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BigDick70inch:
So sorry just saw the update..
10k God dangotemummy mentioned me tho..

Pls and pls..u r really such a good woman but then I think u should thread carefully on this tho..cos I wouldnt wanna see u getting yourself into deeper trouble trying to help her out..

The woman claims she'll end up causing trouble between I and father if I don't stop selling on credit to her. It happened to her...she wrote off the debts as no one was ready to take it up and pay for her. According to her, it was for several months before she knew her kind of person.

BigDick70inch:
Well..her case could be viewed from this 2 perpectives:

Either..she was so promiscuous and ended up getting burnt after several warns from her people..which make them leave her to fate..

Or

She was actually raped..

The woman claims the former and told me to ask around if I think she's lying. This is a mother of two girls and a very strict woman too...I don't see her enabling such incidence.

BigDick70inch:
But then again..she might actually not be stable and firm to defend herself when the process starts..
Thanks..

She came to me yesterday not to mention her name to the woman so, she wouldn't beat her...I declined cos it didn't make any sense for a mother of girls to beat you over a rape case.
Cc: dangotesmummy

AlphikkaTech:
See!!! I told you. Why would a hungry girl want shawarma instead of real food. Some people are very smart or possessed to Know people with good hearts who can be manipulated easily.

Be strict with that girl and if you are too soft to be strict, stop her from coming to your shop.

She is a wayward girl, a very very very bad girl. Her waywardness must be 80+/100.

Don't let your good heart put you in trouble. Do good with sense. Don't let the good you do put you in a mess. Advising from a bad experience.

I may not be the best human on earth but one thing I can't bear is to see a hungry fellow... I guess she knew I fell for her gimmicks cos I actually wrote off some of her shawarma bill after the story...it would have been more than she currently owes me.

She still came to me yesterday when I got to the shop after creating the thread to not mention her name as the woman would beat her...why would a neighbour beat you for such an issue, so I declined to grant the request!

The woman in question also said the exact thing you said...

"Shawarma na food? It's for people who have eaten and just feel like snacking on something...like a craving." She then told me she can never sell drink nor biscuits on credit because they are not food, save for bread or our normal Nigerian food stuff.

She also advised me yesterday to let go of the money as I won't get a dime from her and avoid her also before she causes enmity between I and her father. She claims the father buys even sanitary for her from her shop, so it's not hearsay. Like, she was laughing so hard when I told her how far I had gone with the issue...a lot of people on here dropped their contacts and all...

Thought about it when I got back last night and I'll do just that and move on.

I have been so worried since this week...it hurts to know I cried over a lie. I cried!!

AlphikkaTech:
Thread carefully. Shawarma on credit! Hmmm! I suspect the girl might be lying. Ask people who have lived in the area about her. Maybe minding your own business in this case will help

My brother, you could be right...the woman said it's not true, that she owes her a lot of money she had to write off too!

She says she's doing this to get close to me for the sake of goodies and that she might end up pitching me against her father. She asked I be very careful and avoid her.

This ensued a moment ago!

Don't know who or what to believe anymore as I was sincerely doing this from a place of love...I was sleepless last night. Pheew!

grandstar:
How will she prove she was raped? It's a wild goose chase. You think the man will confess? It happened a long time ago.

I may be mistaken though. From the little you've said, the family does not have a united front. They seem undecided. You need conviction from all parties to achieve something.

My sister in law used to work for the office of the public defender. I believe she can help.

Exactly...how her uncle still remained friends with him after he admitted to the crime is baffling to say the least!

I will update the thread once I'm done speaking with the woman in order to know what next to do.

Reucy:
What's your location?

Lagos...kosofe axis

ekwerendi:
This is a story I will love to followup
contact me via 08064126691

Okay I will...thanks.

Quinex2:
Please, be brave enough to report the motherfucker. Both he and him mama (accomplice) will be arrested. You're the only hope that victim has now and you mustn't fail her.

Is it okay if I discussed with the woman I talked about so as to corroborate the story?... once I do that and it's confirmed, I'd pretend not to be bothered and then go ahead to report to the various agencies.

That way I get to keep me anonymous. They'll just be guessing as the matter would have spread, courtesy of the woman

Alexaonfleek:
I've stayed around that area before.
There are so many unreported cases of rape there.
I think you should try nd contact any NGO for justice.
Maybe through Twitter.

You know the area is filled with cultists...

Will do that in due course!

AlphikkaTech:
Thread carefully. Shawarma on credit! Hmmm! I suspect the girl might be lying. Ask people who have lived in the area about her. Maybe minding your own business in this case will help

I thought about that too but what informed the thread is the rape issue...like it's so huge for someone to use that to secure a credit facility.

Again, I didn't even ask her as I'm about my venture...her father met her sitted while waiting for her shawarma order and he scolded her and asked her to leave immediately after inquiring from me if she was there to buy shawarma which, I had to lie about to stop him from beating her.

She came the next day to apologise thus bringing up her son's father irresponsibility. All this while, I paid no attention as I was busy until she mentioned "if not that I was raped, shey it will just be only me to worry about". That was when I paused what I was doing and asked "Rape! raped by whom?" she replied and then I had orders to tend to, so I told her we would talk at length later on...it skipped my mind the next day...for about 3days until yesterday when she came to me again...telling me all in details and I truly felt bad for her.

