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Islam for Muslims / Re: Marriage To A Non-muslim by deols(f): 6:55pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: I agree |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Marriage To A Non-muslim by deols(f): 6:43pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
Fulaman198: This is fair enough. |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Marriage To A Non-muslim by deols(f): 6:41pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
TheBigUrban2: I reason with you. We will all get better at these things in sha Allah. Many of us are quite young. Hope u aint thinkn tbaba is one old man |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Marriage To A Non-muslim by deols(f): 6:38pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: U didnt av to call anyone silly. I only wanted to understand to what extent his expectations are. I, myself prefer to marry someone from my tribe. No time for ambiguosities. |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 6:34pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
ameenahz: It doesnt. Was just, u know keeping to the light mood I am not actually satisfied by the responses. They all said things I already know and usermane expressed some of my thoughts. I dont want 2 say too much anymore though. 1 Like |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 5:11pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
Yesterday, I was thinking, what if I die now and someone mistakenly mentions it on NL then people here, might think, 'eeyah, what a bad state to die'...lol. I didnt't cahnge religion o. I am a Muslim! Will lock the thread. Thanks..na go de. E se. |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Marriage To A Non-muslim by deols(f): 5:08pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
Fulaman198: How do you measure that interest in fulfude. I don't think many grown ups can learn new languages. |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Marriage To A Non-muslim by deols(f): 5:06pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
Fulaman198: I don't think he was generalising. He only presented a scenario. 2 Likes |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Marriage To A Non-muslim by deols(f): 5:05pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
TheBigUrban2: I can understand the need for this thread. Interesting analysis. This happens, a lot. Many of the Muslim men that I have come across are not my type, for example. And I have known quite a number of non-Muslim men that I like. #justsaying. 2 Likes |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Marriage To A Non-muslim by deols(f): 5:04pm On Jul 23, 2014 |
andromida: I didnt see tbaba1234's response before. I am so embarrassed. |
Politics / Re: BREAKING NEWS ; Jonathan, Mark Meet Chibok Girls’ Parents Behind Closed-doors.. by deols(f): 3:19pm On Jul 22, 2014 |
Smartsyn: If he had met them a day after the incident, people must talk. Gosh! Ye dumbeth! 1 Like |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 2:48pm On Jul 22, 2014 |
Bnty is d best..lol 1 Like |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 8:46pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Is enlightenedsoul a Muslim? 1 Like |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 8:14pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
onegig: The Prophet(SAW) did go to the open fields to empty their bowels back then. No toilet facilities existed that was their toilets. Youvare missing the point I was making. We all know that the sunnah we talk about arent in advancements but the socio-religious and political life. But If I will use ur analogy, then we may as well throw out every aspect of his sunnah and do what the 'world' is into now. |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 7:57pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
4. Women are deficient in Intelligence. I could have agreed with this if I I had not met very dumb men. Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri: Once Allah's Apostle went out to the Musalla (to offer the prayer) on 'Id-al-Adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, "O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you (women)." They asked, "Why is it so, O Allah's Apostle?" He replied, "You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone MORE DEFICIENT IN INTELLIGENCE and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you." The women asked, "O Allah's Apostle! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?" He said, "Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?" They replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?" The women replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her religion." (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 6, Number 301) Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri: |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 7:55pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
4:20-21 @sissie. This is d verse for no.3 |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 7:40pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
I cant give replies to all the posts but i have to say these. *I don't think that the mesaage of Islam was meant to be vague, and not understandable. It is wrong to want to push things under the carpet uaing fear as a mechamism or by trying to claim that we dont have the capacity for understanding them. I think there is a reason the Quran explains jannah to us- so we would work for it. You cant tell me that its explanation is not good enough anymore and that the human nature isnt good enough to give an understanding. I also noticed that many of the replies did not look at my concerns. Giving vague and indirect answers are not helpful in any way. tbaba1234 said something about men who dont have enough resources but go into polygyny. The thing is, there is no law that says they MUST have enough resources. They dont even need to LOVE their wives/love them equally for that matter. One could be favoured and the others were expected to just accept. There is a hadith I know of where a man was said to av gone to the prophet, complaining that he was impoverished. The prophet told him to get married. He went back after a while and the prophet told him to get married again. This is the hadith poverty-stricken people quote for engaging in polygyny. Still, the fact that some other people got married to children does not make it right. I believe that, someone providing us with the best of examples would give us something that is the best. I dont know if this point is misunderstood or if people are deliberately ignoring it. And if the prophet's message or example was only for the sunny regions, then u are against the belief that Islam is not a religion of arabs. Please I did not plan to argue these points, I was in fact hoping that you would tell me things that would make me feel better about my faith. Please, you should not give me responses that insult my intelligence and thereby make my situation worse. Thanks. 2 Likes |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 7:21pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
vedaxcool: Deols is it fair for a woman to carry a child for 9 months while the man sits around? Very funny question. 1 Like |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 7:10pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
