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Sissie: at bolded i think thats a sin, i dont think its allowed

Sissie: wa alaykum salam.



a2. yes i do think so. Abstinence is taking your mind of it completely and if you've never tried it you don't know what it actually feels like, you only hear or read, but when you get married and start enjoying it discovering you have a high libido and your partner cant keep up it becomes a REAL BIG problem, in reality there's a higher probability of a man having higher libido than his wife (no research to back it up) more men risk their LIFE to have sex, more women complain of being too tired to satisfy their husband, i read a research that men who assist with home chores get some from their wife more than men who don't. i know a couple who had that problem. he has the option of divorcing her or marrying another some Muslim men chose to marry another, while some non Muslims get girlfriends or mistresses.

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tbaba1234: C. Trouble in polygamy is as a result of the adults, failing to act right. My dad is a product of a polygamous and the kids were alright. If not for resemblance, you might mistake the maternity of a few of them.

When there is troublr in monogamous homes, it affects kids as well. Given the high rate of divorce in monogamous homes, I am sure many children go through similar or even worse trauma.

tbaba1234: B. In Islam, societal benefit is.more important than the feelings of an individual.

That said, non of the messenger's (peace and blessogs be upon him) wives had a bad word to say about him after his death. They all spoke in glowing terms. Infact, they even spoke in glowing terms about themselves.

Jealousy does not always translate to bad belle.

There are many successful polygamous homes, it does not mean that the women did not get jealous. It just wasn't a destructive one.

B2. Reconciliation would involve
having a conversation about an issue. I do not see how
having a second wife stops you from talking

tbaba1234: Salam,



A. Polygyny has benefits that are beyond intimate needs. However, it is an important part of marriage. A muslim woman has the right of been satisfied in that regard over her husband and the husband over his wife. A man engaging in polygyny must be able to fulfill as much as he can, the needs of each wife.

Therefore, a man who feels he needs more than one woman to satisfy him also needs to ensure that he can fulfill the needs of the women. A woman in a polygamous home can seek a divorce on the grounds that the husband can not meet her needs. There is a delicate balance , just like everything in Islam. It is as much a challenge on the man.

tbaba1234: As regards polyandry, there are numerous problems even with the concept. In Islam, marriage is a transfer of guardianship from a father to the husband. There is no such thing as shared guardianship.
The lineage of a child is very important in Islam, a woman having intercourse with multiple men is unlikely to know the father of their child leading to lost lineage. Something frowned against.
She also has the obligation to ensure that each man intimate needs are satisfied not just hers. She juggles this with taking care of the men properties and their children. She will probably have to be in two places at the same time. The more you look at this, its impracticability emerges.
Islam is about Justice and Equity to the sexes not equality. Equality does not translate to justice.

A2. The choice depends on the individual, most muslims are monogamous.
Polygyny remains voluntary but look at the relevance at the time of revelation. Muslim men got killed in battles and it encouraged muslim men to marry widows left. It solved an important social problem.
If widows today are given the opportunity to marry 'good' muslim men who can afford it (polygyny is expensive), it could solve some of the problems we face in many societies and war torn regions of the world.
In the black American community, 70% of children are born out of wedlock simply because there are fewer men. Most of the men are in jail. It saves a muslima from zina and a muslim society from corruption.

hayoakins: To an extent, he's right but experience most times supersedes qualification. What the 30yrs experienced matron knows may save the patient's life and not what an inexperienced doctor can prescribe. Being a doctor, it's obvious that the lawmaker's objectivity on this issue is impaired.

The superiority claim of the doctors is killing the sector. Can the doctors effectively manage a health centre alone? Hell NO!

PENMIGHT: Mar'haba.

Sissie: open and ask lets discuss.

we could discuss some of NL.

qstar: He has deactivated his account.

olumuyiolaoluwa: lack home training.

Danrizzle: This fellow's stup:id! And call me dumb, no morE!!! But have it in mind that I'm sympathetic to palestinians mudered, because of some dumb fanatical islamic law.

Opiosko: Sister when u have kids, allow hamas to teach them nothing more that how to hate, use them as human shield and use ur family house to store rockets and fire mortal at others. Isreali response may be heavy handed, but hamas madness and insensivity to her own civilians is of war crime proportion. The Op who came here to post outright lies is not helping Palestinian children in any way. How can u win others to ur cause through falshood?

olumuyiolaoluwa: Please, I will advise you to relocate to the Arab nation so that the society don't get misled. Peace.

Danrizzle: Ofcourse, i did. And that dosen't in anyway make me dumb, immoral or racist. The isrealis and the palestines are engaged in a conflict(war) aren't they? Its not like palestines are sitting peacefully in their homes, they carry out deadly attacks on the israeli soil. The reason why the jews ain't suffering substantial casualties, is because they chose to formulate a policy that has its priority set on protecting the lifes of its citizens. They are not like islamic arabs that don't value human life, you see them here and there, initiating demonic islamic doctrines, beheading and stoning to death their children, brothers, sisters, wives. If they (stupid) palestines were to be in the shoes of the israelites and vice versa, am sure they would have started a campaign(jihad) to purge the jews out of that part of the world. They are so many bigots in NL, i do not think am the most notable. You top me in that chart.

Danrizzle: 'Isrealis go nothing to do with black africans'. Are blacks now settled in gaza, please don't come here with fabricated truths, looking for who to drum up support for your blood-sucking arabic islamists.

sino: There is this case of a woman I know in my hood, a Muslimah and she got married to a Christian, an igbo man, for that matter. I don't know her reasons for marrying him, but today the man is now a Muslim and the wife now uses a jilbab.
The above is in no way meant to encourage this kind of marriage, in fact, aside Islam does not approve of it, I strongly dislike it.
A better approach which I believe is also dicey, is that if a non Muslim proposes marriage to a Muslimah, then the condition must be acceptance of Islam wholeheartedly. But how can one know of the sincerity of such a man?

And nice to have you back deols

Sissie: Oya tender your CV

Sissie: I wonder oh

Empiree: haba! why u want to marry non-Muslim man nau while we nice, good looking, handsome, pretty, soft spoken, pretty head, magnificent man like Tbaba?. I beg make una marry am nau. He's single n looking

vedaxcool: Yay deols is back, welcome!

Sissie: its fornication (not adultery) because theirs no marriage between a muslim woman and a non muslim man.

ameenahz: An invalid marriage is tantamount to adultery.

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