Just like you pointed out in your writeup, the reason I want to hear from her father is to make sure she never dated the guy in question and it was indeed rape before I can copy any activist online. Just making sure.
Thanks so much!

[quote author=Luper123 post=90550173][/quote]The points you raised are my concerns
-confiding in the woman and then she spills...
-the girl isn't so mature, she'll definitely point at me
-the guy isn't on that street but a street close to my residence
-I am a single Lady who lives alone, hence my treading carefully but I just can't bear to see her in pains

"She knew she could trust me that was why she told me" I sincerely want to help her but I need to hear from the father...as a witness to the rape incidence before involving activists online.

I need suggestions on what to do. I can't do this alone.

BigDick70inch:
My God bless u for trying to help out ma'am..

But then..u seem not to include the location or probaly the state in the story..

Perhaps people close mighty also want to work with u on this..

Lagos...kosofe Axis

Geminita1:
Please do whatever you can to make sure she gets justice. Even if you tell the woman at the plaza still report to the appropriate authorities to take it up from there. Don't let the serial rapist get more victims. You can do this anonymously, don't have to involve too many people. God bless you.

I will discuss with the woman and then send a message to Segalink. Someone also dropped a link for me on another thread.
Thanks!

kessling:
Contact Human Rights, Police , NAPTIP, Lagos state Gov't. They will handle the matter judiciously. You might have done your part by then

I intend to do that but I just want to corroborate her story with her father's...

misreal:
kai...she is transferring the hatred for the man unto the child.

Exactly... I just couldn't help it but to weep. They ganged up to beat her back yesterday

They were asking her if anyone forced her to have a child. One even said "God makes mistake with giving children to the undeserving"

In my mind, I was like if only they knew...

BigDick70inch:
Why not create a thread for this??
It ain't matter to be hidden..

I just did...
https://www.nairaland.com/5918591/threatened-rape-victim

olisaEze:
What’s ur location? Search for Harrison Gwamnishu @BehindBarsInitiative on Facebook and send him this story. As long as the lady is ready to testify, that serial rapist will end up behind bars in no time!

Will do that. Getting her and the other girl to testify won't be a problem. She's only scared she may go dumb or they will tag her son a rape product. Although I assured her yesterday, the woman was only bluffing.

Emaprince:
Create a new thread for this. Suggestions will flow in quicker

I just did. Will copy you!

Hi guys!

I have a rape case at hand and I really don't know how to go about it.
I decided to create a thread for it so as to reach a wider audience.

A young girl at my shawarma spot told me she was raped by a 42yr old man and the incident yielded a child...a child he doesn't take care of!

According to her, he brings a paltry N700 which is not everyday. She said the man's mum threatened to make her dumb if she goes to human rights.

I plan to tell a popular Lady in the area whom I also relate well with about it, so she can meet with the father of the girl who also owns a shop in the plaza.

Her parents asked her to let go since she has a child by the man. Their reason is so that, the child does not grow up to be tagged a rapist child.

People in the neighborhood call her demeaning names cos they all think she slept around and that resulted in the pregnancy.

It was also this same man that deflowered her. He admitted raping her to her parents and he is still friends with her uncle. The only thing the uncle is suggesting is changing the boy's surname to hers since he has refused to support her with 15k on a monthly basis.

I am also being careful as I am new in the area.

All these came up when she kept coming to buy shawarma on credit citing she hadn't eaten...her father sometimes gives her N150 to eat and feed the child also. He didn't give her the day before yesterday but gave her yesterday to take the boy to the health centre.

I wept yesterday when I saw how she beat up the child like an adult...clocked a year old this March while she's just 24. Neighbours abused and hit her for beating him. I understand her pains but couldn't do anything. The girl isn't psychological balanced...one could tell from her speech and that is why it breaks my heart that someone took advantage of her and her fears

I feel so sad right now.

Should I tell the woman in the plaza as her father listens to her?

Pls note that the man has also raped another girl. The victim's elder brother only beat the abuser up and that was it...

Modified:

I just confided in the said woman and she told me to drop it as nothing of such was told to anyone.

Her words...

She was impregnated by her father's apprentice not the alleged 42yr old man she mentioned to me. She also said she lies to get stuff from people and that she has let go of all the monies she owes her as she can't pay. She sold the lies to me knowing that I am new in the area...she currently owes me 2k worth of shawarma that I was ready to write off but not anymore after this...like I am so emotional right now cos she came to tell me she hadn't eaten today and I believed her...told her to check back to see what I can do.

I don't know who or what to believe anymore...

Creating a thread to seek justice on her behalf...

Had to update y'all so you don't think I backed down from helping her. I would only suggest to her to go to a nearby human rights in Lagos to seek justice if she knows her story is true. Don't want to be caught up in a web of lies and deceits...

Thanks to everyone who reached out and was willing to help.

