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Check NTA college, I think they have centres in every state or zone. Enquire how they work, see how you can do it on part time. Don't resign your work until you are sure you have got what you want. Best of luck

Going philosophical? I hope this does not have anything to do with the issues of the other thread? If it is, put it behind you and move on. He has moved on, you should do same too. Be strong, you'll overcome. How is life and everything?

lefulefu:
dem no go hear word na
dem go still dey keep using money to woo girls and if u talk, dem go say make u shut up dat u be broke nigga .if money finish and d babe start to dey misbehave demgo come nairaland dey complain dat all naija gehls are the same .

you people should learn how to space words, than giving me unnecessary mentions. Thanks for the understanding

We've been expecting a continuation of this mouth watering story but it's like since torvic muttered to himself, the story has also muttered to oblivion?

How are you keeping strong my friend? Hope you are going from strength to strength. Please nothing is the end of life. I will like to hear from you.

Ms chicybez, how have you been holding up. I believe you are getting over the depression? Be strong

OrestesDante:
This is why it is good to marry human being

spot on
if one have a good partner, he/she don't know what God has done for him/her

decatalyst:
But the b!tches don't give a damn about that, if the pocket is loaded, hungry ones without class and taste don't nind jare.

you can say that again. Most of these ladies can marry ape, as long as money is involved. I don't blame though

Christeety:
Pls is next week too late to start tomatoes farming?.
Thanks

NO

this is serious

Chicybez:
@Demgo....
Thanks for the encouragement, i have been a bit busy lately, but dont worry, i will continue it. As for the answers to ur questions, would have love to give u on private chat.....

pls how do i quote? having a a nairalander's response in a shade box and then my response below?

hi chicybez, I didn't see your mention on time. As for the answers ok, although I don't fancy PMs but if that's the only way you can communicate go ahead and PM me then.
If you want to quote someone, look under the person's post you'll see 'quote' click on it then reply. Don't clean the person's post, just type like you're replying a mail. You can see where highlighted in the picture below, that's where quote is located.

About your story, if you want to get more comments, don't post by "modifying" your post rather scroll down to reply and and post the new write up, in such way it'll be easy to see that you've post new episode of the story, hope this helps. Be strong

Zimbabwe and Kenya, 5 and 6 in weirdo

@OP, I've been away, couldn't recolate my password. How're you doing? I asked you some questions was expecting response to them.
Be that as it may, I picked few things from the story you started in another thread and they made me happy. At least I got to know you're a working class lady meaning, you will not be much depressed and not a little girl from all aspect.
Stay focused, you'll overcome

Why did you stop the story?

Halfricanadiian:
If it's truly an arranged marriage I feel for her
Personally I hate arranged marriage it sucks abeg

I have nothing to say

OLAJADON:
so are you suggesting she pick one of the guys that she doesn't love. you as a guy, u know what use to happen in situation when one of the spouse don't love the other.
well I pray it works out with what you have said.

This is not the first time she's talking about this. The issue is not just picking somebody, it's that she's not giving them chance, she expects them to be like her ex. To get out of this, she needs to take action and that is, she needs to check who she love among them, give him chance, date, open her mind to love, explain her situation to him, God willing he will help her overcome this. If she don't do anything she'll continue to mourn/be depressed about her ex.

if it's not explorers, it can never be like explorers

OLAJADON:
My advice
Just stay away from any form of relationship for now either marriage or dating since u still have feeling for your ex because if you get married just because of hearsay, you know the rest
Divorce is very common now I pray you don't be a victim of one. Give yourself time, you will find love again

so for how long should she stay away? Remember her ex is gone for 3years now. The more she don't do anything to counter the situation, to come out of her torture the more she remains in it. This is a psychological issue hope you understand how it works. Thanks all the same. Also remember she won't be getting any younger.

hahn:
Nice one explorers

Container houses have been around for a while, not in Nigeria though, and I look forward to building something like this of my own

Although I will make it more spacey

Reasons why I like the concept are

1) You can "remove" the house eventually and relocate it to another plot of land

2) It is cheaper to build

3) It just looks different

4) There are lots of styles to choose from

5) Occupies less space

etc

Let me add some pics from some ideas I got online too

since I came across this have been craving for it, will get it one day. Though I also have this fear of it been towed with a crane while someone is inside it. But I still love and desire it.

[quote author=Chicybez post=55965501][/quote]I accidentally saw your post decided to wait till weekend to have time and advice you to the best I can.
I believe you're in psychological captivity.
I'll ask you some questions, will like you to reply them, because they'll help in counseling you.
1. at what age were you when you started dating your ex?
2. How did he treat you, extreme nice, normal, coarsive(I mean being overprotective, strict and the likes)?
3. was he your first man? (hope you understand what I mean by this?)
4. I don't need a soothsayer to know you get depressed because of this most times.
5. presently, do have anything doing, like work, study, business etc, to keep you busy? if yes focus, if not find something to keep you busy.

You didn't give us enough information about 'the two guys' so we can advice you on who to choose.

About your ex, I would've said you're stupid but I don't insult people. You said you broke up based on 'it's not the will of God'? You got what many pray and fast on a platter(many want to know the will of God in their relationships) yet you want to fall into destruction, maybe they're calling you from your village. He's moved on, married, 3yrs obviously with kids, and you're sinking yourself in depression, I pity you. I said this because of a reply you gave that you can't move on. Please move on.

How should you do it? These two guys, if there's any of the you LOVE, get close to him, give him chance, getting close will help you form a bond with him. Don't be judgemental on him or expect him to be like your ex. He can't be your ex, but he'll have his good qualities that make him unique, see his side of a person, your ex is gone, that's the reality. I guess, even if he divorce, separate, widowed you can't still have him because according to you, he's 'not the will of God'.
Would've said more but let me get feedback from first, it'll help us in dealing with this.
Someone above, said marry someone you can be happy with, I tell you that's the TRUTH. But it can't happen until you realize your ex is gone. My mind tells me you were young when you started dating your ex but till I hear from you.
Be strong, you can overcome.