onegig: How did you come about a man who's strictly monogamous? No one knows tomorrow. What happens if he decides to marry a second wife later even after signing the pre nup? Won't it eventually lead to divorce? Interestingly, there is no punishment slated for the man who goes against this contract. 1 Like |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 7:09pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
ameenahz: I will rember this prayer, in sha Allah. I was going to bring up the issue of inheritance. Some parts of it bother me. |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 7:03pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
onegig: Ok i understand but i came to that conclusion seeing you recurring comments and the use of some certain personalities as your focal point. The major practical reality may be different from what the manual maybe preaching. That's why we need to go back to the basis and look at what the Holy book says. Yerima and his co travelers are not representative of what islam says. Infact in an ideal islamic environment he should be behind bars by now for defiling a minor. There's no justification for what they say. A 14 year old oyinbo girl would have grown and you would think she's an adult already that does not mean i can go to my village and pick a 14 year old and say she's an adult also. Body anatomy, food composition, environment, race and many things influence how mature a woman is. But there is nothing in Islam that points to a geographical variation. What I am saying is, someone who wants to follow the prophet as the best of examples will do everything that he did, irrespective of the consequences. |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 7:23pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
^^ please do. |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 7:09pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
onegig: The same thing she's complaining about. It's more easier for the men. Like the laws give them the leeway to misbehave. Why would it be a woman's choice to divorce? Why not compel the man to stick to one wife alone. Why give him options when she has none and has to endure such. She can choose to stay or leave i.e divorce. Highly intelligent 1 Like |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 7:07pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
ameenahz: I understand deols. And i'll be honest, i feel the same way some times too. My only recompense is that the ultimate reward is in the hereafter, waiting for us all in shaa Allah. Whether our men 'behave' or not. Wallahi I was very young when I learnt of the numerous virgins for men in jannah. But by then, I already detested polygyny and when the ustadh described how the women of the earth would be in a better state than the houris, I thought to myself that 'I didnt want a polygyny on earth, why would I want it in aljannah'. A lady even said that maybe God would make us all men and we would then all get the houris. But no. The prophet didnt say that. It is explained that the Men would get the houris and we would have the same men we had on earth. Doesnt seem endearing. 2 Likes |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 7:02pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Sissie: Seriously dear? If u dont stay with a good Muslim man, who is simply practicing Islam the way the prophet did, who should you stay with. |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 7:01pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Onegig, I am not using the action of a few. I am telling u of how the practical ways of these things don't favour the women involved. Sissie, the prophet did not say that his marriage to minors was a thing pf his century. Any good Muslim is expected to follow the prophet's way of life including how he ate, took his bathe and his marital relationship. Dont tell me u are unaware of that. People like Yerima seem like the perfect ones, with beard, short trousers, up-to four wives and their own Aishas. @ameenahz and aalymah, since u av similar thoughts, dont u think that there is some need for a way out for us? |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 5:44pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Fulaman198: It is okay. Thanks 1 Like |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 5:38pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
bntY: @ deols i no sabi how to argue o but i understand where you're coming frm.i will summarise wt an adage: ori bibe ko ni ogun ori fifo- (we will not severe d head because it aches.) Look at people who married minors. They did it just as the prophet did but there are bad consequences. I am not actually only talking of people who did it wrong and is Y i keep giving examples with what happened with the prophet's wives. Now imagine that your husband has two of you and the other one is his Aisha, the one whose laps he prefers Salam onegig |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 5:35pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Sissie: I am talking of the kind of Muslim men I know. They would have stayed with those one wives. Even the good Christian men av been able to stick to a woman. |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 5:29pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
tbaba1234: Deols is just influenced by many negative stories and ofcourse her feminine side. It is unfair to dismiss these as a feminine thing. I cried this afternoon. I have struggled with these thoughts for a long time. I am scared for my faith. I have prayed for it to stay strong. I av asked my people at itikaf to pray for me. I learnt Islam all my life. Most of the people I grew up with were Muslims but Islam didnt do much in shaping their lives for good. All I saw were women who could have made it good in their own right being subjected to bullshiit in the name of being submissive and being 'good Muslimahs'. Unfortunately, there is always a hadith to back it up. Some men even smile after saying their women-unfriendly nonsenses. I have more to talk about o. You just be my guest please. I hope to find my bearing, again. 1 Like |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 5:18pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
bntY: @ deols i no sabi how to argue o but i understand where you're coming frm.i will summarise wt an adage: ori bibe ko ni ogun ori fifo- (we will not severe d head because it aches.) But the rule brought about them nah. Just imagine that you are the disadvantaged one in any of the scenarios to fully understand. Many people are in these scenarios. |
Islam for Muslims / Re: Gender/family Issues And Islam by deols(f): 5:13pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Sissie: Read my first post. The Quran/ Islam and sunnah are for yesterday, today and tomorrow. If we apply what u said about moving with time, then most aspects of Islam will not go well with this time. We might as wellbstop using the hijab and call it achaic while taking up the more 'modern' dress sense. So I dont think we can excuse the marriage to minors as an 8th century thing. If the best examples are from the prophet, then the people marrying minors are doing what is expected of them- following the footsteps of the prophet. |
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