₦airaland Forum

busar: She can go to sharia council for the divorce if he declined. But if she didn't want to divorce him,she can then invite the third party if it persist.

What if he grounds her?

Even a governor did that to his wife.

And if she is suffering and could die from his beating, she should leave.

What is that list of what you must protect?
1. Religion
2. lives
3. cant remember.

Her life is more sacred than the marriage institution.

onegig: That third part is wht am scared of mostly. I am ready to be as open and friendly as possibe. I want to be vulnerable, to be able to say sorry and accept that i make mistakes but MOST adies have that warped mindset of taking advantage of such a person. They have been built up to see the man as someone who's "strong", domineering, makes no mistakes and even if he does its her fault and they tend to take men who do otherwise as less of a man turning such "rare and scarce" men into the ferocious type who barks orders from the top of the house.

I don't know of MOST ladies. But I do know that one thing That I appreciate in a partner is openness.

I know a very good person whose decline to be 'vulnerable' is the problem.

I can't live with someone who would not share everything with me.

You might just be surprised that MAny women appreciate that trait.

I thought it happened in Nigeria. Was wondering what a Nigerian needs a nose job for

golpen: Drag or beat her (if it gets to that) out of the way to save her and the rest of the family from piercing hunger, then come back home to correct her and beg her, giving her the reason why you have no other option.

Seriously, women can be that frustrating and I seen some number of incidents when you may feel like spanking the wife for the husband. But at times husbands may just be left with only one option.

Only In Nigeria.

drag or beat her like she is a cow

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Y am I still posting on this ehn

onegig: Good.........I hope you recipocate the gesture and invite us.

I am itching to meet that tall, dark lucky guy . May God make it a reality soon.

hahaha

onegig: I thought as much. Because the husband at that point has lost the position of head of the house and protector of his family.

His rights over her is limited and i don't think the normal routine CAN be applicable here.

I think so too

onegig: Not ladylike also to lock him in.

Ladies are known to be meek and gentle.


Am not excusing physical abuse from any party but "locking him in" is also an abuse.

We can all just yap and talk. Seriously, it is not easy keeping calm and stuff. But never hit your spouse and the ladies should also never lock him in . There are better ways of managing your differences.

That is the point all along. There is no excuse for either behaviour.

If the man can beat her if she wrongs him, it must mean that she can also inflict injury when he hurts her.

How can such a marriage make sense?

onegig: No worries. A always a firm believer of it being sweet and enjoyable.

But dont go locking "him" indoors

hahhhahahah

I won't ever do such a thing. I am too proud for such silly behaviour.

If the matter don reach the level that a grown up man does not know when to stay at home and when not anymore, I'll just free myself. what nonsense.

I won't police anybody when I have a life of my own to live. i dont think marriage is about locking onto each other. I am sure I'd be having things to run and wouldn't be locking myself with a man in the house.

Sissie: It's wedding season, attended a wedding the highlight was the polo tournament organized by the groom's friend, last week it was so much fun, my friends and I talked about getting married and stuff, so am at the phase where I feel like getting married like right now.

Weddings are something else these days. They are like carnivals. Very interesting to attend. I make sure I attend everyone I am invited to when available.


Being the bride is something else

I so much want to get married right now.

It feels so so so right!!!

but I have one small hurdle to cross. After it, yes!!!! I'd probably have stopped nairalanding.

or I'll show up once in a while

Sissie: ^bwahaha over-rated much.

You are making me laugh too much..

hahahhahahhaha. a deliberate attempt at appearing 'like a man' is definitely not manly. It reeks of a lack of something vital.


Hahahhaha..

I av bn laffn too mush these days.

onegig: Maybe someone should give us a Nasheed or something else. We need it in here. Just kidding.


Am sick of all these theories . Y' all should get married and give us the "kids" some feedback on how to handle things. We do need it.

Don't worry shidren. I will come and tell you how sweet!!! marriage is

Sissie: Bwahahaha hilarious.

Prepared response at you!!!!!! That was a response to deols not you.

Funny

I was looking for the head and tail of the conversation but did not find it.

Can we have something else to talk about please?

Sissie: SMH so stopping a man from going out and breaking his phone is now enough reason to get beaten!!!!!
How dare she, she should be beaten to the extent she would have to be treated in the hospital next time ko ni dan wo.

Where do this people come from, better people living in dream land than indirect domestic violence supporters.

Amazing isn't it?. People are a product of many things. But some can decide to be different from what they have always known or choose to let it continue.


So a woman would get up all of a sudden and decide he wont go out? What did he do to that extent?

Even if he didnt do anything, Are there no other ways of resolving such an issue? how about letting her go if she is such a pain. Why keep her for another beating.

I am done on talking this disgusting matter.

Sissie: @deols we live in a violent society. People abusing each other.

Some men who are not yet married think its oK to beat their wives as a corrective measure.
Some women think so too.

If its ok t physically abuse a woman when angry, then its ok for a woman to nag/shout at him too, and emotionally abuse him when she's angry.

and the cycle continues...

busar: Not what you are thinking sister. That should be the last resort. Just a soft push/hit in o, not the one you are used to

What you are used to?

No. I don't have sick people around me. I can never get used to this nonsense. I will never even have to know of it.

busar: Start begging her.. ...Just got to do the needful.A little hit will do
But if the husband was the type that don't beat his wife,that little would made her come to her senses in sha Allah.

Is it now normal to classify men into
a. those who beat their wives
b.those who don't beat their wives

argh!! when I thought we made progress

Some people will even get married with the thought that they would beat their wife if she misbehaves. Words like 'misbehave' and 'punishment' is frequent in their vocabulary.

What is my own?

I can only be bothered about the greater good of the society. Children who watch their father beat their mother can never be normal. I only pity those Children.

I can't be bothered about the He-whatever who is planning to hit or beat his misbehaving wife. I can bother much less about the female(drum) who thinks being beaten is normal.


The question to ask is, so the man got annoyed and decides to beat her. Would it be ok that she beats him when she gets annoyed as well?

May Allah save us from shaytan. amin

We are all supposed to be people of Sunnah. May Allah help us.

I dont think female doctors are rude.

But I have seen some rude nurses. It does not even mean they all are.

ayaf laugh tire!!

kokoA: Lol.. una wicked o.. Make una free ib folks naw. I heard this one recently, can't hold it make I spill am out

Boy: I just got the latest samsung tablet

His ibadan gf: eh kpele broda o, get well soon o.

No You are making a mistake.

Yorubas say Pele and not, kpele. That story happened in a village!

Pelummy: deols hurt u? sowie

dont mind him

How are you btw

busar: it's insulting........

arghhh.sorry o.

Didnt mean to insult you.
I will not joke with you again. bye