Quinex2 alexaonfleek bigdick70inch dangotesmummy kessling geminita1
etc

uniqueboi1:
Please report this immediately to the appropriate authorities. What's good is good even when no one is doing it. Please do good.

I know and that is why I intend confiding in the other woman today.

The abuser's mum seems diabolical as she threatens to make her dumb if she goes to human rights!

Robnectar:
ur SIG is dope

Thank you!

Hi guys!
I have a rape case at hand and I really don't know how to go about it.
A young girl at my shawarma spot told me she was raped by a 42yr old man and the incident yielded a child...a child he doesn't take care of!

According to her, he brings a paltry N700 which is not everyday. She said the man's mum threatened to make her dumb if she goes to human rights.

I plan to tell a popular Lady in the area whom I also relate well with about it, so she can meet with the father of the girl who also owns a shop in the plaza.

Her parents asked her to let go since she has a child by the man. Their reason is so that, the child does not grow up to be tagged a rapist child.

People in the neighborhood call her demeaning names cos they all think she slept around and that resulted in the pregnancy.

It was also this same man that deflowered her. He admitted raping her to her parents and he is still friends with her uncle. The only thing the uncle is suggesting is changing the boy's surname to hers since he has refused to support her with 15k on a monthly basis.

I am also being careful as I am new in the area.

All these came up when she kept coming to buy shawarma on credit citing she hadn't eaten...her father sometimes gives her N150 to eat and feed the child also. He didn't give her the day before yesterday but gave her yesterday to take the boy to the health centre.

I wept yesterday when I saw how she beat up the child like an adult...clocked a year old this March while she's just 24. Neighbours abused and hit her for beating him. I understand her pains but couldn't do anything.

I feel so sad right now.

Should I tell the woman in the plaza as her father listens to her?

Pls note that the man has also raped another girl. The victim's elder brother only beat the abuser up and that was it...

Modified:
I just confided in the said woman and she told me to drop it as nothing of such was told to anyone.

Her words...

She was impregnated by her father's apprentice not the alleged 42yr old man she mentioned to me. She also said she lies to get stuff from people and that she has let go of all the monies she owes her as she can't pay. She sold the lies to me knowing that I am new in the area...she currently owes me 2k worth of shawarma that I was ready to write off but not anymore after this. In fact, I don't care about the money anymore...like I am so emotional right now cos she came to tell me she hadn't eaten today and I believed her...told her to check back to see what I can do.

I don't know who or what to believe anymore...

Creating a thread to seek justice on her behalf...

Had to do this to update y'all so you don't think I backed down from helping her. I would only suggest to her to go to a nearby human rights in Lagos to seek justice if she knows her story is true. Don't want to be caught up in a web of lies and deceits...

Thanks to everyone who reached out and was willing to help.

dawnomike:
Quite absurd...

Extremely absurd and distasteful for a five year old!

Very distasteful

This is so me but not the aspect of washing a calculator sha

Are you an August born?

As much as I don't believe entirely in zodiac signs, there's still some truth in it.

Quite a number of celebs celebrating today!

Happy birthday to all of them!

2020, allow people drink water and drop the cup in peace. Haba!

Bomboclat! Wayasay?

You wan go learn patua or become a tourist guide....


Or do "Ihian na e se"?

It's one thing to trust one's husband (which is totally awesome as that is how it should be and vice versa too); it's another to be with him 24/7...365/366 days...12 calendar or 13 lunar month...

You said your husband's brand is over 25 years and you've been married for 13 years. Apparently he's been in the industry 12 years before you two became 1!

His industry is a major hub for such atrocities...Harvey is a good example.

I'm not saying he is neither am I saying he's not... I sincerely hope for the trust you have for him, the accusation is false.

As for being friends with one's abuser and even dating/marrying them...it is known as "Stockholm syndrome" a rape victim ending up with their abuser just like the case of Olori Channel who accused her husband of rape but ended up with him. There's no case here as to why victims remain friends with their abusers! It doesn't cleanse the person from the abuser that he is!

The General has spoken but ...


Mama G, you for add prosecution join am cos na that one be koko

I'm sure she meant that too but wasn't explicitly stated in her statement.

Duru9:
Nature kindly returned back what they gave to her
She don't want

Very considerate "Nature"...we should be happy and thankful she didn't drop them off in our rooms

Drink water on a bus...throw the sachet or bottle out the window and expect the canal to chew them

The headline is misleading

I was going to bash him until I read his post. Although, he tried to water down his writeup but he made a somewhat valid point...

Nonetheless, he's totally wrong to call a rape victim a gold digger...has any victim come out to seek for compensation of any kind other than ask their rapists to own up, apologise and turn a new leaf?

SM has made a lot of us more aware and brave, so don't blame a rape victim of a century ago for speaking out now. People heal differently!

To some, speaking out immediately after the act is like facing the monster all over again...You don't want that now, do you?

Our legal system is what needs an upgrade or maybe an overhaul sef

Most Americans speak out years later and still get justice...without any physical evidence!

All we seek is Justice!!

And if you don't want a call out after you blow like bomb, then behave

tnerro1:
abeg anybody way Dey near this person, nak am something

To ba ta fele, fele
Nack am something