some of these ministers, but he didn't.

Rumours that Mr Ngige would buy a form was widely reported a few days before he actually did. You would think the Presidency would have called him in and ask what the hell was going through his mind with all the stuff about him planning to contest in the presidential primaries when ASUU saga remains unresolved. Clearly this didn't happen.

I really don't know what goes on in the presidency.

1. If you're a Minister and you end up supporting Tinubu, PYO or any candidate at the primaries and not the candidate that the President eventually supports/annoints, then you'll have to resign or be sacked after the primaries anyway. They might as well resign now if they want the freedom to support a candidate of their own choice.

2. It would be embarrassing/shameful for a minister who has bought a form to turn around and say he is withdrawing and would rather sit tight in his ministerial position. That Minister will never be taken seriously in political circles again. That's why I believe Ngige will probably resign. The big one for me is Amaechi. Will he resign.

3. For someone like Akpabio, resignation suggests that he will not support Buhari's candidate at the primaries. He wants his freedom at the primaries. Ultimately, I believe Akpabio is a Tinubu supporter.

My lady banker friend is depressed, desperate to leave her banking job,but she's struggling to find an alternative as she's the main bread winner, and can't just quit.

The thing is wearing her down mentally.

Some banking jobs are something else.

Here's my theory about all this form buying:


The President will likely declare support for a candidate close to the Primary. Here's what I think the plan is - once the Presidency declares support for a candidate, the anti-Tinubu form buyers will fake an initial protest, and then one by one, they will declare that 'in the interest of the party', they will withdraw and support the President's candidate.

If, for example, there are 6 candidates, and 4 withdraw for the President's candidate, that will leave only one candidate, most likely Tinubu, refusing to back down. He would look isolated and be easily portrayed as selfish.

In order to avoid this, I suspect the Tinubu camp will have been encouraging some of his supporters to buy forms, so that, the number of candidates refusing to step down for the President's candidate will increase, thus taking some the focus away from Tinubu being a lone ranger refusing to step down. A day or so before the primary, the likes of the Senate President, Minister for Petroleum, Boroface and the rest from the Tinubu camp will then declare they are stepping down for Tinubu.

There is a game of cat and mouse going on between the anti-Tinubu and Tinubu camps.

I suspect Tinubu will not step down under any circumstance. He would rather contest and lose.

In a high inflation environment, like we currently have in Nigeria:

1. Invest in businesses that are, above anything else, a hedge against inflation. 2 examples that come to mind are buying and selling, and property. However high cost of goods are, as a trader you never sell below the price you buy so there still an opportunity for you to make money. Property prices in major cities are always (well almost always) going up. These are the 2 areas you should consider for now.

2. Avoid businesses requiring high investment in expensive machinery. A standard Bakery requires you to spend millions of naira upfront on equipment. I assume a decent sized poultry also requires millions to set up, yet exiting that business is problematic as there are not many buyers for a used poultry.

For now concentrate on point 1. In another year or so, once inflation settles down a bit, you can revisit your bakery/poultry plans.

subsidywise18:
So government is left with these options

1.Import and subsidize aviation fuel for the airlines..meaning we spend billions more on subsides.

2. Allow the airlines to drastically raise fares to cover cost of jet fuel.

Thanks be to Putin for this wonderful gift.

No. 2 is the right option.

Government has no business subsidising jet fuel.

Airline should increase prices if they want to. Those who can afford the new prices will continue to fly with them, and those who can't will find alternatives.

Government can't subsidise every sector, not least one used by only a tiny fraction of the population.

Govt has no business subsidising jet fuel.

Businesses of all shades across the country are struggling to cope with the ever rising cost of inputs.

Ordinary market women are struggling to sell their wares. Some civil servants have received no salary for months. Yet, fat cat airlines think they are so special and deserving of subsidy.

They should live by the forces of the market they operate in. Increase your prices if you have to, or shut down. Your business.

Op, you are such an embarrassment.

Still fighting over 'tribe' in 2022? When is this going to end.

I apologise to all other Nigerians for your cringe-inducing crassness.

If you're in a stationary car with a/c on or likely to be on for more than 10mins, wind down the car windows now & again.

Alternatively, wind down and leave all windows about 2 inches from the top, to let fresh air in & bad air/gas out.

Yes,the car will not be as cool,but it could save your life.

Fatbam003:
If only maintenance culture can be achieved ., Come and check this same place before December. Another story looms�

The one at Oshodi is still ok.

Normal wear and tear is inevitable.

Last time I was at the Oshodi Bus Interchange, it was bustling with people and the environment was quite modern.

Planet Projects is doing well with the construction of these bus interchanges.